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We recently went to a midlands club and noticed the large amount of young Asian guys trawling the club. Surely they have wives or girlfriends where were they ? Or is it a case of what's yours is mine but what's mine is my own ? We considered this question before posting it for fear of someone playing the race card against us. However this is just a genuine question and perhaps one or more of the Asian guys on here can reply with an answer. |
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A great post but I'll struggle to answer it entirely.
I'm a single Brummie with Indian heritage but very much more English in mindset than Indian.
Firstly there is a large Asian population in the Midlands, so the clubs may represent that with single guys.
This is where I may get shot down in flames and it might not be only be an Asian thing. I believe that some Asian men still consider wives and girlfriends not as equals or partners so therefore would never consider asking them to be involved. This is just one perspective and I am happy to elaborate but it's difficult in written form as this can easily go into many nuances...
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I'm curious about why OP believes all Asian guys in clubs must have wives or girlfriends at home.
And also why they aren't making the same sweeping generalisation about all the non-Asian guys in clubs.
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"I'm curious about why OP believes all Asian guys in clubs must have wives or girlfriends at home.
And also why they aren't making the same sweeping generalisation about all the non-Asian guys in clubs.
Like OP, I'm "just asking questions" "
What is the overwhelming ethnicity of women you see in clubs? |
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"I'm curious about why OP believes all Asian guys in clubs must have wives or girlfriends at home.
And also why they aren't making the same sweeping generalisation about all the non-Asian guys in clubs.
Like OP, I'm "just asking questions"
What is the overwhelming ethnicity of women you see in clubs? "
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"A great post but I'll struggle to answer it entirely.
I'm a single Brummie with Indian heritage but very much more English in mindset than Indian.
Firstly there is a large Asian population in the Midlands, so the clubs may represent that with single guys.
This is where I may get shot down in flames and it might not be only be an Asian thing. I believe that some Asian men still consider wives and girlfriends not as equals or partners so therefore would never consider asking them to be involved. This is just one perspective and I am happy to elaborate but it's difficult in written form as this can easily go into many nuances...
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What you said about some Asian men still considering wives and girlfriends as not being equals is an attitude that hasn't gone unnoticed and doesn't do them any favours at all. |
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I am a white male who’s been swinging for 25 years to most clubs and many private parties you will not see Asian wives or girlfriends clubs and parties because because the husband won’t allow for me personally I think it’s a culture thing Asian men like banging white women but don’t wanna right guy to bang their partner simple as that
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"We recently went to a midlands club and noticed the large amount of young Asian guys trawling the club. Surely they have wives or girlfriends where were they ? Or is it a case of what's yours is mine but what's mine is my own ? We considered this question before posting it for fear of someone playing the race card against us. However this is just a genuine question and perhaps one or more of the Asian guys on here can reply with an answer."
How does anyone know which 'single' men at clubs - Asian or otherwise - have a wife or girlfriend?
Would all single men "surely" have wives or girlfriends? Or just those of Asian descent?
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There’s a thing called conversation where you talk that’s how you know by talking and having a Conversation A lot of white married men will take their wedding ring off but as we used to say it takes one to no one and you can spot a married man and mile off so you have the conversation and he gradually comes out I have a girlfriend or that married that’s how I know when you’ve been doing again for 25 years you can spot a married man and 1,000,000 miles away ha ha |
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"We recently went to a midlands club and noticed the large amount of young Asian guys trawling the club. Surely they have wives or girlfriends where were they ? Or is it a case of what's yours is mine but what's mine is my own ? We considered this question before posting it for fear of someone playing the race card against us. However this is just a genuine question and perhaps one or more of the Asian guys on here can reply with an answer.
How does anyone know which 'single' men at clubs - Asian or otherwise - have a wife or girlfriend?
Would all single men "surely" have wives or girlfriends? Or just those of Asian descent?
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Assumptions which turn to rumours which turn to stereotypes which turn to... |
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"There’s a thing called conversation where you talk that’s how you know by talking and having a Conversation A lot of white married men will take their wedding ring off but as we used to say it takes one to no one and you can spot a married man and mile off so you have the conversation and he gradually comes out I have a girlfriend or that married that’s how I know when you’ve been doing again for 25 years you can spot a married man and 1,000,000 miles away ha ha"
Ah, right. Got it. So all those married white guys who have taken their rings off but later admit to being married don't like sharing their wives either. Not just the Asian ones. |
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"We recently went to a midlands club and noticed the large amount of young Asian guys trawling the club. Surely they have wives or girlfriends where were they ? Or is it a case of what's yours is mine but what's mine is my own ? We considered this question before posting it for fear of someone playing the race card against us. However this is just a genuine question and perhaps one or more of the Asian guys on here can reply with an answer.
How does anyone know which 'single' men at clubs - Asian or otherwise - have a wife or girlfriend?
Would all single men "surely" have wives or girlfriends? Or just those of Asian descent?
