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The people I make the strongest connections with on here are also the furthest away, and it's not fair and I don't like it, and I'm going to write a very stern letter to my MP demanding that the government abolish distance immediately. |
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"The people I make the strongest connections with on here are also the furthest away, and it's not fair and I don't like it, and I'm going to write a very stern letter to my MP demanding that the government abolish distance immediately."
Yeah I feel that, maybe not super strong but it sucks that no one near me is remotely interested.
Or just inactive for about a year. |
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Fab doesn't understand distance. Most of the country seems to be in the Midlands according to it. Though we're in the NW.
Speed = distance/time so by my reckoning, if you go REALLY slowly, the distance will be smaller.
Physics, innit  |
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"Road trips baby!
It’s problematic with a dog though 😞
That’s true, I can see how that’s a barrier.
No one wants me turning up with this silly shoe brush in tow. He’s a nuisance! 😂 "
I 100% want you to turn up with a silly shoe brush in tow. |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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"Road trips baby!
It’s problematic with a dog though 😞
That’s true, I can see how that’s a barrier.
No one wants me turning up with this silly shoe brush in tow. He’s a nuisance! 😂 "
Shoe brushes welcome here |
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Funnily enough, one of my favourite people on here is a good 2.5hrs away and yet it seems to work.
I've also connected with people less than 1 hour away and we've struggled to pencil a day in the diary.
Distance isn't always the key factor... |
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"Funnily enough, one of my favourite people on here is a good 2.5hrs away and yet it seems to work.
I've also connected with people less than 1 hour away and we've struggled to pencil a day in the diary.
Distance isn't always the key factor..."
Ignore this guy.
Distance is always the key factor 😈 |
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"Funnily enough, one of my favourite people on here is a good 2.5hrs away and yet it seems to work.
I've also connected with people less than 1 hour away and we've struggled to pencil a day in the diary.
Distance isn't always the key factor...
Ignore this guy.
Distance is always the key factor 😈"
Sure, if it's an easier pill to swallow 😉 |
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"Funnily enough, one of my favourite people on here is a good 2.5hrs away and yet it seems to work.
I've also connected with people less than 1 hour away and we've struggled to pencil a day in the diary.
Distance isn't always the key factor...
Ignore this guy.
Distance is always the key factor 😈
Sure, if it's an easier pill to swallow 😉"
In fairness, Willy, I'm talking like 7 hours away, not 2 and a half. :P |
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"Funnily enough, one of my favourite people on here is a good 2.5hrs away and yet it seems to work.
I've also connected with people less than 1 hour away and we've struggled to pencil a day in the diary.
Distance isn't always the key factor...
Ignore this guy.
Distance is always the key factor 😈
Sure, if it's an easier pill to swallow 😉"
 you just can’t always be right man |
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"Funnily enough, one of my favourite people on here is a good 2.5hrs away and yet it seems to work.
I've also connected with people less than 1 hour away and we've struggled to pencil a day in the diary.
Distance isn't always the key factor...
Ignore this guy.
Distance is always the key factor 😈
Sure, if it's an easier pill to swallow 😉
you just can’t always be right man"
I know, I know... |
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"Funnily enough, one of my favourite people on here is a good 2.5hrs away and yet it seems to work.
I've also connected with people less than 1 hour away and we've struggled to pencil a day in the diary.
Distance isn't always the key factor...
Ignore this guy.
Distance is always the key factor 😈
Sure, if it's an easier pill to swallow 😉
In fairness, Willy, I'm talking like 7 hours away, not 2 and a half. :P"
I know and you're right.
This is why you should move to the Midlands 😊 |
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"The people I make the strongest connections with on here are also the furthest away, and it's not fair and I don't like it, and I'm going to write a very stern letter to my MP demanding that the government abolish distance immediately."
Yep so so true plus I think the more north you go the more people are friendlier. Hey it could just be me too though  |
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"Sigh.
Now is that a sigh of "I too know this predicament, and will be writing my MP a similar letter" or a sigh of "Oh for fuck's sake, another complainer complaining about bollocks"? :P"
Oh I know the predicament only too well... great connections and desire to meet those hundreds of miles away, yet local let me down time and again. Shall we demand a compulsory population reshuffle?? |
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"Sigh.
Now is that a sigh of "I too know this predicament, and will be writing my MP a similar letter" or a sigh of "Oh for fuck's sake, another complainer complaining about bollocks"? :P
Oh I know the predicament only too well... great connections and desire to meet those hundreds of miles away, yet local let me down time and again. Shall we demand a compulsory population reshuffle??"
Half the locals near me are inactive, so time to start getting a train,. |
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"Sigh.
