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Afternoon fellow fabbers
How are all you beauties?
So I was just sat here in the sunshine enjoying my coffee and I wondered….do you prefer your meets to be with those who are local to you? Or would you rather they be ‘out of town’?
I ask as having to try to communicate with profiles around me, and not having much luck per se….the ‘pool’ is small so should I go out further to try and instigate chats and interest? Or does the distance then become an issue?
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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"I avoid everyone in a 50mile radius, I don't want to be bumping into them down my local Tesco."
It helps my location is bollocks so everyone who messages generally is at least 100mile away. |
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"I avoid everyone in a 50mile radius, I don't want to be bumping into them down my local Tesco."
I have, in the past, literally had a woman I’d met and had sex with at a club waving and shouting at me in my local supermarket. And running over to say hi and introduce me to her five-year old son.  |
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It's up to you op, but if I feel someone is too far, I tend to delete any messages.I prefer local ish.
I had a man message me from 300 miles away recently. Yeah that's really never gonna happen,so it was a no reply.
I wouldn't travel too far to meet someone I didn't already know & wouldn't want anyone to travel very far to meet me either.
Years ago when I was single, I used to meet someone & I could walk to his in 15 mins. It was absolutely fine, no issues. |
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By *WANDTGCouple 20 weeks ago
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We normally do a 20 mile radius on the search engine, what we've found is that a lot of the clubs or a few couples are in North or SW London, which a awful to get to . I don't particularly want to sit on a tube heading Heathrow way to visit a popular club. Then again, if you put the effort in you reap the rewards. |
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"I avoid everyone in a 50mile radius, I don't want to be bumping into them down my local Tesco.
It helps my location is bollocks so everyone who messages generally is at least 100mile away. "
Ah clever… keeping them using petrol |
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"We stick close to home as your free tine is very time constrained, basically any meet has to be 815 830 locally, so any further and it's later than that"
What time do you set off for it to be 0815/0830? Or evening wise? |
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"We normally do a 20 mile radius on the search engine, what we've found is that a lot of the clubs or a few couples are in North or SW London, which a awful to get to . I don't particularly want to sit on a tube heading Heathrow way to visit a popular club. Then again, if you put the effort in you reap the rewards. "
I am looking forward to one day venturing to a club. |
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"Nope
The people I connect with are never bloody local, and even if the distance as the crow flies isn’t far, they’re always the other side of the Severn so it’s at least an hours drive"
I bet you’re worth the drive |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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"I avoid everyone in a 50mile radius, I don't want to be bumping into them down my local Tesco.
I have, in the past, literally had a woman I’d met and had sex with at a club waving and shouting at me in my local supermarket. And running over to say hi and introduce me to her five-year old son. "
Sounds like the start of a netflix drama |
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I've done drive now so I tend to meet men from London. Which is quite a large area and teeming with men.
If I was offered a weekend by the sea by a hot man with amazing sex thrown in I'd be looking at train tickets and times.
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By *eliWoman 20 weeks ago
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I don't have meets. I like to meet people, meet those who aren't local. A hour plus is perfect for me to meet someone. And then see if I'd like to meet them again. Not have a meet with them. |
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I prefer to meet regularly and I’d like to find someone/a couple of someones to go to club events with. This is often easier with someone who’s within an hour or so away. I don’t have kids so I could do damage control with any wavers in Tesco!
But saying that, if there’s a good connection and the mechanics can be overcome, I’m open to people who are further away.
So I guess availability is more important to than location for me. When someone e.g. has their kids every other weekend, works the weekends inbetween or has such a full calendar we can’t find a Saturday afternoon to meet for coffee, it’s more of an issue to me than needing to drive for 2 or 3 hours. |
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"I don't have meets. I like to meet people, meet those who aren't local. A hour plus is perfect for me to meet someone. And then see if I'd like to meet them again. Not have a meet with them."
Is meeting them not having a meet ? 😳 or is the assumption that by saying ‘having a meet’ means more than a social interaction ? |
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"I prefer to meet regularly and I’d like to find someone/a couple of someones to go to club events with. This is often easier with someone who’s within an hour or so away. I don’t have kids so I could do damage control with any wavers in Tesco!
But saying that, if there’s a good connection and the mechanics can be overcome, I’m open to people who are further away.
So I guess availability is more important to than location for me. When someone e.g. has their kids every other weekend, works the weekends inbetween or has such a full calendar we can’t find a Saturday afternoon to meet for coffee, it’s more of an issue to me than needing to drive for 2 or 3 hours. "
Damn just google maps Tamworth and it’s not an hour  |
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"I block everyone from my town and neighbourhood by default.