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Many are young guys in their early 20s, you can't say that some don't have girlfriends or even wives. However, lets say single Asian women in clubs for arguments sake, rare as hens teeth. Then again, I think the previous replies about Asian guys being more than willing to look for sex with caucasian women but not being willing to reciprocate pretty much nails it. |
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"We recently went to a midlands club and noticed the large amount of young Asian guys trawling the club. Surely they have wives or girlfriends where were they ? Or is it a case of what's yours is mine but what's mine is my own ? We considered this question before posting it for fear of someone playing the race card against us. However this is just a genuine question and perhaps one or more of the Asian guys on here can reply with an answer.
How does anyone know which 'single' men at clubs - Asian or otherwise - have a wife or girlfriend?
Would all single men "surely" have wives or girlfriends? Or just those of Asian descent?
Many are young guys in their early 20s, you can't say that some don't have girlfriends or even wives. However, lets say single Asian women in clubs for arguments sake, rare as hens teeth. Then again, I think the previous replies about Asian guys being more than willing to look for sex with caucasian women but not being willing to reciprocate pretty much nails it. "
I'm sure some do. In the same way I'm sure some of the non-Asian men will have.
Maybe it's just some men - irrespective of background - that like to have their cake and eat it? |
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"We recently went to a midlands club and noticed the large amount of young Asian guys trawling the club. Surely they have wives or girlfriends where were they ? Or is it a case of what's yours is mine but what's mine is my own ? We considered this question before posting it for fear of someone playing the race card against us. However this is just a genuine question and perhaps one or more of the Asian guys on here can reply with an answer.
How does anyone know which 'single' men at clubs - Asian or otherwise - have a wife or girlfriend?
Would all single men "surely" have wives or girlfriends? Or just those of Asian descent?
Many are young guys in their early 20s, you can't say that some don't have girlfriends or even wives. However, lets say single Asian women in clubs for arguments sake, rare as hens teeth. Then again, I think the previous replies about Asian guys being more than willing to look for sex with caucasian women but not being willing to reciprocate pretty much nails it. "
In your opinion. You have absolutely no evidence to back that up other than saying "there are more Asian men in clubs than Asian women". Who the hell are you to pass that judgement? |
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"Loving the generalisation, stereotyping and racism of this thread. Got to love fab for the spectrum of people on here 😂😂"
Is it racism and why?
Please elaborate.
I believe its more a general consensus that Asian men don't like to share.
What's racist about that? |
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"Loving the generalisation, stereotyping and racism of this thread. Got to love fab for the spectrum of people on here 😂😂
Is it racism and why?
Please elaborate.
I believe its more a general consensus that Asian men don't like to share.
What's racist about that?"
A general consensus by whom? And why single out Asian men? Are there not black men and women that don't like to share? Are there not white men and women that don't like to share? I get the OP was based on Asian men, but my point is that it's a narrow-minded thought to have in the first place |
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The belief that different races possess distinct characteristics, abilities, or qualities, especially so as to distinguish them as inferior or superior to one another directly or indirectly.
I have a question for you… if someone generalising a gender, are they sexist? It’s a question I’m just curious about. Maybe I’m wrong. 🤷🏽♂️ |
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"The original question was where are all the Asian wives or girlfriends you tell me if you know the answer then I have my own opinion on it"
A lot of people are fixated on the sharing aspect of it whereas I looked at it from a cultural aspect. What if it's not a case of not wanting to share, but more that they don't want to be open about it because it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result. But no, let's fixate on the part that makes Asian men in the swinging world look like awful human being yet again. |
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"Loving the generalisation, stereotyping and racism of this thread. Got to love fab for the spectrum of people on here 😂😂
Is it racism and why?
Please elaborate.
I believe its more a general consensus that Asian men don't like to share.
What's racist about that?
A general consensus by whom? And why single out Asian men? Are there not black men and women that don't like to share? Are there not white men and women that don't like to share? I get the OP was based on Asian men, but my point is that it's a narrow-minded thought to have in the first place"
Apologies but yes I would include black couples as well, correct me if I'm wrong and I really see no reason for a race card to be pulled here, because there's no reason to.
It's an observation based on the percentage of coloured folk (White) who share more.
Please correct me if I'm wrong. |
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"Loving the generalisation, stereotyping and racism of this thread. Got to love fab for the spectrum of people on here 😂😂
Is it racism and why?
Please elaborate.
I believe its more a general consensus that Asian men don't like to share.
What's racist about that?
A general consensus by whom? And why single out Asian men? Are there not black men and women that don't like to share? Are there not white men and women that don't like to share? I get the OP was based on Asian men, but my point is that it's a narrow-minded thought to have in the first place
Apologies but yes I would include black couples as well, correct me if I'm wrong and I really see no reason for a race card to be pulled here, because there's no reason to.
It's an observation based on the percentage of coloured folk (White) who share more.
