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The line can get a bit blurred with a really good FWB.
I know I occasionally find myself counting my best friend as a partner. Though there's absolutely no romantic feeling there. All of the awesome friendship and good sex, but not that same deeper feeling I get with my actual partners.
It's real fucking close though. |
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By *HUSH-Man 12 weeks ago
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My personal experience
A FWB is someone I’m friends with that I have as a sexual partner too. This includes hanging out socially by going to a restaurant or an art gallery. Our personal lives are separate. We don’t live together and we’re not a couple. We both have the right to see other people.
A partner is someone who I’m dating and there’s the possibility of it going further. This may include living together, marriage and having a family.
I have had one FWB become a partner and it didn’t end well. Sexually we were attracted to each other and we enjoyed hanging out but we just weren’t compatible for anything more than that. |
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For me the determining factor would be the commitment side of the love triangle.
There can be comparable levels of passion and intimacy with a friend, but the level of involvement in each others lives is likely to be lower. |
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By *vaRose43Woman 12 weeks ago
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"One indicates the love of a friend, the other a long term romantic love Good point. If you do things like go on outings and have sex. Why would they be friends love but not romantic love"
Because sex doesn’t have to involve those feelings. You can enjoy someone’s company, care about them deeply as a friend and still not feel romantic love for them which would be taking a step towards building a life together.
Im not even talking monogamy here but a partner is someone you do more than just hang out (and occasionally fuck). You’re actively merging your lives in whatever way your relationship fits together, and your consideration for them and their feelings on any given situation is much more present.
Indeed you can also have great sex without being good friends too 
I’m probably not explaining myself very well here |
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"One indicates the love of a friend, the other a long term romantic love Good point. If you do things like go on outings and have sex. Why would they be friends love but not romantic love
Because sex doesn’t have to involve those feelings. You can enjoy someone’s company, care about them deeply as a friend and still not feel romantic love for them which would be taking a step towards building a life together.
Im not even talking monogamy here but a partner is someone you do more than just hang out (and occasionally fuck). You’re actively merging your lives in whatever way your relationship fits together, and your consideration for them and their feelings on any given situation is much more present.
Indeed you can also have great sex without being good friends too
I’m probably not explaining myself very well here "
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"The line can get a bit blurred with a really good FWB.
I know I occasionally find myself counting my best friend as a partner. Though there's absolutely no romantic feeling there. All of the awesome friendship and good sex, but not that same deeper feeling I get with my actual partners.
It's real fucking close though."
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By *eliWoman 12 weeks ago
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I don't think of a partner as a *long term* romantic love thing. Because I'll use partner in place of boyfriend and girlfriend - they might not necessarily be more than a few months old.
But partner does suggest reciprocated romantic love. A fwb friendship doesn't have that in my mind. I'd go on dates with my "partners" but I wouldn't with a fwb. I'd still enjoy spending time with them both, socially. |
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"*or at least budding reciprocated love. Deeper feelings. The potential to fall in love with or be falling for them."
Do you think you can have be in love with someone and just do fwb stuff?
(Btw I know all my answers to these questions. Just feeling bored and curious.) |
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"No commitments with fwb. I don't like the whole idea of fwb, someone always catches feelings
I agree that feelings tend to be inevitable.
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You’ve written that like having feelings is a bad thing. I don’t think it is at all. I love lots of my friends. They’re my world 😘 |
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By *eliWoman 12 weeks ago
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"*or at least budding reciprocated love. Deeper feelings. The potential to fall in love with or be falling for them.
Do you think you can have be in love with someone and just do fwb stuff?
(Btw I know all my answers to these questions. Just feeling bored and curious.)"
Ah you're asking the wrong person here! It takes me some time to fall in love with someone and it doesn't grow if I doubt it... I've never entertained the thought of it with a fwb.
What's the difference between partner stuff and fwb stuff? I'm not a big fan of the relationship escalator.  |
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"No commitments with fwb. I don't like the whole idea of fwb, someone always catches feelings
I agree that feelings tend to be inevitable.
You’ve written that like having feelings is a bad thing. I don’t think it is at all. I love lots of my friends. They’re my world 😘"
I don’t mean for it to sound like a bad thing. |
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"No commitments with fwb. I don't like the whole idea of fwb, someone always catches feelings
I agree that feelings tend to be inevitable.
You’ve written that like having feelings is a bad thing. I don’t think it is at all. I love lots of my friends. They’re my world 😘
I don’t mean for it to sound like a bad thing. "
That’s good darling. It’s not. Feelings are a good thing in life. They mean you’re living it ♥️ |
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"*or at least budding reciprocated love. Deeper feelings. The potential to fall in love with or be falling for them.
Do you think you can have be in love with someone and just do fwb stuff?
