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"So how often do you spot someone from Fab and think should I say hello… or is that a weird thing to do ?
Maybe it’s even weirder as they currently have clothes on and seem to be married  "
We don’t normally say anything, it’s not the etiquette. |
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"Don’t think I ever seen another fab member out and about, if I did I wouldn’t say anything"
I have once. A guy who I'd met at a big social suddenly turned up at my gym.
I decided not to chat to him about arranging a threesome at the squat rack. |
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"Don’t think I ever seen another fab member out and about, if I did I wouldn’t say anything
I have once. A guy who I'd met at a big social suddenly turned up at my gym.
I decided not to chat to him about arranging a threesome at the squat rack."
Omg weird |
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"So just to ask the etiquette, you’ve met them before and they fucked your partner and now you see them around town ? Knowing smile or completely ignored ? "
Maybe as much as a smile, but something they can deny. Maybe you're just friendly.
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"Don’t think I ever seen another fab member out and about, if I did I wouldn’t say anything
I have once. A guy who I'd met at a big social suddenly turned up at my gym.
I decided not to chat to him about arranging a threesome at the squat rack.
Omg weird "
He didn't see me, which was a relief! I just steered well clear in case he *was* one of those "oh I met you at the Fab social" types...
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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I've spotted someone I met in a club once in real life but never acknowledged it. I want what happens on Fab to stay on Fab and would generally offer the same courtesy |
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"Don’t think I ever seen another fab member out and about, if I did I wouldn’t say anything
I have once. A guy who I'd met at a big social suddenly turned up at my gym.
I decided not to chat to him about arranging a threesome at the squat rack."
So you didn’t pump his iron? |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 10 weeks ago
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One guy from the next town messaged me here to say hi, and did I remember he'd said hello when he saw me in the street! I didn't remember - I probably thought at the time that I'd been mistaken for someone the person knew. I wouldn't have been dressed, which is doubly disconcerting. Anyway, I told him that I did not appreciate being approached unannounced, that he had no idea who I was with, or who was watching, and that it was a violation of my fab privacy. I told him never to do it again.
Then I blocked him.
Bloody hell.
You never approach somebody outside of fab in public for all of these reasons. You have no idea what their personal status and dynamic are.
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Never. If you engage via Fab, it stays within Fab. And if you don't engage here, you never engage anywhere else. Have discretion and assume that it's unlikely that others will have interest in you. If you can't or don't engage here, then put your attention elsewhere |
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Totally agree with most of the sentiments on here: my Fab life is extraneous to my real life.
Unless, however, it was someone I recognised from either the SADF or the French Foreign Legion. There's a code of conduct that I must adhere to....I would say hello. |
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"Don’t think I ever seen another fab member out and about, if I did I wouldn’t say anything
I have once. A guy who I'd met at a big social suddenly turned up at my gym.
I decided not to chat to him about arranging a threesome at the squat rack.
Omg weird
He didn't see me, which was a relief! I just steered well clear in case he *was* one of those "oh I met you at the Fab social" types...
😂"
I imagined he'd come up to you and loudly started talking about whether you wanted to go spit roast or DP on DebbieDoesDorchester |
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Spotted someone, but didn’t say anything.
I think, if you really want to say something it may be better to write a message rather than approaching them in public: you never know which can of worms you may open
Even if I saw Rebecca and Joe, unless I was sure it was them and that nobody could hear our conversation, I think I’d rather send them a message saying “I just spotted you “ |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"Totally agree with most of the sentiments on here: my Fab life is extraneous to my real life.
Unless, however, it was someone I recognised from either the SADF or the French Foreign Legion. There's a code of conduct that I must adhere to....I would say hello."
You forgot to mention the cub scouts, the Mormon Tabernacle, the Masons and the National Socialists - all have a special form of greeting that you must give. It would be quite remiss not to do so, but do make sure you get it right, no point "dib, dib, dibbing" to a Mormon, it just confuses them  |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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Only the once. (Discounting meeting people in bars for drinks.)
I was driving home from work when I saw a lady from my friends list in her work cloths going about her day. |
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"Our local post lady is on here, seriously! And goodness she is hot!
I messaged her and she was flattered but said “please don’t answer the door naked or anything like that when I’m working!” Lol"
Pmsl that would be funny though |
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"Spotted someone, but didn’t say anything.
I think, if you really want to say something it may be better to write a message rather than approaching them in public: you never know which can of worms you may open
Even if I saw Rebecca and Joe, unless I was sure it was them and that nobody could hear our conversation, I think I’d rather send them a message saying “I just spotted you “"
We have had you’re a few “did I just see you at….” And are always flattered to be recognised.
Seems like we are alone in the fab world… we aren’t about to fuck in the street but a polite hello and are you Joe wouldn’t be the end of the world |
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By *vaRose43Woman 10 weeks ago
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Someone I had sent a face pic to when I first joined came up to me and my daughter in Lidl. He was using my fab name not my real one, luckily my daughter now thinks he is the local crack head. Not cool.