Please correct me if I'm wrong."
I'm sorry but the OP can't single out Asian men and moan about a race card being pulled. That's an insane way of thinking.
And I don't need to correct you, there probably are a higher percentage of white couples. Let me just check the race of the majority of the general UK population and see if there's a correlation... 🤔 |
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"The belief that different races possess distinct characteristics, abilities, or qualities, especially so as to distinguish them as inferior or superior to one another directly or indirectly.
I have a question for you… if someone generalising a gender, are they sexist? It’s a question I’m just curious about. Maybe I’m wrong. 🤷🏽♂️"
No body said anything about inferior or superior, I would believe there inferior complex may lie in your head.
And if I could ask you a question and I hate to generalis, would you share a partner? |
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"Loving the generalisation, stereotyping and racism of this thread. Got to love fab for the spectrum of people on here 😂😂
Is it racism and why?
Please elaborate.
I believe its more a general consensus that Asian men don't like to share.
What's racist about that?
A general consensus by whom? And why single out Asian men? Are there not black men and women that don't like to share? Are there not white men and women that don't like to share? I get the OP was based on Asian men, but my point is that it's a narrow-minded thought to have in the first place
Apologies but yes I would include black couples as well, correct me if I'm wrong and I really see no reason for a race card to be pulled here, because there's no reason to.
It's an observation based on the percentage of coloured folk (White) who share more.
Please correct me if I'm wrong."
It's not "pulling a race card" to point out that making sweeping generalisations or lumping a whole group together based solely on the colour of their skin is wrong and ill-informed. |
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"The original question was where are all the Asian wives or girlfriends you tell me if you know the answer then I have my own opinion on it
A lot of people are fixated on the sharing aspect of it whereas I looked at it from a cultural aspect. What if it's not a case of not wanting to share, but more that they don't want to be open about it because it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result. But no, let's fixate on the part that makes Asian men in the swinging world look like awful human being yet again."
Well if "it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result" does the same cultural unacceptability not extend to the men visiting swinging clubs for sex or is it just the women who would be ridiculed ? Also, as swingers are we not all at risk of ridicule from family, friends and society in general ? |
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"The original question was where are all the Asian wives or girlfriends you tell me if you know the answer then I have my own opinion on it
A lot of people are fixated on the sharing aspect of it whereas I looked at it from a cultural aspect. What if it's not a case of not wanting to share, but more that they don't want to be open about it because it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result. But no, let's fixate on the part that makes Asian men in the swinging world look like awful human being yet again."
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"Loving the generalisation, stereotyping and racism of this thread. Got to love fab for the spectrum of people on here 😂😂
Is it racism and why?
Please elaborate.
I believe its more a general consensus that Asian men don't like to share.
What's racist about that?
A general consensus by whom? And why single out Asian men? Are there not black men and women that don't like to share? Are there not white men and women that don't like to share? I get the OP was based on Asian men, but my point is that it's a narrow-minded thought to have in the first place
Apologies but yes I would include black couples as well, correct me if I'm wrong and I really see no reason for a race card to be pulled here, because there's no reason to.
It's an observation based on the percentage of coloured folk (White) who share more.
Please correct me if I'm wrong.
I'm sorry but the OP can't single out Asian men and moan about a race card being pulled. That's an insane way of thinking.
And I don't need to correct you, there probably are a higher percentage of white couples. Let me just check the race of the majority of the general UK population and see if there's a correlation... 🤔"
After spending many years working around the world with so many Asian and African friends, just my opinion and experience.
No not their thing in general
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"The original question was where are all the Asian wives or girlfriends you tell me if you know the answer then I have my own opinion on it
A lot of people are fixated on the sharing aspect of it whereas I looked at it from a cultural aspect. What if it's not a case of not wanting to share, but more that they don't want to be open about it because it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result. But no, let's fixate on the part that makes Asian men in the swinging world look like awful human being yet again.
Well if "it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result" does the same cultural unacceptability not extend to the men visiting swinging clubs for sex or is it just the women who would be ridiculed ? Also, as swingers are we not all at risk of ridicule from family, friends and society in general ?"
You're not understanding me and you're trying to make this a slight against Asian men. The fact it's not culturally accepted means it's harder to broach the subject to your SO in the first place. You don't know the added pressure or risk because you're not aware of how Asians are raised when it comes to the view of having sex or sexual partners. Your version of ridicule from society is different to ours and is something you will never understand. |
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"Loving the generalisation, stereotyping and racism of this thread. Got to love fab for the spectrum of people on here 😂😂
Is it racism and why?
Please elaborate.
I believe its more a general consensus that Asian men don't like to share.
What's racist about that?
A general consensus by whom? And why single out Asian men? Are there not black men and women that don't like to share? Are there not white men and women that don't like to share? I get the OP was based on Asian men, but my point is that it's a narrow-minded thought to have in the first place
Apologies but yes I would include black couples as well, correct me if I'm wrong and I really see no reason for a race card to be pulled here, because there's no reason to.
