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By *ralplease OP Man 14 weeks ago
El Campello, Alicante |
To the single males who manage somehow to get meets and then do not turn up. Fucking it up for the genuine singles men like myself hitting our heads against a brick wall and reading profiles stating "No single males" |
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"To the single males who manage somehow to get meets and then do not turn up. Fucking it up for the genuine singles men like myself hitting our heads against a brick wall and reading profiles stating "No single males""
It’s always someone else’s fault isn’t it |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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"To the single males who manage somehow to get meets and then do not turn up. Fucking it up for the genuine singles men like myself hitting our heads against a brick wall and reading profiles stating "No single males""
If my hypothetical friend decided with a few hours to spare that he was not going to turn up for a meeting at 15.00 this afternoon, how much notice would you want in order to get over from Alicante in order to stand in for me (oops, I mean him)? |
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I think the only people they fuck it up for are themselves . The only people really with reason to complain about it are those let down .
I’ve never let anyone down by not showing up , it’s always a possibility when do show up though  |
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By *vaRose43Woman 14 weeks ago
Forest of Dean |
"From the responses it appears that it is ok for a female or couple to get themselves ready and look forward to a meet that fails to materialise at short notice"
It’s not, and it sucked when it happened to me once. Shit happens though and just block and move on.
But I’d bet money on that not being the main reason some people choose not to single guys. |
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By *WB85Man 14 weeks ago
Staffordshire |
What makes it hard is the simple amount of single men on here. It makes it difficult to get yourself known.
That's just how it works though.
Maybe club meets or local social meets would help you. |
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By *og-ManMan 14 weeks ago
somewhere |
So do I get praise for all the single men that do turn up for meets as a single man...no I dont
Therefore it doesn't fuck it up for me when they don't turn up
There's probably thousands of reasons not to meet me ( I'm not selling myself well here am I )
Others that don't turn up is not one of them |
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We had 2 no shows and Nata lost interest
It was so confusing and felt unnecessary
She lost interest in swinging for a couple of years
Thankfully she has come back round and we met some lovely guys recently |
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Not everyone tars all single men with the same brush just because they've been on the receiving end of the dreamers, fantasists and the found out.
Ergo, I don't believe that the behaviours of a few is causative of men not getting meets and couples stating they don't want to meet single men. |
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"From the responses it appears that it is ok for a female or couple to get themselves ready and look forward to a meet that fails to materialise at short notice"
It definitely ain't just the single guys, it's the whole range of single females and couples too. |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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"To the single males who manage somehow to get meets and then do not turn up. Fucking it up for the genuine singles men like myself ….."
Aren’t they just fucking it up for themselves?
But, I do understand that we might get painted with the same brush by those not wise enough to see not everyone is the same.  |
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My meet this afternoon has just been cancelled. It's one of those to things. She doesn't owe me anything nor I her. I don't make Fab a priority it's a little annoying because I spent time getting ready but that's all. She knows I have a free weekend and I'm sure she will organise another day. I'll treat myself to some self play time instead. |
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By *ralplease OP Man 14 weeks ago
El Campello, Alicante |
"We had 2 no shows and Nata lost interest
It was so confusing and felt unnecessary
She lost interest in swinging for a couple of years
Thankfully she has come back round and we met some lovely guys recently "
At last someone who understands my post |
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"We had 2 no shows and Nata lost interest
It was so confusing and felt unnecessary
She lost interest in swinging for a couple of years
Thankfully she has come back round and we met some lovely guys recently
At last someone who understands my post"
I think most of us understand it. We just disagree.
I think there's a big amount of due diligence on both parties before a social or more.
Someone failing to show up doesn't spoil it for other single men. But then I'm never going to be a meet now/today/this week while I'm in your area person. |
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By *abioMan 14 weeks ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"To the single males who manage somehow to get meets and then do not turn up. Fucking it up for the genuine singles men like myself hitting our heads against a brick wall and reading profiles stating "No single males""
No……. That is absolutely a kop out statement!
That is an “I’m absolutely blameless it’s everyone else’s fault “ answer!
You do not effect how I go in my swinging … and I don’t effect how you are doing!
