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By *aravancouple OP Man
over a year ago
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My daughter is expecting and I was having a stroll around ebay to buy her some baby clothes when I came across something that I find rather puzzling.
Many of the listings for new-born/tiny baby items state that they are also suitable for reborn babies.
So I did a bit of Googling.
Apparently this odd practice is all about women ( usually of a certain age ) who buy lifelike dolls and pretend they are real babies. 
They even buy them prams and take them out in public. 
I think this is very strange & weird.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its 4 the ladies that cant have children 4medical reasons or ladies that have misscarried or cud have given birth 2 still born and r grieving , its not weird in any way ,,, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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saw it on telly once, a woman who couldn't have kids had some and she treat them like real babies, walking/changing nappys and feeding them, people would stop her in the street to have a look as they was so life like, its a bit sad I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"seen these years ago, they are fantastically crafted..some exceptionally spooky!"
I think they are great as a life like childs toy b ut for adults, I think its a bit odd, a full grown woman who had a doll and treats it as a child is a bit mentally unstable in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is weird i watched a programme on it once...and one lady takes hers to the park and makes it bottles of formula and such....if i was in the park with mine and some chick started feeding a pretend baby id be off with mine.
They are also pretty freaky looking my niece has a couple but she was like 8 when she got them
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By *aravancouple OP Man
over a year ago
A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love |
"There was a documentary about it sometime ago. Very weird.. And congrats on becoming grandparents it's the best thing"
Thank you we know it's the best thing as we have two all ready  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to work in the community and visit a lady who talked to a doll, nothing fancy just a childs toy. I see a lot of people with dementia so thought nothing of it... I later found out this lady had fallen pregnant out of wedlock and been forced to give up her baby... When she married and started a family she lost her son to cot death and had been traumatised ever since. Her little doll, Tommy, was her only comfort.
It's human nature to assume that something we don't understand is weird, but we shouldn't be so quick to judge x |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
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"its 4 the ladies that cant have children 4medical reasons or ladies that have misscarried or cud have given birth 2 still born and r grieving , its not weird in any way ,,, "
I'm a woman who has miscarried seven times and has no living children. Some ladies may find comfort in these dolls but I personally find it disturbing and very very weird.
In my opinion these ladies need help from mental health professionals in order to learn to deal with their grief, not a doll to treat as a real baby |
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"I used to work in the community and visit a lady who talked to a doll, nothing fancy just a childs toy. I see a lot of people with dementia so thought nothing of it... I later found out this lady had fallen pregnant out of wedlock and been forced to give up her baby... When she married and started a family she lost her son to cot death and had been traumatised ever since. Her little doll, Tommy, was her only comfort.
It's human nature to assume that something we don't understand is weird, but we shouldn't be so quick to judge x"
Very well said......  |
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bereavement in the form of miscarriage, cot death or simply not being able to conceive is a very personal experience and people deal with it in many different ways .. personally if it gives an individual some kind of comfort and solace .. I cant see any harm in it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dunno i just think using a doll to over come grief is a bit odd...its like keeping them self in the mind set of having a baby how will they ever get past this...when you have a real baby they grow and thrive and turn into children...a doll wont.
We all deal with grief in different ways but i would think keeping yourself the constant baby reminder would make things worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to work in the community and visit a lady who talked to a doll, nothing fancy just a childs toy. I see a lot of people with dementia so thought nothing of it... I later found out this lady had fallen pregnant out of wedlock and been forced to give up her baby... When she married and started a family she lost her son to cot death and had been traumatised ever since. Her little doll, Tommy, was her only comfort.
It's human nature to assume that something we don't understand is weird, but we shouldn't be so quick to judge x"
It is a form of mental instability I work a with a lot of people with dementia too, a lady I go out to every day talks to her reflection in the mirror, she thinks its her dead daughter, same thing really, some use a doll she uses her reflection |
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Have to admit I don't get it either. I can't have my own children, have lost a couple and have a failed round of ICSI without being offered any aftercare to get over the loss and grief but never did I think a doll would get me through it!! Each to their own I guess but I think there has to be some level of mental instability which possibly hasn't been dealt with which is quite sad |
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I saw the documentary as well. I found it intriguing and also a bit sad. The strangest, I think, was a woman who had lost a baby boy and had a reborn doll made to look exactly like him. I found that terribly tragic.
When I lost my son, I needed to grieve; I don't think cuddling a facsimile of him would have helped me in that process. But we're all individuals and if owning one of these dolls helps then who am I to judge? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have to admit I don't get it either. I can't have my own children, have lost a couple and have a failed round of ICSI without being offered any aftercare to get over the loss and grief but never did I think a doll would get me through it!! Each to their own I guess but I think there has to be some level of mental instability which possibly hasn't been dealt with which is quite sad "
I lost my son at 20 months old, would I have replaced him with a doll? no, but then im quite a strong person, not everyone is, we all cope differently I guess, personally I cant see how pretending a doll is a lost child or a child you cant have will help you come to terms with the reality of what is happening, but its not our place to say what is right or wrong just how we feel about it |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I used to work in the community and visit a lady who talked to a doll, nothing fancy just a childs toy. I see a lot of people with dementia so thought nothing of it... I later found out this lady had fallen pregnant out of wedlock and been forced to give up her baby... When she married and started a family she lost her son to cot death and had been traumatised ever since. Her little doll, Tommy, was her only comfort.
It's human nature to assume that something we don't understand is weird, but we shouldn't be so quick to judge x
Very well said...... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well for the actual needs of some, having an inanimate child, due to a loss might just be what keeps them together..
I dont know what harm it can do really, unless it directly affects those living around them..and of course if they actually know its a doll and not under a delusion it is real(beliefs and actions dont always go hand in hand)
its easy to sit and judge, but for some people I imagine the very prospect of ever having a child again fills them with fear and dread..
anyway..just imagine within our lifetimes, people might have robotic humanoid companions, so artificial relationships will most likely be a part of many peoples futures |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to work in the community and visit a lady who talked to a doll, nothing fancy just a childs toy. I see a lot of people with dementia so thought nothing of it... I later found out this lady had fallen pregnant out of wedlock and been forced to give up her baby... When she married and started a family she lost her son to cot death and had been traumatised ever since. Her little doll, Tommy, was her only comfort.
It's human nature to assume that something we don't understand is weird, but we shouldn't be so quick to judge x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to work in the community and visit a lady who talked to a doll, nothing fancy just a childs toy. I see a lot of people with dementia so thought nothing of it... I later found out this lady had fallen pregnant out of wedlock and been forced to give up her baby... When she married and started a family she lost her son to cot death and had been traumatised ever since. Her little doll, Tommy, was her only comfort.
It's human nature to assume that something we don't understand is weird, but we shouldn't be so quick to judge x"
I am not personally judging, I think the dolls look freaky and I speak from personal experience a doll is not the answer, it will only prolong the agony and as NN says it is not a mentally stable thing to have and that should be addressed. |
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