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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There’s a lady in my office in here she has zero idea I am also as far as I’m aware lol, I wouldn’t dream of saying anything! However I do drop the odd hint every now and again just to pass the time |
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I spotted two mums on the school run, one single one married, and I've spotted a married couple in town, the only one I've messaged is the married mum, I've told her who I was but never mentioned anything at the school or in town, |
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I know of 2 local females who have profiles on here. One I am on 1st name terms with, and the other will know my face as someone local. I won't engage them via Fab. If given the opportunity in a social capacity I may make a pass or something. I would never embarrass them by letting them know they are on here. |
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So. You go to a club, party or meet. You spend a few hours having a ‘social’ drink then having sex with someone but the next day you ignore them in the supermarket? How childish! We are all consenting ADULTS. I say hello to people I have never met before |
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By *lecom1Couple 10 weeks ago
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Had someone message us on here saying he often saw us in the supermarket and asked if it was OK to say hello next time he saw us. We said yes and had a good chat by the ice cream freezer. So that was cool. Would have been uncool if he hadn't messaged before. Led to a successful meet. |
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I met the female half of a couple id played with a couple of times in town and we both walked into each other both alone and had a quick hello how are you doing type of thing but I’d never approach someone I didn’t have a connection with or if they were with someone. That would be dangerous and awkward. |
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By *8on33Man 10 weeks ago
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"So how often do you spot someone from Fab and think should I say hello… or is that a weird thing to do ?
Maybe it’s even weirder as they currently have clothes on and seem to be married "
I've been spotted in the past and people have said hi doesn't bother me really but I guess most women would hate this but I've spotted a couple of women one in particular who loved that I recognised her we smiled rather than spoke though and went on our way. |
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By *vaRose43Woman 10 weeks ago
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"So. You go to a club, party or meet. You spend a few hours having a ‘social’ drink then having sex with someone but the next day you ignore them in the supermarket? How childish! We are all consenting ADULTS. I say hello to people I have never met before"
That’s the point, I was with my child. It made me very uncomfortable |
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I've not been spotted.
But my wife has both surprised friends in a club and been spotted by family in the audience while modelling for a fetish demo.
If I know someone I may say, 'Hi'.
If I recognise someone, I might has a reflexive double take.
I might even message them on here asking if it was them I saw.
I'm not going to run up and ask them. As not everybody is out, and consent is important. |
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"So. You go to a club, party or meet. You spend a few hours having a ‘social’ drink then having sex with someone but the next day you ignore them in the supermarket? How childish! We are all consenting ADULTS. I say hello to people I have never met before
That’s the point, I was with my child. It made me very uncomfortable "
Over 10 years ago I was walking through the car park at the supermarket with my young son and a woman from Fab who I had met socially on a number of occasions came out of the supermarket heading to her car. We were both somewhat startled and hurried on our way with no words exchanged (might now do a username search to see if she is still here!) |
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"So. You go to a club, party or meet. You spend a few hours having a ‘social’ drink then having sex with someone but the next day you ignore them in the supermarket? How childish! We are all consenting ADULTS. I say hello to people I have never met before"
Not so sure it's childish. More about being respectful and context sensitive. If someones with their friends, children, parents, work colleagues, siblings or even in their own and just choose to segment vanilla and fab worlds, that's their choice. |
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Never recognised anyone my self as alot don't have face pics here! But I'm often recognised from here! Some will say hiya but most will message later to say they saw me! Especially whilst I was at work! Or out on my bycicle! X |
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By *8on33Man 10 weeks ago
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"So. You go to a club, party or meet. You spend a few hours having a ‘social’ drink then having sex with someone but the next day you ignore them in the supermarket? How childish! We are all consenting ADULTS. I say hello to people I have never met before
Not so sure it's childish. More about being respectful and context sensitive. If someones with their friends, children, parents, work colleagues, siblings or even in their own and just choose to segment vanilla and fab worlds, that's their choice. "
They are just people though and as long as you didn't highlight where you met them ,why can't you say hi ,I wouldn't from my end but wouldn't have a problem saying hi to me , I don't see the problem it's just being neighbourly surely ? |
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By *8on33Man 10 weeks ago
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"Spotted someone, but didn’t say anything.
I think, if you really want to say something it may be better to write a message rather than approaching them in public: you never know which can of worms you may open
Even if I saw Rebecca and Joe, unless I was sure it was them and that nobody could hear our conversation, I think I’d rather send them a message saying “I just spotted you “
We have had you’re a few “did I just see you at….” And are always flattered to be recognised.
