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By *oxoxo OP Woman
over a year ago
london |
so this is my first time posting a conversation topic so forgive me if you've discussed this before...BUT I'M FRUSTRATED!
People often complain that they don't get responses to messages.....especially the men. ...which I appreciate......so...when nescessary I will try and send a polite no ta/ im busy/not meeting etc...especially if the message requests a response one way or the other.
..As a result it often opens up a dialogue which I never wanted in the first place...or I get blasted for rreplying in thr first place especially if i reiterate that i'm not interested!
Ya see my problem...Damned if I do...damned if I don't.
Advice please..._oxoxo |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"so this is my first time posting a conversation topic so forgive me if you've discussed this before...BUT I'M FRUSTRATED!
People often complain that they don't get responses to messages.....especially the men. ...which I appreciate......so...when nescessary I will try and send a polite no ta/ im busy/not meeting etc...especially if the message requests a response one way or the other.
..As a result it often opens up a dialogue which I never wanted in the first place...or I get blasted for rreplying in thr first place especially if i reiterate that i'm not interested!
Ya see my problem...Damned if I do...damned if I don't.
Advice please..._oxoxo"
Say thank you for your interest, even in the face of a polite no thank you. I find it flattering that my lack of pic/pic of my smile/pic of my feet (put in what ever is appropriate) has so affected you that you are insistent in meeting me even though I find I have completely no interest in you. Clearly, my opinion in the matter is an irrelevance to you or you would not show such an astonishing lack of self-esteem by practically begging me. I do hope you find what you are looking for, as it is not me.
Then block the bugger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I'd be glad to get a message back saying thanks but no thanks - no hard feelings kinda thing.
But a lot of people don't handle the rejection very well - and sadly to say - it's mostly males that have an issue with it most of the time (from what I've read!).
I think if I were female (haha - there's a thought!) I'd probably just read and delete and save myself the hassle and accompanying abuse.
That's my take on it anyway  |
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By *oxoxo OP Woman
over a year ago
london |
"so this is my first time posting a conversation topic so forgive me if you've discussed this before...BUT I'M FRUSTRATED!
People often complain that they don't get responses to messages.....especially the men. ...which I appreciate......so...when nescessary I will try and send a polite no ta/ im busy/not meeting etc...especially if the message requests a response one way or the other.
..As a result it often opens up a dialogue which I never wanted in the first place...or I get blasted for rreplying in thr first place especially if i reiterate that i'm not interested!
Ya see my problem...Damned if I do...damned if I don't.
Advice please..._oxoxo
Say thank you for your interest, even in the face of a polite no thank you. I find it flattering that my lack of pic/pic of my smile/pic of my feet (put in what ever is appropriate) has so affected you that you are insistent in meeting me even though I find I have completely no interest in you. Clearly, my opinion in the matter is an irrelevance to you or you would not show such an astonishing lack of self-esteem by practically begging me. I do hope you find what you are looking for, as it is not me.
Then block the bugger."
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By *oxoxo OP Woman
over a year ago
london |
"so this is my first time posting a conversation topic so forgive me if you've discussed this before...BUT I'M FRUSTRATED!
People often complain that they don't get responses to messages.....especially the men. ...which I appreciate......so...when nescessary I will try and send a polite no ta/ im busy/not meeting etc...especially if the message requests a response one way or the other.
..As a result it often opens up a dialogue which I never wanted in the first place...or I get blasted for rreplying in thr first place especially if i reiterate that i'm not interested!
Ya see my problem...Damned if I do...damned if I don't.
Advice please..._oxoxo
Say thank you for your interest, even in the face of a polite no thank you. I find it flattering that my lack of pic/pic of my smile/pic of my feet (put in what ever is appropriate) has so affected you that you are insistent in meeting me even though I find I have completely no interest in you. Clearly, my opinion in the matter is an irrelevance to you or you would not show such an astonishing lack of self-esteem by practically begging me. I do hope you find what you are looking for, as it is not me.
Then block the bugger."
i think i'll cut and paste that response...lol |
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By *oxoxo OP Woman
over a year ago
london |
"I think I'd be glad to get a message back saying thanks but no thanks - no hard feelings kinda thing.
But a lot of people don't handle the rejection very well - and sadly to say - it's mostly males that have an issue with it most of the time (from what I've read!).
I think if I were female (haha - there's a thought!) I'd probably just read and delete and save myself the hassle and accompanying abuse.
That's my take on it anyway "
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As an unhappily married guy I'm on here searching and I can assure you, I e mail people, politely, and sometimes get a reply saying, sorry don't do married, or I just get deleted messages without being blocked. I take it on the chin! And move on like those pressing the delete button do!
Have fun and don't worry x |
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By *oxoxo OP Woman
over a year ago
london |
"As an unhappily married guy I'm on here searching and I can assure you, I e mail people, politely, and sometimes get a reply saying, sorry don't do married, or I just get deleted messages without being blocked. I take it on the chin! And move on like those pressing the delete button do!
Have fun and don't worry x"
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