So does that mean you venture to meet or just look further and get them to come to you? "
None of the above. Depends on the individual situation. |
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"I prefer to meet regularly and I’d like to find someone/a couple of someones to go to club events with. This is often easier with someone who’s within an hour or so away. I don’t have kids so I could do damage control with any wavers in Tesco!
But saying that, if there’s a good connection and the mechanics can be overcome, I’m open to people who are further away.
So I guess availability is more important to than location for me. When someone e.g. has their kids every other weekend, works the weekends inbetween or has such a full calendar we can’t find a Saturday afternoon to meet for coffee, it’s more of an issue to me than needing to drive for 2 or 3 hours.
Damn just google maps Tamworth and it’s not an hour "
It’s also not that far 😉 |
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"It is very rare I will meet anyone from my home town, I prefer approx 30 mins away or more.
Also, like a weekend road trip and spend more quality time with that person"
Seems like a good plan… get a trip out if it too |
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"I block everyone from my town and neighbourhood by default.
So does that mean you venture to meet or just look further and get them to come to you?
None of the above. Depends on the individual situation."
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"I prefer to meet regularly and I’d like to find someone/a couple of someones to go to club events with. This is often easier with someone who’s within an hour or so away. I don’t have kids so I could do damage control with any wavers in Tesco!
But saying that, if there’s a good connection and the mechanics can be overcome, I’m open to people who are further away.
So I guess availability is more important to than location for me. When someone e.g. has their kids every other weekend, works the weekends inbetween or has such a full calendar we can’t find a Saturday afternoon to meet for coffee, it’s more of an issue to me than needing to drive for 2 or 3 hours.
Damn just google maps Tamworth and it’s not an hour
It’s also not that far 😉"
No it’s not…. But I thought you said an hour 😋 |
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"I prefer to meet regularly and I’d like to find someone/a couple of someones to go to club events with. This is often easier with someone who’s within an hour or so away. I don’t have kids so I could do damage control with any wavers in Tesco!
But saying that, if there’s a good connection and the mechanics can be overcome, I’m open to people who are further away.
So I guess availability is more important to than location for me. When someone e.g. has their kids every other weekend, works the weekends inbetween or has such a full calendar we can’t find a Saturday afternoon to meet for coffee, it’s more of an issue to me than needing to drive for 2 or 3 hours.
Damn just google maps Tamworth and it’s not an hour
It’s also not that far 😉
No it’s not…. But I thought you said an hour 😋"
Often easier is all I said. Just sayin’. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 20 weeks ago
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"Afternoon fellow fabbers
How are all you beauties?
So I was just sat here in the sunshine enjoying my coffee and I wondered….do you prefer your meets to be with those who are local to you? Or would you rather they be ‘out of town’?
I ask as having to try to communicate with profiles around me, and not having much luck per se….the ‘pool’ is small so should I go out further to try and instigate chats and interest? Or does the distance then become an issue?
Hope this makes sense "
Given you're in Oxford you're probably fishing in a much larger pool than many. Try being in the middle of the countryside, the north of Scotland or down in darkest Cornwall.
If I was to stick to looking just locally it would take mere minutes. I have a few friends within half an hours drive (which round here is 10-20 miles), but don't limit myself to the local area and am happy to travel to events, socials and clubs.
It opens many more doors and provides far more variety and opportunities. Nothing wrong with a bit of travel.  |
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I'd prefer local, as I want repeat meets.
Further afield is not always an issue for me, but it clearly is for most guys who contact me While I'm more than happy for a road trip, they tend to procrastinate. Interest lost, etc.
So in answer to the OP,it's very rare I'll engage in with anyone more than 30 or so miles away. X |
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By *irthandgirthMan 20 weeks ago
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I believe fab should have minimum and maximum distance settings, with the option to be invisible to anyone within that inner bubble.
Local(ish) is nice, but ideally I don't want to find out Sharon from 6 doors down is actually user chewbaccafanny666 and have her following me round Lidl asking why I blocked her. |
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"I prefer to meet regularly and I’d like to find someone/a couple of someones to go to club events with. This is often easier with someone who’s within an hour or so away. I don’t have kids so I could do damage control with any wavers in Tesco!
But saying that, if there’s a good connection and the mechanics can be overcome, I’m open to people who are further away.
So I guess availability is more important to than location for me. When someone e.g. has their kids every other weekend, works the weekends inbetween or has such a full calendar we can’t find a Saturday afternoon to meet for coffee, it’s more of an issue to me than needing to drive for 2 or 3 hours.
Damn just google maps Tamworth and it’s not an hour
It’s also not that far 😉
No it’s not…. But I thought you said an hour 😋
Often easier is all I said. Just sayin’."