Now is that a sigh of "I too know this predicament, and will be writing my MP a similar letter" or a sigh of "Oh for fuck's sake, another complainer complaining about bollocks"? :P
Oh I know the predicament only too well... great connections and desire to meet those hundreds of miles away, yet local let me down time and again. Shall we demand a compulsory population reshuffle??"
I think if we just pass a unanimous bill to say a collective fuck you to the laws of physics and get rid of the concept of distance altogether so that everything is the same proximity as everything else that'd work fine, but we'll put the population reshuffle idea on the backburner as an alternative. |
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"Sigh.
Now is that a sigh of "I too know this predicament, and will be writing my MP a similar letter" or a sigh of "Oh for fuck's sake, another complainer complaining about bollocks"? :P
Oh I know the predicament only too well... great connections and desire to meet those hundreds of miles away, yet local let me down time and again. Shall we demand a compulsory population reshuffle??
I think if we just pass a unanimous bill to say a collective fuck you to the laws of physics and get rid of the concept of distance altogether so that everything is the same proximity as everything else that'd work fine, but we'll put the population reshuffle idea on the backburner as an alternative."
I'm just thinking the whole changing the laws of physics, might be a tad ambitious. I think we ought to set achievable goals. |
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"The people I make the strongest connections with on here are also the furthest away, and it's not fair and I don't like it, and I'm going to write a very stern letter to my MP demanding that the government abolish distance immediately."
Absolutely relate to this. I'm struggling to meet people local to where I live and even a 100 mile radius (although Wales is technically only 50 miles away, it's more like 150 to drive to those same bits where there are people I vibe with).
Otherwise everyone I reckon there'd be some legit chemistry with is either Midlands or North. Even the South East doesn't seem to be particularly well-stocked with my people.
It's very hard to get the ball rolling when it's hundreds of miles, hours of driving and a substantial fuel/accommodation cost  |
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"I’ve never been bothered by distance.
If I like someone I’ll travel… I currently travel 194 miles (each way) to see him. "
I'd say that puts you in a very small minority. Most people seem to go for convenience overall. |
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"I’ve never been bothered by distance.
If I like someone I’ll travel… I currently travel 194 miles (each way) to see him.
I'd say that puts you in a very small minority. Most people seem to go for convenience overall. "
Also many people don't have the time/ money to keep spending to make it work. I quite like the spontaneity of "ooh I've got the afternoon off let's hook up". Doesn't work long distance. I wouldn't do it for a relationship and certainly not for sex. |
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"I’ve never been bothered by distance.
If I like someone I’ll travel… I currently travel 194 miles (each way) to see him. "
If that were the distance I'm currently faced with I would totally do that too. Just shy of 420 miles is a bit more of a challenge, though. XD |
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"I’ve never been bothered by distance.
If I like someone I’ll travel… I currently travel 194 miles (each way) to see him.
I'd say that puts you in a very small minority. Most people seem to go for convenience overall.
Also many people don't have the time/ money to keep spending to make it work. I quite like the spontaneity of "ooh I've got the afternoon off let's hook up". Doesn't work long distance. I wouldn't do it for a relationship and certainly not for sex. "
I’m not looking for ‘just sex’
I work hard as well as studying for a second degree and a career change. So it’s nice to get away once a month for a long weekend of fun.
Besides, he’s worth it and has been for the last 3 years  |
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"I’ve never been bothered by distance.
If I like someone I’ll travel… I currently travel 194 miles (each way) to see him.
If that were the distance I'm currently faced with I would totally do that too. Just shy of 420 miles is a bit more of a challenge, though. XD"
Total distance is just shy of 400 miles so I get where you’re coming from. It’s just distance doesn’t bother me. |
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"I’ve never been bothered by distance.
If I like someone I’ll travel… I currently travel 194 miles (each way) to see him.
I'd say that puts you in a very small minority. Most people seem to go for convenience overall.
Also many people don't have the time/ money to keep spending to make it work. I quite like the spontaneity of "ooh I've got the afternoon off let's hook up". Doesn't work long distance. I wouldn't do it for a relationship and certainly not for sex.
I’m not looking for ‘just sex’
I work hard as well as studying for a second degree and a career change. So it’s nice to get away once a month for a long weekend of fun.
Besides, he’s worth it and has been for the last 3 years "
And that's great. Just saying it doesn't fit with everyone's life. |
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"I’ve never been bothered by distance.
If I like someone I’ll travel… I currently travel 194 miles (each way) to see him.
If that were the distance I'm currently faced with I would totally do that too. Just shy of 420 miles is a bit more of a challenge, though. XD
Total distance is just shy of 400 miles so I get where you’re coming from. It’s just distance doesn’t bother me. "
I mean 420 each way, so 840 round trip. Distance isn't usually something I care that much about either, but unfortunately when travel time reaches a certain point, I simply can't fit it into the available hours. |
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"I’ve never been bothered by distance.
