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By *B9 Queen OP Woman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
... things people can say.
I hate 'Smile love, might never happen'. I remember someone in a shop saying it to me. I turned and said - 'actually, my mum just died'. He did not know what to say. Often this is said to women by men (though not always, before people jump all over it!). Why do we always have to smile? To make complete strangers feel better? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Could just be a little bit of basic human concern and friendliness, something that is, in my opinion, sadly lacking in todays fast moving impersonal society.
It wouldn't bother me in the slightest even if I was feeling a little glum.
Much easier to just say 'yeah I'm fine thanks' even if the person isn't that well known to you and even if it doesn't accurately reflect your mood.
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By *B9 Queen OP Woman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Could just be a little bit of basic human concern and friendliness, something that is, in my opinion, sadly lacking in todays fast moving impersonal society.
It wouldn't bother me in the slightest even if I was feeling a little glum.
Much easier to just say 'yeah I'm fine thanks' even if the person isn't that well known to you and even if it doesn't accurately reflect your mood.
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I was in the hospital at the time - had just pop to get a coffee as I was drained. Probably not the best thing to have said to me.
Besides - why should anyone expect me to smile? They don't know anything about me. I may be in a perfectly good mood and having a nice day but not actually grinning from ear to bloody ear. Then someone says 'smile love, it might never happen'. Why do I have to smile all the time?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When im walking to work in the morning theres quite often d*unks walking around the town. They r alwaz making comments to women. One of them said to me the other wk, cheer up love. I just grinned back but wish id really said, if i was in yr world and pissed at half 8 in the morning then id b smiling like a cheshire cat! Lol |
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By *B9 Queen OP Woman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"I guess it's like the question "How are you?" People ask it, but very rarely want to hear the real answer....  "
Yeah - or 'I was only joking' after saying something really offensive (yeah, because that makes it ALL right!). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I guess it's like the question "How are you?" People ask it, but very rarely want to hear the real answer....
Yeah - or 'I was only joking' after saying something really offensive (yeah, because that makes it ALL right!)."
ah yes and if via text and a lol is on the end |
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By *B9 Queen OP Woman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Could be worse, we could all go about our business and not give a thought to those around us that are worried or sad !"
Yes, but people who say such things to random strangers actually don't care a jot. That makes it all the worse. |
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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago
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Slightly off topic, but what i hate is when a cashier checks your bank note that is handed to them the customer then says "only printed it this morning ". Like the poor sod hadn't heard that a 100 times.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... things people can say.
I hate 'Smile love, might never happen'. I remember someone in a shop saying it to me. I turned and said - 'actually, my mum just died'. He did not know what to say. Often this is said to women by men (though not always, before people jump all over it!). Why do we always have to smile? To make complete strangers feel better?"
But did he know your mother had passed away at the time. You think he would of made that comment if he had of known ?
* cReEpS rOunD cRyPt * - | - |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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Doesnt bother me at all when people say this....
They normally only say it to make you feel better as you probably look a bit down...
They being nice and trying to cheer you up....is that such a bad thing?? |
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By *B9 Queen OP Woman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Doesnt bother me at all when people say this....
They normally only say it to make you feel better as you probably look a bit down...
They being nice and trying to cheer you up....is that such a bad thing??"
Yes - in the case I described. My mum had literally just passed away. I was in the hospital shop. Evidently I had been crying and some moron told me to cheer up. It was insensitive. Maybe I was not ready to be cheered up. We don't have to be cheerful all the time and it is not up to other people to determine when I should be cheerful. |
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By *B9 Queen OP Woman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
'Everyone knows...' I hate this one in particular. As if it can prove any random theory a person has. Really, 'everyone'? Did you do a survey of every single person on the planet? It's a b*llshit argument. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"'Everyone knows...' I hate this one in particular. As if it can prove any random theory a person has. Really, 'everyone'? Did you do a survey of every single person on the planet? It's a b*llshit argument."
Jeez! Everyone knows that!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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so many misery moaning guts in life, hence why I changed career and got out of retail, a life being made increasingly miserable by moaning whingers had to be reversed  oops and heres me whinging now about whingers, does that make me one?????? nah im still happy towards fellow mankind ...honest.....  |
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"... things people can say.
I hate 'Smile love, might never happen'. I remember someone in a shop saying it to me. I turned and said - 'actually, my mum just died'. He did not know what to say. Often this is said to women by men (though not always, before people jump all over it!). Why do we always have to smile? To make complete strangers feel better?"
A quiet time of day, or a time occupied physically by shopping or walking but mentally preparing or analysing or going over old ground - esentially using the opportunity for thinking time is no time for a gurning ape with a brain matter equal to a bottom dwelling sea sponge to consider themselves my saviour from misery and foist their meaningless twatish cliches on me. They can fuck off.
If they think I need bringing round they could say hi or tell me a joke or ask for my help .....
Smile love. It might never happen is condescending , patronising and self serving.
We all need thinking time. Leave us alone.
Mind you there are some people I work with that I could run through with a rapier and consider I'd done the world a service. They jabber and shout and laugh at the top of their voices. It's like a competition to see who can be the most putridly banal.
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"so many misery moaning guts in life, hence why I changed career and got out of retail, a life being made increasingly miserable by moaning whingers had to be reversed oops and heres me whinging now about whingers, does that make me one?????? nah im still happy towards fellow mankind ...honest..... "
So C'mon. You went from retail into what ? |
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By *B9 Queen OP Woman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"... things people can say.