I actually encourage people to put up the no single males sign, especially if they are new! It gives them breathing space without being swamped on by people…
Also.. if they are interested in you.. they can still do that! I encourage them to be hunting rather than just the hunted |
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By *essTTWoman 14 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"To the single males who manage somehow to get meets and then do not turn up. Fucking it up for the genuine singles men like myself hitting our heads against a brick wall and reading profiles stating "No single males""
Nothing that men do on here doesnt really affect other men.
If people were interested in meeting you they would.
If people's someone's profile says they aren't interested in single men, it could be one of two things. 1 they aren't interested in any men or 2 they don't want to be bombarded with messages from men and prefer to make the first move. |
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By *enk15Man 14 weeks ago
Evesham |
"We had 2 no shows and Nata lost interest
It was so confusing and felt unnecessary
She lost interest in swinging for a couple of years
Thankfully she has come back round and we met some lovely guys recently
At last someone who understands my post"
I don't think you understand your own post tbh. |
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By *essTTWoman 14 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"To the single males who manage somehow to get meets and then do not turn up. Fucking it up for the genuine singles men like myself hitting our heads against a brick wall and reading profiles stating "No single males"
Nothing that men do on here doesnt really affect other men.
If people were interested in meeting you they would.
If people's someone's profile says they aren't interested in single men, it could be one of two things. 1 they aren't interested in any men or 2 they don't want to be bombarded with messages from men and prefer to make the first move. "
First sentence is a shambles sorry
What I meant to say was "Nothing that men do on here has an affect on other men. " |
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By *essTTWoman 14 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"From the responses it appears that it is ok for a female or couple to get themselves ready and look forward to a meet that fails to materialise at short notice"
Literally no one has said this??? |
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Sorry but who should I and others be punished for what some idiots have done.
If someone doesn't meet then that is on them, I'm happy to meet up for fun or socials etc and hopefully my verifications show this
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By *ralplease OP Man 14 weeks ago
El Campello, Alicante |
It is not directed to all single males as per the opening sentence. Yes some do have genuine reasons for having to pull out from a meet but I read time and time again about people being let down. It's not a cry for help from me. I have been around for long enough. I have had my fair share of people disappearing into to the woodwork when it is getting close to a meet. I just feel sorry for people being let down.
Wish I had never started the post. Adios as wont be bothering to read any more replies. Unfortunately I cannot delete it
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"To the single males who manage somehow to get meets and then do not turn up. Fucking it up for the genuine singles men like myself hitting our heads against a brick wall and reading profiles stating "No single males"
Nothing that men do on here doesnt really affect other men.
If people were interested in meeting you they would.
If people's someone's profile says they aren't interested in single men, it could be one of two things. 1 they aren't interested in any men or 2 they don't want to be bombarded with messages from men and prefer to make the first move. "
definitely the latter. |
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"It is not directed to all single males as per the opening sentence. Yes some do have genuine reasons for having to pull out from a meet but I read time and time again about people being let down. It's not a cry for help from me. I have been around for long enough. I have had my fair share of people disappearing into to the woodwork when it is getting close to a meet. I just feel sorry for people being let down.
Wish I had never started the post. Adios as wont be bothering to read any more replies. Unfortunately I cannot delete it
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you've had a rant about how you feel and a lot of people don't agree with you. Don't worry about it, just move on. |
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"From the responses it appears that it is ok for a female or couple to get themselves ready and look forward to a meet that fails to materialise at short notice"
Counterpoint: some people take responsibility for their lack of success instead of blaming it on others. |
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By *ralplease OP Man 14 weeks ago
El Campello, Alicante |
"From the responses it appears that it is ok for a female or couple to get themselves ready and look forward to a meet that fails to materialise at short notice
Counterpoint: some people take responsibility for their lack of success instead of blaming it on others."
It has fuck all to do with my success |
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"From the responses it appears that it is ok for a female or couple to get themselves ready and look forward to a meet that fails to materialise at short notice
Counterpoint: some people take responsibility for their lack of success instead of blaming it on others.
