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By *aven.Woman 13 weeks ago
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I feel like I could sleep for 48hrs straight.
I'm annoyed at myself for yet again getting too much into my head and not allowing myself some fun.
I have things to be happy about and things to not be happy about, but I guess that's normal right?
I think I just need to stop being so me.
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"I feel like I could sleep for 48hrs straight.
I'm annoyed at myself for yet again getting too much into my head and not allowing myself some fun.
I have things to be happy about and things to not be happy about, but I guess that's normal right?
I think I just need to stop being so me.
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Or just accept who you are and embrace it 🥰 |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I'm doing good thank you Meli how about you?? "
I'm really happy! A bit crampy and drained, missing someone a little, my hair is a mess but things are good overall. Did you manage to get some decent sleep? I hope so! |
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That’s actually quite a complicated question right now 🤣 I’m happy as I can be right now. A lots happened over the last year and I feel really content to be over the worst of it. But menopause is kicking my arse at the moment and it’s a bit of a battle mentally and physically. But like everything, this too will pass. So just hoping it settles soon and I can crack on with life.  |
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"I feel like I could sleep for 48hrs straight.
I'm annoyed at myself for yet again getting too much into my head and not allowing myself some fun.
I have things to be happy about and things to not be happy about, but I guess that's normal right?
I think I just need to stop being so me.
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Sending hugs.. hope this is just a blip xx |
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I go through a period once a year where I can lose days sitting on the sofa staring aimlessly. I make no effort to contact people and sit alone not even thinking.
Then just like that it's gone and I'm back to being me again.
I think my mind needs it as a well earned rest from the world outside. |
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"I'm doing good thank you Meli how about you??
I'm really happy! A bit crampy and drained, missing someone a little, my hair is a mess but things are good overall. Did you manage to get some decent sleep? I hope so!"
Ah that's great ( except for the cramps, they suck ) yeah slept OK thanks xx |
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Absolutely horrendous to be honest but I just soldier on. I’m throwing myself head first into my work and going to the gym as much as possible and then when I come out the other end of this it won’t look so shit. |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I feel like I could sleep for 48hrs straight.
I'm annoyed at myself for yet again getting too much into my head and not allowing myself some fun.
I have things to be happy about and things to not be happy about, but I guess that's normal right?
I think I just need to stop being so me.
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No, keep being you Raven, you're not too shabby.
Yes, it's normal to have some good and some less good aspects of life. Allow yourself the chance to have fun, no one's head is a great place to be stuck in all the time. Failing that, treat yo'self to some hash browns. x |
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Happy, excited, slightly apprehensive, tired, proud, determined, horny, frustrated, wavering oh-so-slightly on the edge of burnout if I don't reel things in.
I think "content" is the appropriate umbrella term to use, here. |
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"Absolutely horrendous to be honest but I just soldier on. I’m throwing myself head first into my work and going to the gym as much as possible and then when I come out the other end of this it won’t look so shit."
Sending you hugs hope you weather the storm xx |
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No im lost, not geographically, im just aimless, nothing is actually going to the best case scenario plan so its grinding everything out and life is an actual struggle, on the surface things look ok, the house is tidy there’s food in the fridge I have my health and I’m not skint but my god is this it? My soul feels empty, objectively I’m in a far better position than a lot of people but we are meant for more surely |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I have no mojo for sex right now. Nothing, Nada. Disconcerting this is  "
Ah so your mojo is normally roaring? I hope you find it soon - don't search too hard though, it'll come back. Might be other factors/worries influencing it for the time being x |
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"Absolutely horrendous to be honest but I just soldier on. I’m throwing myself head first into my work and going to the gym as much as possible and then when I come out the other end of this it won’t look so shit.
Sending you hugs hope you weather the storm xx"
Thanks. I’ll be good. I always am  |
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"No im lost, not geographically, im just aimless, nothing is actually going to the best case scenario plan so its grinding everything out and life is an actual struggle, on the surface things look ok, the house is tidy there’s food in the fridge I have my health and I’m not skint but my god is this it? My soul feels empty, objectively I’m in a far better position than a lot of people but we are meant for more surely "
I hope this feeling passes lovely sending hugs xx |
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"Absolutely horrendous to be honest but I just soldier on. I’m throwing myself head first into my work and going to the gym as much as possible and then when I come out the other end of this it won’t look so shit.
