Meet a newbie/newbies that want to have their first meet?
If you wouldn't why is that?
If yes, have you met newbies before and it's worked out or just intrigued too?
If you are the newbies, would you be keen on meeting another newbie or prefer to meet with people that have met others before?
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By *ir tootMan 28 weeks ago
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"Meet a newbie/newbies that want to have their first meet?
If you wouldn't why is that?
If yes, have you met newbies before and it's worked out or just intrigued too?
If you are the newbies, would you be keen on meeting another newbie or prefer to meet with people that have met others before?
Miss S x"
I'm not sure how to answer this, but I'd like meet someone new here, though I have no problems meeting someone who's used to it. |
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"In a club or at a social event? Sure.
Even for a coffee. But it would be somewhere I was going to be anyway. I wouldn't make specific travel plans."
Is that because you think newbies are more likely to flake?
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I’ve met newbies plenty of times. With single men it’s pretty much always worked out well. I’ve met a few couples in the past where, part way through proceedings, it became obvious one of them wasn’t ready to swing. |
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"I’ve met newbies plenty of times. With single men it’s pretty much always worked out well. I’ve met a few couples in the past where, part way through proceedings, it became obvious one of them wasn’t ready to swing. "
Oh god. Couldn't think of anything worse, how did that pan out?
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I have met loads of people who are newbies to the site and the scene. Some have gone well, others not so much.
A few years ago I met a wonderful couple and we really hit it off. We still meet now for some really hot evenings and are good friends. However I’ve also met a couple who were overwhelmed by nervousness and, despite my best efforts to make it easier for them, things didn’t flow and we stopped halfway. I hope they found their groove and the experience hasn’t put me off meeting new people. We all have to start somewhere, right? |
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"I have met loads of people who are newbies to the site and the scene. Some have gone well, others not so much.
A few years ago I met a wonderful couple and we really hit it off. We still meet now for some really hot evenings and are good friends. However I’ve also met a couple who were overwhelmed by nervousness and, despite my best efforts to make it easier for them, things didn’t flow and we stopped halfway. I hope they found their groove and the experience hasn’t put me off meeting new people. We all have to start somewhere, right?"
Ah, half and half then for you then.
Absolutely, we do all have to start somewhere, I was intrigued by people's thoughts on it.
Do you think that experience would make you approach the situation in a different way next time? Or anything you'd do differently?
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"I’ve met newbies plenty of times. With single men it’s pretty much always worked out well. I’ve met a few couples in the past where, part way through proceedings, it became obvious one of them wasn’t ready to swing.
Oh god. Couldn't think of anything worse, how did that pan out?
Miss S x"
Awkwardly 😂 |
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Personally I love newbies, the nervous excitement, then the eagerness. Just a personal favourite, but I understand that some people don't like that. Surely that's one of the great things about our hobby, everyone's different?  |
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"I have met loads of people who are newbies to the site and the scene. Some have gone well, others not so much.
A few years ago I met a wonderful couple and we really hit it off. We still meet now for some really hot evenings and are good friends. However I’ve also met a couple who were overwhelmed by nervousness and, despite my best efforts to make it easier for them, things didn’t flow and we stopped halfway. I hope they found their groove and the experience hasn’t put me off meeting new people. We all have to start somewhere, right?
Ah, half and half then for you then.
Absolutely, we do all have to start somewhere, I was intrigued by people's thoughts on it.
Do you think that experience would make you approach the situation in a different way next time? Or anything you'd do differently?
Miss S x"
No I don’t think so. Hindsight is a wonderful thing so it’s impossible to know how things will go. I think we just have to take a leap of faith with people and accept we won’t always click sexually, even if we fancy each other. Sex is such a personal thing with infinite variables. |
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Would definitely meet newbies, knowing how hard it has been for ourselves to get meets on a new profile without many reviews we wouldn't let it out us off meeting new people, we was on here before with many reviews from clubs but lost access to the profile and since rejoining our ability to go to clubs as a couple has stopped due to child care and it's definitely made it more difficult to get meets or even get to know other people xx |
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I’d meet people new to the site who I click with and find physically attractive, both of them in a couple’s case.
Meeting them just for them to have their first meet? Nah.
So the fact that they are new to the site is completely irrelevant to me. I have met several people who had been on the site for a few days and I gave them their first verification, but it was only because there was an attraction and a rapport. |
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By *ir tootMan 28 weeks ago
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"I’d meet people new to the site who I click with and find physically attractive, both of them in a couple’s case.
