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Not in person, but through messages, yes.
A very busty woman (or man pretending to be) messaged to tell me that my partner at the time preferred big breasts, and that he was always going to be unsatisfied with my tiny fried egg excuses for boobs.
She said a lot of other things too. It was very odd. |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"Have you ever experienced this when swinging or in clubs?  "
Each to there own ... good thing we are all different x When i first this i was thinking is this some new fetish i know nothing about. xxx I learn alot reading forums . xlol  |
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I think if I experienced it at a swingers club I'd end up shutting down and leaving immediately depressed. It's the one place where I let my defences down so negativity affects me more. It's also the one place that this kind of behaviour shouldn't be tolerated 😡 |
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I used to be much younger and much thinner when I used to go to clubs, so no shaming but still felt self conscious about my own body
Now…now yes, loads of body shaming from everyone you can imagine  |
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"Not in person, but through messages, yes.
A very busty woman (or man pretending to be) messaged to tell me that my partner at the time preferred big breasts, and that he was always going to be unsatisfied with my tiny fried egg excuses for boobs.
She said a lot of other things too. It was very odd."
My mind tends to think these are men who have been rejected, or women who are upset that the men they like prefer you.
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"Not in person, but through messages, yes.
A very busty woman (or man pretending to be) messaged to tell me that my partner at the time preferred big breasts, and that he was always going to be unsatisfied with my tiny fried egg excuses for boobs.
She said a lot of other things too. It was very odd.
My mind tends to think these are men who have been rejected, or women who are upset that the men they like prefer you.
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It was just someone who took pleasure in being spiteful. They also said that he was a deserter in the army and loads of other ludicrous stuff. It wasn't simply about body shaming, but they utilised it wholeheartedly. The only effect it had on me was to think "who pissed on your chips?". |
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"Not in person, but through messages, yes.
A very busty woman (or man pretending to be) messaged to tell me that my partner at the time preferred big breasts, and that he was always going to be unsatisfied with my tiny fried egg excuses for boobs.
She said a lot of other things too. It was very odd.
My mind tends to think these are men who have been rejected, or women who are upset that the men they like prefer you.
It was just someone who took pleasure in being spiteful. They also said that he was a deserter in the army and loads of other ludicrous stuff. It wasn't simply about body shaming, but they utilised it wholeheartedly. The only effect it had on me was to think "who pissed on your chips?"."
Jealousy is ugly 
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"Have you ever experienced this when swinging or in clubs? "
I have Yes and partys 9 out of 10 its woman who think your a threat in some way taking attention from them in some ways .. and can be a group of people doing it together .. when you confront it they feel stupid And look it too .. |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"On here, yes. In clubs I’ve never seen or heard any body shaming as there’s people of all shapes and sizes with their clothes off."
well can happen clubs sites and partys .. were there is groups. I dont get it as much but i did x
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Slightly different, but I was once refused entry to a nightclub cos I was too fat
They tried telling me it was a private party
The flaw in that plan was that my mate was already inside
It was only when I challenged them that they confirmed that they didn't want fat people in there and suggested I tried another nightclub further up the road that 'let anyone in' |
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"No I haven't. There is an undercurrent of trying to curry favour with one body type by insulting another in the forum though. "
We've seen this in clubs too and body positivity works all ways. We would never tolerate anyone being fat or skinny shamed  |
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"On here, yes. In clubs I’ve never seen or heard any body shaming as there’s people of all shapes and sizes with their clothes off. well can happen clubs sites and partys .. were there is groups. I dont get it as much but i did x"
I don’t doubt it does happen we just haven’t seen it. As with any place with large numbers of people, a small portion of them will be massive dickheads. |
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In messages yes, we both have.
I (A)is occasionally the subject of "he's to short or his cocks to small" i laugh it off as best as I can as it's a ridiculous thing to message out of the blue to say.
Ess is the receiver of "your boobs are too small, your too fat yadada" that does get to her a bit more which is why I do most of the fabmin to shield her from it.
However in a club, never had anything like it |
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"Not in person, but through messages, yes.
A very busty woman (or man pretending to be) messaged to tell me that my partner at the time preferred big breasts, and that he was always going to be unsatisfied with my tiny fried egg excuses for boobs.
She said a lot of other things too. It was very odd."
That sounds like a rather sad pathetic little man pretending to be a woman to me! |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"A very busty woman (or man pretending to be) messaged to tell me that my partner at the time preferred big breasts, and that he was always going to be unsatisfied with my tiny fried egg excuses for boobs.
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Rather taken by the image of fried egg breasts. Were they sunnyside up? Has the yoke gone from the yellow to an orange colour? Would the yoke still be runny?
Have I rather missed the point?  |
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"Have you ever experienced this when swinging or in clubs? "
Unfortunately I've female half have experienced body shaming on here and in real life even by ex partners. It's very sad that other just can't be kind.
