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Can you tolerate your own company?
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By *hagTonight OP Man 9 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
Are you able to be on your own for any length of time and not reach for your phone or the television the radio or anything really, to distract you from yourself?
Reading a book, going for a walk on my own. I enjoy my own company, it seems that many dont, because it seems that many are after that endorphin hit of the mobile phone, like here comes a message, who is that from, sitting and waiting for the next notification, whether it is from facebook or instagram.
I think that being one with yourself teaches you patience, the ability to let things unfold, having that ability is empowering, because I decide when I want to check it, not that instant moment.
It would be interesting to see if you can tolerate your own company. I think everyone needs to have time by themselves  |
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I’m never bored on my own. I have lots of interest and lots of hobbies. I listen to a lot of radio particularly music rather than TV and I read both technical information and I read for pleasure.
I do love company especially female company but equally quite happy being on my own for short spells of time I think if you have an outgoing personality and you do need people around you. |
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By *edGrayCouple 9 weeks ago
Swindon |
I freaking love my own company. I have quite a stressful job managing a company. Having time to myself doing what I want to do is heaven. Without my downtime solitude I would of had a physical or mental breakdown by now.  |
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I spend many days alone and I love it.
I actually get stressed when I have to interact with colleagues when away… not being free to choose what I want to do, where to eat, etc.
Some people just cannot stay alone. I feel bad for them… |
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Majority of my time is spent alone in the week, don't really think about much. I see friends at the weekend but some weekends I can not speak to a single person. I find that odd cause I'm pretty chatty. |
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By *og-ManMan 9 weeks ago
somewhere |
Usually go on holidays on my own so don't mind it
Grab a couple of books from hotel reception and get stuck into them for the week
Was in Vegas for 5 days on my own last november and did everything I wanted to do and see at my own pace and planning |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 9 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I have been on week long solo trips. Once a month I go hiking around Wales or Lakes. I don't have trouble staying off the phone. But I have to do something. "
That is good you can stay off the phone when you are on trips too  |
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By *r TriomanMan 9 weeks ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
I love my own company, I have some very funny, exciting, interesting and sometimes silly conversations with myself. I do lots of fun things by myself and I love to look at myself in the mirror. When I'm alone, the hours just fly by. |
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Yep, I'm very comfortable being by myself. A quiet day of reading and chilling suits me fine. I've been working on not reaching for my phone to doomscroll as much, quite enjoying spending way less time on social media. |
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By *opeyXWoman 9 weeks ago
Dun Dee |
As much as I can enjoy socialising, I equally enjoy my alone time.
Walks without a phone are great when time allows away from responsibilitys.
Same with lodge breaks away with no internet.
I need my alone time though day to day too.
The world sometimes is going too fast and its nice to recharge. |
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Yep, I really like being on my own, with a good book and a cuppa.
I lived alone for years & enjoyed having my own space...
My other half works from home, so I don't get that much alone time. When I do, I make the most of it. |
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In my job I deal with a lot of people on a daily basis, often spend my first day off just kicking back and relaxing by myself.
Discovered during the lockdown that I can be quite happy in my own company |
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"Are you able to be on your own for any length of time and not reach for your phone or the television the radio or anything really, to distract you from yourself?
Reading a book, going for a walk on my own. I enjoy my own company, it seems that many dont, because it seems that many are after that endorphin hit of the mobile phone, like here comes a message, who is that from, sitting and waiting for the next notification, whether it is from facebook or instagram.
I think that being one with yourself teaches you patience, the ability to let things unfold, having that ability is empowering, because I decide when I want to check it, not that instant moment.
It would be interesting to see if you can tolerate your own company. I think everyone needs to have time by themselves "
Why do you consider tv or phone to be a distraction, but you think reading a book or going for a walk isn’t?
They’re all distractions. The only thing in life that is not a distraction would be meditating. So unless you’re good at that, then all of us need “distractions” |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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I grew up an only child with parents who both worked. In the summer months my Dad would work until dark and my Mum worked evening shifts in a factory. So from the age of 9/10 I spent lots of time alone after school hours.