If I like someone I’ll travel… I currently travel 194 miles (each way) to see him.
If that were the distance I'm currently faced with I would totally do that too. Just shy of 420 miles is a bit more of a challenge, though. XD
Total distance is just shy of 400 miles so I get where you’re coming from. It’s just distance doesn’t bother me.
I mean 420 each way, so 840 round trip. Distance isn't usually something I care that much about either, but unfortunately when travel time reaches a certain point, I simply can't fit it into the available hours."
Oh jeez! 
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"I’ve never been bothered by distance.
If I like someone I’ll travel… I currently travel 194 miles (each way) to see him.
I'd say that puts you in a very small minority. Most people seem to go for convenience overall.
Also many people don't have the time/ money to keep spending to make it work. I quite like the spontaneity of "ooh I've got the afternoon off let's hook up". Doesn't work long distance. I wouldn't do it for a relationship and certainly not for sex.
I’m not looking for ‘just sex’
I work hard as well as studying for a second degree and a career change. So it’s nice to get away once a month for a long weekend of fun.
Besides, he’s worth it and has been for the last 3 years
And that's great. Just saying it doesn't fit with everyone's life. "
I get that. |
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"I’ve never been bothered by distance.
If I like someone I’ll travel… I currently travel 194 miles (each way) to see him.
If that were the distance I'm currently faced with I would totally do that too. Just shy of 420 miles is a bit more of a challenge, though. XD
Total distance is just shy of 400 miles so I get where you’re coming from. It’s just distance doesn’t bother me.
I mean 420 each way, so 840 round trip. Distance isn't usually something I care that much about either, but unfortunately when travel time reaches a certain point, I simply can't fit it into the available hours.
Oh jeez!
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I'm still trying to fit it in as a stop on next month's road trip, though. :D |
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"The people I make the strongest connections with on here are also the furthest away, and it's not fair and I don't like it, and I'm going to write a very stern letter to my MP demanding that the government abolish distance immediately."
I’m cursed too.. I’ll sign your letter! |
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"I’ve never been bothered by distance.
If I like someone I’ll travel… I currently travel 194 miles (each way) to see him.
If that were the distance I'm currently faced with I would totally do that too. Just shy of 420 miles is a bit more of a challenge, though. XD
Total distance is just shy of 400 miles so I get where you’re coming from. It’s just distance doesn’t bother me.
I mean 420 each way, so 840 round trip. Distance isn't usually something I care that much about either, but unfortunately when travel time reaches a certain point, I simply can't fit it into the available hours.
Oh jeez!
I'm still trying to fit it in as a stop on next month's road trip, though. :D"
Fingers crossed for you 🤞☺️ |
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"The people I make the strongest connections with on here are also the furthest away, and it's not fair and I don't like it, and I'm going to write a very stern letter to my MP demanding that the government abolish distance immediately.
I’m cursed too.. I’ll sign your letter!"
Life would be so much easier and more fun if someone would invent a teleporter. |
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Also many people don't have the time/ money to keep spending to make it work. I quite like the spontaneity of "ooh I've got the afternoon off let's hook up". Doesn't work long distance. I wouldn't do it for a relationship and certainly not for sex. "
To be fair I live a long way away from 90pc of my friends so I budget time/money every month to go see people at least every two weeks or I'd go bonkers. So I have a reasonable roaming range, 150 miles or so, that means I could include other people on the way there or back, or just go see them anyway. If I limited myself to the options available locally I'd be screwed. Practically everyone's either a uni student 24 or under, in a family situation with kids etc or an OAP.
But being automatically passed over because I have to do that makes it harder still 😩 For sure understandable though, but we all have to play the hand we're dealt...
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Life would be so much easier and more fun if someone would invent a teleporter."
Even a flying car or jetpack would be a major upgrade, tbh I'm very disappointed it's 2024 and we still have neither of those, 80s sci-fi made promises it couldn't keep... |
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Also many people don't have the time/ money to keep spending to make it work. I quite like the spontaneity of "ooh I've got the afternoon off let's hook up". Doesn't work long distance. I wouldn't do it for a relationship and certainly not for sex.
To be fair I live a long way away from 90pc of my friends so I budget time/money every month to go see people at least every two weeks or I'd go bonkers. So I have a reasonable roaming range, 150 miles or so, that means I could include other people on the way there or back, or just go see them anyway. If I limited myself to the options available locally I'd be screwed. Practically everyone's either a uni student 24 or under, in a family situation with kids etc or an OAP.
But being automatically passed over because I have to do that makes it harder still 😩 For sure understandable though, but we all have to play the hand we're dealt...
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That’s similar to why I looked further afield.
I was looking for something specific and the kink scene is non existent where I am.