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People are so shallow and image obsessed these days ...It's so easy for them to be rude online but it's also transfering to daily life ...
Not everyone wants to look or be gym fit,life's not one size fits all.
A polite no if someone's not your type is all that's required ...
Also,to have good sex there has to be a mental connection,sometimes not going for your ideal vision can be the best sex you'll have ..be it a woman or man ! |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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No sure why people wish to put others in boxes .... We are how we are .. why should you have to change to fit in .. I just think you should be true to yourself. |
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Never at a club, party or anywhere else.
We've seen a single lady get a bit sniffy when a single guy turned her down, but he was very nice, just said no thanks when she asked if he would like to go upstairs.
We been turned down by couples and turned down other people too.
It's the nature of the game, a personal choice but we are always pleasant and civil.
Would never dream of trying to shame anyone it's just plain rude and disgusting behaviour.
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Not anywhere , not ever in my life. Oh im lying ... my brother was a mean git when we were kids and he'd mention my bits... I'd kick seven bells out of him and call him something far worse.
We were slightly more civilised as adults. |
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Yeah, I've had it on here a few times in the past because of my belly and skinny legs mainly single ladies. That's why I now don't message anyone CBA, to be honest with the hassle.
That's why I am now going back to the clubs even if they don't like me then that's their problem, not mine to be honest as well there are too many good-looking single men on here who can talk the talk and all that.
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By *uvery30Woman 10 weeks ago
Gloucestershire |
Yes I met a guy and we had fun I ended up staying at his house the night as well.
Went home in the moring after 3 rounds. When I got home he messaged and said it was fun he had never been with a fat girl before (so I was a experiment) felt so crappy after.
Then a random number messaged me a week later saying my mate said your a fat girl and I want to try can you meet me to.
Just blocked them both took me ages to feel comfortable and confident again to go and meet. Xx |
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"Have you ever experienced this when swinging or in clubs? "
No.
I've not seen or received any body shaming in clubs. Nor have I received any body shaming messages.
In my experience, clubs are full of a variety of shapes and sizes and are generally very inclusive. |
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By *essTTWoman 10 weeks ago
Birmingham |
Only once
I was seeing a guy regularly(2-3 times a week) for a good few months
I was due to go on holiday and made a joke about going on a diet prior and he then said yeah you could do with losing a but of weight tbf.
Never saw him again |
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By *essTTWoman 10 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"Yes I met a guy and we had fun I ended up staying at his house the night as well.
Went home in the moring after 3 rounds. When I got home he messaged and said it was fun he had never been with a fat girl before (so I was a experiment) felt so crappy after.
Then a random number messaged me a week later saying my mate said your a fat girl and I want to try can you meet me to.
Just blocked them both took me ages to feel comfortable and confident again to go and meet. Xx "
This is a massive worry of mine
Generally only meet men who have been verified by other fat women so I know they're genuinely attracted to bigger bodies |
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By *inx000Couple 10 weeks ago
Manchester |
Not in clubs but on here yes unfortunately there are lots of comments and opinions about body shaming which is a real shame.This place is meant to be a bit of fun but people try and bring you down. |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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Not in a club. Id been swimming in the sea at a nudist beach, when I got out and walked up to my spot, some guys were walking by and giggled at my shrivelled up cock n balls lol
I suggested to them that they get naked and go for a dip, see hows theirs would look, they didn't say anything lol
I didn't take it to heart, I think they were just immature idiots. |
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By *uvery30Woman 10 weeks ago
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"Yes I met a guy and we had fun I ended up staying at his house the night as well.
Went home in the moring after 3 rounds. When I got home he messaged and said it was fun he had never been with a fat girl before (so I was a experiment) felt so crappy after.
Then a random number messaged me a week later saying my mate said your a fat girl and I want to try can you meet me to.
Just blocked them both took me ages to feel comfortable and confident again to go and meet. Xx
This is a massive worry of mine
Generally only meet men who have been verified by other fat women so I know they're genuinely attracted to bigger bodies "
Ya I definitely learnt from that xx |
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By *a LunaWoman 10 weeks ago
South Wales |
I’ve had two comments about my weight on here, I don’t attend clubs.
I’m used to having comments made at me about my appearance though, but it’s usually about my height.
If I had a £1 for every “what’s the weather like up there?” comment I’ve heard, I’d be well off!!