I hate 'Smile love, might never happen'. I remember someone in a shop saying it to me. I turned and said - 'actually, my mum just died'. He did not know what to say. Often this is said to women by men (though not always, before people jump all over it!). Why do we always have to smile? To make complete strangers feel better?
A quiet time of day, or a time occupied physically by shopping or walking but mentally preparing or analysing or going over old ground - esentially using the opportunity for thinking time is no time for a gurning ape with a brain matter equal to a bottom dwelling sea sponge to consider themselves my saviour from misery and foist their meaningless twatish cliches on me. They can fuck off.
If they think I need bringing round they could say hi or tell me a joke or ask for my help .....
Smile love. It might never happen is condescending , patronising and self serving.
We all need thinking time. Leave us alone.
Mind you there are some people I work with that I could run through with a rapier and consider I'd done the world a service. They jabber and shout and laugh at the top of their voices. It's like a competition to see who can be the most putridly banal.
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Ah, the voice of reason! 
Your Victoria Meldrew |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"so many misery moaning guts in life, hence why I changed career and got out of retail, a life being made increasingly miserable by moaning whingers had to be reversed oops and heres me whinging now about whingers, does that make me one?????? nah im still happy towards fellow mankind ...honest.....
So C'mon. You went from retail into what ?"
a chef, work with people for people but have very little interaction with the great british public, sigh .......... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My current pet hate on here is 'rant over', usually after some dribbly moaning nonsense.
In work anyone that utters 'out of the box', 'blue sky' and similar clichés is forever more in my eyes a twat.
In life - I don't mind the 'cheer up' people too much. Even though their timing is often off I think they usually are people just trying to be nice and we could do with more of those. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think as a single man on here, its the 'got a face pic' 'you free tonight' without any hello or their own pics, a pet hate.
Or any "lol"
Everyday sayings I can generally just forget about, the one I do cringe at is when an item won't scan at a checkout, the customer says 'must mean it's free'
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By *B9 Queen OP Woman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
I hate when people say 'literally' all the time. I have a colleague who says she will meet me at the car (I give her a lift) in 'literally' 2 minutes - and then takes 10 (or is that another Meldrew thread?). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think as a single man on here, its the 'got a face pic' 'you free tonight' without any hello or their own pics, a pet hate.
Or any "lol"
Everyday sayings I can generally just forget about, the one I do cringe at is when an item won't scan at a checkout, the customer says 'must mean it's free'
X
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lol
oh fuck, sorry  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"My current pet hate on here is 'rant over', usually after some dribbly moaning nonsense.
In work anyone that utters 'out of the box', 'blue sky' and similar clichés is forever more in my eyes a twat.
In life - I don't mind the 'cheer up' people too much. Even though their timing is often off I think they usually are people just trying to be nice and we could do with more of those."
Just play bullshit bingo. I almost shouted "house" in the first 10 minutes of a meeting. The only thing that stopped me was that I was chairing the meeting so I had to behave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think as a single man on here, its the 'got a face pic' 'you free tonight' without any hello or their own pics, a pet hate.
Or any "lol"
Everyday sayings I can generally just forget about, the one I do cringe at is when an item won't scan at a checkout, the customer says 'must mean it's free'
X
lol
oh fuck, sorry "
Where's that thumbs down icon  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My current pet hate on here is 'rant over', usually after some dribbly moaning nonsense.
In work anyone that utters 'out of the box', 'blue sky' and similar clichés is forever more in my eyes a twat.
In life - I don't mind the 'cheer up' people too much. Even though their timing is often off I think they usually are people just trying to be nice and we could do with more of those.
Just play bullshit bingo. I almost shouted "house" in the first 10 minutes of a meeting. The only thing that stopped me was that I was chairing the meeting so I had to behave."
Always a good idea to put the naughty ones in charge. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really hate it when your debating or arguing with someone and the keep saying " at the end of the day"
Grrrr at the time I wish It bloody was listening to them moaning!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a hard life, isn't it?!" in that sarcastic bitter tone really grates at me. Especially since it always seems to come from those that aim to make things worse for everybody else. It isnt a life if you have peers like this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"oooh I was gonna share my popcorn, but im keeping it all to myself now.
after all, at the end of the day, im thinking outside the box lol oh and one more..........
have a nice day yall"
Sassy! |
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In the chatrooms 'you are stunning' is the most overused phrase, closely followed by the slightly more irritating 'so-and-so is the most gorgeous woman on the whole site'
'What are your plans today?' Just makes me want to reply 'none of your fucking business, you're only after a shag later!'
Then there is the classic, when first meeting someone 'So, why are you single?'
The original example 'cheer up it might never happen' is probably the worst though if you are feeling down and want privacy in you own thoughts. |
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By *B9 Queen OP Woman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"In the chatrooms 'you are stunning' is the most overused phrase, closely followed by the slightly more irritating 'so-and-so is the most gorgeous woman on the whole site'
'What are your plans today?' Just makes me want to reply 'none of your fucking business, you're only after a shag later!'
Then there is the classic, when first meeting someone 'So, why are you single?'
The original example 'cheer up it might never happen' is probably the worst though if you are feeling down and want privacy in you own thoughts."
Exactly - why should I be cheerful just for someone else? Maybe I want to be a miserable sod at that moment. Maybe I am just musing and don't need someone else's 'feelings' imposed on me. Sod off, and mind your own business. |
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