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By *ickleTheWonderSchlong OP Man 23 weeks ago

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Do you find it hard to distance yourself from people? To avoid getting hurt? Or because it’s for the best?

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By *ay W. BeauWoman 23 weeks ago

Wolvo

To start with yes but eventually i get my head around it and either create healthy boundaries or shut them out completely.

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By *inger_SnapWoman 23 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"To start with yes but eventually i get my head around it and either create healthy boundaries or shut them out completely. "

Same. Sometimes cutting them off completely is the easiest option.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman 23 weeks ago

Tamworth

No, very easy.

It’s something I’ve always been able to do if I want, with no problems. I’m not sure if that’s a good thing 😬

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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago

It depends on who it is. If it's an established relationship then I find it more difficult as I don't want there to be regrets down the line so I probably try to maintain as much of our existing relationship as much as I can, even if it's probably gone past the point of repair and I'll be honest, it can be exhausting

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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago

Best heal yourself of past trauma then you may have the tools to cope better.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man 23 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

No, it’s one of the benefits of being selfish, it’s easy to look after no.1

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By *a LunaWoman 23 weeks ago

South Wales

Not really. My issue is letting people in.

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By *eliWoman 23 weeks ago

No. It's incredibly easy for me to distance myself. I'm quite warm and friendly to everyone but it's rare it goes deeper than that.

When it does? It takes time. I can also quickly distance myself if something doesn't feel right (and I'm not stuck in their dicksand).

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By *icecouple561Couple 23 weeks ago
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East Sussex

No. It takes an awful lot for me to distance myself but when I've made the decision I just do it. Usually there's no going back either

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Um.

I don't think so.

I'm quite a pragmatic person. If I believe that the closeness that is developing is the wrong choice for me, I will step away.

Oftentimes I'm pretty open to seeing just what's there. I'm sometimes a little uncomfortable with how deep I'm getting with someone when it's more than I expected, because I know how much I value my independence and freedom, and when I feel that's potentially at risk I can get itchy feet. But I usually try to keep myself open to it unless something happens that means that connection has to be severed.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 23 weeks ago

Leeds

Fucking people off, standard procedure, don’t know if you know this, but have you met people, they’re idiots, but there is a few select specimens who are idiots in a good way.

The mr

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlong OP Man 23 weeks ago

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"Fucking people off, standard procedure, don’t know if you know this, but have you met people, they’re idiots, but there is a few select specimens who are idiots in a good way.

The mr "

Huge idiots

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By *wist my nipplesCouple 23 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Depends on the relationship. If it’s someone I see a lot it’s harder.

Mrs TMN x

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By *cedGemWoman 23 weeks ago

your dreams

"To start with yes but eventually i get my head around it and either create healthy boundaries or shut them out completely.

Same. Sometimes cutting them off completely is the easiest option."

Definitely 100%

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By *eordieJeansCouple 23 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I can do it. It’s hard at first and social media has made it a lot harder if you have mutual friends but after a few weeks I can almost forget about them.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlong OP Man 23 weeks ago

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"Depends on the relationship. If it’s someone I see a lot it’s harder.

Mrs TMN x"

Real

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By *atnip make me purrWoman 23 weeks ago

Reading

No it comes pretty naturally to me.

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By *ad NannaWoman 23 weeks ago