Has this happened to others? Met someone off here in January had a great meet verified each other chatted quite a bit after agreed to meet again go to a club next Tuesday Bern planning it for ages. Messaged a couple of times this week to check still ok and she hadn't read them today l looked and she's blocked me
Maybe that's her kink leading people on and she's done it to others ?
I would rather someone said sorry I changed my mind |
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By *hirleyMan 27 weeks ago
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Sounds pretty harsh, but not unlikely. Only advice I can give is don't spend too long upset and wondering why, that's just too stressful. That might sound too easy to say but people are weird when you let them, men and women, in this case; give people a platform to drop someone without explanation.
Without knowing the context, nobody can have an opinion on your story because they won't know both sides, everyone is within their right to make a decision about a relationship and cut ties or communications of anyone, even when it does not benefit the other, in this case you. Like i said it's not nice but just know that ghosting is a way of the world now  |
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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You’re not the first, and won’t be the last.
For some, it’s easier to just block than go through an argument about why, or try to be persuaded not to stop, etc. often this is based on bitter experience, or because the person just blocking lacks the respect and decency to treat others properly.
There is always a reason someone blocks you. That reason isn’t always known to you, but regardless of how petty the reason may or may not be, it’s done. |
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By *ir tootMan 27 weeks ago
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"You’re not the first, and won’t be the last.
For some, it’s easier to just block than go through an argument about why, or try to be persuaded not to stop, etc. often this is based on bitter experience, or because the person just blocking lacks the respect and decency to treat others properly.
There is always a reason someone blocks you. That reason isn’t always known to you, but regardless of how petty the reason may or may not be, it’s done."
Rather have someone block me then then read my message and disappear. |
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She's probably changed her mind for whatever reason op and finds it easier to block than say.
In an ideal world people would be upfront but many can become abusive if told no thanks (I'm not suggesting you would op). |
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"I would rather someone said sorry I changed my mind "
Then they'll have to engage in conversation with you as to why and you might judge them harshly as unfair etc.
As others have said... Go "Huh? Ah well... Next...!"
It's a much more elegant outcome... |
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Shameful when people do that
Maybe her partner caught her here
Maybe she found a partner
Maybe she’s just a coward for not being truthful with you
I’m sure you will find someone who isnt as stressful to meet |
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I've done this to people I've met, not just because I've changed my mind but because they changed personalities shortly after meeting.
One took every other interaction I had on fab as an affront against them, told outright lies about other fabbers and then shared my personal details with others when I refused to give them the validation they were demanding.
We had only ever met once for lunch.
Another made demands about exclusivity that were totally one sided. |
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Normally I would say counter block and move on but something tells me this is different. If you have met before and generally got on then my guess would actually be she has something going on on her life and she just wants to put Fab on hold - maybe for a while, maybe for longer.
I would give her the benefit of the doubt, play it cool and leave it to see what happens. I bet she will return in a few months and say hello again. I think you will find out the reason in this case. |
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By *essTTWoman 27 weeks ago
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"Has this happened to others? Met someone off here in January had a great meet verified each other chatted quite a bit after agreed to meet again go to a club next Tuesday Bern planning it for ages. Messaged a couple of times this week to check still ok and she hadn't read them today l looked and she's blocked me
Maybe that's her kink leading people on and she's done it to others ?
I would rather someone said sorry I changed my mind "
Only she knows the reason tbh
I've had a time where I met someone and got on wonderfully in person and then their attitude towards me changed, taking long to reply to messages whej i could see they had been online, making little comments etc, we made plans to see each other again but then at the last minute I actually decided I didn't want to see them again based on the way they had started to act towards me so I blocked them.
I know 100% it would of caused an argument or at least lead to a barrage of nasty comments.
Maybe the cowards way out but my peace is more important that hurting someone else's feelings. |
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