It's an observation based on the percentage of coloured folk (White) who share more.
Please correct me if I'm wrong.
I'm sorry but the OP can't single out Asian men and moan about a race card being pulled. That's an insane way of thinking.
And I don't need to correct you, there probably are a higher percentage of white couples. Let me just check the race of the majority of the general UK population and see if there's a correlation... 🤔
After spending many years working around the world with so many Asian and African friends, just my opinion and experience.
No not their thing in general"
As opposed to your white friends who you have mass orgies with? |
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"Loving the generalisation, stereotyping and racism of this thread. Got to love fab for the spectrum of people on here 😂😂
Is it racism and why?
Please elaborate.
I believe its more a general consensus that Asian men don't like to share.
What's racist about that?
A general consensus by whom? And why single out Asian men? Are there not black men and women that don't like to share? Are there not white men and women that don't like to share? I get the OP was based on Asian men, but my point is that it's a narrow-minded thought to have in the first place
Apologies but yes I would include black couples as well, correct me if I'm wrong and I really see no reason for a race card to be pulled here, because there's no reason to.
It's an observation based on the percentage of coloured folk (White) who share more.
Please correct me if I'm wrong.
I'm sorry but the OP can't single out Asian men and moan about a race card being pulled. That's an insane way of thinking.
And I don't need to correct you, there probably are a higher percentage of white couples. Let me just check the race of the majority of the general UK population and see if there's a correlation... 🤔
After spending many years working around the world with so many Asian and African friends, just my opinion and experience.
No not their thing in general
As opposed to your white friends who you have mass orgies with?"
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You know what, I give up. I'm tired of being Asian on this site and trying to prove to everyone that we're not all bad and that there are "some good ones". Fuck that. People can think what they want and I'll spend my energy on the actual decent human beings I want to associate with on here who don't see a skin colour and see a stereotype. I would say goodnight, but I don't even want it to be that good for some of you. |
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"You know what, I give up. I'm tired of being Asian on this site and trying to prove to everyone that we're not all bad and that there are "some good ones". Fuck that. People can think what they want and I'll spend my energy on the actual decent human beings I want to associate with on here who don't see a skin colour and see a stereotype. I would say goodnight, but I don't even want it to be that good for some of you."
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"Loving the generalisation, stereotyping and racism of this thread. Got to love fab for the spectrum of people on here 😂😂
Is it racism and why?
Please elaborate.
I believe its more a general consensus that Asian men don't like to share.
What's racist about that?
A general consensus by whom? And why single out Asian men? Are there not black men and women that don't like to share? Are there not white men and women that don't like to share? I get the OP was based on Asian men, but my point is that it's a narrow-minded thought to have in the first place
Apologies but yes I would include black couples as well, correct me if I'm wrong and I really see no reason for a race card to be pulled here, because there's no reason to.
It's an observation based on the percentage of coloured folk (White) who share more.
Please correct me if I'm wrong.
I'm sorry but the OP can't single out Asian men and moan about a race card being pulled. That's an insane way of thinking.
And I don't need to correct you, there probably are a higher percentage of white couples. Let me just check the race of the majority of the general UK population and see if there's a correlation... 🤔
After spending many years working around the world with so many Asian and African friends, just my opinion and experience.
No not their thing in general
As opposed to your white friends who you have mass orgies with?"
We have obviously lived different lives with different experiences so we'll agree to disagree on that.
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"You know what, I give up. I'm tired of being Asian on this site and trying to prove to everyone that we're not all bad and that there are "some good ones". Fuck that. People can think what they want and I'll spend my energy on the actual decent human beings I want to associate with on here who don't see a skin colour and see a stereotype. I would say goodnight, but I don't even want it to be that good for some of you.
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Who the fuck said you were bad?
Jesus I was just taking about the ratio of white vrs Asian or coloured willing to share on this site or in general.
Nothing at all racist about that  |
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"You know what, I give up. I'm tired of being Asian on this site and trying to prove to everyone that we're not all bad and that there are "some good ones". Fuck that. People can think what they want and I'll spend my energy on the actual decent human beings I want to associate with on here who don't see a skin colour and see a stereotype. I would say goodnight, but I don't even want it to be that good for some of you.
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Who the fuck said you were bad?
Jesus I was just taking about the ratio of white vrs Asian or coloured willing to share on this site or in general.
Nothing at all racist about that "
And yet you have absolutely no evidence to back that up. Knowing "many Asian and black people" doesn't exactly scream qualitative data. You don't know Asian men don't want to share because they're selfish or whether their wives even know they're on here. And even if they don't want to share, why does it matter? |
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"You know what, I give up. I'm tired of being Asian on this site and trying to prove to everyone that we're not all bad and that there are "some good ones". Fuck that. People can think what they want and I'll spend my energy on the actual decent human beings I want to associate with on here who don't see a skin colour and see a stereotype. I would say goodnight, but I don't even want it to be that good for some of you.