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"I haven’t left South Wales for sex in over 20 years 😩"
I'm in Devon and almost all my dating app matches in a 50 mile radius are in South Wales 
I mean, great if you can fly, less so if you're going by land... More like 150 miles each way... |
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While there's a lot to be said for finding a good time on your doorstep, I rather like having more geographically remote lovers.
I like the travel and the hotels and the airbnbs and seeing new places, and I'm fortunate enough to be able to indulge myself when things click.
Whoever suggested some sort of tardis/teleport affair is a genius though, as there's a rather lovely person in Minnesota I'd like to be able to reach whenever the mood strikes either of us!
I eagerly await its launch🤞 |
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"I’ve never been bothered by distance.
If I like someone I’ll travel… I currently travel 194 miles (each way) to see him.
I'd say that puts you in a very small minority. Most people seem to go for convenience overall.
Also many people don't have the time/ money to keep spending to make it work. I quite like the spontaneity of "ooh I've got the afternoon off let's hook up". Doesn't work long distance. I wouldn't do it for a relationship and certainly not for sex. "
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By *ayRyuMan 14 weeks ago
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"The people I make the strongest connections with on here are also the furthest away, and it's not fair and I don't like it, and I'm going to write a very stern letter to my MP demanding that the government abolish distance immediately."
I shall sign a petition to said MP if you want.
Always the case! |
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"Some of this I think is down to the fact its sometimes a little bit easier and safet to be more open and honest with those further away. Which can lead to better connections "
I find great connections when, for whatever reason, sex isn't on the cards, so I think you have a good point there!
If you're heading for sex then that's where the conversation invariably leads and it tends to get a bit dull over time. Outside of sex there are a million more interesting things to talk about and the conversations can be fantastic. |
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"Some of this I think is down to the fact its sometimes a little bit easier and safet to be more open and honest with those further away. Which can lead to better connections "
I've found that the local guys normally turn out to be dicks. Maybe you're onto something. The closer they are the less effort they're likely to put in to get to know you because, well we could always just meet so what's the point of establishing a connection, right? I'm guessing that's how most think. It's certainly what I've experienced anyway. |
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"Some of this I think is down to the fact its sometimes a little bit easier and safet to be more open and honest with those further away. Which can lead to better connections
I've found that the local guys normally turn out to be dicks. Maybe you're onto something. The closer they are the less effort they're likely to put in to get to know you because, well we could always just meet so what's the point of establishing a connection, right? I'm guessing that's how most think. It's certainly what I've experienced anyway. "
This is our experience too - you have to chat more with people further afield and you build a deeper connection.
Local guys tend to think with their little brain rather than use their mind to connect.
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"Some of this I think is down to the fact its sometimes a little bit easier and safet to be more open and honest with those further away. Which can lead to better connections "
I’d agree with this too , maybe men feel or appear less predatory from a distance too , and women feel less preyed on . Expectation could also be felt less on both parts .
Interesting point . |
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"Some of this I think is down to the fact its sometimes a little bit easier and safet to be more open and honest with those further away. Which can lead to better connections
I've found that the local guys normally turn out to be dicks. Maybe you're onto something. The closer they are the less effort they're likely to put in to get to know you because, well we could always just meet so what's the point of establishing a connection, right? I'm guessing that's how most think. It's certainly what I've experienced anyway.
This is our experience too - you have to chat more with people further afield and you build a deeper connection.
Local guys tend to think with their little brain rather than use their mind to connect.
K"
Slightly more cynical view on ot than I ment... but ok 🤣🤣🤣 |
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By *8on33Man 14 weeks ago
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"The people I make the strongest connections with on here are also the furthest away, and it's not fair and I don't like it, and I'm going to write a very stern letter to my MP demanding that the government abolish distance immediately."
distance makes the heart grow fonder .
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"Can you people who already have partners at home please stop moaning!! Think of us poor singletons who sometimes have to go to the other end of the country for a 'date' "
Struggle is relative.
This entire thread is full of first world problems |
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"Can you people who already have partners at home please stop moaning!! Think of us poor singletons who sometimes have to go to the other end of the country for a 'date'
Struggle is relative.
This entire thread is full of first world problems"
Well to be fair the developing world is even further to travel for some sex |
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"Can you people who already have partners at home please stop moaning!! Think of us poor singletons who sometimes have to go to the other end of the country for a 'date'
Struggle is relative.
This entire thread is full of first world problems"
The whole of fab is a first world problem. I just think if I had a partner at home I wouldn't moan so much,... I may be telling lies |
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"Can you people who already have partners at home please stop moaning!! Think of us poor singletons who sometimes have to go to the other end of the country for a 'date'
Struggle is relative.
