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Does anyone else struggle to find a partner/BF/GF who is interested in the kink scene but also wants to have a normal relationship outwith it?
I feel like I kinda fall into this weird middle ground where the usual dating apps are no use because if I mention it, all chat turns into guys just thinking I’m a sex pest and want me for only that but then on here, obviously Fab isn’t a dating site so… where’s the middle ground? Where’s the app/site for people like me who want a relationship but with someone that will bend me over in front of a crowd of people 🤣🙈?? |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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I feel you! I’m looking for something similar. My profile is pretty clear about what I’m after. Dating apps have not felt the right place for this. Who knows what will happen! |
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"I feel you! I’m looking for something similar. My profile is pretty clear about what I’m after. Dating apps have not felt the right place for this. Who knows what will happen!"
It’s crazy! Maybe I’ll start an app for this lll… heard it here first folks - I’m patenting this 🤣🤣 xx |
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"Does anyone else struggle to find a partner/BF/GF who is interested in the kink scene but also wants to have a normal relationship outwith it?
I feel like I kinda fall into this weird middle ground where the usual dating apps are no use because if I mention it, all chat turns into guys just thinking I’m a sex pest and want me for only that but then on here, obviously Fab isn’t a dating site so… where’s the middle ground? Where’s the app/site for people like me who want a relationship but with someone that will bend me over in front of a crowd of people 🤣🙈??"
I'm with you on this!
I joined Fab because of a similar experience of sharing this side of myself on there and men aren't able to get past it, just see you as someone for sex and nothing else. |
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"Those kind of relationships can be found and do develop here.
I must be looking in the wrong places lol 🙈 I’ve found it to be the opposite where it scares men off x"
I think it’s a difficult thing for people to get their head around, it sounds to me like you are looking for someone to do all the usual relationship things with, and have kinky sex, but not have the commitment of a relationship, is that right? |
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"Those kind of relationships can be found and do develop here.
I must be looking in the wrong places lol 🙈 I’ve found it to be the opposite where it scares men off x
I think it’s a difficult thing for people to get their head around, it sounds to me like you are looking for someone to do all the usual relationship things with, and have kinky sex, but not have the commitment of a relationship, is that right?"
Mmmmm… not quite. I want all the traditional relationship stuff but… with someone really kinky and happy to share me lol 😂. Like.. when all the other couples are sat with a Chinese watching a film on a Saturday, we’re at a club, socialising and maybe getting railed as well 🙈😆 x |
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We met through Fab and even though neither one of us was looking for a relationship at the time, we ended up married 😂
We know many couples who started as a random Fab meet, liked each other a lot, and ended up in a relationship.
Good luck in your search OP 😉
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"Those kind of relationships can be found and do develop here.
I must be looking in the wrong places lol 🙈 I’ve found it to be the opposite where it scares men off x
I think it’s a difficult thing for people to get their head around, it sounds to me like you are looking for someone to do all the usual relationship things with, and have kinky sex, but not have the commitment of a relationship, is that right?
Mmmmm… not quite. I want all the traditional relationship stuff but… with someone really kinky and happy to share me lol 😂. Like.. when all the other couples are sat with a Chinese watching a film on a Saturday, we’re at a club, socialising and maybe getting railed as well 🙈😆 x"
Us men are delicate little flowers, it’s unusual you find one of us whose ego can cope with the sharing part! If you aren’t into sharing too then a cuckold relationship might be right for you, but beware if that’s what you’re after as you’ll be fighting the fakers off with a shitty stick.
Keep at it though, we are out there and good things are worth waiting for. |
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"We met through Fab and even though neither one of us was looking for a relationship at the time, we ended up married 😂
We know many couples who started as a random Fab meet, liked each other a lot, and ended up in a relationship.
Good luck in your search OP 😉
K "
Ooft… can’t say I’m surprised he wifey’d you… 🥵🥵🥵… I’m 100% straight but my god, you’re stunning!!
Who knows what will happen - I’m not holding my breath lol 😂 xxx |
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Us men are delicate little flowers, it’s unusual you find one of us whose ego can cope with the sharing part! If you aren’t into sharing too then a cuckold relationship might be right for you, but beware if that’s what you’re after as you’ll be fighting the fakers off with a shitty stick.
Keep at it though, we are out there and good things are worth waiting for."