(Btw I know all my answers to these questions. Just feeling bored and curious.)
Ah you're asking the wrong person here! It takes me some time to fall in love with someone and it doesn't grow if I doubt it... I've never entertained the thought of it with a fwb.
What's the difference between partner stuff and fwb stuff? I'm not a big fan of the relationship escalator. "
I think fwb stuff is pretty much all the stuff you do with your friends and not with your partners.
I never see it in relationship escalator context though.
I think partner has more romantic commitment and more life commitment usually. |
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"No commitments with fwb. I don't like the whole idea of fwb, someone always catches feelings
I agree that feelings tend to be inevitable.
You’ve written that like having feelings is a bad thing. I don’t think it is at all. I love lots of my friends. They’re my world 😘
I don’t mean for it to sound like a bad thing.
That’s good darling. It’s not. Feelings are a good thing in life. They mean you’re living it ♥️"
I enjoy feelings when they’re reciprocated. I don’t enjoy them when they’re not. But I don’t think they’re bad. |
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By *eliWoman 12 weeks ago
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"*or at least budding reciprocated love. Deeper feelings. The potential to fall in love with or be falling for them.
Do you think you can have be in love with someone and just do fwb stuff?
(Btw I know all my answers to these questions. Just feeling bored and curious.)
Ah you're asking the wrong person here! It takes me some time to fall in love with someone and it doesn't grow if I doubt it... I've never entertained the thought of it with a fwb.
What's the difference between partner stuff and fwb stuff? I'm not a big fan of the relationship escalator.
I think fwb stuff is pretty much all the stuff you do with your friends and not with your partners.
I never see it in relationship escalator context though.
I think partner has more romantic commitment and more life commitment usually. "
What's the life commitment? Perhaps it's because of my pan/bi nature I don't use partner to mean... life partner. Maybe that's why I view it differently. |
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"No commitments with fwb. I don't like the whole idea of fwb, someone always catches feelings
I agree that feelings tend to be inevitable.
You’ve written that like having feelings is a bad thing. I don’t think it is at all. I love lots of my friends. They’re my world 😘
I don’t mean for it to sound like a bad thing.
That’s good darling. It’s not. Feelings are a good thing in life. They mean you’re living it ♥️
I enjoy feelings when they’re reciprocated. I don’t enjoy them when they’re not. But I don’t think they’re bad. "
So friends loving each other is a good thing yes? 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love |
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"No commitments with fwb. I don't like the whole idea of fwb, someone always catches feelings
I agree that feelings tend to be inevitable.
You’ve written that like having feelings is a bad thing. I don’t think it is at all. I love lots of my friends. They’re my world 😘
I don’t mean for it to sound like a bad thing.
That’s good darling. It’s not. Feelings are a good thing in life. They mean you’re living it ♥️
I enjoy feelings when they’re reciprocated. I don’t enjoy them when they’re not. But I don’t think they’re bad.
So friends loving each other is a good thing yes? 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love "
Yes I love many of my friends. |
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"*or at least budding reciprocated love. Deeper feelings. The potential to fall in love with or be falling for them.
Do you think you can have be in love with someone and just do fwb stuff?
(Btw I know all my answers to these questions. Just feeling bored and curious.)
Ah you're asking the wrong person here! It takes me some time to fall in love with someone and it doesn't grow if I doubt it... I've never entertained the thought of it with a fwb.
What's the difference between partner stuff and fwb stuff? I'm not a big fan of the relationship escalator.
I think fwb stuff is pretty much all the stuff you do with your friends and not with your partners.
I never see it in relationship escalator context though.
I think partner has more romantic commitment and more life commitment usually.
What's the life commitment? Perhaps it's because of my pan/bi nature I don't use partner to mean... life partner. Maybe that's why I view it differently."
Could be sharing finances, could be laundry ( ), could be being introduced as such to family members.
I use the term partner to describe a relationship type. It’s different to fwb. I wouldn’t describe an fwb as a partner to them or to anyone else. I rarely use gendered terms like bf or gf. And I never use them seriously, only in jest. |
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"*or at least budding reciprocated love. Deeper feelings. The potential to fall in love with or be falling for them.
Do you think you can have be in love with someone and just do fwb stuff?
(Btw I know all my answers to these questions. Just feeling bored and curious.)
Ah you're asking the wrong person here! It takes me some time to fall in love with someone and it doesn't grow if I doubt it... I've never entertained the thought of it with a fwb.
What's the difference between partner stuff and fwb stuff? I'm not a big fan of the relationship escalator.
I think fwb stuff is pretty much all the stuff you do with your friends and not with your partners.
I never see it in relationship escalator context though.
I think partner has more romantic commitment and more life commitment usually.