Sending you hugs hope you weather the storm xx
Thanks. I’ll be good. I always am "
You're welcome xx |
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I think I'm kinda just coasting through life, I'm happy, I'm in a good place, better than I've been for a long time but stuff with my kids, stuff breaking and can't afford to fix at the moment is in the back of my mind but like anything, I'll cope x |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"That’s actually quite a complicated question right now 🤣 I’m happy as I can be right now. A lots happened over the last year and I feel really content to be over the worst of it. But menopause is kicking my arse at the moment and it’s a bit of a battle mentally and physically. But like everything, this too will pass. So just hoping it settles soon and I can crack on with life. "
Really glad to read you're over the worst of it and content but.... menopause sounds truly dire! Fingers crossed it settles for you soon Saff - it sounds like you've been through a lot and this is an extra unneeded thing.
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I'm not sure... life deals some real shitty blows. All that is left i fear is to say goodbye.
So today I'm feeling ever hopeful, but mostly empty, shell shocked and in disbelief as the wheel of life continues to turn 💔 |
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"I'm not sure... life deals some real shitty blows. All that is left i fear is to say goodbye.
So today I'm feeling ever hopeful, but mostly empty, shell shocked and in disbelief as the wheel of life continues to turn 💔"
❤️ I hope things get brighter for you Midnight. It makes me really sad reading this x |
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"I'm not sure... life deals some real shitty blows. All that is left i fear is to say goodbye.
So today I'm feeling ever hopeful, but mostly empty, shell shocked and in disbelief as the wheel of life continues to turn 💔"
Oh Midnight I'm so sorry, sending you love and hugsxx |
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"I'm not sure... life deals some real shitty blows. All that is left i fear is to say goodbye.
So today I'm feeling ever hopeful, but mostly empty, shell shocked and in disbelief as the wheel of life continues to turn 💔"
I hope things all work out in the best possible way for you lovely and sending a huge virtual hug too x |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I go through a period once a year where I can lose days sitting on the sofa staring aimlessly. I make no effort to contact people and sit alone not even thinking.
Then just like that it's gone and I'm back to being me again.
I think my mind needs it as a well earned rest from the world outside. "
Yes! It's a sort of low energy day truly dialled up. You're recharging and in shutdown mode. Makes perfect sense to me. |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I’m doing okay (ish), considering my circumstances but I just wish the anxiety to go away and let me enjoy my life."
Ach Dee, anxiety is crap. Even more so when joined with its bedfellow overthinking. Do you have things in place that help reduce it? |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"Absolutely horrendous to be honest but I just soldier on. I’m throwing myself head first into my work and going to the gym as much as possible and then when I come out the other end of this it won’t look so shit."
Hopefully the other end isn't too far away for you, Geordie. And going to the gym is great when things are difficult, you have the added bonus of feeling and looking better after getting lost in the temporary stress relief of it. x |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"Happy, excited, slightly apprehensive, tired, proud, determined, horny, frustrated, wavering oh-so-slightly on the edge of burnout if I don't reel things in.
I think "content" is the appropriate umbrella term to use, here."
Yay Nell! Content is lovely. Are you having a kid in a sweetshop phase? Avoid that burnout please, lil' hobbit. |
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I have the most beautiful day to look forward to with 3 beautiful ladies to spoil and be the fun uncle they love to spend time with 🥰
The it’s life evaluation time and what I want to do, go when I’m made redundant.
Travelling is the first necessity and some beautiful reset time.
Then it’s where I want to go from there….so much to think about but I’m excited to see where life will take me 🥰 |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I’ve a major health issue, but it’s out of my hands what happens next, I’ve accepted my fate whatever happens and enjoy each day that comes "
That's a beautiful attitude to have. I hope you're able to enjoy the days ahead, x |
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Brain a - overjoyed, accomplished, proud and now refreshed after a much needed good sleep
Brain b - confused, irritated, excited, - this generally precedes a mistake
Brain c - hungry, twitchy, ready to jump into action.