Meeting them just for them to have their first meet? Nah.
So the fact that they are new to the site is completely irrelevant to me. I have met several people who had been on the site for a few days and I gave them their first verification, but it was only because there was an attraction and a rapport. "
That makes sense to be honest, not every newbie is gonna be a good person, or to your liking.
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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I have been a newbie on numerous occasions and the lovely ladies of Fab have taken pity on me.
I dont think that I have ever met a newbie, but that is cos by the time I meet someone we have been talking a while and they would no longer be new. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 28 weeks ago
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"In a club or at a social event? Sure.
Even for a coffee. But it would be somewhere I was going to be anyway. I wouldn't make specific travel plans.
Is that because you think newbies are more likely to flake?
Miss S x"
No. Not necessarily. But I do like people to spend time getting used to the site and finding their feet before jumping into trying to arrange meets.
So many pounce on the 'fresh meet' that it's not a great experience for them. Clubs and socials are an easy way to just get out there with no expectations.
There is an element of worry with some. But my bullshit radar is pretty finely tuned. |
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"In a club or at a social event? Sure.
Even for a coffee. But it would be somewhere I was going to be anyway. I wouldn't make specific travel plans.
Is that because you think newbies are more likely to flake?
Miss S x
No. Not necessarily. But I do like people to spend time getting used to the site and finding their feet before jumping into trying to arrange meets.
So many pounce on the 'fresh meet' that it's not a great experience for them. Clubs and socials are an easy way to just get out there with no expectations.
There is an element of worry with some. But my bullshit radar is pretty finely tuned. "
Ah yes that bullshit radar, once you've been on here a few years it gets clearer and clearer 😂
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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As a newbie- it’s virtually impossible to meet- it does put a lot of people off- I would be happy to meet single or a couples profile.
It’s just finding one that wants to meet me! |
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I was new myself not so long ago.
And I’m infinitely grateful to my first meet for being decent.
And to the subsequently decent people I’ve met since then, who have taken a relative newbie under their wing and shared their swinging experience in a kindly fashion, whilst creating top shelf memories in the process.
Newness to the site wouldn’t necessarily discourage me from meeting, if someone’s a kn0b they’ll be a kn0b no matter how long they’ve been here, I’ll find that out in the course of chatting regardless. |
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"I was new myself not so long ago.
And I’m infinitely grateful to my first meet for being decent.
And to the subsequently decent people I’ve met since then, who have taken a relative newbie under their wing and shared their swinging experience in a kindly fashion, whilst creating top shelf memories in the process.
Newness to the site wouldn’t necessarily discourage me from meeting, if someone’s a kn0b they’ll be a kn0b no matter how long they’ve been here, I’ll find that out in the course of chatting regardless."
That's nice. Glad it panned out that way for you, everyone has to start somewhere.
Bang on with that last part 😂
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We have been the "newbies" and still are in all honesty.
We have no problems with talking to new profiles - so long as they do have or send pictures, it's no fun chatting to a blank avatar.
We've been verified by others who "took a chance" on us when we were new here.
There does seem to be a weird contradiction on here of people not liking/trusting new profiles but also wanting more people to join the scene..... |
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I think if I was meeting a couple with my other half, I'd prefer they had a bit of experience.
Purely because there can be potential drama if they've never watched each other play with others before.
So if they've had some previous meets or gone to clubs, I usually assume they are both fine with partner swaps,unless it says otherwise on their bio.
I'd be happy to meet a single male who is more of a newbie when meeting. |
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I have met newbies for socials. Mainly this is because as a single guy, I have to be wary, with couples judging their dynamic and meeting them both in a no pressure situation allows me to make a call that there is no pressure being exercised and that they are “as one” on this. Meeting single newbie women socially first is to protect myself from post meet regret and to ensure they aren’t a raving loon or prone to poor judgement. |
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I only ever meet for a social first time and I used to be open to meeting newbies because I was one once.
I haven't been meeting at all for a few years but even if I was I won't meet newbies anymore after the last one I chatted to randomly contacted a very good friend that I had verified and told her to back off and stop holding me back on here.
She then resorted to verbal abuse and body shaming when I challenged her on what she had done.
That completely put me off ever chatting to or meeting a newbie no matter how they present themselves. |
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