Seems like we are alone in the fab world… we aren’t about to fuck in the street but a polite hello and are you Joe wouldn’t be the end of the world "
No I'm with you on this one ,a polite hello seems fine to me but guess if you're cheating on your significant other then that may cause pangs of guilt . |
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I’ve had messages after I was seen on fab, they didn’t have pictures so obviously I didn’t see them
I’d be turned on if someone started chatting me up then drop they saw me on fab
I’m much better once I met in person |
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"So. You go to a club, party or meet. You spend a few hours having a ‘social’ drink then having sex with someone but the next day you ignore them in the supermarket? How childish! We are all consenting ADULTS. I say hello to people I have never met before"
I don't know if they're with anyone, where they'd have to explain how they'd know me.
I've been outed without my consent - much more directly than this. It's awful. Far more awful than being ignored. |
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It depends on the context.
If it’s somebody that I know and class as a friend no issue with that at all. If it’s someone I’ve met briefly for example had a social with and they’re discreet, I’ve not issue as long as it’s just a polite hello how are you?
If it’s a complete stranger I’d be a bit freaked out, especially if there was any level of reference to Fab or the scene. |
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"Never recognised anyone my self as alot don't have face pics here! But I'm often recognised from here! Some will say hiya but most will message later to say they saw me! Especially whilst I was at work! Or out on my bycicle! X"
Definitely passed you in a certain supermarket. I wouldn't say anything in public because I'm just too shy, lol |
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Outside of clubs or social events, neither my wife nor I (couples account on here as well) have ever had anyone say hello or introduce themselves in what... 14 years on Fab? ...and we show our faces on all our accounts.
Then again, we do live in a relatively quiet-ish area for swinging and those who do indulge tend to want their privacy so wouldn't know them if we walked past them in the street.
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By *vaRose43Woman 10 weeks ago
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"So. You go to a club, party or meet. You spend a few hours having a ‘social’ drink then having sex with someone but the next day you ignore them in the supermarket? How childish! We are all consenting ADULTS. I say hello to people I have never met before
Not so sure it's childish. More about being respectful and context sensitive. If someones with their friends, children, parents, work colleagues, siblings or even in their own and just choose to segment vanilla and fab worlds, that's their choice. They are just people though and as long as you didn't highlight where you met them ,why can't you say hi ,I wouldn't from my end but wouldn't have a problem saying hi to me , I don't see the problem it's just being neighbourly surely ?"
That I’d have no issue with, using my online name or talking fab in front of my children is another thing entirely.
Generally a nod and smile is more than enough, we are British! |
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Spotted someone yesterday at work. I work in construction and was sent to a new site where I had to meet with the pa to fill forms etc.i thought she looked really familiar it wasn't until later in the day the penny dropped. She never said she knew me I'm curious should I say anything on here as they are on my hotlist(il have to meet her every morning and evening for 2 weeks to collect keys) |
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The funny thing is that because we are British anyone saying hi or smiling towards us would automatically signify that they know us from Fab and that’s enough fun for most first random meets. Offering to get their cock out and play isn’t very British at all lol |
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"The funny thing is that because we are British anyone saying hi or smiling towards us would automatically signify that they know us from Fab and that’s enough fun for most first random meets. Offering to get their cock out and play isn’t very British at all lol"
**Quickly pops winkie back in trousers and saunters out of the library whistling** |
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"Never recognised anyone my self as alot don't have face pics here! But I'm often recognised from here! Some will say hiya but most will message later to say they saw me! Especially whilst I was at work! Or out on my bycicle! X
Definitely passed you in a certain supermarket. I wouldn't say anything in public because I'm just too shy, lol"
Must been when I worked in sainsburys? Shd have said hiya! X |
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By *ackal1Couple 10 weeks ago
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We met a single guy for a social. He was quite nervous as we were his very first meet on FAB. He was nice enough so we said we’d look at meeting again.
A few weeks later we were in a country pub and he walked in with his wife and child in a pushchair.
I’ve never seen the blood drain out of someone so quickly.
We just gently smiled and then proceeded to politely ignore him.
We all have our reasons to be on FAB but once you’re here it’s definitely private unless you’re told otherwise. We would never have caused him grief.
As we left I think I could hear him breathe a sigh of relief from my position in the car park .
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"So how often do you spot someone from Fab and think should I say hello… or is that a weird thing to do ?
Maybe it’s even weirder as they currently have clothes on and seem to be married "
If it's people we know well and have moved into a general friendship with and thats our agreement with them, not a problem...otherwise would never intrude on anyone's real life at all... |
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"Never recognised anyone my self as alot don't have face pics here! But I'm often recognised from here! Some will say hiya but most will message later to say they saw me! Especially whilst I was at work! Or out on my bycicle! X
Definitely passed you in a certain supermarket. I wouldn't say anything in public because I'm just too shy, lol
Must been when I worked in sainsburys? Shd have said hiya! X"
Yes! I will next time  |
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