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Here’s what I’ve realised
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"Probably somewhere else - I had no idea I was so attractive to men and not ladies! Except when I’m out and about." When out and about do you wear a sandwich board covered in bareback wank bank pictures and knob shots? Or do you just whip it out to show people while you're saying your worthwhile things to them by way of introduction?  | |||
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"I like sausages " Me too.. especially with hash browns 🤣 | |||
"I like sausages Me too.. especially with hash browns 🤣" Hash browns lathered in melty cheese... 🤤🤤🤤 | |||
"I like sausages Me too.. especially with hash browns 🤣" I prefer them on toast with hp sauce | |||
" I have a hypothesis: Sausage fest profiles attract only other sausage fest profiles. Use your filters OP and if your approach is not working here, perhaps it’s time to change it" I’m feeling a little left out! No getting messages from other men. I mean how dare they ignore my fine hairy body and ugly face.  | |||
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"I like battered sausage" Deep fried or like… with a paddle? | |||
"I like sausages " Cumberland? | |||
"I like battered sausage Deep fried or like… with a paddle?" Deep fried... No one's paddling my sausage | |||
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"Flat sausage ? " I do love a square sausage 🤣 | |||
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"Flat sausage ? I do love a square sausage 🤣" For me, you can’t beat a Wabberthwaite Cumberland sausage, even better if it smoked gastronomically it probably is in the top three! | |||
"Maybe a marketing campaign is in order to attract more clientele suited to the OP’s taste is in order? How dare more women not be on here and ready to just spread them open and let him in! The scandal! "Preposterous, I daresay! | |||
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"It's like bemoaning the fact that you are stuck in traffic whilst sitting in your car. "Or going on holiday and saying that there's too many tourists there. | |||
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"I like sausages Me too.. especially with hash browns 🤣" And bacon | |||
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"This place is full of desperate men. Whether they’re men or gender confused. I’ve met some really nice folks on here - including the trans community. But! Basically it’s a sausage fest, and nobody has anything worthwhile to say. Except a few folks. This place is dying on its arse. " Is this a worthwhile thing to say? Probably. But who's the judge? It's all just so confusing. I really enjoyed the one word sentence though - they're underrated. | |||
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"Maybe a marketing campaign is in order to attract more clientele suited to the OP’s taste is in order? How dare more women not be on here and ready to just spread them open and let him in! The scandal! "But did they wait the required 3.42 seconds before being inundated? | |||
"This place is full of desperate men." Indeed. "Whether they’re men or gender confused." Probably need to elaborate further OP. "I’ve met some really nice folks on here - including the trans community." Good for you. "But!" Excellent attempt to introduce a clause contrasting with what has already been mentioned above, but, probably a comma would have sufficed. "Basically it’s a sausage fest, and nobody has anything worthwhile to say." I don't think the two are necessarily connected. BTW, the Sausage and Cider Fest at Warwick takes place on 14th September, just four days time. "Except a few folks." Are these few folk the exception to the sausage fest, or are they the ones who have something worthwhile to say (actually the two may not be mutually exclusive. Can you draw me a Venn diagram please? "This place is dying on its arse. " How many people die on their arse? Obviously Elvis, but some more examples might be helpful. . Thanks OP. I think you need to develope your thesis further.  | |||
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"Over the last few years, I've noticed there has been a rather large increase in men using sites and apps. The ratios are, at a guess, around 20:1 (potentially more). This started roughly a year or so before COVID kicked off, which also caused a vast amount of the population to sign up, from all sides. It seems that when things calmed down, most of the ladies either stopped using the sites and apps, or they simply forgot to delete their profiles. Perhaps some thought that deleting the app might also erase their profile? Who knows. One particular place I used to frequent became absolutely overwhelmed with men. Quickly, their behaviour turned into shitty attitudes and childish behaviour. All because they weren't getting any attention. I'm/you're one man in thousands. This is just how things are now. The odds of anyone being interested, is not only small but also random. If that makes any sense. Either I/we do something to stand out, or sit patiently and wait. On the other place, I created a female account. Mostly out of boredom, but also as an experiment. I had spoken to a fair amount of ladies who had some horror stories, that's for sure. I wanted to see what it was like. I grabbed a photo of some close-up boobs (with no face or distinguishing marks) and added a basic profile with a little cheeky flourish. Within 12 hours, this profile received over 200-250 messages. I can't remember the exact amount, as this was ages ago and my memory is patchy at best, but it was a lot! The majority of which were just "I want to fuck you" types, some with absolutely disgusting behaviour, some getting pissy because "she" hadn't replied instantly and you get the general idea. I scanned through them and only saw perhaps 2 or 3 normal and polite messages, that began with "Hi" or "Hello." With that also in mind, who has the time to sort out 200 messages? How long would it take to read, let alone reply, to all of those? From my experience, most people won't respond to anything other than a polite and friendly message, that's shows you've read their profile in some way. But are these places dying? Not at all. They just have a different proportion of users than before, that's all. It's something everyone should be aware of. The ratios aren't different in just one place, it's the same everywhere nowadays. Ultimately, it's up to everyone to make it a fun and enjoyable place to be. I find that simply ignoring my chances and just interacting now and again makes it much easier. I might comment on the state of things, as I have now, but in