Brain d - is the fuck it bucket of hatred. Currently half full and at a steady simmer |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"No im lost, not geographically, im just aimless, nothing is actually going to the best case scenario plan so its grinding everything out and life is an actual struggle, on the surface things look ok, the house is tidy there’s food in the fridge I have my health and I’m not skint but my god is this it? My soul feels empty, objectively I’m in a far better position than a lot of people but we are meant for more surely "
We are Gregg... how that looks is so different for everyone though. You've got to find your own things that bring meaning to your life. Real joy. If you go through the motions and don't really live it's easy enough to feel disheartened. Aimless. Hopefully you'll find your joy before too long. |
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"I’m doing okay (ish), considering my circumstances but I just wish the anxiety to go away and let me enjoy my life.
Ach Dee, anxiety is crap. Even more so when joined with its bedfellow overthinking. Do you have things in place that help reduce it?"
Yes Meli. I’m waiting to start my HRT routine once I have other things under control. I believe it will help me to get back to my normal self. So that’s my first step and fingers crossed it works. |
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I’m a little frustrated as my plans for today have been killed by the weather.
Other than that though I’m enjoying exploring and learning more about me and seeing where that journey takes me.
I have a list of things I’d like to do and try and I’m actively working on doing them. |
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"Absolutely horrendous to be honest but I just soldier on. I’m throwing myself head first into my work and going to the gym as much as possible and then when I come out the other end of this it won’t look so shit.
Hopefully the other end isn't too far away for you, Geordie. And going to the gym is great when things are difficult, you have the added bonus of feeling and looking better after getting lost in the temporary stress relief of it. x"
Thanks. It’s the only thing keeping me sane at the moment and I’ve set my self achievable goals which will make me feel 10x better when I hit them. |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I think I'm kinda just coasting through life, I'm happy, I'm in a good place, better than I've been for a long time but stuff with my kids, stuff breaking and can't afford to fix at the moment is in the back of my mind but like anything, I'll cope x"
I hope you do GMALB - it's not always easy is it? When you've got things on the back on your mind they're not readily quiet. I hope your happy keeps growing and you're able to tackle things as needed, when needed, x |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I'm not sure... life deals some real shitty blows. All that is left i fear is to say goodbye.
So today I'm feeling ever hopeful, but mostly empty, shell shocked and in disbelief as the wheel of life continues to turn 💔"
Oh Midnight, sending you love. Life can be incredibly shitty but you have the privilege of being able to say goodbye. Having those times that make saying goodbye even harder. It's not something I'd wish on anyone though, least of all you. That wheel of life will keep turning but I hope you can pause it and take the time for you. ❤️ |
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Fab me: Best I’ve been since joining the site. I’m having the most laughs, giggles and smiles with zero pressure or expectations. I actually look forward to logging in again rather than it being a thing that passed the time. Just booking socials and bantering with some top top people so the next couple of months will also be incredible 
Non fab me: Has a lot to get under control in the next 5 days but is ok with that. Need some structure back in my life and a consistent gym routine. Generally happy and content in general  |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"Tired, happier though, and a little hornier 😇 Also excited to finally be able to use normal emojis 🥵
LvM"
Lorenzo! It feels like you're slowly going back to you. You and your wife. Good, that makes me happy, I've missed your gentle smutty, flirty ways. And also, it's nice when my friends are happier. You two deserve to be.
And hornier*
*because I'm a perv. |
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My current ‘right now’ mood is tired and horny with a large dollop of flashbacks!
My general mood lately though has been pretty happy, most aspects of adulting are going very well and I’m happy with our relationships.
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I tend to aim for content, I being content is the foundation to be able to feel happiness or joy when the opportunities occur spontaneously. Usually from doing something that feels meaningful, relationships usually with people I love or work, hobbies etc.
I am reasonably content, too much faffing about, driving have to deal with bullshit going on for my liking. I'd quite like to move out into the sticks, bake bread and tend to my olives, spot of fishing once in a while.