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Who the fuck said you were bad?
Jesus I was just taking about the ratio of white vrs Asian or coloured willing to share on this site or in general.
Nothing at all racist about that "
I'll make this easy: lumping an entire group of people together based on the colour of their skin, as you have done a few times in this thread, is racist. So is the word "coloured" in the context you've just used it. |
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"The original question was where are all the Asian wives or girlfriends you tell me if you know the answer then I have my own opinion on it
A lot of people are fixated on the sharing aspect of it whereas I looked at it from a cultural aspect. What if it's not a case of not wanting to share, but more that they don't want to be open about it because it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result. But no, let's fixate on the part that makes Asian men in the swinging world look like awful human being yet again.
Well if "it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result" does the same cultural unacceptability not extend to the men visiting swinging clubs for sex or is it just the women who would be ridiculed ? Also, as swingers are we not all at risk of ridicule from family, friends and society in general ?
You're not understanding me and you're trying to make this a slight against Asian men. The fact it's not culturally accepted means it's harder to broach the subject to your SO in the first place. You don't know the added pressure or risk because you're not aware of how Asians are raised when it comes to the view of having sex or sexual partners. Your version of ridicule from society is different to ours and is something you will never understand."
But that doesn't answer the question which was don't those strong cultural views on having sex or sexual partners extend to Asian men or is it only visited on the Asian women ? Also you mentioned grouping them together because of the colour of their skin. It's absolutely nothing to do with skin colour or ethnicity but since you mentioned it it's probably more to do with a culture that seems discriminatory towards women. |
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"The original question was where are all the Asian wives or girlfriends you tell me if you know the answer then I have my own opinion on it
A lot of people are fixated on the sharing aspect of it whereas I looked at it from a cultural aspect. What if it's not a case of not wanting to share, but more that they don't want to be open about it because it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result. But no, let's fixate on the part that makes Asian men in the swinging world look like awful human being yet again.
Well if "it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result" does the same cultural unacceptability not extend to the men visiting swinging clubs for sex or is it just the women who would be ridiculed ? Also, as swingers are we not all at risk of ridicule from family, friends and society in general ?
You're not understanding me and you're trying to make this a slight against Asian men. The fact it's not culturally accepted means it's harder to broach the subject to your SO in the first place. You don't know the added pressure or risk because you're not aware of how Asians are raised when it comes to the view of having sex or sexual partners. Your version of ridicule from society is different to ours and is something you will never understand.
But that doesn't answer the question which was don't those strong cultural views on having sex or sexual partners extend to Asian men or is it only visited on the Asian women ? Also you mentioned grouping them together because of the colour of their skin. It's absolutely nothing to do with skin colour or ethnicity but since you mentioned it it's probably more to do with a culture that seems discriminatory towards women. "
No, it was me who mentioned 'grouping them together'. How are you identifying these men as "Asian" (though I dare say a lot will be British) if not the colour of thier skin? |
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No, it was me who mentioned 'grouping them together'. How are you identifying these men as "Asian" (though I dare say a lot will be British) if not the colour of thier skin?"
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No, it was me who mentioned 'grouping them together'. How are you identifying these men as "Asian" (though I dare say a lot will be British) if not the colour of thier skin?
Sometimes it's just not worth engaging with people. Like Nero, I just added them to my block list."
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"The original question was where are all the Asian wives or girlfriends you tell me if you know the answer then I have my own opinion on it
A lot of people are fixated on the sharing aspect of it whereas I looked at it from a cultural aspect. What if it's not a case of not wanting to share, but more that they don't want to be open about it because it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result. But no, let's fixate on the part that makes Asian men in the swinging world look like awful human being yet again.
Well if "it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result" does the same cultural unacceptability not extend to the men visiting swinging clubs for sex or is it just the women who would be ridiculed ? Also, as swingers are we not all at risk of ridicule from family, friends and society in general ?
You're not understanding me and you're trying to make this a slight against Asian men. The fact it's not culturally accepted means it's harder to broach the subject to your SO in the first place. You don't know the added pressure or risk because you're not aware of how Asians are raised when it comes to the view of having sex or sexual partners. Your version of ridicule from society is different to ours and is something you will never understand.
But that doesn't answer the question which was don't those strong cultural views on having sex or sexual partners extend to Asian men or is it only visited on the Asian women ? Also you mentioned grouping them together because of the colour of their skin. It's absolutely nothing to do with skin colour or ethnicity but since you mentioned it it's probably more to do with a culture that seems discriminatory towards women. "
By using the word "Asian" you lumped them together in the first place. As far as the cultural aspect of it, you don't know whether these Asian men are married or not. You're just assuming they are and that a lack of female presence in clubs is something to do with them being controlled with men being unwilling to share. And what are these assumptions based on? |
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Considering the magnitude of some of the racist remarks on here it's going to take more than a handshake to absolve the perpetrators. If at all.
