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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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"Am at the lowest ebb of my life but im not looking for sympathy but when you've been down what gets you back up?"
Sorry to hear, buddy. Nature and animals always did it for me: hiking/walking the woods, observing animals go about their lives, or just petting a dog, feeding birds or interacting with any animal will usually bring me back from the abyss. |
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By *vaRose43Woman 21 weeks ago
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Watching my old favourite shows and movies. Reading my favourite books again.
Telling myself it’s ok to feel like shit sometimes.
Then when things feel a little less heavy I talk to friends. The friends who will listen and let me vent without trying to solve everything. Sometimes I just need to tell it all and don’t want computations. I’m a very logical person, I don’t want advice I just need to get it all out.
Then I go and force myself to try something new. Could be a walk in a new place, a trial session for something I’ve wanted to learn, a new recipe I’ve wanted to try… doesn’t need to be a big life changing or expensive thing is what I’m getting at. Doing that usually helps lift me and give me that dopamine-serotonin boost to tackle whatever is happening that’s made everything seem so grey |
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Therapy, medication, time off work, accepting that you're at a low ebb and not beating yourself up about it.
Waiting lists for NHS MH treatment are so long, so if you can find private that will be far quicker. I've used a place that's charity run and much more affordable than the usual private therapists.
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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Something that also always helped me was to watch some comfort movie or cartoon from my childhood, something that would bring me back to that time of my life when I had no worries nor burdens. |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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"Am at the lowest ebb of my life but im not looking for sympathy but when you've been down what gets you back up?"
Have you been to Andy's Man Club?
They helped me after I tried to top myself.
Stay strong pal. |
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Make a plan for something you will do in the future. Something to focus on. It could be as simple as planning a trip or as complex as looking into what qualifications you could get for a change of career. That and social contact and exercise. |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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"Am at the lowest ebb of my life but im not looking for sympathy but when you've been down what gets you back up?"
Myself.
Sorry you feel like this fella, lots of us have been there. Personally I realised I had to find reasons to not just carry on but move forward and upwards. Nobody deserves to be in a low place for too long, and that includes YOU. 
Do something you enjoy and keep doing it, it helped me and it might help you. And then start adding more good things to your schedule.
And talk to someone that cares. Stay away from the negative stuff.
Hopefully this helps. |
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Sorry to hear things are not going well OP. I like to just get out and go for a walk. I find walking in stormy weather is really invigorating - there is is something about being bashed around by the wind that works for me.
Facing into the issues is also always the best thing to do. It is is incredibly hard and I am shit at doing it but when I do manage to do it the results are always for the best - even if the process of getting there is painful. |
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Been suffering from depression since my early teens I'm now mid 50's , kinda learned to ride it out during a low point and learn from it as not to repeat the pattern.
part of living with depression is understanding when to ask for help and when to ride it out.
You've done the hardest part admitting that you are feeling low. But any thoughts of self harm or worse should be treated by a professional so seek advice if you think you can't handle the situation.
I deal by waffling nonsense and vocalising my woes, sadly not everyone is interested so finding a sympathetic ear is important.
Good luck OP just remember you're not as alone as you think.
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When I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed, I ask Rubik to tell me something good, usually this works for me in the short term.
I've been in very low places in the last few years, I find sometimes I get so lost in dark thoughts, it doesn't help that I am one of those people that imagines the worst case possible, having conversations with myself that are always negative. I find writing stuff down, like a letter to the person, the thing, it really clears my mind.
Giving myself goals too, especially when I've been so low I couldn't get out of bed, I've given myself "have a wash" and even if that's the only thing I do all day, then so be it but I did it, then slowly build myself up.
Good luck OP x |
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