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I have a bit of time off now which I hope will get rid of the exhaustion that has plagued me recently. Things in life are generally good, so when energetic I should be contented and can enjoy things properly. |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"Shite today every time I have a enjoyable day the nightmares and flashbacks torment me losing my will to fight "
Oh Matt - do you have close ones you can talk to about this? It sounds really awful and quite lonely x |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I have the most beautiful day to look forward to with 3 beautiful ladies to spoil and be the fun uncle they love to spend time with 🥰
The it’s life evaluation time and what I want to do, go when I’m made redundant.
Travelling is the first necessity and some beautiful reset time.
Then it’s where I want to go from there….so much to think about but I’m excited to see where life will take me 🥰"
Yay Preston! This is lovely to read and full of positivity. Definitely sounds like travel is important to you and that's good - it can really help you recharge. Make you appreciate life that more.
Hopefully life takes you exactly where you should be, in the best of ways. Enjoy the time with your family today 🩷 |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I haven't felt like "me" for so long I'm wondering if the new me has become the actual me.
Not in the best place atm but fully aware of that and understand the need for change so that's a positive x
You're looking radiant as ever x |
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"That’s actually quite a complicated question right now 🤣 I’m happy as I can be right now. A lots happened over the last year and I feel really content to be over the worst of it. But menopause is kicking my arse at the moment and it’s a bit of a battle mentally and physically. But like everything, this too will pass. So just hoping it settles soon and I can crack on with life. "
Have to agree hun the last couple of years been tough but nothing compared to the menopause that does suck I'm on my second lot of treatment as first only worked for 6 months |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"Brain a - overjoyed, accomplished, proud and now refreshed after a much needed good sleep
Brain b - confused, irritated, excited, - this generally precedes a mistake
Brain c - hungry, twitchy, ready to jump into action.
Brain d - is the fuck it bucket of hatred. Currently half full and at a steady simmer"
I like the different minds layout. It's... different. In a good way. Brain A sounds like a winner. Brain D sounds like it's needed but hopefully the simmer doesn't explode messily! |
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"I’ve been better. Lost a family member recently so navigating through that.
Life sucks sometimes but trying to be grateful for the things that are good."
I'm so sorry for your loss.. sending hugs xx |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"You know me OP, it’s a day at a time, today’s an ok day so far. I try not to think too far in front of dealing with today. "
I do Mr Wick. It's good today is an okay day so far, hopefully it stays that way. As it's quickly approaching Autumn, it's the perfect time for coffee and cake in Nero. 🩷 |
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By *HUSH-Man 13 weeks ago
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"I'm not sure... life deals some real shitty blows. All that is left i fear is to say goodbye.
So today I'm feeling ever hopeful, but mostly empty, shell shocked and in disbelief as the wheel of life continues to turn 💔"
Wishing you all the best Midnight. ❤️ |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I’m a little frustrated as my plans for today have been killed by the weather.
Other than that though I’m enjoying exploring and learning more about me and seeing where that journey takes me.
I have a list of things I’d like to do and try and I’m actively working on doing them. "
That sounds really rather positive LK, drizzly ruiner of plans aside. Exploring and learning are such important factors of life. Having that curiosity to learn more and discover more about yourself in the process. It sounds like you're actively choosing you, hope that continues.  |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"It’s okay. I’m in a good mood and have been for a while. Every now and then I peak and let myself go. Generally I’m happy. "
Yay Woody! You do seem far happier recently and it's lovely to read, x |
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"I’m a little frustrated as my plans for today have been killed by the weather.
Other than that though I’m enjoying exploring and learning more about me and seeing where that journey takes me.
I have a list of things I’d like to do and try and I’m actively working on doing them.
That sounds really rather positive LK, drizzly ruiner of plans aside. Exploring and learning are such important factors of life. Having that curiosity to learn more and discover more about yourself in the process. It sounds like you're actively choosing you, hope that continues. "
It most certainly is going to be continuing. 🙂 |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I’ve been better. Lost a family member recently so navigating through that.
Life sucks sometimes but trying to be grateful for the things that are good."
Sorry to read that MN.
You're allowed to feel like life sucks for as long as you need to. Gratitude is a wonderful thing but so is giving yourself time and space to grieve. x |
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"You know me OP, it’s a day at a time, today’s an ok day so far. I try not to think too far in front of dealing with today.
