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Feeling Overwhelmed in Busy Clubs - Anyone Else?

By *heitaliandreamer OP Man 10 weeks ago

Northampton

Hi everyone,

I hope you're all having a great day. I've been attending clubs for a while now, and while I really enjoy the atmosphere and energy, I sometimes find myself feeling overwhelmed when it's particularly busy. It's like I get stuck, and starting a conversation with people I don't know becomes a real challenge for me.

I'm curious if anyone else feels the same way? How do you handle it or get past that initial hesitation? Any tips or advice would be really appreciated!

Thanks in advance!

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By *rangesmartieWoman 10 weeks ago

Devon

Yes!! I feel like this often. I then normally find myself in a quiet corner somewhere and unable to get out. Not sure how to better manage it. I feel awkward keep walking up to people to introduce myself.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman 10 weeks ago

your head

I rarely start conversations with people as I'm not very good at it. I tend to just hide in the dungeon and if people want to talk to me they can.

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By *imply DeeWoman 10 weeks ago

Wherever

I prefer busy clubs to be honest. The busier the better.

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By *r lotharioMan 10 weeks ago

newcastle-under-lyme

quite happy to sit up a corner on my own and talk to myself - sometimes it's the only way to guarantee an intelligent conversation

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple 10 weeks ago

Cannock

To be honest if someone who struggled to start conversations came to speak to us and just said I'm really sorry I'm terrible at this, I think it would put everyone at ease and the whole situation would probably become easier.

Even if there's no sexual connection, it would still be a good way to ease into the night by just chatting. Nobody feeling awkward or left out stood in a corner

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By *aramel.desiresMan 10 weeks ago

London

"Hi everyone,

I'm curious if anyone else feels the same way? How do you handle it or get past that initial hesitation? Any tips or advice would be really appreciated!

Thanks in advance!

I'm in a chat group as part of a swingers club and they were discussing the use of "loops"! Noise reducing ear plugs. It was a very informative conversation about I hypersensitivity, reducing the noise. Some use airpos or other noise reduction devices. Maybe it's something you can think about too.

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By *aramel.desiresMan 10 weeks ago

London

Also when you purchase a ticket to this perticular club you get added to the chats so you have a chance to make some connections before getting to the club. I think it works really well.

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By *aomilatteCouple 10 weeks ago

Midlands

Our advise would be to go on a quieter night. On the busy nights most of the playrooms get taken anyway, unless you go for a play early.

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By *onniesizeMan 10 weeks ago

beckley

Are there any clubs in Oxford?

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By *neeyedwillieMan 10 weeks ago

Darlington

My wife and I are the same. Regardless of if we go together or alone, the busier it is, the harder it is to socialise. Too crowded and too noisey. But we are talking when there was 100 plus people.

The best nighta we've had where usually less than 40 people.

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