Yeah I completely understand but that’s not a necessity as such, I’d just love to be in amongst the filth and excitement of swinging, even if it meant it was just the two of us who played or we each agreed to have playmates outwith our relationship. |
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By *eavenNhellCouple 15 weeks ago
carrbrook stalybridge |
have you looked at the fetish scene as many are more open to polygamoury and variants of it we have been lucky to have two relationships with others like what you are seeking through fetish eventsv |
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"Those kind of relationships can be found and do develop here.
I must be looking in the wrong places lol 🙈 I’ve found it to be the opposite where it scares men off x
I think it’s a difficult thing for people to get their head around, it sounds to me like you are looking for someone to do all the usual relationship things with, and have kinky sex, but not have the commitment of a relationship, is that right?
Mmmmm… not quite. I want all the traditional relationship stuff but… with someone really kinky and happy to share me lol 😂. Like.. when all the other couples are sat with a Chinese watching a film on a Saturday, we’re at a club, socialising and maybe getting railed as well 🙈😆 x"
Sounds like a dream hehe
As long as I can watch or join in
And talk about all your desires
I’m unshockable and want my queen happy 😊
Even if that means she wants to try other guys
So what
Let’s experience together |
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I've tended to find a number of folk on dating sites/alt sites are on here anyway. I'm very happily single, but have had a few longer term fwb I've found on here. Tends to happen when you just click though and naturally progresses from there. So the standard keeping in touch, turns into talking a lot. And meeting up turns into doing stuff together outside the kinky bits...
I've never found it by looking though, and I think some men balk if you say you're seeking a fwb/partner from the off 
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I'm polyamorous (and kinky), I met my partner on okc, and have met two previous partners on there too. It can happen, just the pool of suitable people is smaller so it is harder work sifting through. |
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My current romantic and play partners have all come through fab. It can be hard to find people who are open to it though, especially as a lot of people on fab seem to think that emotional is a dirty word.
The best approach that I’ve found is to stop actively looking for it but just remain open to the possibility. Find people that you like, that you want to spend time with and just let the connection be what it is |
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"My current romantic and play partners have all come through fab. It can be hard to find people who are open to it though, especially as a lot of people on fab seem to think that emotional is a dirty word.
The best approach that I’ve found is to stop actively looking for it but just remain open to the possibility. Find people that you like, that you want to spend time with and just let the connection be what it is"
I like this. I know this comment is for the OP but I appreciate this reminder  |
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"My current romantic and play partners have all come through fab. It can be hard to find people who are open to it though, especially as a lot of people on fab seem to think that emotional is a dirty word.
The best approach that I’ve found is to stop actively looking for it but just remain open to the possibility. Find people that you like, that you want to spend time with and just let the connection be what it is"
This is it exactly!!!   |
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By *oxy jWoman 15 weeks ago
somerset |
i think it tends to happen when not really looking for it just like it can happen anywhere else in life ..
me personally think looking for it on a sex lifestyle site / kink sites dont work for most ... yes a few will come out of the woodwork and say its worked for them as its a success but there are 1000s who dont want to talk about it as it was a disaster ...
there are 1000s of men saying they want relationships yet very few women and it seen the type of men women want relationship wise are very far and few between ...just my view |
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I feel this so much OP. Its super tricky isnt it. I want to have an amazing and adventurous sex life with someone who is also my best friend and my partner to share life with. And swingers are generally such nice people to get to know, i would love to keep it as part of my life X  |
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"You can find that here OP. I have. Although I wasn’t looking for that here at all. These things can and do happen 🌈
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We need to let the Vicår † know soon."
I’ve told Father David already. He’s cool with it. As is the baby Jesus 😇 |
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With complete authenticity - I have no idea what constitutes a normal relationship.
It's a great post though, given that it's a swinger's site with couples, then I can't for the life of me understand why people think it's not a site for relationships, or it's just for the sex. I think there's a plethora people on here looking for anything you can think of and more. Hence, why I find this place so interesting.