I do Mr Wick. It's good today is an okay day so far, hopefully it stays that way. As it's quickly approaching Autumn, it's the perfect time for coffee and cake in Nero. 🩷"
🎃 SL’s on me. ☺️ |
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I'm always in a good mood. ALWAYS.
Sometimes i'm low on energy e.g. dying of covid, flu, cold - have a pain somewhere but i'm generally high on spirit and energy. ( obvs i'm older n slower now but basically the same attitudes from my childhood )
I read an article the other day that I found interesting - it cited research that says your disposition is to a huge extent genetic.
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"I'm always in a good mood. ALWAYS.
Sometimes i'm low on energy e.g. dying of covid, flu, cold - have a pain somewhere but i'm generally high on spirit and energy. ( obvs i'm older n slower now but basically the same attitudes from my childhood )
I read an article the other day that I found interesting - it cited research that says your disposition is to a huge extent genetic.
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Fucking hell, Granny. Depress me why don't you?! That last sentence   |
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P.S. I'm always in a good mood but not a gibbering idiot type.
I have a serious disposition mainly and tend to laugh at life rather than jokes. Unless the joke is a pretty clever word play or observation
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"Fab me: Best I’ve been since joining the site. I’m having the most laughs, giggles and smiles with zero pressure or expectations. I actually look forward to logging in again rather than it being a thing that passed the time. Just booking socials and bantering with some top top people so the next couple of months will also be incredible
Non fab me: Has a lot to get under control in the next 5 days but is ok with that. Need some structure back in my life and a consistent gym routine. Generally happy and content in general "
Yay GTK! This was lovely to read, minus the thumbs up so I've removed it for you. Because I'm kind like that. Fab wise you seem to be in a brilliant place.
Like you I'm going to be aiming for consistency at the gym. Starting with a month first, hopefully I stick with it. |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"My current ‘right now’ mood is tired and horny with a large dollop of flashbacks!
My general mood lately though has been pretty happy, most aspects of adulting are going very well and I’m happy with our relationships.
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RelationshipS. Relationship-s.  Love this for you, AndSam. I think we're growing up and adulting rather beautifully right now aren't we?
I hope your beautiful penis isn't too tired and you have all the food to help with any lingering hangovers. |
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"I'm always in a good mood. ALWAYS.
Sometimes i'm low on energy e.g. dying of covid, flu, cold - have a pain somewhere but i'm generally high on spirit and energy. ( obvs i'm older n slower now but basically the same attitudes from my childhood )
I read an article the other day that I found interesting - it cited research that says your disposition is to a huge extent genetic.
Fucking hell, Granny. Depress me why don't you?! That last sentence "
It's a theory K.C. just one theory...  |
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"I'm always in a good mood. ALWAYS.
Sometimes i'm low on energy e.g. dying of covid, flu, cold - have a pain somewhere but i'm generally high on spirit and energy. ( obvs i'm older n slower now but basically the same attitudes from my childhood )
I read an article the other day that I found interesting - it cited research that says your disposition is to a huge extent genetic.
Fucking hell, Granny. Depress me why don't you?! That last sentence
It's a theory K.C. just one theory... "
Theory = something that explains known facts, has substantial and replicable evidence for it |
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"I'm always in a good mood. ALWAYS.
Sometimes i'm low on energy e.g. dying of covid, flu, cold - have a pain somewhere but i'm generally high on spirit and energy. ( obvs i'm older n slower now but basically the same attitudes from my childhood )
I read an article the other day that I found interesting - it cited research that says your disposition is to a huge extent genetic.
Fucking hell, Granny. Depress me why don't you?! That last sentence
It's a theory K.C. just one theory...
Theory = something that explains known facts, has substantial and replicable evidence for it "
You know better than that tut ..... |
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"I'm always in a good mood. ALWAYS.
Sometimes i'm low on energy e.g. dying of covid, flu, cold - have a pain somewhere but i'm generally high on spirit and energy. ( obvs i'm older n slower now but basically the same attitudes from my childhood )
I read an article the other day that I found interesting - it cited research that says your disposition is to a huge extent genetic.
Fucking hell, Granny. Depress me why don't you?! That last sentence
It's a theory K.C. just one theory...