It has fuck all to do with my success"
Sure Jan. |
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To be fair there seems to be a lot of no show couples and women before we tear down the men. Or at least that's what we here over the years from many people we have talked to about the lifestyle and the gist we get from the forums. Also something we both experienced as singles many years ago. Because of this and our lack of flexibility with free time we genrally don't look to meet anyone off here (bar the occasional temptation). We stay opportunist swingers meeting people in clubs, parties and just out and about in the vanilla world.
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"To the single males who manage somehow to get meets and then do not turn up. Fucking it up for the genuine singles men like myself hitting our heads against a brick wall and reading profiles stating "No single males""
Yawn yawn yawn.
Blaming others for your own failings. |
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By *abioMan 14 weeks ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"It is not directed to all single males as per the opening sentence. Yes some do have genuine reasons for having to pull out from a meet but I read time and time again about people being let down. It's not a cry for help from me. I have been around for long enough. I have had my fair share of people disappearing into to the woodwork when it is getting close to a meet. I just feel sorry for people being let down.
Wish I had never started the post. Adios as wont be bothering to read any more replies. Unfortunately I cannot delete it
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Please don’t paint yourself as being the victim here… you do true victims of any sort a huge disservice….
You started this thread with a premise you thought was true, people are telling you that is not the case…
You can be open minded and learn and consider it growth, Or you can stick your fingers in your ears and shout la la la!
Which is the more adult response?
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"It is not directed to all single males as per the opening sentence. Yes some do have genuine reasons for having to pull out from a meet but I read time and time again about people being let down. It's not a cry for help from me. I have been around for long enough. I have had my fair share of people disappearing into to the woodwork when it is getting close to a meet. I just feel sorry for people being let down.
Wish I had never started the post. Adios as wont be bothering to read any more replies. Unfortunately I cannot delete it
Please don’t paint yourself as being the victim here… you do true victims of any sort a huge disservice….
You started this thread with a premise you thought was true, people are telling you that is not the case…
You can be open minded and learn and consider it growth, Or you can stick your fingers in your ears and shout la la la!
Which is the more adult response?
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By *essTTWoman 14 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"To be fair there seems to be a lot of no show couples and women before we tear down the men. Or at least that's what we here over the years from many people we have talked to about the lifestyle and the gist we get from the forums. Also something we both experienced as singles many years ago. Because of this and our lack of flexibility with free time we genrally don't look to meet anyone off here (bar the occasional temptation). We stay opportunist swingers meeting people in clubs, parties and just out and about in the vanilla world.
Mr"
No shows are not gender specific lol
Loads of women and couples do it as well, never understood why only men get the blame for it |
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By *ed OpiumWoman 14 weeks ago
Never Never Land |
it says no single males when you put the filters on because you dont want to be inundated with messages. Some single guys are dicks and some arent - it just takes time to speak to people and find out who is who - thats just how it is ! |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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"To the single males who manage somehow to get meets and then do not turn up. Fucking it up for the genuine singles men like myself hitting our heads against a brick wall and reading profiles stating "No single males""
Still not sure how your two sentences connect.
What is the correlation between men not turning up for meets and women putting 'no single men'? Some women may not want to meet men, some may only want to meet couples, some may like to meet married men only.
How does it affect you? Surely if someone has put 'no single men' it just helps you with your selection process. |
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"From the responses it appears that it is ok for a female or couple to get themselves ready and look forward to a meet that fails to materialise at short notice
Counterpoint: some people take responsibility for their lack of success instead of blaming it on others.
It has fuck all to do with my success"
But you specifically said:
Fucking it up for the genuine singles men like myself hitting our heads against a brick wall and reading profiles stating "No single males"
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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"From the responses it appears that it is ok for a female or couple to get themselves ready and look forward to a meet that fails to materialise at short notice"
Exactly, also, hotel room expenses, child care, our time is valuable to us (as is most peoples). We'd had a few no shows lately and it's really not ok.
Obviously we understand this is happen from time to time but when we've arranged a meet 4 weeks in advance to be told a few days before the meet "sorry I've double booked you" feels very unreasonable.
