I see posts where people discuss fetishising skin colour , ethnicity etc and some find it off putting or in some cases offensive. My question is what’s the difference between a preference and a fetish - is there a definitive line between the two.
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I'd say reference is a leaning towards a certain thing, in this case skin colour but not to exclusion if all others. Where there is a genuine attraction. Fetishising is when it excludes other and dominates that person's thinking |
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"I'd say reference is a leaning towards a certain thing, in this case skin colour but not to exclusion if all others. Where there is a genuine attraction. Fetishising is when it excludes other and dominates that person's thinking"
So the line for you would be where it becomes an unhealthy obsession? Makes sense to me.. where it becomes objectification. |
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The real definition of a fetish is that you have to have that to gain sexual satisfaction
Compared to a kink which is something you like
Take high heels as an example.
You may have a kink for high heels which means you like to wear them or someone to wear them. It excites you
A fetish for high heels would mean that you cannot achieve sexual gratification without you or a partner or both wearing them
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"The real definition of a fetish is that you have to have that to gain sexual satisfaction
Compared to a kink which is something you like
Take high heels as an example.
You may have a kink for high heels which means you like to wear them or someone to wear them. It excites you
A fetish for high heels would mean that you cannot achieve sexual gratification without you or a partner or both wearing them
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Ok that’s very clear - |
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I asked this question because I have seen threads regarding this and wondered what people’s interpretation was and if it was what I thought - and it kind of was but it’s always nice to have other peoples opinions. |
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I’m think they can be pretty similar. I think come folks confuse fetish with addiction or something unhealthy, but I don’t think it is. Fetish can be just a little thing you like, especially if it’s not a mainstream thing…. ….i think….    |
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Oxford definition;
a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity or a part of the body other than the sexual organs.
"a man with a fetish for surgical masks" |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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"Yes there is a line.
But what is that line?
It’s a fab straight line.
I think im more clueless mow than when I started - and that was a high bar!! "
One person’s preference is another’s fetish/kink |
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"Oxford definition;
a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity or a part of the body other than the sexual organs.
"a man with a fetish for surgical masks""
Preference:
a greater liking for one alternative over another or others.
"her preference for white wine"
Seems the answer is that one needs a fetish, but one chooses a preference.
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"I'd say reference is a leaning towards a certain thing, in this case skin colour but not to exclusion if all others. Where there is a genuine attraction. Fetishising is when it excludes other and dominates that person's thinking"
So a same race couple, any colour, only play with people of their own race, is that a Fetish?
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"Oxford definition;
a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity or a part of the body other than the sexual organs.
"a man with a fetish for surgical masks"
Preference:
a greater liking for one alternative over another or others.
"her preference for white wine"
Seems the answer is that one needs a fetish, but one chooses a preference.
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I think people with fetishes can enjoy sexual gratification without the thing they fetishise but it is not complete or full sexual gratification? |
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"I'd say reference is a leaning towards a certain thing, in this case skin colour but not to exclusion if all others. Where there is a genuine attraction. Fetishising is when it excludes other and dominates that person's thinkingSo a same race couple, any colour, only play with people of their own race, is that a Fetish?
Mrs x"
Perhaps if the skin colour is the thing they require in order achieve sexual gratification, it could be. But I’d wonder if anyone has even bothered to explore it further |
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"I'd say reference is a leaning towards a certain thing, in this case skin colour but not to exclusion if all others. Where there is a genuine attraction. Fetishising is when it excludes other and dominates that person's thinkingSo a same race couple, any colour, only play with people of their own race, is that a Fetish?
Mrs x
Perhaps if the skin colour is the thing they require in order achieve sexual gratification, it could be. But I’d wonder if anyone has even bothered to explore it further "
It's just you see loads of profiles excluding other races. I was just wondering... Mrs x |
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"Oxford definition;
a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity or a part of the body other than the sexual organs.
"a man with a fetish for surgical masks"
Preference:
a greater liking for one alternative over another or others.
"her preference for white wine"
Seems the answer is that one needs a fetish, but one chooses a preference.
I think people with fetishes can enjoy sexual gratification without the thing they fetishise but it is not complete or full sexual gratification? "
I wasn’t sure myself so posted the dictionary definitions, but they aren’t always up to date with the latest sexy parlance. |
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