It's becoming increasingly difficult to keep a sense of worth in here when most messages go ignored, those that don't are met mostly with derision and the very few messages that do lead to an interaction lose traction as the women involved move on to their next new shiny thing from an overflowing inbox full of desperate messages from desperate men. And that's been my experience, how on earth do the rest of the guys on here manage..... Who aren't put together like me, lol? |
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"It's becoming increasingly difficult to keep a sense of worth in here when most messages go ignored, those that don't are met mostly with derision and the very few messages that do lead to an interaction lose traction as the women involved move on to their next new shiny thing from an overflowing inbox full of desperate messages from desperate men. And that's been my experience, how on earth do the rest of the guys on here manage..... Who aren't put together like me, lol?"
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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You are overthinking things mate. It’s a recreational sex site where for a short period of time you leave the world at the Fab threshold and indulge in a bit of fun!
If it’s impacting your emotional health then take a break. |
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If it's affecting your mental health negatively then maybe take a break.
Fab is a bit of fun, yes rejection is a huge part of it but try not to take it to heart, it's not insta shag and it's hard to meet for everyone, not just guys.
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By *ir tootMan 23 weeks ago
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"It's becoming increasingly difficult to keep a sense of worth in here when most messages go ignored, those that don't are met mostly with derision and the very few messages that do lead to an interaction lose traction as the women involved move on to their next new shiny thing from an overflowing inbox full of desperate messages from desperate men. And that's been my experience, how on earth do the rest of the guys on here manage..... Who aren't put together like me, lol?"
I'm quite new so I can't really say anything but im currently racking my head around what pictures of my lanky body im gonna put up, that makes my sense of worth feel low atleast.
I wish I could help dude. |
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By *C44Man 23 weeks ago
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Massive issue for me in the past. Low self esteem etc.
I learned to operate under the concept of my self worth being determined by my self. It's taken a long time to completely change from viewing myself through the eyes of other people's perceptions of me to building my own. Not fully there yet. But if you do that, it's easy, I get to decide I'm hot, I get to decide I'm worth someone else's time but at the same time I understand that they may differ in their perceptions.
It's hard but you have to stop looking at yourself through the lens of other people's perceptions of you. |
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OK...
Mental health is very very important.
In my opinion people using mental health as a cover to throw shade at others isn't really a great way to promote it.
If something affects your mental health negatively then stop doing that thing.
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"It's becoming increasingly difficult to keep a sense of worth in here when most messages go ignored, those that don't are met mostly with derision and the very few messages that do lead to an interaction lose traction as the women involved move on to their next new shiny thing from an overflowing inbox full of desperate messages from desperate men. And that's been my experience, how on earth do the rest of the guys on here manage..... Who aren't put together like me, lol?
I'm quite new so I can't really say anything but im currently racking my head around what pictures of my lanky body im gonna put up, that makes my sense of worth feel low atleast.
I wish I could help dude."
Connor
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By *ir tootMan 23 weeks ago
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"Massive issue for me in the past. Low self esteem etc.
I learned to operate under the concept of my self worth being determined by my self. It's taken a long time to completely change from viewing myself through the eyes of other people's perceptions of me to building my own. Not fully there yet. But if you do that, it's easy, I get to decide I'm hot, I get to decide I'm worth someone else's time but at the same time I understand that they may differ in their perceptions.
It's hard but you have to stop looking at yourself through the lens of other people's perceptions of you. "
I like this comment alot, while I'm still having the days I've got better at saying to myself that I'm not ugly or dumb as I think.
I never would of dreamed coming here last year i was a mess. |
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"OK...
Mental health is very very important.
In my opinion people using mental health as a cover to throw shade at others isn't really a great way to promote it.
If something affects your mental health negatively then stop doing that thing.
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This |
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By *ir tootMan 23 weeks ago
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"It's becoming increasingly difficult to keep a sense of worth in here when most messages go ignored, those that don't are met mostly with derision and the very few messages that do lead to an interaction lose traction as the women involved move on to their next new shiny thing from an overflowing inbox full of desperate messages from desperate men. And that's been my experience, how on earth do the rest of the guys on here manage..... Who aren't put together like me, lol?
I'm quite new so I can't really say anything but im currently racking my head around what pictures of my lanky body im gonna put up, that makes my sense of worth feel low atleast.
I wish I could help dude.
Connor
You have more than a passing resemblance to Jesus which on fab will work miracles for you."
Gonna have to show you my picture where I look like an IKEA daryl dickson, but thanks man I do appreciate it. |
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"It's becoming increasingly difficult to keep a sense of worth in here when most messages go ignored, those that don't are met mostly with derision and the very few messages that do lead to an interaction lose traction as the women involved move on to their next new shiny thing from an overflowing inbox full of desperate messages from desperate men. And that's been my experience, how on earth do the rest of the guys on here manage..... Who aren't put together like me, lol?"
A persons mental health should never be tied to fab. If you begin thinking that way then you have bigger issues than this site, unfortunately. |
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"Just come on message & hope for the best, it's not working but just keep on. I just wonder how do we get any veris if no one willing to meet guys without verification?? 🤔 "
Get yourself to a social and you will soon get some to prove you are real. |
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"Just come on message & hope for the best, it's not working but just keep on. I just wonder how do we get any veris if no one willing to meet guys without verification?? 🤔 "
Here is what works for me.
I don't onto fab cause I'm horny or because I want a meet. I come on because I fancy having a laugh (or despair at the world depending on the topic) on the forum. Sometimes that seeps into having a little perv and at times into a private message but it's not the initial goal.
Sometimes the worst thing to do on fab to get a meet is to chase a meet |
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OP. If Fab isn’t fun for you right now and it is effecting your mental health then it’s time for a break. Off grid spoon whittling time can be very effective.
However, relying on others in life for your own self worth isn’t really good for your mental health either. IMHO |
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I think your mental health will always be in the gutter if you rely on this place to meet people. Go out in the real world, talk to people and meet people naturally. Use fab for a bit of extra fun and it might change your outlook and maybe even your approach. |
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I don’t trim my fingernails with a pencil sharpener, I don’t go on holiday to Kabul and I don’t trust a gloryhole in a drill factory.
If this place was denting my self esteem I’d leave tbh. Why stand in the shade if there’s sunshine across the street? |
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You certainly need a thick skin to be on here, even as a couple it's hard to meet other couples let alone a single woman.
At the end of the day, if this site is impacting on your mental health take a step back and have a break from it. |
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