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By *inx000 OP Couple 9 weeks ago
Manchester |
Why can't people on here keep their unwanted opinions to themselves just because they can't get what they want!!So I woke up to a shocking message this morning..quite upsetting really.Some people on here clearly don't read your profile or at least not enough to understand that what they are asking for clearly states in your profile that's not what you are looking for.So then they take it upon themselves to be assholes and spit their dummy out then proceed to send you a horrible message body shaming and generally just being so damm rude and disrespectful.Why can't people just accept the fact you don't want what they have offered and leave you alone?!!Not the first time this has happened and probably won't be the last which is quite sad as fab is meant to be fun and a way to reach out and meet like minded people that just want to have a good time not to be spoken to like that it's really annoyed me.
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It’s sucks that you get the blowback, some just can’t handle the rejection.
I know you shouldn’t have to…….but the best thing to do is block guys you say no thanks to. Its stops blowbacks in its tracks instantly. |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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Sorry you had to experience that but I can't imagine what they found to body shame you about. Your figure is amazing!
Some people are just entitled arseholes. Especially among men, there's a general attitude of "but it's a sex site, everyone will be gagging for it from anyone" and anything that goes against this train of thought upsets and confuses them. |
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"And this is why I rarely send a no thanks message.
My morning rant: the twat who has a car with a broken alarm. I hope he traps his cock in his flies"
I’m sorry about that, it’s got gremlins that I can’t fix. |
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"And this is why I rarely send a no thanks message.
My morning rant: the twat who has a car with a broken alarm. I hope he traps his cock in his flies
I’m sorry about that, it’s got gremlins that I can’t fix. "
Ziiiiiiip 🍆 🩸 🩸 |
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By *hilloutMan 9 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I'm sorry this has happened my dear, but unfortunately these situations come with being here.
I completely agree this should be fun and everyone should be respectful but that's a utopia incompatible with the human condition.
Being an online environment and the anonymity it brings seems to either re-enforce or bring out the darker, nastier traits of people.
Just remember these are comments from complete strangers on the Internet who you will never see or speak to in person. Their behaviour reflects on them and not on anything you might have done.
Morning hugs 😊 x |
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By *inx000 OP Couple 9 weeks ago
Manchester |
"Sorry you had to experience that but I can't imagine what they found to body shame you about. Your figure is amazing!
Some people are just entitled arseholes. Especially among men, there's a general attitude of "but it's a sex site, everyone will be gagging for it from anyone" and anything that goes against this train of thought upsets and confuses them."
Thank you and yes I guess so there is just no need for it!!
It was a couple and they both told me exactly what they thought of me!
Rude as f*** |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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MY morning rant: don't even bother calling it a "social" if it's clearly just a very exclusionary private party you only invite a few selected friends to.
Minx: -offers cup of coffee and a hug- I'm so sorry people are cunts. |
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"Is this in response to a “no thanks”?
Yes is so many words but was put more politely."
Many don't take rejection well, you're better off just not replying. If they send a second message after you haven't replied to them then block them. That way you'll be far less likely to get an abusive message. |
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By *inx000 OP Couple 9 weeks ago
Manchester |
"And this is why I rarely send a no thanks message.
My morning rant: the twat who has a car with a broken alarm. I hope he traps his cock in his flies"
I didn't want to be ignorant as that sometimes makes it worse so I was trying to be polite!
Oh dear that's not good..nothing worse than listening to someone's car alarm going off especially when it's so early in the morning and your not ready to get up yet. |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"Sorry you had to experience that but I can't imagine what they found to body shame you about. Your figure is amazing!
Some people are just entitled arseholes. Especially among men, there's a general attitude of "but it's a sex site, everyone will be gagging for it from anyone" and anything that goes against this train of thought upsets and confuses them.
Thank you and yes I guess so there is just no need for it!!
It was a couple and they both told me exactly what they thought of me!