I am interested in relationships, swinging, kink, friendship, sex. Basically, meeting people and seeing what works for us. I have a partner, I hide nothing from her, I don't know about anyone else, but that seems 'normal' to me. |
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"I feel this so much OP. Its super tricky isnt it. I want to have an amazing and adventurous sex life with someone who is also my best friend and my partner to share life with. And swingers are generally such nice people to get to know, i would love to keep it as part of my life X "
This has been my goal, but gave up last year after a really bad experience. I have seen it happen for many people, it seems I will not be that lucky |
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By *bi HaiveMan 15 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"My current romantic and play partners have all come through fab. It can be hard to find people who are open to it though, especially as a lot of people on fab seem to think that emotional is a dirty word.
The best approach that I’ve found is to stop actively looking for it but just remain open to the possibility. Find people that you like, that you want to spend time with and just let the connection be what it is"
Yep. This. 👌👌
Sometimes the more you look the more frustrated you get. Just like in the outside world, if its going to happen it will naturally.
As for the speed dating idea previously mentioned? There's been many organised swinging speed dating events. Can be great, but as with any organised event or even just 1-2-1 meet/social, some will tell you what you want to hear in the hope of getting naked with you.
Better to let things evolve naturally. |
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"Does anyone else struggle to find a partner/BF/GF who is interested in the kink scene but also wants to have a normal relationship outwith it?
I feel like I kinda fall into this weird middle ground where the usual dating apps are no use because if I mention it, all chat turns into guys just thinking I’m a sex pest and want me for only that but then on here, obviously Fab isn’t a dating site so… where’s the middle ground? Where’s the app/site for people like me who want a relationship but with someone that will bend me over in front of a crowd of people 🤣🙈??"
I can’t speak for Fab. I met my beloved on Bumble! He is amazing. I was super open from the beginning that I’m ENM. He is a trained and practiced Dominant. I’ve won him over to my slutty ways with a healthy dose of kink. Being so open from the beginning makes the dating pool minuscule, but it’s absolutely worth it! |
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By *rBobbMan 15 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"You can find that here OP. I have. Although I wasn’t looking for that here at all. These things can and do happen 🌈
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We need to let the Vicår † know soon.
I’ve told Father David already. He’s cool with it. As is the baby Jesus 😇"
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By *eladeCouple 15 weeks ago
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Me and my daddy met on fab 3 years ago.
And now we have been in a commuted relationship for over 2.
But still play with others,
Together or separately.
I think fab is the best place to find ur penguin.
Because we met on fab it just works and it’s so easy.
Best relationship of my life. |
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By *wesomeLolaCouple 15 weeks ago
Peterborough and Buckinghamshire |
I think there's a reasonable chance of finding that on here. It's a site for people who are non-monogamous, in whatever form. There's a certain amount of crossover between various forms of non-monogamy. Many swingers are polyamorous and many poly people also swing. There is much in between. There are a couple of dating sites that are worth using for ENM contacts, these are OK C and F E E L D. I would say that they are your other best choices.
All of these (other dating sites plus Fab) have the same drawbacks, i.e. men outnumbering women causing women to be drowned in messages and men to be forever ignored, but as you (OP) are a woman, you have the advantage in that you can pro-actively go out there on Fab and search for the men that interest you for their minds and not just their cocks. It might be hard work sifting through all those profiles but at least you can make some poor men's days by messaging them first.
I know quite a few couples who have got together in a relationship by meeting on Fab. It can work. |
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"Does anyone else struggle to find a partner/BF/GF who is interested in the kink scene but also wants to have a normal relationship outwith it?
I feel like I kinda fall into this weird middle ground where the usual dating apps are no use because if I mention it, all chat turns into guys just thinking I’m a sex pest and want me for only that but then on here, obviously Fab isn’t a dating site so… where’s the middle ground? Where’s the app/site for people like me who want a relationship but with someone that will bend me over in front of a crowd of people 🤣🙈??"
Yeah I had the same problem on ordinary dating apps, when I've mentioned that I'm bisexual they've insistently just say threesome. I'm lucky with my partner now. |
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OP isn't this what fab is about? I mean it's not all ONS. Part of it is meeting like minded people who are not so inhibited like vanilla dating.
Admittedly I've been surprised how little sex the women here are having, as it's difficult to meet the right person, when you do, they're on the other side of country.
I reckon socials are the place to find what you want |
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Thank you to everyone who has commented and contributed to this post, I’m shocked by the response of I’m honest 🥰🥰! Who knows, maybe my future partner will slide in my DMs off the back of this thread 😁 xx |
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