This entire thread is full of first world problems
The whole of fab is a first world problem. I just think if I had a partner at home I wouldn't moan so much,... I may be telling lies "
But we're here to swing. Having a partner at home doesn't really do anything for the swinging part being harder due to distance. :P My heart does go out to you, though. |
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"Can you people who already have partners at home please stop moaning!! Think of us poor singletons who sometimes have to go to the other end of the country for a 'date'
Struggle is relative.
This entire thread is full of first world problems
The whole of fab is a first world problem. I just think if I had a partner at home I wouldn't moan so much,... I may be telling lies
But we're here to swing. Having a partner at home doesn't really do anything for the swinging part being harder due to distance. :P My heart does go out to you, though."
Not everyone here is a 'swinger'. But your concern touches me, in places I didn't think possible |
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"Not everyone here is a 'swinger'. But your concern touches me, in places I didn't think possible"
Sorry about the ambiguity there; I meant "we're" as in my wife and me. ^_^
It's always good when my concern touches people. As long as they consent, of course. |
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"Not everyone here is a 'swinger'. But your concern touches me, in places I didn't think possible
Sorry about the ambiguity there; I meant "we're" as in my wife and me. ^_^
It's always good when my concern touches people. As long as they consent, of course."
Someone touch me FFS |
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Us errant Knights † ⚔️ of the Fab realm, forever in our conquests to seek love, lust, trysts and dalliances, are blighted by the spectre of the Fab Curse™.
We are lured, snared and entrapped by these licentiously unattainable creatures, who are so geographically displaced.
I often receive opportunistic messages from sultry sirens, from the emerald Land of Ire' to the thistled beauts from the Land of Scot', from the smouldering tongues of the Welsh dragons to the meddlesome maidens of Middle-England. London, however, is a blot on the landscape of orgasmic opportunities. It sucks. For there is fuck all here and fuck all on the horizon, lest one is hankering for the uninspired and mediocre.
OP, when you write to your MP please kindly ensure it's written on parchment paper and sealed in red wax, otherwise you won't be taken seriously. |
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"I have to agree with OP, the men that like me and want to meet live 120+ miles away and are looking for relationships. Don’t get men like that where I am."
Well I've just experienced somewhat the opposite of the Fab curse as well: someone local who was interested up until I mentioned being married, which appears to have been a dealbreaker.  It had been going so well, too. |
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"The people I make the strongest connections with on here are also the furthest away, and it's not fair and I don't like it, and I'm going to write a very stern letter to my MP demanding that the government abolish distance immediately."
My sentiments exactly, but you like who you like and nothing we can do about it. Driving 2 hours to meet up is a bit much but its worth it |
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"Can you people who already have partners at home please stop moaning!! Think of us poor singletons who sometimes have to go to the other end of the country for a 'date' "
Wow so it’s not just me who gets this x |
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By *eliWoman 14 weeks ago
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If I really want to spend time with someone I make it happen.
And that was also the case whilst doing a postgrad in NE Scotland.
If it's just sex (and friendship for me)? I don't see what's wrong with localish people but then I do live relatively close to two big cities. Maybe I'm okay at making connections that don't have to be dull sex chat.
"A Person" I've made the strongest connection with isn't local to me. I'm happy to travel wherever to spend time with him. |
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"A Person" I've made the strongest connection with isn't local to me. I'm happy to travel wherever to spend time with him. "
This is exactly it. Distance is simoly an obstacle, not a reason to say no if I like someone.  |
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I think if I lived in the Midlands with all the hot couples (predominantly) that wink, ooft, message and other hotties that I chat with I wouldn't have enough time in the week for coffees etc.
Maybe it's a good thing the Den is all the way up here near Norway. |
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"Can you people who already have partners at home please stop moaning!! Think of us poor singletons who sometimes have to go to the other end of the country for a 'date'
Struggle is relative.
This entire thread is full of first world problems
The whole of fab is a first world problem. I just think if I had a partner at home I wouldn't moan so much,... I may be telling lies "
Yeah, well, call me ungrateful or call me a poly swinger. I don’t mind either way  |
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"I travel anyway. Meeting people while I’m doing it is a lovely bonus."
I wish here. With COVID came Microsoft Teams etc. Why travel, press the flesh and enjoy yourself and build strong connections when you can sit semi naked and pretend to listen to someone miles away and save a fortune. |
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"I travel anyway. Meeting people while I’m doing it is a lovely bonus.