I suppose what I'm saying is...fuck that. |
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"You know what, I give up. I'm tired of being Asian on this site and trying to prove to everyone that we're not all bad and that there are "some good ones". Fuck that. People can think what they want and I'll spend my energy on the actual decent human beings I want to associate with on here who don't see a skin colour and see a stereotype. I would say goodnight, but I don't even want it to be that good for some of you.
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Who the fuck said you were bad?
Jesus I was just taking about the ratio of white vrs Asian or coloured willing to share on this site or in general.
Nothing at all racist about that "
From the opening post, the suggestion from a lot of you has been that Asian guys in clubs are probably cheaters because you haven't seen any Asian wives. This also suggests you think they must only marry their own kind. And like someone else pointed out, Asia is a huge place so they have also lumped a load of nationalities into one, which is, if not racist then just massively lazy.
You don't have to join the KKK and leave burning crosses on people's lawns to be racist, most of it is subtle stuff that the perpetrators probably don't even believe is racist.
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I know what I want to say and not sure how to word this but I'm going to try.
Is the midlands and the very little knowledge I have of it, is there is a larger community of different cultures to what you might find in a Kent, back of butt fuck no where?
If I go to a club in Kent for example there are lots of white men, there on their own, I never once think "bet their wife is at home and doesn't want to share", same as I see anyone else, we have many different men of all ethnicities attend the clubs down here.
So I'm guessing with the above, it just depends on the area you are in, just like if you visited a club with I dunno, a large population of Amish folk (as an example) you are going to see way more Anish men there on their own then you would someone from south east London, Scotland etc and I would think the same for all of them "they are just there to try and have sex", some are there who have partners, it's not nessecaily not wanting to share, it's probably the thrill etc.
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"I know what I want to say and not sure how to word this but I'm going to try.
Is the midlands and the very little knowledge I have of it, is there is a larger community of different cultures to what you might find in a Kent, back of butt fuck no where?
If I go to a club in Kent for example there are lots of white men, there on their own, I never once think "bet their wife is at home and doesn't want to share", same as I see anyone else, we have many different men of all ethnicities attend the clubs down here.
So I'm guessing with the above, it just depends on the area you are in, just like if you visited a club with I dunno, a large population of Amish folk (as an example) you are going to see way more Anish men there on their own then you would someone from south east London, Scotland etc and I would think the same for all of them "they are just there to try and have sex", some are there who have partners, it's not nessecaily not wanting to share, it's probably the thrill etc.
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By *bro24Man 10 weeks ago
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"You know what, I give up. I'm tired of being Asian on this site and trying to prove to everyone that we're not all bad and that there are "some good ones". Fuck that. People can think what they want and I'll spend my energy on the actual decent human beings I want to associate with on here who don't see a skin colour and see a stereotype. I would say goodnight, but I don't even want it to be that good for some of you.
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Who the fuck said you were bad?
Jesus I was just taking about the ratio of white vrs Asian or coloured willing to share on this site or in general.
Nothing at all racist about that
From the opening post, the suggestion from a lot of you has been that Asian guys in clubs are probably cheaters because you haven't seen any Asian wives. This also suggests you think they must only marry their own kind. And like someone else pointed out, Asia is a huge place so they have also lumped a load of nationalities into one, which is, if not racist then just massively lazy.
You don't have to join the KKK and leave burning crosses on people's lawns to be racist, most of it is subtle stuff that the perpetrators probably don't even believe is racist.
Happy to clear that up for you "
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"Loving the generalisation, stereotyping and racism of this thread. Got to love fab for the spectrum of people on here 😂😂"
Knew it wouldn’t be long before someone threw the race card . The couple that posted said they were not saying it in a race way ! So get of your high horse |
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"Loving the generalisation, stereotyping and racism of this thread. Got to love fab for the spectrum of people on here 😂😂
Knew it wouldn’t be long before someone threw the race card . The couple that posted said they were not saying it in a race way ! So get of your high horse "
People do love a bit of controversy to gallop away with...
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"The original question was where are all the Asian wives or girlfriends you tell me if you know the answer then I have my own opinion on it
A lot of people are fixated on the sharing aspect of it whereas I looked at it from a cultural aspect. What if it's not a case of not wanting to share, but more that they don't want to be open about it because it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result. But no, let's fixate on the part that makes Asian men in the swinging world look like awful human being yet again.
Well if "it's culturally unacceptable to do so and they could face ridicule as a result" does the same cultural unacceptability not extend to the men visiting swinging clubs for sex or is it just the women who would be ridiculed ? Also, as swingers are we not all at risk of ridicule from family, friends and society in general ?