Rude as f***"
Weird. I'd have thought couples would be a bit more reasonable since there's a female involved. No loss on your part though, the loss is all theirs. |
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This is why I just don’t reply. Too many people get abusive it’s not worth it. I don’t read and I don’t reply. I’ve even been reported for politely saying no thank you and fab backed them. So I deleted my account started a fresh and don’t talk to anyone hahaha. Honestly they wouldn’t say half of the vile crap they message you in person. So please don’t let them affect your day. Sending big hugs  x |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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For the record I usually reply to rejections messages with polite words of appreciation for them taking the time to actually let me know. Don't loose hope, surely I'm not the only one. |
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By *inx000 OP Couple 9 weeks ago
Manchester |
"I'm sorry this has happened my dear, but unfortunately these situations come with being here.
I completely agree this should be fun and everyone should be respectful but that's a utopia incompatible with the human condition.
Being an online environment and the anonymity it brings seems to either re-enforce or bring out the darker, nastier traits of people.
Just remember these are comments from complete strangers on the Internet who you will never see or speak to in person. Their behaviour reflects on them and not on anything you might have done.
Morning hugs 😊 x"
Yes I get that there are people like that on here but there is really no need for the animosity and hate.
Some people need to get off their high horse and stop thinking they are gods gift on here and that they can have whatever they want!
Hope your having a better morning than me chill? |
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By *inx000 OP Couple 9 weeks ago
Manchester |
"Sorry you had to experience that but I can't imagine what they found to body shame you about. Your figure is amazing!
Some people are just entitled arseholes. Especially among men, there's a general attitude of "but it's a sex site, everyone will be gagging for it from anyone" and anything that goes against this train of thought upsets and confuses them.
Thank you and yes I guess so there is just no need for it!!
It was a couple and they both told me exactly what they thought of me!
Rude as f***
Weird. I'd have thought couples would be a bit more reasonable since there's a female involved. No loss on your part though, the loss is all theirs. "
Yes that's what surprised me as it was the female that started the nasty comments then her hubby decided to join in  |
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By *hilloutMan 9 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I'm sorry this has happened my dear, but unfortunately these situations come with being here.
I completely agree this should be fun and everyone should be respectful but that's a utopia incompatible with the human condition.
Being an online environment and the anonymity it brings seems to either re-enforce or bring out the darker, nastier traits of people.
Just remember these are comments from complete strangers on the Internet who you will never see or speak to in person. Their behaviour reflects on them and not on anything you might have done.
Morning hugs 😊 x
Yes I get that there are people like that on here but there is really no need for the animosity and hate.
Some people need to get off their high horse and stop thinking they are gods gift on here and that they can have whatever they want!
Hope your having a better morning than me chill?"
I've done my gym and now ready for work.
Sending positive vibes your message content will soon improve 😉 |
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By *inx000 OP Couple 9 weeks ago
Manchester |
"I'm sorry this has happened my dear, but unfortunately these situations come with being here.
I completely agree this should be fun and everyone should be respectful but that's a utopia incompatible with the human condition.
Being an online environment and the anonymity it brings seems to either re-enforce or bring out the darker, nastier traits of people.
Just remember these are comments from complete strangers on the Internet who you will never see or speak to in person. Their behaviour reflects on them and not on anything you might have done.
Morning hugs 😊 x
Yes I get that there are people like that on here but there is really no need for the animosity and hate.
Some people need to get off their high horse and stop thinking they are gods gift on here and that they can have whatever they want!
Hope your having a better morning than me chill?
I've done my gym and now ready for work.
Sending positive vibes your message content will soon improve 😉"
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By *bi HaiveMan 9 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Is this in response to a “no thanks”?
Yes but was more put more politely and they just can't accept it so proceed to be nasty!!"
Morning Minx.
Not a nice thing to wake up to.
Report via the message itself rather than the profile, then block.
Shame that you have to but it's honestly the best way to deal with it. If more people did then those sending such messages would bear the consequences and lose the ability to do it to others.
