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By *ikeEx OP Man 24 weeks ago
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I don't mind them, but they do get my one track mind thinking about posting something similar.
But... I'm not one to beg, pay or ask people to embarrass me.... I can do that all by myself - thank you.
I read a similar post on here the other week, took a look at the profile and thought "Jesus... your a handsome guy, and you profile is sh*t loads better than mine!" Even though I'm straight.
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Then I thought... "maybe it's not about the Profile text, nor the images we share on here.."
It maybe that the location you are in is already saturated with good looking guys, or at least guys who are much better looking than the person struggling with Profile views... (struggling like Me for example).
I regularly update my profile to make it a little more dynamic, but I find it's either too lengthy or lacking something.
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Having chatted to a couple of women on here, I have taken some of their advice, left the changes in place for a week or so, yet still faltered or failed to "get" to the first hurdle, never mind fail at the first hurdle.
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Being positive about all of this, I will not blame my physical appearance of the perfect DAD Bod for a balding 50yr old guy, although the text may need some more work.
But, I will blame the area for having an abundance of guys who are better looking than yours truly.
Maybe it's also the fact that I talk to people "normally" rather than saying what I want to do to them in the first message??? maybe asking if they "feel like chatting" is NOT the thing to do for an opening message to women on here? |
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Messages asking if I'd like to chat always seem pointless to me - message me with something that interests me enough to want to reply and keep the interesting conversation going.
It always feels a bit like the chat will be a bit stilted and contrived. Second only to 'can I ask you a question?"
How does it go? Would you like to chat? Sure. How are you? Fine, thanks. |
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By *ikeEx OP Man 24 weeks ago
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"Messages asking if I'd like to chat always seem pointless to me - message me with something that interests me enough to want to reply and keep the interesting conversation going.
It always feels a bit like the chat will be a bit stilted and contrived. Second only to 'can I ask you a question?"
How does it go? Would you like to chat? Sure. How are you? Fine, thanks. "
I agree... even when I state how someone's profile has captured my interest, amazing pictures.. want to know more and would love to grab a coffee / social to chat about our interests / experiences... seems dull too.
maybe I just cock everything up with the first message! |
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"...maybe it's not about the Profile text, nor the images we share on here.."
It maybe that the location you are in..."
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It's true: Mayfair seems to drive them wild. Especially those from Tamworth. |
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By *ikeEx OP Man 24 weeks ago
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maybe I just cock everything up with the first message!
With a dick pic ?  "
Dick Pics are there to look at, but I don't send them, especially if people say "please don't send a dick pic etc."
More in my friends gallery, so I can work out who to share what with. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 24 weeks ago
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Profile advice threads have me torn.
If the poster is genuinely interested then some generic info can be useful.
If they try to recreate their profile based on what a handful of posters suggest then it probably won't appeal to the masses anyway.
And nor should it. Every profile should reflect the owner, be about them rather than what they think others want to see/hear, and come from their own idea of what it should contain. It needs to represent them in their own words and portray their personality in the images used.
Otherwise it just becomes one of many and a carbon copy of dozens of other profiles, which makes it harder to work out who you may/may not be interested in. |
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By *ikeEx OP Man 24 weeks ago
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"Profile advice threads have me torn.
If the poster is genuinely interested then some generic info can be useful.
If they try to recreate their profile based on what a handful of posters suggest then it probably won't appeal to the masses anyway.
And nor should it. Every profile should reflect the owner, be about them rather than what they think others want to see/hear, and come from their own idea of what it should contain. It needs to represent them in their own words and portray their personality in the images used.
Otherwise it just becomes one of many and a carbon copy of dozens of other profiles, which makes it harder to work out who you may/may not be interested in. "
Exactly this ^^^
It's why I revise my profile.. not based on others and Carbon Copy them, but sometimes to reflect my mood, wants and needs.
The "just Ask" used to actually get more messages than anything, but always something akin to "what are you looking for?" "whats your type?" etc. |
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