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Good Evening Everyone,
A quick question for you all,,,
Am I the only person who hates it when I am sent a message, take time to reply and then the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???
RUDE! Why bother??
Rant over and breath,,,,,, |
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Sometimes I see a well written message that needs more mental bandwidth than I have at that moment to give a proper response, so I'll leave it on read until I can answer properly.
I also don't assume I'm the first priority of someone who has just started messaging me on here. If they've wandered off elsewhere for a bit my message will still be there when they wander back. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 11 weeks ago
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It's annoying when it's someone who is wanting to meet and you've replied to confirm details and it takes them a while to respond and you're left wondering if they've got cold feet and that you need to make alternative plans  |
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"Good Evening Everyone,
A quick question for you all,,,
Am I the only person who hates it when I am sent a message, take time to reply and then the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???
RUDE! Why bother??
Rant over and breath,,,,,,"
I have a bad habit of replying to fast to everyone. |
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"Sometimes I see a well written message that needs more mental bandwidth than I have at that moment to give a proper response, so I'll leave it on read until I can answer properly.
I also don't assume I'm the first priority of someone who has just started messaging me on here. If they've wandered off elsewhere for a bit my message will still be there when they wander back."
Still waiting for your reply to me by the way, it's been 6 months, 7 days and 13 hours  |
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Do you also stand in front of the microwave shouting at it to hurry up ..
It really is a gimme it now world with the speed of communications.
Bring back letter writing I say, people were happy to wait a full 2 weeks  |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"Good Evening Everyone,
A quick question for you all,,,
Am I the only person who hates it when I am sent a message, take time to reply and then the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???
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Probably not. |
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"Sometimes I see a well written message that needs more mental bandwidth than I have at that moment to give a proper response, so I'll leave it on read until I can answer properly.
I also don't assume I'm the first priority of someone who has just started messaging me on here. If they've wandered off elsewhere for a bit my message will still be there when they wander back.
Still waiting for your reply to me by the way, it's been 6 months, 7 days and 13 hours "
Fab says we've never messaged each other 💜 |
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If you consider that rude, then I am probably not for you 😂.
I can get into messaging back and forth in quite a focused way, but sometimes I am just not in the right headspace. I don't mind being poked, but waiting on me can be a fool's errand. It's nothing to do with priority or being rude, well not from my perspective, it's just how my neurodiverse brain works.
I have tried in the past, but it gets me overwhelmed, doesn't go well. |
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"Do you also stand in front of the microwave shouting at it to hurry up ..
It really is a gimme it now world with the speed of communications.
Bring back letter writing I say, people were happy to wait a full 2 weeks "
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"Good Evening Everyone,
...the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???
RUDE! Why bother??
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Sometimes my phone has not logged out (or I have forgotten to close Fab on it when I am at work). I have also discovered that Fab may show you as online even though you closed the phone app a while ago.
Patience - then if no response, delete the message and possibly block the recipient (but not before you have highlighted your original masterpiece, then hit Ctrl+C and then Ctrl+V into a new message for your next victim) |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"Do you also stand in front of the microwave shouting at it to hurry up ..
It really is a gimme it now world with the speed of communications.
Bring back letter writing I say, people were happy to wait a full 2 weeks "
Oh, dont forget the typing pool too, with Tippex, carbon paper, and company policy of responding to correspondence in 10 working days.
Actually, bring back carrier pigeons ... |
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"If you consider that rude, then I am probably not for you 😂.
I can get into messaging back and forth in quite a focused way, but sometimes I am just not in the right headspace. I don't mind being poked, but waiting on me can be a fool's errand. It's nothing to do with priority or being rude, well not from my perspective, it's just how my neurodiverse brain works.
I have tried in the past, but it gets me overwhelmed, doesn't go well."
No problem but why waste my time messaging me in the first place?
Oh and I do realise we are not all the same,,, |
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"Do you also stand in front of the microwave shouting at it to hurry up ..
It really is a gimme it now world with the speed of communications.
Bring back letter writing I say, people were happy to wait a full 2 weeks "
Doesn't everybody tell their microwave to hurry up? 🤔 |
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"Do you also stand in front of the microwave shouting at it to hurry up ..
It really is a gimme it now world with the speed of communications.
Bring back letter writing I say, people were happy to wait a full 2 weeks
Oh, dont forget the typing pool too, with Tippex, carbon paper, and company policy of responding to correspondence in 10 working days.
Actually, bring back carrier pigeons ..."
Ive got 2 pigeons waiting for the off,,,, 😂 |
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"Do you also stand in front of the microwave shouting at it to hurry up ..
It really is a gimme it now world with the speed of communications.
Bring back letter writing I say, people were happy to wait a full 2 weeks
Doesn't everybody tell their microwave to hurry up? 🤔"
Depends how hungry I am 😂
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On here I tend to forget I have conversations going on.
If they reply I'll remember I was talking to them.
If I've been chatting about meeting and they go quiet, even though they're regularly online I assume they've found someone more interesting and I'll switch off.
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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Actually, bring back carrier pigeons ...
