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By *lappy OP Man 25 weeks ago
Manchester |
Whilst I’m sure everyone is happy it’s bank holiday and have an extra long weekend, I’m sure there will be some users of the forum who’s weekend it won’t be fun for, for numerous, so I just thought I’d start a simple to say this is a safe space if anyone needs to talk and unburden with any problems or troubles they are currently facing.
If someone wishes to talk and doesn’t feel comfortable talking on a forum, my inbox is always open 24/7 and I’m always happy to listen completely in confidence and always without judgment.
Use your smile to change the world but never let the world change your smile xx Slappy xx |
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Hey Slappy, that’s a very nice thought and a benevolent offer. I don’t need your services but, as you say, some may have no one to chat to or be facing challenges, it’s good of you to offer.
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By *lappy OP Man 25 weeks ago
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thank you for comments so far and this thread was started not forces praise because in my mind as well as we think we know our colleagues at work fir example, simply that might be their only interaction all day and with the extended longer weekend l, I just thought I’d use the forum as a platform to reach out to those site members |
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By *lappy OP Man 25 weeks ago
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"A lovely idea.
What kind of things can people bring to this thread or your inbox ?"
Anything and anything … humans are born with 2 ears and 1 mouth which in my book makes it twice as important to listen than it is too talk xx. Hope all is well xx |
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Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL. |
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"Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL. "
Wanna loan of my pyjamas Nelly? ❤️ |
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"Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL.
Wanna loan of my pyjamas Nelly? ❤️"
You mean I'd have to return them at some point? I can't deal with that kind of heartbreak, Sam. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL. "
I love this idea Nell. I get cold on my own in bed, especially in winter. This is a great solution. Thanks for the inspiration  |
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"A lovely idea.
What kind of things can people bring to this thread or your inbox ?
Anything and anything … humans are born with 2 ears and 1 mouth which in my book makes it twice as important to listen than it is too talk xx. Hope all is well xx"
All is well with me thanks Slappy.
Do you listen or give advice ?
Are you just there as another human ? |
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"Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL.
I love this idea Nell. I get cold on my own in bed, especially in winter. This is a great solution. Thanks for the inspiration "
Sam's going to run out of pyjamas very swiftly  |
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"Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL. "
Go to build a bear and record some ‘ affectionate’ messages so when you squeeze snug bud they say - awwww you’re the best or something!! |
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"Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL. "
I think you can get boyfriend pillows for exactly that reason!
It doesn’t really matter if you think of yourself as solitary or not, a bit like socks or oxygen, if you don’t have enough of what you need, it’s a problem.
Don’t feel guilty about wanting it, that just makes things worse. Hope you can find what you need, there’s a virtual hug for you right here. |
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By *lappy OP Man 25 weeks ago
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"Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL. "
Hi nell, first things first, I genuinely am very sorry to hear that you are now single. I totally get where your coming from because I work in a front facing job and I deal with members of the public all day every day and more often than not they are decent and friendly, however, a couple of times recently I gave had incidents where they are anything but friendly ( to say the very least ) and whilst all my colleagues are awesome and management and have a duty of care procedure to carry out, it doesn’t really hit home until I was alone doing my shopping or get home and face a quiet moment and like you say, there’s certainties when all you need is to shout the outside world and just get a cuddle and reassurance from a loved one. Sincerely hope fir better times for you soon xx |
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"Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL.
Go to build a bear and record some ‘ affectionate’ messages so when you squeeze snug bud they say - awwww you’re the best or something!! "
Would it work if it's my own voice?
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"Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL.
Hi nell, first things first, I genuinely am very sorry to hear that you are now single. I totally get where your coming from because I work in a front facing job and I deal with members of the public all day every day and more often than not they are decent and friendly, however, a couple of times recently I gave had incidents where they are anything but friendly ( to say the very least ) and whilst all my colleagues are awesome and management and have a duty of care procedure to carry out, it doesn’t really hit home until I was alone doing my shopping or get home and face a quiet moment and like you say, there’s certainties when all you need is to shout the outside world and just get a cuddle and reassurance from a loved one. Sincerely hope fir better times for you soon xx"
Thanks, Slappy. I'm actually very happy in general and not having a bad time. It's just a little thing that pops up occasionally. I'm very lucky to have some wonderful friends and family to listen to me when things are tough and I feel very loved. There are people who aren't so fortunate, so I don't take it for granted. I just thought people on here might be able to identify with the absence of hugs on tap and how that can feel. Maybe even gain something from me bringing the subject up. |
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"Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL.
Go to build a bear and record some ‘ affectionate’ messages so when you squeeze snug bud they say - awwww you’re the best or something!!
Would it work if it's my own voice?
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get a random guy to record the messages but make them hyper sexual - you’ll probably be in a relationship before you leave build a bear!! What man can resist a woman asking ‘ can you. Just say - can we do anal later?’ For my snug buddy?  |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL.
I love this idea Nell. I get cold on my own in bed, especially in winter. This is a great solution. Thanks for the inspiration
Sam's going to run out of pyjamas very swiftly "
Oh don't worry about that, I have some pj's I no longer wear 😊 So, how far are you going with yours? I mean, is yours going to have a face? |
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"Oh don't worry about that, I have some pj's I no longer wear 😊 So, how far are you going with yours? I mean, is yours going to have a face?"
I'm not sure. I mean, I might get too attached if it's too lifelike and before you know it there'll be a proposal, a short engagement, a wedding, and possibly a divorce. |
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"Great thread
It's not a major issue, but it's a recent thing since becoming single again....
Missing hugs/cuddles/snuggles. Whatever term you want to use.
I'm a fairly self-sufficient and solitary person by nature, but every now and then a real hankering for some non-sexual physical intimacy takes me by surprise. I'd forgotten how not having that, or at least the option of it, can impact your wellbeing.
I might fill some pyjamas with upholstery foam and make a snug bud. That won't be creepy AT ALL. "
If I was close I’d 100% give you a hug. I can give great cuddles. |
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This is a lovely thread by the way.
I get told off for having no filters. But i would rather delete a hundred vile messages than miss 1 who just needs a friendly voice. That won’t ever change.
My inbox literally is always open. |
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By *lappy OP Man 25 weeks ago
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"I think I've recently said a forever goodbye to someone who means a lot to me.
That kinda sucks.
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I’m so sorry to read this raven, just cincdrntrate on the good and happy times that you shared jointly |
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"Oh don't worry about that, I have some pj's I no longer wear 😊 So, how far are you going with yours? I mean, is yours going to have a face?
I'm not sure. I mean, I might get too attached if it's too lifelike and before you know it there'll be a proposal, a short engagement, a wedding, and possibly a divorce."
Yeah, I can see that might cause some issues. You'd have to kick them out and then you'd be back to square one  I have a similar problem, in that my 'special friend' might get jealous when he comes to visit. Hmmm, what a conundrum 🤔 |
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"Oh don't worry about that, I have some pj's I no longer wear 😊 So, how far are you going with yours? I mean, is yours going to have a face?
I'm not sure. I mean, I might get too attached if it's too lifelike and before you know it there'll be a proposal, a short engagement, a wedding, and possibly a divorce.
Yeah, I can see that might cause some issues. You'd have to kick them out and then you'd be back to square one I have a similar problem, in that my 'special friend' might get jealous when he comes to visit. Hmmm, what a conundrum 🤔"
Oh yeah, I hadn't thought of that |
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By *lappy OP Man 24 weeks ago
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Really enjoyed this post last night and would like to think it helped people whilst maybe not directly they at least know there’s people out there that they can turn too in times of trouble |
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