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Should we be judged on the company we keep ?
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I've got no choice with some of the company I keep therefore I should not be judged on that.
I choose to keep company with my dad. My brothers choose not to. People are judging us all on that favourably and not so.
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I hope I'm judged on the company I keep because no-one would never be in doubt then about the quality of my friendships and my choices.
I know too many people who claim to be selective in their associations but seem to forget that when they need validation or are trying to be relevant.
That's when they run with the hare and hunt with the hounds.
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No because we shouldn’t just judge each other like that for it’s own sake , it has no purpose to form internal opinions about others. At best It’s gossiping to yourself , but it invariably spreads across your network.
Should we make decisions & take actions about others based on they the company they keep? I think the context / reason and impact is important. Maybe you’re supporting that person ? Or doing the right thing through loyalty. Doesn’t mean you let their values run off on you. I’ve kept some very bad company in the past when I needed to get something done I believed was so important and worthwhile |
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"I've got no choice with some of the company I keep therefore I should not be judged on that.
I choose to keep company with my dad. My brothers choose not to. People are judging us all on that favourably and not so.
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Family can be a really tough one. I think it’s important to do the right thing by our family, while limiting and negative impact on ourselves. Obviously depends on what has gone on in the past, and your capacity to forgive |
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By *aseylee324Couple 9 weeks ago
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I don't judge people on their family, nobody can help the circumstances of their birth. I do judge them on the company they keep outside their family, it tells you a lot about values and character IMO |
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"I've got no choice with some of the company I keep therefore I should not be judged on that.
I choose to keep company with my dad. My brothers choose not to. People are judging us all on that favourably and not so.
Family can be a really tough one. I think it’s important to do the right thing by our family, while limiting and negative impact on ourselves. Obviously depends on what has gone on in the past, and your capacity to forgive"
I agree. People are judging the individual actions of my family without knowing the dynamic. |
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I know people from across the spectrum, and I like a rogue as much as a toff. Sometimes they are the same thing. I'll only completely cut someone off if they irritate me or are a total wrong un.
Keeping most people at arms length is my policy, enjoy seeing them when you do, and pick up where you left off. |
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Well the old saying is You can't choose your family but... ? and so we try our best not to associate with anyone who is racist/homphobic and so yes you will get judged on who you "willingly" associate with nowadays and we suppose it's all part of growing up and the so called learning curve and understanding that people can change and sometimes it's for the worse and sometimes for the better ? and quite afew of Mrs4 family and Mr4's family are quite deeply racist but not racist as they on keep saying ? which does tend to mean ?? and also quite homophobic ( Mr4 converted/told Mrs4 to be Bi but nows she's Pan) xxxx  |
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To a degree, perhaps.
But then what do we actually know of the circumstances behind someone's associates' reputations usually?
Continuing to associate with people who continually conduct themselves in a way that is unacceptable is an issue for me.
Associating with people who have had poor choices in their past and recovered, or whose reputations I believe to be unfounded, not anyone else's business. |
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Judge not lest ye be judged.
No. Much Less judging of people is needed until you actually know the individual. Even then...
And if we are going to judge someone... Probably best to judge the individual rather than whoever they have around them. |
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Good morning. No, sometimes family need our knowledge, guidance and help. If they take it or not, thank us or not it's life and can't be dwelled upon.
Don't really care how community may judge or frown upon us as they wouldn't know the reasons for our engagement. |
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