You're not understanding me and you're trying to make this a slight against Asian men. The fact it's not culturally accepted means it's harder to broach the subject to your SO in the first place. You don't know the added pressure or risk because you're not aware of how Asians are raised when it comes to the view of having sex or sexual partners. Your version of ridicule from society is different to ours and is something you will never understand.
But that doesn't answer the question which was don't those strong cultural views on having sex or sexual partners extend to Asian men or is it only visited on the Asian women ? Also you mentioned grouping them together because of the colour of their skin. It's absolutely nothing to do with skin colour or ethnicity but since you mentioned it it's probably more to do with a culture that seems discriminatory towards women. "
I’m not sure if that was your intent. However, the spirit of your messages from the outset seems to be quite opinionated and stereotyping Asian men as not fully embracing the lifestyle with their other half’s. In our case it’s quite the contrary. In fact it was my wife who has been a swinger for a longer time than me.
We’re totally fine with meeting couples for full swap, and that includes attractive, respectful and open minded white couples. In fact, please feel free to get in touch, as long as it’s not you! |
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When did swinging become 'culturally acceptable' for white people? (hasn't filtered down to these parts yet...)
Maybe there's a question as to why visiting a sex club is seemingly more culturally acceptable for a man and not so for a woman? Despite the price reductions on offer etc.
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By *essTTWoman 10 weeks ago
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"You know what, I give up. I'm tired of being Asian on this site and trying to prove to everyone that we're not all bad and that there are "some good ones". Fuck that. People can think what they want and I'll spend my energy on the actual decent human beings I want to associate with on here who don't see a skin colour and see a stereotype. I would say goodnight, but I don't even want it to be that good for some of you."
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"Also where does one get a 'race card' and does it give discounts?
Got to watch out for those faux race cards sold on telegram.  "
Yes, only I know the source of the real race cards. Hit me up and I'll give you a discount. Don't believe the lamestream media |
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My tuppence worth as an Asian guy;
Asian culture by which I mean especially South Asian culture, is very sexually repressive, in the background guided by religion & family ties. South Asians haven't really challenged the religion chains that have held them back as compared with European compatriots. I would say therefore, we Asians are not as developed as many educated Caucasians in terms of sexually being open. This is a sweeping generalisation of course as many Asians have, just not the majority. |
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"Also where does one get a 'race card' and does it give discounts?
Got to watch out for those faux race cards sold on telegram.
Yes, only I know the source of the real race cards. Hit me up and I'll give you a discount. Don't believe the lamestream media"
Do Australians count as Asians now? Luv you're making this very confusing for us  |
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"Also where does one get a 'race card' and does it give discounts?
Got to watch out for those faux race cards sold on telegram.
Yes, only I know the source of the real race cards. Hit me up and I'll give you a discount. Don't believe the lamestream media
Do Australians count as Asians now? Luv you're making this very confusing for us "
I'm doing the standard thing: profiteering off you 😇 |
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By *essTTWoman 10 weeks ago
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"My tuppence worth as an Asian guy;
Asian culture by which I mean especially South Asian culture, is very sexually repressive, in the background guided by religion & family ties. South Asians haven't really challenged the religion chains that have held them back as compared with European compatriots. I would say therefore, we Asians are not as developed as many educated Caucasians in terms of sexually being open. This is a sweeping generalisation of course as many Asians have, just not the majority."
An explanation isn't needed.
People need to mind their own vaginas and stop worrying about others |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"Where are all the Asian wives?"
So, I asked ChatGPT, and part of her answer was:
"Asian wives, like individuals from any other background, are found in diverse communities globally and come from various cultural, social, and personal backgrounds."
So, she was not brilliantly happy with the question, and went on to say:
"If you are referring to something specific, such as Asian communities in certain regions, marriage trends, or another context, please clarify so I can provide more relevant information."
I wonder if I refined my question to swingers clubs whether she might be of more assistance. |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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Ok, so I asked Chat GPT why Asian wives did not attend Swingers clubs and she gave some general answers. I think she might make a good politician. She said (stand by, it's lengthy - though some prefer girth):
"The attendance of Asian individuals, including Asian women, at swingers clubs or similar spaces can be influenced by various cultural, social, and personal factors:
"Cultural and Social Norms: Many Asian cultures are traditionally more conservative regarding topics like sex and relationships. Participation in activities such as swinging may conflict with cultural values or familial expectations, leading to lower representation in these spaces.
"Stigma and Privacy Concerns: Concerns about privacy, judgment, and social stigma can be more pronounced in some Asian communities, where maintaining a certain public image is important. This can make public participation in such activities less appealing.
"Personal Choice and Comfort Levels: As with any group, individual preferences vary widely. People of all backgrounds may or may not feel comfortable engaging in such activities, regardless of cultural background.
"Representation and Inclusivity: Swingers clubs, like many social spaces, may not always feel inclusive or welcoming to people from diverse backgrounds due to perceived or real biases, which can affect attendance.