No means no. |
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By *inx000 OP Couple 9 weeks ago
Manchester |
"For the record I usually reply to rejections messages with polite words of appreciation for them taking the time to actually let me know. Don't loose hope, surely I'm not the only one."
That's how it should be..be polite,understanding and respectful. |
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By * F 2018Couple 9 weeks ago
shropshire |
Sorry you had this
People eh! They have no manners and as you say like to spit their dummy's out .messages like this say alot about the people they are . People don't read profiles. Block and delete lovely .you are obviously a better person than they are (((((hugs))))) |
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"Why can't people on here keep their unwanted opinions to themselves just because they can't get what they want!!So I woke up to a shocking message this morning..quite upsetting really.Some people on here clearly don't read your profile or at least not enough to understand that what they are asking for clearly states in your profile that's not what you are looking for.So then they take it upon themselves to be assholes and spit their dummy out then proceed to send you a horrible message body shaming and generally just being so damm rude and disrespectful.Why can't people just accept the fact you don't want what they have offered and leave you alone?!!Not the first time this has happened and probably won't be the last which is quite sad as fab is meant to be fun and a way to reach out and meet like minded people that just want to have a good time not to be spoken to like that it's really annoyed me.
Rant over!!"
Really sad to hear that you have woken up to that this morning, it cannot be easy that not only do.you have to probably try and sift through an overwhelming inbox, to then read horrible messages too, from pretentious, over entitled, egotistical, misogynistic knob jockeys........
I applaude your etiquette in trying to be polite with a thanks but no thanks message, but as others have said perhaps sometimea you say it best when you say nothing at all! |
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"And this is why I rarely send a no thanks message.
My morning rant: the twat who has a car with a broken alarm. I hope he traps his cock in his flies"
Traps his cock in his flies...... this actually made me spit my tea out lol, great line 👏 |
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"Why can't people on here keep their unwanted opinions to themselves just because they can't get what they want!!So I woke up to a shocking message this morning..quite upsetting really.Some people on here clearly don't read your profile or at least not enough to understand that what they are asking for clearly states in your profile that's not what you are looking for.So then they take it upon themselves to be assholes and spit their dummy out then proceed to send you a horrible message body shaming and generally just being so damm rude and disrespectful.Why can't people just accept the fact you don't want what they have offered and leave you alone?!!Not the first time this has happened and probably won't be the last which is quite sad as fab is meant to be fun and a way to reach out and meet like minded people that just want to have a good time not to be spoken to like that it's really annoyed me.
Rant over!!"
He must have quite an imagination though, looking at your pics how the fuck did he body shame you? |
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It’s funny how they message you because they find you attractive then as soon as you turn them down their tune changes. Easier said than done but don’t let insignificant people who are not important in your life bother you and ruin your day. Block them and smile x |
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OP …
Like most people in this thread are all incredibly supportive and frankly, you are really quite beautiful
I live in Hope that the good guys always get to the top of the pile eventually..
A friend of mine copied and pasted some of the comments that she had received and frankly they were utterly disgusting moronic and downright degrading which is sad. Especially when a platform like this has such freedom.
The Sun is out in this tiny corner of Hampshire and I hope it’s sending the same warmth and colour in your direction
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Some people are assholes. Some not all
If I get a message from someone I am not interested in I then block them, it’s the easiest way to stop any further talking
That said it is in your case their problem and not yours and see it as a lucky escape that their true personality has shown now |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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Sorry to hear that Minx. It feels shit to say that it's just part of Fab as it doesn't excuse that behaviour but unfortunately I can't think of anything that would prevent that abuse from happening in the first place which is annoying. Try your best to not let it get to you and try to focus on those who are worth your time |
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"Sorry you had to experience that but I can't imagine what they found to body shame you about. Your figure is amazing!
Some people are just entitled arseholes. Especially among men, there's a general attitude of "but it's a sex site, everyone will be gagging for it from anyone" and anything that goes against this train of thought upsets and confuses them.