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If a couple or single says “no single males”, then that’s their preference. I don’t see the correlation between single guys failing and couples/individuals having a preference?
Unless I’m completely missing the point here? 🤔 |
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When we first joined we met a single guy a few times and played it was great. Then he just didn’t turn up to a meet we’d arranged (we’d paid for hotel etc)
We opened up our profile again to single men the other year and arranged 10 social meets over the month. 8 cancelled 1 just didn’t turn up and the guy we met I didn’t like! Hey ho.
Then the other week we’d been chatting to a couple of guys, arranged socials, both cancelled.
This is why I’m fed up with wasting my time on single guy profiles
Mrs J  |
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By *abioMan 14 weeks ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"When we first joined we met a single guy a few times and played it was great. Then he just didn’t turn up to a meet we’d arranged (we’d paid for hotel etc)
We opened up our profile again to single men the other year and arranged 10 social meets over the month. 8 cancelled 1 just didn’t turn up and the guy we met I didn’t like! Hey ho.
Then the other week we’d been chatting to a couple of guys, arranged socials, both cancelled.
This is why I’m fed up with wasting my time on single guy profiles
Mrs J "
And to that I always say… if you know you are after a particular type of person, don’t wait on them to come to you!… a no single guy’s block doesn’t stop you from making the first move!
Which is why I encourage couples to put it on!!! Be the hunters not the hunted!! |
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By *bi HaiveMan 14 weeks ago
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"When we first joined we met a single guy a few times and played it was great. Then he just didn’t turn up to a meet we’d arranged (we’d paid for hotel etc)
We opened up our profile again to single men the other year and arranged 10 social meets over the month. 8 cancelled 1 just didn’t turn up and the guy we met I didn’t like! Hey ho.
Then the other week we’d been chatting to a couple of guys, arranged socials, both cancelled.
This is why I’m fed up with wasting my time on single guy profiles
Mrs J
And to that I always say… if you know you are after a particular type of person, don’t wait on them to come to you!… a no single guy’s block doesn’t stop you from making the first move!
Which is why I encourage couples to put it on!!! Be the hunters not the hunted!!"
This is why the majority of people I meet have come from networking at clubs and socials. No stress of 'will someone turn up?' to a one to one social you've had to arrange yourself.
Plus you generally tend to get 'known' in those situations. Word of mouth amongst friends has led to many a meet for people I know. Works both ways of course. If you get a less than favourable reputation word travels fast, but that's on you to ensure it doesn't happen. Find a good group of friends and it generally leads to ongoing introductions without having to rely solely on the Internet to make new contacts. 😁 |
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Yep we have a nice group of friends we regularly meet up with for fun and friendship including couples/single guy!/single females.
We have been to loads of organised socials and love them and been to a few organised parties too and go to clubs.
I was just explaining why we put a block on single guys now, we either message direct or meet at organised socials or clubs. |
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"To the single males who manage somehow to get meets...
It's not "somehow" my dear squire, it is from possessing oodles of charm, beguilement and gentlemanly virtues."
The people who don't turn up were only pretending to have those qualities, along with chiselled abs and an above average appendage.
If it seems too good to be true.... |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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How is it ironic? Was he not just expressing disappointment as a tall man (5'11") that some do not want tall men (or maybe he does not want tall men cos he does not want to feel small) |
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"To the single males who manage somehow to get meets and then do not turn up. Fucking it up for the genuine singles men like myself hitting our heads against a brick wall and reading profiles stating "No single males""
😂😂🤣🤣 |
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 OP is on the money with his observations in our opinion (for what it is worth lol)
Lots of blokes talking the talk but when it comes down to meeting they don't show up in fact the last 7 meets have ghosted us |
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" OP is on the money with his observations in our opinion (for what it is worth lol)
Lots of blokes talking the talk but when it comes down to meeting they don't show up in fact the last 7 meets have ghosted us "
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Was it the same person who ghosted you, seven times? |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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" OP is on the money with his observations in our opinion (for what it is worth lol)
Lots of blokes talking the talk but when it comes down to meeting they don't show up in fact the last 7 meets have ghosted us "
Preston is a long way away. |
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