I have extreme anxiety and I hate phone calls. I will only video call with people I know very well and usually it’s just my immediate family.
I’ll send an everyday face photo so they know what I -really- look like and I will always meet in a public place. If that is not satisfactory, then it’s my loss… 🤣🤣🤣 |
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"A lot of people do but we don't. We always meet for a drink first anyway so if they don't turn up or look vastly different to their pictures we've still had a trip out. "
100% - always a social meet first to check out the lie of the land. Best for both parties. Also a phone chat too prior to social. There seem to be a lot of couples profiles who are just guys |
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"I hate phone calls with strangers. Turning up, hoping for the best and getting naked with them is much easier than answering a phonecall  "
Same!
I interact with literally hundreds of people everyday at work, no biggie. But don’t make me make a phonecall because I become an anxious, clumsy, stammering mess haha |
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"A lot of people do but we don't. We always meet for a drink first anyway so if they don't turn up or look vastly different to their pictures we've still had a trip out.
100% - always a social meet first to check out the lie of the land. Best for both parties. Also a phone chat too prior to social. There seem to be a lot of couples profiles who are just guys"
There are many reasons why we just have a brief social. I understand why people insist on phone calls but we never found them to be all that useful. An in person tells you so much more |
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"A lot of people do but we don't. We always meet for a drink first anyway so if they don't turn up or look vastly different to their pictures we've still had a trip out.
100% - always a social meet first to check out the lie of the land. Best for both parties. Also a phone chat too prior to social. There seem to be a lot of couples profiles who are just guys
There are many reasons why we just have a brief social. I understand why people insist on phone calls but we never found them to be all that useful. An in person tells you so much more"
It totally does but before that in person meet I still want a call
Sadly there are too many fake accounts on here that mean that trust for me has gone without a call or video chat |
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No , I never insist on anything specific but usually chat on WhatsApp for a while.
Sometimes exchange voice notes or have a phone call. It’s very organic I understand that different people have different levels of comfort around meeting people from the Internet .
I am very good at quickly identifying time wasters or problematic people, just by message content.
I think generally people can see very quickly I’m genuine and a safe bet though |
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I prefer to have a phone chat first, so that I feel more connected to someone and we can ask real-time questions, guaging responses, rather than prepared texts interaction.
It's less like meeting a stranger, when we get together.  |
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"I like a video call but I know a lot don't like this.
Verified or not makes no difference.
I insist on the Snapchat animal filters being on "
Morning
Is that those piggy faces etc, that loads of pics used to be?  |
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"A lot of people do but we don't. We always meet for a drink first anyway so if they don't turn up or look vastly different to their pictures we've still had a trip out.
100% - always a social meet first to check out the lie of the land. Best for both parties. Also a phone chat too prior to social. There seem to be a lot of couples profiles who are just guys
There are many reasons why we just have a brief social. I understand why people insist on phone calls but we never found them to be all that useful. An in person tells you so much more
It totally does but before that in person meet I still want a call
Sadly there are too many fake accounts on here that mean that trust for me has gone without a call or video chat "
That's fair. I think the type of person interested in us is more likely to turn up and although they have sometimes very obviously been economical with their days of birth are usually more of less similar to their photos |
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"I prefer to be bitterly disappointed on the meeting and mentally work out at what point do I hit the 'emergency excuse' button."
 does it generate random family illnesses and pet rescue situations? |
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"I prefer to be bitterly disappointed on the meeting and mentally work out at what point do I hit the 'emergency excuse' button.
does it generate random family illnesses and pet rescue situations?"
To be fair and in all honesty I have been bitten on more than one occasion with the old photo trick or trading standards description.
But always have a lovely social and never hit the button.
But I always find that because it's a lovely social it's harder to say that they are not for you (as well as possible mixed messaging when I am clearly enjoying a coffee with them). |
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