What's the life commitment? Perhaps it's because of my pan/bi nature I don't use partner to mean... life partner. Maybe that's why I view it differently.
Could be sharing finances, could be laundry (), could be being introduced as such to family members.
I use the term partner to describe a relationship type. It’s different to fwb. I wouldn’t describe an fwb as a partner to them or to anyone else. I rarely use gendered terms like bf or gf. And I never use them seriously, only in jest. "
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A partner is way different to a fwb. Fwb is mutual convenience however good the friendship is and even if the sexual side wanes the friendship can/could continue. A relationship and partner is deeper entwined and you do not want to think of them not ever being involved in your life in all capacities. All imho of course. |
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"A partner is way different to a fwb. Fwb is mutual convenience however good the friendship is and even if the sexual side wanes the friendship can/could continue. A relationship and partner is deeper entwined and you do not want to think of them not ever being involved in your life in all capacities. All imho of course."
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By *ark73XXXMan 12 weeks ago
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You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles "
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl |
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" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Same. I had a falafel wrap recently with lots of pickles.
I love falafel 
I love cherries "
They make the best tarts  |
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" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl "
Unless you’re kissing me. In which case I will not care. |
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Commitment is how I differentiate.
I had a FWB with whom I had a wonderful friendship. Socialised together, went on holidays, shared joint fab profile and I had a key to his place.
But we were our own people with our own lives that were totally independent of each other. Yes we had some mutual fab friends, but outside that we didn't share each others lives.
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" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Same. I had a falafel wrap recently with lots of pickles.
I love falafel
I love cherries
They make the best tarts "
Well played |
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" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl "
All pickles? |
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By *ark73XXXMan 12 weeks ago
North Staffs/South Cheshire |
" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl
Unless you’re kissing me. In which case I will not care. "
I’ve no plans to kiss you later but never say never I say |
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By *ark73XXXMan 12 weeks ago
North Staffs/South Cheshire |
" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl
All pickles? "
I think that reference was to pickled onions |
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" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl
Unless you’re kissing me. In which case I will not care.
I’ve no plans to kiss you later but never say never I say "
Have you eaten pickles today? |
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" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl
Unless you’re kissing me. In which case I will not care.
I’ve no plans to kiss you later but never say never I say "
You’d enjoy it. I’m a good kisser. |
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By *ark73XXXMan 12 weeks ago
North Staffs/South Cheshire |
" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl
Unless you’re kissing me. In which case I will not care.
I’ve no plans to kiss you later but never say never I say
Have you eaten pickles today? "
I’m afraid not but day’s not over yet |
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By *ark73XXXMan 12 weeks ago
North Staffs/South Cheshire |
" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl
Unless you’re kissing me. In which case I will not care.
I’ve no plans to kiss you later but never say never I say
You’d enjoy it. I’m a good kisser. "
Whilst self praise is no recommendation, I believe you |
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" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl
Unless you’re kissing me. In which case I will not care.
I’ve no plans to kiss you later but never say never I say
You’d enjoy it. I’m a good kisser.
Whilst self praise is no recommendation, I believe you "
I have to believe in my sauce. I have to. |
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" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl
Unless you’re kissing me. In which case I will not care.
I’ve no plans to kiss you later but never say never I say
You’d enjoy it. I’m a good kisser.
Whilst self praise is no recommendation, I believe you "
He's a good kisser.
And to answer the question, I think it's the depth of love/commitment that distinguishes a FWB from a partner. |
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" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl
Unless you’re kissing me. In which case I will not care.
I’ve no plans to kiss you later but never say never I say
You’d enjoy it. I’m a good kisser.
Whilst self praise is no recommendation, I believe you
He's a good kisser.
And to answer the question, I think it's the depth of love/commitment that distinguishes a FWB from a partner. "
Kiss me again. I want to remind you how good. |
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" 😘
You don’t need to be in love to love
Yes I love many of my friends.
I love pickles
Best not to eat them if you’re planning on kissing later - Gregory was given that advice in Gregory’s Girl
Unless you’re kissing me. In which case I will not care.
I’ve no plans to kiss you later but never say never I say
You’d enjoy it. I’m a good kisser.
Whilst self praise is no recommendation, I believe you
He's a good kisser.
And to answer the question, I think it's the depth of love/commitment that distinguishes a FWB from a partner.
Kiss me again. I want to remind you how good. "
I'm puckering up here 😘
Damned distance  |
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"A partner is way different to a fwb. Fwb is mutual convenience however good the friendship is and even if the sexual side wanes the friendship can/could continue. A relationship and partner is deeper entwined and you do not want to think of them not ever being involved in your life in all capacities. All imho of course."
That's a good way of putting it, in my opinion 😁 |
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