Theory = something that explains known facts, has substantial and replicable evidence for it
You know better than that tut ..... "
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I tend to aim for content, I being content is the foundation to be able to feel happiness or joy when the opportunities occur spontaneously. Usually from doing something that feels meaningful, relationships usually with people I love or work, hobbies etc.
I am reasonably content, too much faffing about, driving have to deal with bullshit going on for my liking. I'd quite like to move out into the sticks, bake bread and tend to my olives, spot of fishing once in a while.
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Content is a good stepping zone. Reasonably so even more so, Hans. I hope that faffing eases for you soon though.
P.S Why does tending to your olives sound really quite sexual? |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"Mixed bag to be honest. I’m tired, it is tough going for me right now but I’m battling through, and mostly still smiling "
🩷 Hopefully those smiles continue and things are brighter and easier for you soon. |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"im in a good place,, but i do miss a female work colleague who left for another job we do meet up now and again for a drink, but miss our daily coffee breaks and chats,,very fond of her"
Oh it can be tough when a colleague leaves can't it? It's that routine, knowing they're there. Are you still talking away from work? |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I've reached a level of acceptance following a recent family bereavement. In a odd way I feel calmer than I've felt in years now that stress has been removed.
I describe my mood as content with a very occasional wobble when memories hit from left field x |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"This morning: Rested , hungry, and the lowest painlevels I've had fora while.
I'm not doing anything to jeopardise that either.🙂"
Yay Zagato! Don't jeopardise it, it sounds really positive. Do you know what's great for hunger? Really good cheese.😊 |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I am feeling good, I am off to a swinging party at Naked Occasions club this evening, hopefully I will be blowing out a lot of birthday candles. Xx
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Oh have fun Cherry, that sounds fantastic. Blow out all the candles, you can do it, x |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I have a bit of time off now which I hope will get rid of the exhaustion that has plagued me recently. Things in life are generally good, so when energetic I should be contented and can enjoy things properly. "
Dee? I'm guessing it's Dee. Getting rid of that exhaustion sounds well deserved and needed. Hopefully it'll mean a return to your shameless flirty ways as well |
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My main mood at the moment is guilt. Compared to many I have a good life so I feel guilty about how bad I feel and how much I don't want to be here. I need to keep remembering the good things and not judge myself so harshly |
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"I tend to aim for content, I being content is the foundation to be able to feel happiness or joy when the opportunities occur spontaneously. Usually from doing something that feels meaningful, relationships usually with people I love or work, hobbies etc.
I am reasonably content, too much faffing about, driving have to deal with bullshit going on for my liking. I'd quite like to move out into the sticks, bake bread and tend to my olives, spot of fishing once in a while.
Content is a good stepping zone. Reasonably so even more so, Hans. I hope that faffing eases for you soon though.
P.S Why does tending to your olives sound really quite sexual? "
Thank you. I'm working on it, but progress feels slow.
I'm not sure, the patient delicate nurturing touch can do it for me too though. There's a kind of inference of sensitivity that's conducive to attunement and those delicious feedback loops?
Like when someone bites into your olives; their face illuminates with joy and they say: wow what's your secret?
Grown with love ❤️ nature is smarter than people think. |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I haven't felt like "me" for so long I'm wondering if the new me has become the actual me.
Not in the best place atm but fully aware of that and understand the need for change so that's a positive x
You're looking radiant as ever x "
Knowing and understanding that need for change is half the battle isn't it? You'll find yourself again Cinnamon.
And thank you, that's really lovely to read, x |
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"Currently sat in watching a documentary on Nat Geo (sad to some but I am a nerd), will take my dog it for a long hike later Sounds like a lovely afternoon
Going to be a friends BBQ tonight too "
Very nice hope you have the weather for it xx |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I’m alright. I recently turned 37 so I’m always in quite a reflective mood around my birthday. Not down or anything. Just thinking about things.
How are you OP? "
I get that. Birthdays always make me feel reflective. A bit more inward looking than at other times. I'm good - a bit crampy but very happy with life and those in it. |
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I've had an extraordinary 12 months.
I was given some confronting news from my doc which felt like a slap across the face, I was involved in 2 road crashes totalling my car both times, I split up with my partner after a decades long relationship, I bought a house and am struggling financially more now than in any point in my life.