I have noted this in my notes of ‘would she’ |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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"I prefer to meet regularly and I’d like to find someone/a couple of someones to go to club events with. This is often easier with someone who’s within an hour or so away. I don’t have kids so I could do damage control with any wavers in Tesco!
But saying that, if there’s a good connection and the mechanics can be overcome, I’m open to people who are further away.
So I guess availability is more important to than location for me. When someone e.g. has their kids every other weekend, works the weekends inbetween or has such a full calendar we can’t find a Saturday afternoon to meet for coffee, it’s more of an issue to me than needing to drive for 2 or 3 hours.
Damn just google maps Tamworth and it’s not an hour
It’s also not that far 😉
No it’s not…. But I thought you said an hour 😋
Often easier is all I said. Just sayin’.
I have noted this in my notes of ‘would she’ "
OP, I think it was much more positive than that - get your coat, you've pulled! |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 20 weeks ago
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Within reasonable (defined by me) travel distance.
I don't want to meet in my own area, as whilst none of my friends would recognise me in glam mode, they do know my car and would probably phone it in if they saw a stranger driving it.
Whilst I can explain to the police that it hasn't been nicked by a busty blonde, that's not really a conversation I want to have  |
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"I believe fab should have minimum and maximum distance settings, with the option to be invisible to anyone within that inner bubble.
Local(ish) is nice, but ideally I don't want to find out Sharon from 6 doors down is actually user chewbaccafanny666 and have her following me round Lidl asking why I blocked her."
This 🤣 😂 🤣 😂 🤣 |
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"I prefer to meet regularly and I’d like to find someone/a couple of someones to go to club events with. This is often easier with someone who’s within an hour or so away. I don’t have kids so I could do damage control with any wavers in Tesco!
But saying that, if there’s a good connection and the mechanics can be overcome, I’m open to people who are further away.
So I guess availability is more important to than location for me. When someone e.g. has their kids every other weekend, works the weekends inbetween or has such a full calendar we can’t find a Saturday afternoon to meet for coffee, it’s more of an issue to me than needing to drive for 2 or 3 hours.
Damn just google maps Tamworth and it’s not an hour
It’s also not that far 😉
No it’s not…. But I thought you said an hour 😋
Often easier is all I said. Just sayin’.
I have noted this in my notes of ‘would she’
OP, I think it was much more positive than that - get your coat, you've pulled!"
‘Scrambles to get shoes on ‘ ‘where’s my car keys…where’s my car keys’ 😋 |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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We’re not too bothered about distance if the pictures, profile and eventually to messaging match our desires.
We don’t mind travelling and love stopping at nice hotels.
Unfortunately we have found that this does put people off and when we wink them but it say we are 80+ miles away we get message saying about distance… we have now added a bit about distance and travelling in our profile! |
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By *andT2023Couple 20 weeks ago
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"Out of my area completely is best for me .. at least 30 to 40 miles away x
Not on your own doorstep as they say "
Exactly this ..i am happy to drive and meet someone . I much prefer this to the risks of playing close to home/ work |
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Being a lorry driver I used to be all over the UK so if I knew where I would be parking up for the night I'd look for swingers in or around that location ? Now I'm more local to home I tend to look for locals too. |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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I don’t mind distance if it’s we have clicked.
You get to spend a bit more time together and get to see another part of the country or show them your neck of the woods. |
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By *oxesMan 20 weeks ago
Southend, Essex |
"Afternoon fellow fabbers
How are all you beauties?
So I was just sat here in the sunshine enjoying my coffee and I wondered….do you prefer your meets to be with those who are local to you? Or would you rather they be ‘out of town’?
I ask as having to try to communicate with profiles around me, and not having much luck per se….the ‘pool’ is small so should I go out further to try and instigate chats and interest? Or does the distance then become an issue?
Hope this makes sense "
Define local? |
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I used to have a 50 mile radius, Rubiklongsword was just out of it but I gave him a go lol.
When I was active, I wanted something regular and having someone localish was better for me, when I say local, 20 miles or less.
Generally people in the same town as me was a bit of a no no. |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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"I avoid everyone in a 50mile radius, I don't want to be bumping into them down my local Tesco.
I have, in the past, literally had a woman I’d met and had sex with at a club waving and shouting at me in my local supermarket. And running over to say hi and introduce me to her five-year old son. "
Hopefully not yours!!
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 |
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"We’re not too bothered about distance if the pictures, profile and eventually to messaging match our desires.
We don’t mind travelling and love stopping at nice hotels.
Unfortunately we have found that this does put people off and when we wink them but it say we are 80+ miles away we get message saying about distance… we have now added a bit about distance and travelling in our profile! "
Well having admired your photos (a few times) I’m not sure many would mind travelling to meet you  |
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