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It’s awful to read the above thread in parts, makes my blood boil
Body shaming is dam right disgusting and it’s discrimination against real people people with real feelings
Curves are good
Be yourself always … |
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By *agic.MMan 10 weeks ago
Orpington |
I've always been confused as to what is considered body shaming (if it's not related to someone's weight). We all know that if someone says "you're fat!" it is considered body shaming (regardless if the person is overweight or not)... but if I get a random message simply stating "you're short!" would that be considered just a simple observation? as I am below average height. And if that is just an observation, would the concept of body shaming change if instead of "fat" you put "overweight" (as in "you're overweight " - rather than "you're fat") or is it still considered body shaming? |
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Many years ago we met an unfortunate woman who decided to constantly comment on and talk about Mrs pineapples large labia with anyone and everyone in the club. I can only assume she was jealous from the attention we were getting and brushed it off but it was quite a surreal experience |
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I may have been in clubs but not noticed due to my ears being covered by ladies thighs - not been to clubs much so maybe if i went more …? It’s completely unacceptable and as a community we shouldn’t tolerate it… at all. |
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By *a LunaWoman 10 weeks ago
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"I've always been confused as to what is considered body shaming (if it's not related to someone's weight). We all know that if someone says "you're fat!" it is considered body shaming (regardless if the person is overweight or not)... but if I get a random message simply stating "you're short!" would that be considered just a simple observation? as I am below average height. And if that is just an observation, would the concept of body shaming change if instead of "fat" you put "overweight" (as in "you're overweight " - rather than "you're fat") or is it still considered body shaming? "
Body shaming is critiquing or mocking someone’s physical appearance, usually in an effort to make them feel self conscious or inadequate. So yes, it could still be seen as body shaming.
I think most people can tell the intent behind someone’s comments. And why is it necessary to comment on someone’s appearance anyway?
You* either like the look of someone or you don’t. If you do, great! If not, move along. Quietly!
(*General you)
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"Only once
I was seeing a guy regularly(2-3 times a week) for a good few months
I was due to go on holiday and made a joke about going on a diet prior and he then said yeah you could do with losing a but of weight tbf.
Never saw him again "
Wow. Some guys are just pricks. Sorry to hear he said that to you. No need for it |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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For anyone bothered by it on here... I very frequently get told how stunning I look on my personal profile. I also get some shaming.
I have never posted a single image on that profile
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By *agic.MMan 10 weeks ago
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"I've always been confused as to what is considered body shaming (if it's not related to someone's weight). We all know that if someone says "you're fat!" it is considered body shaming (regardless if the person is overweight or not)... but if I get a random message simply stating "you're short!" would that be considered just a simple observation? as I am below average height. And if that is just an observation, would the concept of body shaming change if instead of "fat" you put "overweight" (as in "you're overweight " - rather than "you're fat") or is it still considered body shaming?
Body shaming is critiquing or mocking someone’s physical appearance, usually in an effort to make them feel self conscious or inadequate. So yes, it could still be seen as body shaming.
I think most people can tell the intent behind someone’s comments. And why is it necessary to comment on someone’s appearance anyway?
You* either like the look of someone or you don’t. If you do, great! If not, move along. Quietly!
(*General you)
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I'm not sure someone's intent is always that obvious...some people have a very straightforward (dry) approach in communication- which can make them appear inconsiderate (but they don't mean to offend). So at that point it's more about how it makes the recipient feel rather than the intent of the person making the remark. And yes me receiving a random message stating "you're short" is a clear indication of an insult attempt...but commenting on someone's height is not as black/white as commenting on someone's weight (when it comes to bodyshaming). |
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"Yep...a woman in a club.
Pretty horrible comment TBH but I laughed it off which seemed to annoy her."
Yep I have had that a few time in clubs .. I told one woman though , her husband had no problem railing my ass and sucking my cock about 30min earlier on his own in the dark room .. she wasn't so happy looking at that , I laughed and walked off and said was just joking
totally messed with her head though as she was all shaking and getting panicked was funny |
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"Had a single lady msg before telling Inked if an when he was ready for a thinner more attractive women to get rid of me and msg her
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Any guy would be lucky to have her with that attitude… jeez .. just when i think Ive heard the worst on here… xx |
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"Had a single lady msg before telling Inked if an when he was ready for a thinner more attractive women to get rid of me and msg her
(Mrs) "
He's not gonna do that... he knows that curves are best |
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By *oxy jWoman 10 weeks ago
somerset |
in all my years on this scene and the many clubs we visted all over uk /euro clubs are genuinely safe havens most of the time yes there will always be a odd moment ... i love clubs to be very mixed when it comes to body size n shapes they in my opinion are the best clubs ... we disd do a club once in london where you were pre picked and it was the fakest night ever in a swinging club |
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"Had a single lady msg before telling Inked if an when he was ready for a thinner more attractive women to get rid of me and msg her
(Mrs) "
Aw, man, that's a horrible thing to experience 😢
I've also never understood why ‘thinner’ is somehow considered more attractive, because it's the opposite to me.
Either way, I doubt Inked or you are going anywhere 😁👍 |
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No, never experienced it at any club, unless a kink/fetish night and its what turns them on...
In fact the first time I went to a club I was really really self conscious but within half an hour I was feeling confident just being around people of all shapes and sizes feeling good about themselves.
I actually find clubs really body positive places and I leave all my real world worries about my body image at the door... I find it really liberating xx
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