Ive got 2 pigeons waiting for the off,,,, 😂"
"We didn't receive any messages, and Captain Blackadder definitely did not shoot this delicious plump-breasted pigeon," |
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I can take days to reply, if I'm online I'm not always in my inbox or in the mood to converse. Sometimes I show as online as I've left the tab open. People have lives away from Fab, I don't expect it to be anyone's priority. |
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By *eliWoman 11 weeks ago
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You won't be the only person.
Weeks? I don't mind. Depends on how well I know the person. Months? I'd write them off and not think about it.
Patience can be a good thing but after a certain point you know they don't particularly care.
Go have a wank OP and don't think about it.  |
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By *eliWoman 11 weeks ago
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"I'm much the same O.P. if the What's App ticks go blue ....... I want the answer RIGHT AWAY... but I have to pretend to be grown up 
I hide my WhatsApp read receipts"
I archive people when I know they're crap at replying. Stops me thinking about it. |
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"I'm much the same O.P. if the What's App ticks go blue ....... I want the answer RIGHT AWAY... but I have to pretend to be grown up
I hide my WhatsApp read receipts"
So does my youngest ....... don't know who the nasty little critter is modelled on . |
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By *aven.Woman 11 weeks ago
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"I'm much the same O.P. if the What's App ticks go blue ....... I want the answer RIGHT AWAY... but I have to pretend to be grown up
I hide my WhatsApp read receipts
I archive people when I know they're crap at replying. Stops me thinking about it. "
I just mute everyone |
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By *eliWoman 11 weeks ago
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"I'm much the same O.P. if the What's App ticks go blue ....... I want the answer RIGHT AWAY... but I have to pretend to be grown up
I hide my WhatsApp read receipts
I archive people when I know they're crap at replying. Stops me thinking about it.
I just mute everyone"
Mute works but then if you click you see them. Archive, they're archived on WA and in my mind. |
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By *aven.Woman 11 weeks ago
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"I'm much the same O.P. if the What's App ticks go blue ....... I want the answer RIGHT AWAY... but I have to pretend to be grown up
I hide my WhatsApp read receipts
I archive people when I know they're crap at replying. Stops me thinking about it.
I just mute everyone
Mute works but then if you click you see them. Archive, they're archived on WA and in my mind. "
Ah, I like. |
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"Good Evening Everyone,
A quick question for you all,,,
Am I the only person who hates it when I am sent a message, take time to reply and then the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???
RUDE! Why bother??
Rant over and breath,,,,,,"
There's one person I'm talking to at the moment who took over a week to reply despite being online several times in the interim. Just because they're online doesn't mean they necessarily have the time to write to you. |
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"Good Evening Everyone,
A quick question for you all,,,
Am I the only person who hates it when I am sent a message, take time to reply and then the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???
RUDE! Why bother??
Rant over and breath,,,,,,"
I get this all the time, I’ve come to expect it now, but you just brush it off and go again |
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"Sometimes I see a well written message that needs more mental bandwidth than I have at that moment to give a proper response, so I'll leave it on read until I can answer properly.
I also don't assume I'm the first priority of someone who has just started messaging me on here. If they've wandered off elsewhere for a bit my message will still be there when they wander back."
That first paragraph is pretty much me. I very rarely reply straight away because I don't want it to be a rush job but in that case, I'll mark it as unread so I know I have to get back to it |
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"Good Evening Everyone,
A quick question for you all,,,
Am I the only person who hates it when I am sent a message, take time to reply and then the person who sent the original message doesnt bother to reply but is still on line???
RUDE! Why bother??
Rant over and breath,,,,,,"
So just because you replied they have to reply immediately? Christ.
There are enough status updates and forum threads whinging about people not replying to messages. People don’t owe you their time and are allowed to respond whenever they feel like it. And that may be never. Get over it.
Rant over and breathe….. |
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"If you consider that rude, then I am probably not for you 😂.
I can get into messaging back and forth in quite a focused way, but sometimes I am just not in the right headspace. I don't mind being poked, but waiting on me can be a fool's errand. It's nothing to do with priority or being rude, well not from my perspective, it's just how my neurodiverse brain works.
I have tried in the past, but it gets me overwhelmed, doesn't go well.
No problem but why waste my time messaging me in the first place?
Oh and I do realise we are not all the same,,,"
Statistical analysis demonstrates that you would have probably said something interesting, funny, have a nice bum or a combination of all three.
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I sometimes leave messages until later or when I'm in a better position to reply, sometimes I wanna scroll the forum and I'm not in a mind space to be messaging back and forth, I get around to it when I can give it my attention.
If someone got annoyed for not getting a reply purely because I was online they aren't my person.
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I am sure lots of people including myself show online all day sometimes. It does not mean they are actually actively on. I must admit the bit that used to find strange and still do a very tiny bit, is when someone you have been taking to just leaves your message unread for days. Not a big issue anymore though |
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"I am sure lots of people including myself show online all day sometimes. It does not mean they are actually actively on. I must admit the bit that used to find strange and still do a very tiny bit, is when someone you have been taking to just leaves your message unread for days. Not a big issue anymore though "
Yeah it shows I'm online even though I'm not. Anyway of solving this? Do I have to log completely out? |
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