Thank you and yes I guess so there is just no need for it!!
It was a couple and they both told me exactly what they thought of me!
Rude as f***"
Most probably a man posing as a couple |
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This is why I block anyone now after I've said no thanks, or if they send more than a couple of messages.
You just never know who is gonna have a tantrum because you don't want to meet them.
Sorry you had this op, please report and block them and try not to dwell on it.
It's all on them not you. |
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By *7VYMan 9 weeks ago
Orbit |
"Why can't people on here keep their unwanted opinions to themselves just because they can't get what they want!!So I woke up to a shocking message this morning..quite upsetting really.Some people on here clearly don't read your profile or at least not enough to understand that what they are asking for clearly states in your profile that's not what you are looking for.So then they take it upon themselves to be assholes and spit their dummy out then proceed to send you a horrible message body shaming and generally just being so damm rude and disrespectful.Why can't people just accept the fact you don't want what they have offered and leave you alone?!!Not the first time this has happened and probably won't be the last which is quite sad as fab is meant to be fun and a way to reach out and meet like minded people that just want to have a good time not to be spoken to like that it's really annoyed me.
Rant over!!"
Fragile male ego love, don't pay any attention to it x |
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By *agic.MMan 9 weeks ago
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"Why can't people on here keep their unwanted opinions to themselves just because they can't get what they want!!So I woke up to a shocking message this morning..quite upsetting really.Some people on here clearly don't read your profile or at least not enough to understand that what they are asking for clearly states in your profile that's not what you are looking for.So then they take it upon themselves to be assholes and spit their dummy out then proceed to send you a horrible message body shaming and generally just being so damm rude and disrespectful.Why can't people just accept the fact you don't want what they have offered and leave you alone?!!Not the first time this has happened and probably won't be the last which is quite sad as fab is meant to be fun and a way to reach out and meet like minded people that just want to have a good time not to be spoken to like that it's really annoyed me.
Rant over!!"
You feeling better now? All "zened" up again? Out with the negative and in with the positive? Inhale the joy, exhale the hate and all that? Anyways as a very intelligent pirate once said "the problem is not the problem...the problem is your attitude towards the problem" |
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Sorry to hear this, absolutely no need, think we may start and block after a few unresponded messages now, they do become a bit on the stern side to us sometimes when you're not responding.
We've genuinely stopped replying now though so we don't break our filters in the future if we alter them, which means they can message regardless! It's such a shame. |
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My advice is read, laugh, delete and block.
Stop giving these people brain space and caring about what they think.
I've only had a couple of arsey messages in the many years I've been here. They don't affect me and, if anything, I pity the fools who send them.
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By *rRiosMan 9 weeks ago
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"It was a couple and they both told me exactly what they thought of me!"
But this can’t be true, because they thought something different before you rejected them. So then it’s just nastiness and immaturity |
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"We had to block someone last night because we weren’t answering his messages quick enough, he got arsey and abusive 🙄"
I'm always astounded by this. The idea that people have nothing else to do but instantly respond to messages.
Ever heard of real life?
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"My advice is read, laugh, delete and block.
Stop giving these people brain space and caring about what they think.
I've only had a couple of arsey messages in the many years I've been here. They don't affect me and, if anything, I pity the fools who send them.
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Channeling your inner Mr T there nanna.
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"My advice is read, laugh, delete and block.
Stop giving these people brain space and caring about what they think.
I've only had a couple of arsey messages in the many years I've been here. They don't affect me and, if anything, I pity the fools who send them.
Channeling your inner Mr T there nanna.
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"It was a couple and they both told me exactly what they thought of me!
But this can’t be true, because they thought something different before you rejected them. So then it’s just nastiness and immaturity "
Knee jerk reaction. You say no thanks, they are offended, they call you names and say you're too fat/ugly etc for them anyway, and they feel better.
Laugh it off. |
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