I sometimes speak about personal experiences but that doesn't leave me vulnerable. The experiences may have done at the time but speaking about them never does.
My best friend is on here but I don't change anything I say because she much prefers me to be me. |
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Meh I’m really honest and really open about things. But I think I’m really only vulnerable occasionally. Mostly on topics like racism or things I’ve lived because it’s hard to read things about it on here sometimes.
If you’re my friend, you’ll know that I’m way deeper off of here than I am on here. And I am deep on here 
Anyway yeah I think my answer is no. Not usually. Don’t have a partner on the forums but both my partners have been on here and it was lit when they were |
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I, unfortunately, have no speech filter.
It’s the same no matter on here or not.
Bonus question answer: I don’t have a partner on here or anywhere but I suppose things I say affect the way people think about me. |
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I’ve been pretty vulnerable at times on here but it’s always with a * attached. There are things that I simply wouldn’t share, others that would require a conversation with others before I posted.
Ultimately there are people on here that remember things and do use them against you, there are others that gossip and try to manipulate. So in those terms I try to keep things private that I wouldn’t share in public conversations.
I’m in something of a privileged position though, being a middle aged man, I’m not a target for stalkers and I’m ‘out’ in my day to day life so I don’t have a problem with anyone threatening to spill secrets |
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By *eliWoman 11 weeks ago
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Not very. I'm open to a certain extent but really rather guarded at the same time. I like it that way. Having people I care about does affect what I post on here. I don't want them to be caught up in things. Previous experience. |
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Not really.
I'm quite open about some things that others would choose to be private about, like my hostoric MH struggles. I simply see that as factual information, and if it helps anyone on the MH check-in threads then I think it's worth while.
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I have been vulnerable in the past on here, I have been burnt as well.
I'm very reluctant now to show anything on the forums or in private messages. The flirt filth that occasionally comes out is more jest.
There's been many times, I have typed out a thread/reply and then deleted it, as it showed my vulnerable side
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No, not anymore. Made that mistake before. Anything I talk about on here is stuff that I'm always happy to be open about anywhere else. No my partner being on here doesn't change my answer, he's aware why I wouldn't delve into certain things too deeply on here. |
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"Not vulnerable no, but I can be very upfront about my experiences. I'm like that outside of here also.
Oh. Snap!"
I personally find it less stressful to be so. Plus if everyone knows it's not like anyone can use that information in a negative way, is how I view it. |
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"how can you be vulnerable ,surely you wouldn't discuss things that made you feel vulnerable. I certainly wouldn't. "
I dunno, it feels like a place you should be able to ask certain questions especially when it comes to swinging. Get certain advice. And yet... |
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"Do you let yourself be vulnerable on here? How much editing goes on between what you want to post and what you actually post? "
No editing Julie darling, everything I post is what I want to post. 😊
That said, it is usually deliberate humour to avoid posting something sensible and authentic. It is very rare for me to post something about the me below the surface. That’s private between my and friends / close fab friends. Not all you forum perverts 😉😘 |
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"I don't tend to post anything personal at all on the forums so I don't ever feel vulnerable, if that is what you mean?!"
I don't know quite what I mean. That's useful. 😂🙄
I dunno, when there's certain things that I feel less confident, more vulnerable about, it feels like it would be a really good place to get advice. But also I feel too *known* to do that. |
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I don't think I stop myself being vulnerable, although I am not sure it's always the best place for it.
I don't edit very often, or proof read 😂.
I'd have to be running with the assumption anyone is going to read it, in order for either to be a worthwhile endeavour. |
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By *aizyWoman 11 weeks ago
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"I don't tend to post anything personal at all on the forums so I don't ever feel vulnerable, if that is what you mean?!
I don't know quite what I mean. That's useful. 😂🙄
I dunno, when there's certain things that I feel less confident, more vulnerable about, it feels like it would be a really good place to get advice. But also I feel too *known* to do that."
I see what you mean, I would have thought being too *known* would be a good thing if you need advice, you would get a lot of serious answers and not so much of the sarcasm or edgy type replies new forum users seem to get. |
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"I don't tend to post anything personal at all on the forums so I don't ever feel vulnerable, if that is what you mean?!