Now I get anxious about events/socials of more than a few people and, even at home, I need to take myself away to be alone for a couple of hours.
I don't think I could travel solo though. |
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By *assy69Man 9 weeks ago
West Sussex and Wales |
"Are you able to be on your own for any length of time and not reach for your phone or the television the radio or anything really, to distract you from yourself?
Reading a book, going for a walk on my own. I enjoy my own company, it seems that many dont, because it seems that many are after that endorphin hit of the mobile phone, like here comes a message, who is that from, sitting and waiting for the next notification, whether it is from facebook or instagram.
I think that being one with yourself teaches you patience, the ability to let things unfold, having that ability is empowering, because I decide when I want to check it, not that instant moment.
It would be interesting to see if you can tolerate your own company. I think everyone needs to have time by themselves "
I very much enjoy my own company and get away solo wild camping whenever I can. Currently looking into how I might squeeze a long break to be able to walk the Welsh coastal path on my own. I sometimes find that people can crowd in on my brain and I find it takes a while to be able to quieten the noise in my head down……. Perhaps I am just odd  |
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I can read a book, if it's riveting. I read on my phone though, so I might as well be watching Netflix.
I've thought about walking to the park to feed the birds on the lake, but I don't feel safe in the park any more.
I need something to distract myself or I cry. |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"I can read a book, if it's riveting. I read on my phone though, so I might as well be watching Netflix.
I've thought about walking to the park to feed the birds on the lake, but I don't feel safe in the park any more.
I need something to distract myself or I cry."
this is sad. Hope nothing bad happened in the park  |
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"I can read a book, if it's riveting. I read on my phone though, so I might as well be watching Netflix.
I've thought about walking to the park to feed the birds on the lake, but I don't feel safe in the park any more.
I need something to distract myself or I cry.this is sad. Hope nothing bad happened in the park "
It's not the safest of places for a long woman, even at 2 in the afternoon.
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"Is reading a book not a distraction?
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I was thinking this also. I guess it's more romanticised than watching TV or a film, or using a phone, but in my opinion it's in the same category. A lot of people read books on their phones, does OP allow that?? |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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My faithful Retriever aside, I would not quarrel with Thoreau.
“I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.”
― Henry David Thoreau, Walden |
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"Are you able to be on your own for any length of time and not reach for your phone or the television the radio or anything really, to distract you from yourself?
Reading a book, going for a walk on my own. I enjoy my own company, it seems that many dont, because it seems that many are after that endorphin hit of the mobile phone, like here comes a message, who is that from, sitting and waiting for the next notification, whether it is from facebook or instagram.
I think that being one with yourself teaches you patience, the ability to let things unfold, having that ability is empowering, because I decide when I want to check it, not that instant moment.
It would be interesting to see if you can tolerate your own company. I think everyone needs to have time by themselves "
Yes I can. I often lose my phone so I can do the without a phone bit, the TV - I don't watch it much to be honest. i have to do something though, but it doesn't have to be technology. |
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By *929Man 9 weeks ago
newcastle |
Used to love time alone, learning to enjoy it again now that kids are older got so used to them always being around it felt weird going back to being alone when they only leave their room to eat |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 9 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Used to love time alone, learning to enjoy it again now that kids are older got so used to them always being around it felt weird going back to being alone when they only leave their room to eat"
That is good you are learning it again too |
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By *ascaIMan 9 weeks ago
Cheshire Liverpool Manchester |
Absolutely. I’ll grab my backpack and tent whenever I need a break from life and everyone in it. I did the coast to coast walk last year which was 12 days of bliss and blisters. |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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I enjoy being alone at times no phone no radio no “ noise “ to essentially reset and just enjoy the sounds of the surroundings,
problem is tho spending alone is dangerous and addictive, once you see and feel how peaceful it is you dont want to and struggle to deal with people anymore |
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