I wish here. With COVID came Microsoft Teams etc. Why travel, press the flesh and enjoy yourself and build strong connections when you can sit semi naked and pretend to listen to someone miles away and save a fortune. "
I was talking business btw not Fab 😂 |
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"If someone I had a good online connection with traveled to London, I’d happily meet them
On a specific day"
That is true, Saturday. Which gives the best chance of me having sex on Sunday morning (in my dreams) |
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"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣 "
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle |
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By *vaRose43Woman 14 weeks ago
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"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle "
So many memories of winter mornings swearing at my first car … an ancient 2cv 🤣 |
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"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle
So many memories of winter mornings swearing at my first car … an ancient 2cv 🤣"
Jesus, now that is going back some 😂. They were always on the side of the road 😂 |
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"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle
So many memories of winter mornings swearing at my first car … an ancient 2cv 🤣
Jesus, now that is going back some 😂. They were always on the side of the road 😂"
I had a MkIV Cortina. The clutch cable broke in Hampshire and I had to drive to Germany including ferry. You can imagine the pain of that journey. I then got to 5 miles of the destination and my brakes seized on and a tyre blew.
I 'sold' it the next day for a crate of beer. Bless her. I loved 'Betsy' we travelled across Europe together. |
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By *oo..Woman 14 weeks ago
Boo's World |
"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle "
Never a brag!
I'm actually old enough too that I've driven one of my parents cars that had one of those functions 🤣🤣 . I was only a young teen though and it was on private land 🤪 |
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"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle
Never a brag!
I'm actually old enough too that I've driven one of my parents cars that had one of those functions 🤣🤣 . I was only a young teen though and it was on private land 🤪"
You might be a little confused. Was it a Massey Ferguson? 😂 |
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By *oo..Woman 14 weeks ago
Boo's World |
"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle
Never a brag!
I'm actually old enough too that I've driven one of my parents cars that had one of those functions 🤣🤣 . I was only a young teen though and it was on private land 🤪
You might be a little confused. Was it a Massey Ferguson? 😂"
It was not a tractor!!
Mini Metro 🤣 |
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"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle
So many memories of winter mornings swearing at my first car … an ancient 2cv 🤣
Jesus, now that is going back some 😂. They were always on the side of the road 😂
I had a MkIV Cortina. The clutch cable broke in Hampshire and I had to drive to Germany including ferry. You can imagine the pain of that journey. I then got to 5 miles of the destination and my brakes seized on and a tyre blew.
I 'sold' it the next day for a crate of beer. Bless her. I loved 'Betsy' we travelled across Europe together. "
BAOR or RAF? 😄 🤜🤛 I ‘bought’ an old left wheeler Beemer 7 series for a few slabs of Wobbly. I could get 160 litres of tax free fuel in jerry cans in that things boot that would get me to Yugoslavia at Autobahn speeds |
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"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle
Never a brag!
I'm actually old enough too that I've driven one of my parents cars that had one of those functions 🤣🤣 . I was only a young teen though and it was on private land 🤪
You might be a little confused. Was it a Massey Ferguson? 😂
It was not a tractor!!
Mini Metro 🤣"
My mum's old car. I'm sure she had the Turbo one as well 😄 |
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"A Person" I've made the strongest connection with isn't local to me. I'm happy to travel wherever to spend time with him.
This is exactly it. Distance is simoly an obstacle, not a reason to say no if I like someone. "
Also. If someone is using distance as an excuse to not see you, did they realy want to anyway? |
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By *oo..Woman 14 weeks ago
Boo's World |
"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle
Never a brag!
I'm actually old enough too that I've driven one of my parents cars that had one of those functions 🤣🤣 . I was only a young teen though and it was on private land 🤪
You might be a little confused. Was it a Massey Ferguson? 😂
It was not a tractor!!
Mini Metro 🤣
My mum's old car. I'm sure she had the Turbo one as well 😄"
All the rage back in those old days 😜🤣 |
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"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle
So many memories of winter mornings swearing at my first car … an ancient 2cv 🤣
Jesus, now that is going back some 😂. They were always on the side of the road 😂
I had a MkIV Cortina. The clutch cable broke in Hampshire and I had to drive to Germany including ferry. You can imagine the pain of that journey. I then got to 5 miles of the destination and my brakes seized on and a tyre blew.
I 'sold' it the next day for a crate of beer. Bless her. I loved 'Betsy' we travelled across Europe together.
BAOR or RAF? 😄 🤜🤛 I ‘bought’ an old left wheeler Beemer 7 series for a few slabs of Wobbly. I could get 160 litres of tax free fuel in jerry cans in that things boot that would get me to Yugoslavia at Autobahn speeds"
Haha mine went for a slab of yellow handbag. We both got what we wanted out of the deal! I then upgraded to a pick up truck thinking I was The Fall Guy FFS.
Filling up in Wankum 😉 |
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"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle
Never a brag!
I'm actually old enough too that I've driven one of my parents cars that had one of those functions 🤣🤣 . I was only a young teen though and it was on private land 🤪
You might be a little confused. Was it a Massey Ferguson? 😂
It was not a tractor!!