I don't know quite what I mean. That's useful. 😂🙄
I dunno, when there's certain things that I feel less confident, more vulnerable about, it feels like it would be a really good place to get advice. But also I feel too *known* to do that.
I see what you mean, I would have thought being too *known* would be a good thing if you need advice, you would get a lot of serious answers and not so much of the sarcasm or edgy type replies new forum users seem to get."
Watch out for my "I think I'm shit at blowjobs" thread coming to the forums, well, never. Because have you read what's up there ^^^ 😬 |
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I can't be quite vulnerable in terms of how I'm feeling and whether those feelings are positive and negative. I'll never be so vulnerable as to go into details of my personal life as I don't need strangers on the internet to know that. I have gone into those details though with people I've felt like I could trust though. |
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I'm way to open on here, if there is a subject that comes up and I can resonate with it, I'm commenting on it, even if it means I "out myself" (probably lost some respect from people because of it).
And in answer to your second question, sometimes I see a thread and think "nope I shan't answer on that one" lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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Generally, I'm pretty closed even in real life and find it very hard to be vulnerable - occasionally i manage it [but often regret it!]
I've never had a partner who uses the forums, but I'm obviously mindful that everything that is shared publically can be read, interpreted and reacted to... So yeah I'd be even more guarded in that circumstance |
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I dunno, when there's certain things that I feel less confident, more vulnerable about, it feels like it would be a really good place to get advice. But also I feel too *known* to do that.
I see what you mean, I would have thought being too *known* would be a good thing if you need advice, you would get a lot of serious answers and not so much of the sarcasm or edgy type replies new forum users seem to get."
I would love an option to post anonymously for this reason.. But imagine the chaos that would ensue! |
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"Do you let yourself be vulnerable on here? How much editing goes on between what you want to post and what you actually post? "
Wowsers.
So to preface., and we’ve never really spoken at length, but One of my core tenets is vulnerability & courageousness.
However I tend to only answer enquiry and forum posts that do not require it, with nonspecific answers, Being a jester or circumventing a topic.
If I decide to answer a direct question, then I go 100% vulnerable here. I’m not afraid of the vulnerabilities or shame, or being the first to lean into it. It just scares people how willing I am.
What’s terrifying, is I’m afraid of not stopping and maybe camping on a thread that requires real people - with real emotions - with real vulnerability - having real conversations.
It’s totally my thing. I could start 100 topics, but I’d get carried away. Human psychology really gets my juices flowing, and love to be engaged in direct conversation where shame, vulnerability, courageousness and wholeheartedness are topics.
Yes my wife is on here, but she knows my penchant for the above. She prefers I stay jester; Chad!
Cannot have people knowing the real me.
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Vulnerable, definitely not. Do I watch what I write, definitely yes.
Quite a few sensitive folk in here, who need a cuddle of their mum after I’ve commented. So it’s always best not to get banned.
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no . I think forums are just comical / entertainment not remotely serious and should not be seen as such .. its all drivel ultimately for passing time unless arranging meets ..
Never understand people getting so compromised on forums over comments.psoters of strangers that you will never meet or are of no value to your life / strangers are just irrelevant until they are not strangers |
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On the forum? Not really. I am more open than vulnerable.
With friends I have met on here via DM? Absolutely. They know all my pains and tribulations lol and offer a listening ear and comfort. ❤️ and I to them! |
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I dunno, when there's certain things that I feel less confident, more vulnerable about, it feels like it would be a really good place to get advice. But also I feel too *known* to do that.
I see what you mean, I would have thought being too *known* would be a good thing if you need advice, you would get a lot of serious answers and not so much of the sarcasm or edgy type replies new forum users seem to get.
I would love an option to post anonymously for this reason.. But imagine the chaos that would ensue! "
I agree. This would be so useful sometimes. But I completely understand why it will never happen. |
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Yes at times, I'm a real person and with that comes some vulnerability.
I don't hide it because it's a "sex site" and I do like seeing it from others.
It's kinda refreshing to see people are still human and not some cock/vagina and that's it.
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