But I am as happy as ever and incredibly grateful that I'm alive and kicking and swinging.
I'm loving life,😁 |
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"I've had an extraordinary 12 months.
I was given some confronting news from my doc which felt like a slap across the face, I was involved in 2 road crashes totalling my car both times, I split up with my partner after a decades long relationship, I bought a house and am struggling financially more now than in any point in my life.
But I am as happy as ever and incredibly grateful that I'm alive and kicking and swinging.
I'm loving life,😁"
My goodness that's a hell of a lot to go through, glad you're OK though xx |
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"I've had an extraordinary 12 months.
I was given some confronting news from my doc which felt like a slap across the face, I was involved in 2 road crashes totalling my car both times, I split up with my partner after a decades long relationship, I bought a house and am struggling financially more now than in any point in my life.
But I am as happy as ever and incredibly grateful that I'm alive and kicking and swinging.
I'm loving life,😁
My goodness that's a hell of a lot to go through, glad you're OK though xx"
Thanks miss K,
I'm doing better than ok though, I'm have a blast,😁 |
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"Stressing out over my cv, personal statement is a bitch. 
It can be tricky sorting it out - made any progress on it? Sometimes it can help getting a friend to read it over. "
No I kinda of had a small breakdown, so I'm going for a walk.
I've always struggled with talking about myself when there's something like a job involved |
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"I've had an extraordinary 12 months.
I was given some confronting news from my doc which felt like a slap across the face, I was involved in 2 road crashes totalling my car both times, I split up with my partner after a decades long relationship, I bought a house and am struggling financially more now than in any point in my life.
But I am as happy as ever and incredibly grateful that I'm alive and kicking and swinging.
I'm loving life,😁
My goodness that's a hell of a lot to go through, glad you're OK though xx
Thanks miss K,
I'm doing better than ok though, I'm have a blast,😁"
You're most welcome, and good on you @ xx |
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By *eli OP Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I'm always in a good mood. ALWAYS.
Sometimes i'm low on energy e.g. dying of covid, flu, cold - have a pain somewhere but i'm generally high on spirit and energy. ( obvs i'm older n slower now but basically the same attitudes from my childhood )
I read an article the other day that I found interesting - it cited research that says your disposition is to a huge extent genetic.
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I like that attitude; of course low energy is a real thing but maintaining a good mood? It's lovely and rare.
Genetic disposition? Hmmm. That explains a lot for me. |
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By *ookie46Woman 13 weeks ago
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"I've had an extraordinary 12 months.
I was given some confronting news from my doc which felt like a slap across the face, I was involved in 2 road crashes totalling my car both times, I split up with my partner after a decades long relationship, I bought a house and am struggling financially more now than in any point in my life.
But I am as happy as ever and incredibly grateful that I'm alive and kicking and swinging.
I'm loving life,😁"
You’re always a cup half full kinda guy ❤️ |
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"I've had an extraordinary 12 months.
I was given some confronting news from my doc which felt like a slap across the face, I was involved in 2 road crashes totalling my car both times, I split up with my partner after a decades long relationship, I bought a house and am struggling financially more now than in any point in my life.
But I am as happy as ever and incredibly grateful that I'm alive and kicking and swinging.
I'm loving life,😁
You’re always a cup half full kinda guy ❤️"
You bet ya Cookie, I really hope we get to have that coffee one day and have a good old yarn,😘 |
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Right now? Hmm. I'm feeling a bit frustrated about a few things, don't seem to be able to get anything done or achieve anything. But I'm trying to learn to let that desire go. Sex drive is low in some ways, high in others (it's complicated).
So, today I've mostly been focused on small things, like tidying, re-ordering things around the flat, stuff that I can actually do.
Also, I did receive a message (not on Fab) from a total stranger regarding something I do creatively which was unexpected and lovely, so I should be grateful for that (and am). |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I can't really say I am. There are a few things I'm frustrated by as it feels like I'm not in control of those situations and I'm not sure how to reconcile myself with that or how to navigate it. It's shit, I feel in limbo and I'm not sure what to do next other than hope it passes. |
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