Mini Metro 🤣
My mum's old car. I'm sure she had the Turbo one as well 😄
All the rage back in those old days 😜🤣"
Windy windows too. None of this electrickery gubbins. |
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"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle
So many memories of winter mornings swearing at my first car … an ancient 2cv 🤣
Jesus, now that is going back some 😂. They were always on the side of the road 😂
I had a MkIV Cortina. The clutch cable broke in Hampshire and I had to drive to Germany including ferry. You can imagine the pain of that journey. I then got to 5 miles of the destination and my brakes seized on and a tyre blew.
I 'sold' it the next day for a crate of beer. Bless her. I loved 'Betsy' we travelled across Europe together.
BAOR or RAF? 😄 🤜🤛 I ‘bought’ an old left wheeler Beemer 7 series for a few slabs of Wobbly. I could get 160 litres of tax free fuel in jerry cans in that things boot that would get me to Yugoslavia at Autobahn speeds
Haha mine went for a slab of yellow handbag. We both got what we wanted out of the deal! I then upgraded to a pick up truck thinking I was The Fall Guy FFS.
Filling up in Wankum 😉"
A whole Herfy 10 pack? It must have had all the Carlos Fandango go-faster bits on it 😄 |
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I feel the pain: I too am cursed. 🥹🧘♀️
Also, maybe we can help sponsor sending people to meet each other, let them be together if they’re destined? Get it over with, they get it on, we stop being tormented by the gap and all the noise of it!? 🤫
Works for everyone, yeah? 👍
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"Distance isn't really the issue for me.
It's whether or not they're a decent enough person that I want to get in my car and press that start button for! 🤣
Ooh modern car humble brag. Come on Boo, we all know it's key start after you pull the chóke out and give a quick blip of the throttle
So many memories of winter mornings swearing at my first car … an ancient 2cv 🤣
Jesus, now that is going back some 😂. They were always on the side of the road 😂
I had a MkIV Cortina. The clutch cable broke in Hampshire and I had to drive to Germany including ferry. You can imagine the pain of that journey. I then got to 5 miles of the destination and my brakes seized on and a tyre blew.
I 'sold' it the next day for a crate of beer. Bless her. I loved 'Betsy' we travelled across Europe together.
BAOR or RAF? 😄 🤜🤛 I ‘bought’ an old left wheeler Beemer 7 series for a few slabs of Wobbly. I could get 160 litres of tax free fuel in jerry cans in that things boot that would get me to Yugoslavia at Autobahn speeds
Haha mine went for a slab of yellow handbag. We both got what we wanted out of the deal! I then upgraded to a pick up truck thinking I was The Fall Guy FFS.
Filling up in Wankum 😉
A whole Herfy 10 pack? It must have had all the Carlos Fandango go-faster bits on it 😄"
Haha no! The windscreen wiper motor broke driving down to watch England play France at the Parc De Princes. It was obviously pissing down! I had to put green string around the blades and my passenger had to pull the string left and right!
It was more like the Viz car Satsuma Casternet Fanny Magnet. Not! |
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"Do what we did.
Book an airbnb near to them, arrange a meet, spend a weekend up there.
Then you get a weekend away to go sightseeing and you get to have a meet too "
Did that during covid, it was good to unwind |
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"A Person" I've made the strongest connection with isn't local to me. I'm happy to travel wherever to spend time with him.
This is exactly it. Distance is simoly an obstacle, not a reason to say no if I like someone.
Also. If someone is using distance as an excuse to not see you, did they realy want to anyway? "
Ah that's what it is. Thanks. I get it I'm an unattractive sack of potatoes no one wants to meet. I'll give up now then. Thanks. |
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"A Person" I've made the strongest connection with isn't local to me. I'm happy to travel wherever to spend time with him.
This is exactly it. Distance is simoly an obstacle, not a reason to say no if I like someone.
Also. If someone is using distance as an excuse to not see you, did they realy want to anyway?
Ah that's what it is. Thanks. I get it I'm an unattractive sack of potatoes no one wants to meet. I'll give up now then. Thanks. "
I quite like potatoes |
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"A Person" I've made the strongest connection with isn't local to me. I'm happy to travel wherever to spend time with him.
This is exactly it. Distance is simoly an obstacle, not a reason to say no if I like someone.
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Also. If someone is using distance as an excuse to not see you, did they realy want to anyway? "
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But that's not really the true context of this thread, wouldn't you say?
Like most people on here I've had my fair share of traversing up and down this fair isle and it's been worth it. However the thread is really about the frustrating imbalance and disproportionate outcomes for those who consistently make deep-rooted comnections with people who are so far away. Sometimes it would be 'nice' to experience similar outcomes with those who are within your locale. Quite often the best socials or dalliances are made spontaneously or on a whim. It can be a challenge doing that with those who are so geographically stretched. |
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"A Person" I've made the strongest connection with isn't local to me. I'm happy to travel wherever to spend time with him.