the end I don't actually care all too much. I not putting all my eggs in one basket. Fingers in many pies. And another food analogy I can't think of right now. Funnily enough, I've had more opportunities away from specifically sexual places, than any of these types of communities. Besides, if anyone finds that they're no longer enjoying it or getting what they want out of the experience, then it's decision time. Stay and perhaps change your tactics, take a break for a while or leave and try somewhere else. You can always come back later. It's easy to become obsessed with these things and feel that you should get something after the effort you put in. That's quite normal, to be fair. But it doesn't work like that. It never has. If anything, it's pure luck. Sometimes combined with a bit of effort, but I feel that it's mostly luck. Also, patience. Lots and lots of patience. Some people have a shitload of messages to sort out, especially if they are popular. They have lives to orchestrate and often not much time to do it all in. It's not unusual to never get a reply or for someone to take weeks to get back to you. Chalk it up as a "No, thanks" and move on. I delete messages I've sent after a certain amount of time and just ignore it. Whether I've missed an opportunity by deleting is irrelevant, it's the removal of the (slight) temptation to send another message. Anyhow, I've rambled but that has been my observations and thoughts about the whole thing lol." Yep We're basically plankton. | |||
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"You've just admitted to creating a fake profile, there's enough of them on here already" Who, me? Firstly, I did say that it wasn't here and secondly, I removed everything from the other place anyhow. Besides, the other place was already a cesspool of vile behaviour and shitty comments. One temporary profile, to investigate and inform wasn't an issue. I actually posted up my findings in a diary entry and some male users came to me in private, thanking me for showing what it was like. Some even apologised for the messages they sent. | |||
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"Yep We're basically plankton."We're all just dust, floating amongst the stars... | |||
"This place is full of desperate men." You got me 😔 | |||
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"This place is full of desperate men. Whether they’re men or gender confused. " I just look confused. | |||
 I might be wrong but just an observation…
Use your filters… problem solved! | |||
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"This place is full of desperate men... This place is dying on its arse. " And another one bites the dust (UNLOS) | |||
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"I like sausages Me too.. especially with hash browns 🤣 I prefer them on toast with hp sauce " Wait..what..why have I never thought of that, hash browns and cheese....arrrrggghhh | |||
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"Best get out while you can then🥴🤣" He listened to you then ,wise words. | |||
"Took my advice. That’s a rare occurrence." Must have been desperate. | |||
"Best get out while you can then🥴🤣He listened to you then ,wise words." It's ok, he'll be back soon with a new profile... 🤣🤣 | |||
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"Who was the OP? " Forgotten his name already I'm afraid - cant remember even how long he had been on (think it was seven weeks and that he had one social with a couple that might have progressed - but could be getting confused with someone else's profile [that's age for you]) | |||
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"Who was the OP? " Rex Holes | |||
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"This place is full of desperate men. Whether they’re men or gender confused. I’ve met some really nice folks on here - including the trans community. But! Basically it’s a sausage fest, and nobody has anything worthwhile to say. Except a few folks. This place is dying on its arse. " On the bright side though; at least you were getting mail. | |||
"I can’t remember the username but I looked at his profile and it didn’t have “not looking for single males” selected. Rookie mistake? " I'm straight, but don't have that selected either. I like to network with other guys (it's amazing what you find out at times ), and also; some single guy profiles are actually couples not wanting too much attention (but shhh! Don't tell everyone!) | |||
"Who was the OP? " Dunno. But one less sausage at the fest. | |||
"Who was the OP? Dunno. But one less sausage at the fest." There’s a sausage fest? Where was my invite | |||
"Who was the OP? Dunno. But one less sausage at the fest. There’s a sausage fest? Where was my invite "Ladybugs, where have you been? Can't move for sausages around here, according to the now AWOL OP. | |||
"Who was the OP? Dunno. But one less sausage at the fest. There’s a sausage fest? Where was my invite
Ladybugs, where have you been? Can't move for sausages around here, according to the now AWOL OP.
"Been indisposed…I miss all the fun stuff  | |||
"Who was the OP? Dunno. But one less sausage at the fest. There’s a sausage fest? Where was my invite
Ladybugs, where have you been? Can't move for sausages around here, according to the now AWOL OP.
Been indisposed…I miss all the fun stuff "You snooze, you lose. Sure there'll be a spare sausage around here for you somewhere... | |||
"I can’t remember the username but I looked at his profile and it didn’t have “not looking for single males” selected. Rookie mistake? I'm straight, but don't have that selected either. I like to network with other guys (it's amazing what you find out at times ), and also; some single guy profiles are actually couples not wanting too much attention (but shhh! Don't tell everyone!) "Yeah but he was complaining about getting messages from single guys …. | |||
"Who was the OP? " BORIS JOHNSON | |||
"I can’t remember the username but I looked at his profile and it didn’t have “not looking for single males” selected. Rookie mistake? " Plenty of people make mistakes on this site | |||
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"I can’t remember the username but I looked at his profile and it didn’t have “not looking for single males” selected. Rookie mistake? I'm straight, but don't have that selected either. I like to network with other guys (it's amazing what you find out at times ), and also; some single guy profiles are actually couples not wanting too much attention (but shhh! Don't tell everyone!)
Yeah but he was complaining about getting messages from single guys …. "And some guys complain they never get any messages at all…. | |||