"These factors don’t apply universally, as individual preferences and experiences vary greatly."
I do love Chat GPT, I think she might be my friend. |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"My tuppence worth as an Asian guy;
Asian culture by which I mean especially South Asian culture, is very sexually repressive, in the background guided by religion & family ties. South Asians haven't really challenged the religion chains that have held them back as compared with European compatriots. I would say therefore, we Asians are not as developed as many educated Caucasians in terms of sexually being open. This is a sweeping generalisation of course as many Asians have, just not the majority."
Makes you wonder who were the people reading the Kama Sutra |
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"My tuppence worth as an Asian guy;
Asian culture by which I mean especially South Asian culture, is very sexually repressive, in the background guided by religion & family ties. South Asians haven't really challenged the religion chains that have held them back as compared with European compatriots. I would say therefore, we Asians are not as developed as many educated Caucasians in terms of sexually being open. This is a sweeping generalisation of course as many Asians have, just not the majority.
Makes you wonder who were the people reading the Kama Sutra"
The interesting thing is that in Hinduism, some elements (not all) advocate sexual abstinence even in marriage while at the same time others created the kama sutra. It's a confusing world.
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"My tuppence worth as an Asian guy;
Asian culture by which I mean especially South Asian culture, is very sexually repressive, in the background guided by religion & family ties. South Asians haven't really challenged the religion chains that have held them back as compared with European compatriots. I would say therefore, we Asians are not as developed as many educated Caucasians in terms of sexually being open. This is a sweeping generalisation of course as many Asians have, just not the majority.
An explanation isn't needed.
People need to mind their own vaginas and stop worrying about others "
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Asia is a huge continent with so many different ethnic groups and religions. Depends what you mean by Asian. East Asian like Chinese or Japanese? Or South East Asian like Thai or Vietnamese? Then you have the Indian Subcontinent etc.
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By *essTTWoman 10 weeks ago
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"Just a thought!
Has anyone asked the women concerned (regardless of skin colour or belief) if they want to be shared?
As they say, "Just asking for a friend". "
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Too busy making assumptions based on skin colour! |
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"Just a thought!
Has anyone asked the women concerned (regardless of skin colour or belief) if they want to be shared?
As they say, "Just asking for a friend".
Nope
Too busy making assumptions based on skin colour!"
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"Asia is a huge continent with so many different ethnic groups and religions. Depends what you mean by Asian. East Asian like Chinese or Japanese? Or South East Asian like Thai or Vietnamese? Then you have the Indian Subcontinent etc.
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I expect they're talking about those most likely to frequent clubs in the midlands as explained in the OP. |
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So if you have many of “those friends” why not have a conversation with them about it?
I’m not 1 to play the race card but when certain words/phrases used it’s gives it away.
Instead of making judgmental comments on here try and educate yourself or talk to people at clubs m. |
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Lots to digest but suffice to say we are asian, only ever attend everywhere together, clubs admittedly not often, for reasons stated previously and certainly not local.
Ps can't speak for others as each to their own.
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By *oe3333Man 9 weeks ago
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"We recently went to a midlands club and noticed the large amount of young Asian guys trawling the club. Surely they have wives or girlfriends where were they ? Or is it a case of what's yours is mine but what's mine is my own ? We considered this question before posting it for fear of someone playing the race card against us. However this is just a genuine question and perhaps one or more of the Asian guys on here can reply with an answer."
I'd say what's mine is my own would be spot on
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By *oe3333Man 9 weeks ago
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"I absolutely love sharing
Unfortunately my first wife ( Asian) had very little interest in sex with me never mind others
But have seen several Asian couples on here so lovely to see "
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"Because south Asian men, in general, don't believe in sharing their women? Same as black men, in general? 🤷🏾♂️"
True. Wife and gf sharing seems to be more if a white man thing after some negotiation with the white female partner to do it. If she likes them she runs with it and he's the passenger |
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"I'm curious about why OP believes all Asian guys in clubs must have wives or girlfriends at home.
And also why they aren't making the same sweeping generalisation about all the non-Asian guys in clubs.
Like OP, I'm "just asking questions"
What is the overwhelming ethnicity of women you see in clubs? "
White 🤍 |
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"A great post but I'll struggle to answer it entirely.
I'm a single Brummie with Indian heritage but very much more English in mindset than Indian. I think you've hit the nail on the head
Firstly there is a large Asian population in the Midlands, so the clubs may represent that with single guys.
This is where I may get shot down in flames and it might not be only be an Asian thing. I believe that some Asian men still consider wives and girlfriends not as equals or partners so therefore would never consider asking them to be involved. This is just one perspective and I am happy to elaborate but it's difficult in written form as this can easily go into many nuances...
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Lol maybe they are all single. Have you asked literally all of them or something for you to know they have wives or girlfriends. Very ridiculous post to make. Purely made assumptions which then leads to other things. If you don't like asian men just say so. |
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