This is exactly it. Distance is simoly an obstacle, not a reason to say no if I like someone.
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Also. If someone is using distance as an excuse to not see you, did they realy want to anyway?
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But that's not really the true context of this thread, wouldn't you say?
Like most people on here I've had my fair share of traversing up and down this fair isle and it's been worth it. However the thread is really about the frustrating imbalance and disproportionate outcomes for those who consistently make deep-rooted comnections with people who are so far away. Sometimes it would be 'nice' to experience similar outcomes with those who are within your locale. Quite often the best socials or dalliances are made spontaneously or on a whim. It can be a challenge doing that with those who are so geographically stretched."
I guess it depends what you want from that person. I’ve maintained 4-6 year relationships on here that include 4 hour drives and flights. If either of us really wanted more we would relocate for it
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"A Person" I've made the strongest connection with isn't local to me. I'm happy to travel wherever to spend time with him.
This is exactly it. Distance is simoly an obstacle, not a reason to say no if I like someone.
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Also. If someone is using distance as an excuse to not see you, did they realy want to anyway?
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But that's not really the true context of this thread, wouldn't you say?
Like most people on here I've had my fair share of traversing up and down this fair isle and it's been worth it. However the thread is really about the frustrating imbalance and disproportionate outcomes for those who consistently make deep-rooted comnections with people who are so far away. Sometimes it would be 'nice' to experience similar outcomes with those who are within your locale. Quite often the best socials or dalliances are made spontaneously or on a whim. It can be a challenge doing that with those who are so geographically stretched.
I guess it depends what you want from that person. I’ve maintained 4-6 year relationships on here that include 4 hour drives and flights. If either of us really wanted more we would relocate for it "
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"we would relocate for it" — that would be a luxury for the few. |
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By *ularliWoman 14 weeks ago
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I used to meet a guy many years ago that lived in Guernsey. I would fly over every other weekend. He then moved back to Blackpool so I’d go there and see him when I could.
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Nero pretty much nailed my point on the head, but just to clarify myself as well, it's not an *obstacle* per se. I'm still doing the travel thing. I just dislike how much of an obstacle it *is* and saying how nice it would be if people were closer. :P |
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Yep, know all about this.
Used to live in the south east. Where are most of the delectable options? In the south east. Now I live 4 hours away 🤦♀️
I have friends and family all over the country so am not opposed to travelling, I’ll happily tie in a fab visit with seeing others (not at the same time, let’s not mix those worlds  )
the main trouble is it’s £100 a weekend in animal care before I’ve even thought about travel, accomodation, meals or drinks whilst out, a weekend away can easily be a few hundred pounds and as much as I’d love to have that spare for sexcapades, I also need to pay my bills so it just takes a bit of planning and patience but it’s not impossible. |
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"Yep, know all about this.
Used to live in the south east. Where are most of the delectable options? In the south east. Now I live 4 hours away 🤦♀️
I have friends and family all over the country so am not opposed to travelling, I’ll happily tie in a fab visit with seeing others (not at the same time, let’s not mix those worlds )
the main trouble is it’s £100 a weekend in animal care before I’ve even thought about travel, accomodation, meals or drinks whilst out, a weekend away can easily be a few hundred pounds and as much as I’d love to have that spare for sexcapades, I also need to pay my bills so it just takes a bit of planning and patience but it’s not impossible."
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"Some of this I think is down to the fact its sometimes a little bit easier and safet to be more open and honest with those further away. Which can lead to better connections
I've found that the local guys normally turn out to be dicks. Maybe you're onto something. The closer they are the less effort they're likely to put in to get to know you because, well we could always just meet so what's the point of establishing a connection, right? I'm guessing that's how most think. It's certainly what I've experienced anyway. "
Even as a regular bloke wanting to make new platonic mates with other blokes in my area... They're all 'oi oi lads lads lads' bellends. |
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"A Person" I've made the strongest connection with isn't local to me. I'm happy to travel wherever to spend time with him.
This is exactly it. Distance is simoly an obstacle, not a reason to say no if I like someone.
Also. If someone is using distance as an excuse to not see you, did they realy want to anyway?
Ah that's what it is. Thanks. I get it I'm an unattractive sack of potatoes no one wants to meet. I'll give up now then. Thanks. "
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"Some of this I think is down to the fact its sometimes a little bit easier and safet to be more open and honest with those further away. Which can lead to better connections
I've found that the local guys normally turn out to be dicks. Maybe you're onto something. The closer they are the less effort they're likely to put in to get to know you because, well we could always just meet so what's the point of establishing a connection, right? I'm guessing that's how most think. It's certainly what I've experienced anyway.
Even as a regular bloke wanting to make new platonic mates with other blokes in my area... They're all 'oi oi lads lads lads' bellends."
That's not really my mate style either, tbh |
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