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Do you remember dates?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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2 years ago today I left a long term vanilla relationship. He had an affair that I found out about afterwards.
I feel a bit headfucked about it today, it was the start of my life unravelling as I went on a month long party session before Dad was diagnosed.
Does anyone else remember dates which to others seem unimportant but to you feel very important? |
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No, i only remember important dates, the only reason i remember when my ex husband and i split up was because it was day after valentines day.
I remember important dates, have no idea when i split up with the first guy i lived with. I dont even remember the exact date Jay and I started our relationship |
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"No...
Only dates I remember are important ones...
Wouldnt remember them otherwise...."
i think thats what the OP is saying, they are important to her but maybe from an utsider they would seem insignificant.
i am a bit rubbish with dates to be fair. i cant remember the dates my grandparents died een though they were very sad times for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No...
Only dates I remember are important ones...
Wouldnt remember them otherwise....
To me they are important. It's been a rollercoaster 2 years"
Hope you are coming out the other dide rubes xxx |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"No...
Only dates I remember are important ones...
Wouldnt remember them otherwise....
i think thats what the OP is saying, they are important to her but maybe from an utsider they would seem insignificant.
i am a bit rubbish with dates to be fair. i cant remember the dates my grandparents died een though they were very sad times for me"
I know what the OP was saying...
If she remembers them, they are not unimportant... |
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I remember all the dates for things that are relevant to me. The date people died, the dates I started and left relationships. Been engaged 3 times and could tell you each date..Could even tell you the date of my wedding that never was..
I am a bugger for dates
But it can be a good thing...If it is an important one like today is for you OP, I plan to do something nice to remind me how lucky I am to have the life I have now.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I wish I could forget, but I can remember exactly what I was doing on the day, the process of how I did it, his response and who I was with afterwards.
My head is battered from thinking about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i now its hard but just think about how you are now. your friends you have made, how much stronger you ae as a person etc
am here for you x x"
Oh I know if I hadn't have left I wouldn't have started swinging and then wouldn't have met the incredible friends I have through the site. It's a strange melancholy of emotions.
I can remember telling Dad I was going to leave but when he was better (this was the night before) he looked at me very sadly and said, "don't wait for me to get better." It was as if he knew he was dying. |
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"i now its hard but just think about how you are now. your friends you have made, how much stronger you ae as a person etc
am here for you x x
Oh I know if I hadn't have left I wouldn't have started swinging and then wouldn't have met the incredible friends I have through the site. It's a strange melancholy of emotions.
I can remember telling Dad I was going to leave but when he was better (this was the night before) he looked at me very sadly and said, "don't wait for me to get better." It was as if he knew he was dying. "
i think it was more a case of dont stay somewhere you are not happy x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i now its hard but just think about how you are now. your friends you have made, how much stronger you ae as a person etc
am here for you x x
Oh I know if I hadn't have left I wouldn't have started swinging and then wouldn't have met the incredible friends I have through the site. It's a strange melancholy of emotions.
I can remember telling Dad I was going to leave but when he was better (this was the night before) he looked at me very sadly and said, "don't wait for me to get better." It was as if he knew he was dying.
i think it was more a case of dont stay somewhere you are not happy x "
I had forgotten what being happy in a relationship was. I only remembered when I met J. I thought happiness would come back though xx |
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Thing is when bad things happen in our life and we make a decision. In time we learn to realize that was the best decision of our lives.
At 22 i walked from an horrendous, violent relationship with an alcoholic bully after 4 years, if i hadnt of left he would of killed me. It was a bloody big thing to do to walk away, there was no battered womens hostals or anything i just did it alone.
Roll the clock forward 25 years and im in a relationship with a guy who is the polar opposite, loving, sweet, kind and gentle. When i look back im angry that i stayed in that relationship so long but i also know that it partly made me who i am today and that i have finally got what ive always wanted. |
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I think for me it's more about remembering dates that have had a huge impact on me whether they be good or bad. I remember the date my ivf failed, I do remember the date my ex left some years back despite it not being particularly significant now as it was the best thing he did for me and I remember the date I first had my heart really broken as it was fairly recently but birthday etc I'm useless with and have to rely on my phone!!
Hugs for you Ruby xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've said it for ages that I should have left when things started to go downhill. When his affair started (the signs were there) but I didn't because I worried about him but also what I would lose through leaving. In the end the last 2 years of my dad's life were me being really unhappy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dec 27 1985 at 10 15 I nearly died when I had a motor cycle accident. The copper thought he was coming back to a fatal. I broke both bones in my right ankle and 5 bones in my foot. Put paid to me joining the army something I regret to this day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I remember a set of dates to this day, when my solicitor gave me a piece of A4 paper listing all the dates and hotels when my low life ex was playing around, they had to be produced for the court because i was doing him for Adultery  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes just as you do Ruby, I remember the date I found out he was cheating and the date i left.
Other dates stick in my head for various reasons.
We move on but the dates stick,. hugs to you xx
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wish I could forget, but I can remember exactly what I was doing on the day, the process of how I did it, his response and who I was with afterwards.
My head is battered from thinking about it. "
I can relate to this so much  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Met Kate 6th June 1981. It was a blind date and I was listening to England play Hungary in World Cup Qualifier while I waited in my car for her to turn up.
She didn't show at the agreed time, but I decided to give her a little longer.
She knocked on the car window just as England scored their second goal.
About 2hrs later, I scored too  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm so glad I'm not the only one. Last year I had just had my appendix out so was so off my tits on morphine I didn't remember. This year its as if I can't stop thinking about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do. But unless positive I refuse to mark them with any thoughts.
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I wish I could not think about them. It was at 2 o'clock I made the decision to actually leave the relationship that day and not hang around any longer; 5.30 when I told him. |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
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Some dates will stay in my head forever.
Feb 15th 2005 the day I met my hubby
August 2nd 2005 the day I miscarried my 1st child
March 26th 2006 the due date of my 1st child
Feb 14th 2008 the day I proposed to my hubby |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have tried for a long time to forget dates of certain things i don't want to remember, most of which i have managed and i now only remember the rough time of when it happened which i can deal with
There is however one date i have never been able to forget - 12th December 2002 - and if i could swap and remember all the others just to be able to forget that one i would!
For me that date was the start of most the bad things that happened to me and why i ended up the way i did
I have learn't to forgive, but i can never forget (unfortunately!) |
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