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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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Given my age...someone under 30 I don't believe would be compatible with me.
Under 25 frankly would feel icky. And 30 plus tend have more things in common and conversation tends to flow better.
But it's just a preference. Many have limits about above 40.
Just move on to those that your compatible with. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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Because the oldies just like to fuck the oldies in one big geriatric orgy as it reminds them of their lost youth.
...I'm joking, it's probably the age of the kids thing as mentioned 😅 |
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I rarely find myself having much in common with younger people. I also like people who have enough experience and confidence to not usually need much guidance to hit the right spots. I know when I was younger and went with younger it often felt more like I was a teacher or mentor than someone there to actually enjoy themselves.
I do have a partner who's in his 20s, so it does work out occasionally. But I've never actively sought younger people than myself. |
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30 is my absolute limit, anyone younger than that just seems too young and as Lycan said, I doubt I'd have a lot in common with someone that much younger than me.
I also can't go there with people that are closer to my eldest child's age than mine. |
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By *4bimMan 29 weeks ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"That makes a lot of sense when you put it like that hahah!!
Would you guys honestly have sex with anyone over 70? "
if she loaded with cash and ive got a chance to get my hands on it, yes.
id tell her i love her if it pays  |
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"That makes a lot of sense when you put it like that hahah!!
Would you guys honestly have sex with anyone over 70?
if she loaded with cash and ive got a chance to get my hands on it, yes.
id tell her i love her if it pays "
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By *4bimMan 29 weeks ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"That makes a lot of sense when you put it like that hahah!!
Would you guys honestly have sex with anyone over 70?
if she loaded with cash and ive got a chance to get my hands on it, yes.
id tell her i love her if it pays
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your broke then.
oh well |
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My lower age limit has crept up over the years as I've found I'm less likely to have thing in common with people in their earlier 20s. I have also found that people in these age groups are more likely to display behaviours I'n to so keen on - whether that's a maturity thing or a just been from an age group where different things are acceptable.
If I got chatting to someone in a club, I'm less interested in age because I can gauge in person their approach but on here, you have to find ways of deselecting. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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Because I’d feel self conscious explaining I couldn’t bend the same way you young ‘uns can anymore and I’d be settling down for my evening Horlick but the time you’re just getting into your stride 👵😄 |
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"I see a lot of people on here who do not enjoy younger couples, which is fine! I hear a lot of different reasons why but we’d love to hear how a younger couple may not be for you?!  "
Our kids are about 30, meeting people younger than our kids just feels a little weird.
On the other hand, we've NEVER asked for ID in a club.
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By *reya73Woman 29 weeks ago
Whitley Bay |
Like many others.. I will tend to not be attracted to people close to my sons age.
It's easier to filter that here or on other apps.
If I met someone organically or in a club setting and was drawn to them in person and in situ, it may mean that the person and personality/chemistry/scenario precedes the rule.
I'm about to slip off the filters too, as a 50 year old about to be 51. Hey ho ... Transition brings new treasures.
As younguns, you have it all to unfold. Enjoy xxx
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"That makes a lot of sense when you put it like that hahah!!
Would you guys honestly have sex with anyone over 70? "
Wow!
Would you say the same comment about someone over 70Kg ?
What is it about age that’s so so gross ? |
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"I see a lot of people on here who do not enjoy younger couples, which is fine! I hear a lot of different reasons why but we’d love to hear how a younger couple may not be for you?! "
A lot of people have a comfort zone they like to stay in. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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It's not something I would have an issue with personally. Age is just a number usually and I've dated younger in the vanilla world and the sex was amazing.
There could be a connection issue though as there's a lack of common ground sometimes. When I first went to swinging clubs in my 20s it was all about the sex. Now though, I know sex is infinitely better when I can connect with the others, especially if it's a more intimate occasion than a club.
Interestingly, why would you want to play with the old bogeys? Not to say you shouldn't want to, just wonder what the appeal is to you. |
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"That makes a lot of sense when you put it like that hahah!!
Would you guys honestly have sex with anyone over 70?
Wow!
Would you say the same comment about someone over 70Kg ?
What is it about age that’s so so gross ?"
Under 70kg tends to look dangerously underweight to me.
People are allowed their preferences. |
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"That makes a lot of sense when you put it like that hahah!!
Would you guys honestly have sex with anyone over 70?
Wow!
Would you say the same comment about someone over 70Kg ?
What is it about age that’s so so gross ?"
Why would weight come into it when the post is about age????
And no-one said anything about age being "gross". I asked if the OPs would have sex with someone in their 70's considering that's almost a 50 year age gap! |
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It’s more about attitude than age, for me. Which means I wouldn’t rule anyone out for being younger (or older).
I’d be less likely to approach someone if there’s a *huge* age gap, just because it seems less likely we’d hit it off. But never say never. There’s always people who aren’t what you’re expecting, right? |
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I prefer women older than me because I find that women my age or younger, in my experiences, tend to be quite immature. Of course the caveat with that is a lot of the women that i’m attracted to, tend to not be interested because i’m young enough to be their son. That is completely understandable as if I was a lot older than I am and I had a daughter in her twenties, I would never go for someone around the same age as her! |
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"That makes a lot of sense when you put it like that hahah!!
Would you guys honestly have sex with anyone over 70?
Wow!
Would you say the same comment about someone over 70Kg ?
What is it about age that’s so so gross ?
Why would weight come into it when the post is about age????
And no-one said anything about age being "gross". I asked if the OPs would have sex with someone in their 70's considering that's almost a 50 year age gap!"
You asked if they would “honestly’ consider having sex with someone over 70 Like there’s someone wrong with them. You wouldn’t say the same about weight or any other characteristic.
What exactly is wrong with age gaps ? |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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I don't have kids and co I'm still knocking around the football leagues, I'm mixing with a range of ages.
A few make me think twice as a rule.
One, holding a convo with some is hard. It's a different language and a bunch of different circumstances.
Two, some are still very young looking.
Three, I'm not sure many are ready for swinging and kink.
All are massive generalisations and I'm sure there are those that buck the trend.
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"That makes a lot of sense when you put it like that hahah!!
Would you guys honestly have sex with anyone over 70?
Wow!
Would you say the same comment about someone over 70Kg ?
What is it about age that’s so so gross ?
Why would weight come into it when the post is about age????
And no-one said anything about age being "gross". I asked if the OPs would have sex with someone in their 70's considering that's almost a 50 year age gap!
You asked if they would “honestly’ consider having sex with someone over 70 Like there’s someone wrong with them. You wouldn’t say the same about weight or any other characteristic.
What exactly is wrong with age gaps ? "
Again...why bring weight into this when it's nothing to do with the topic??
For me personally (I've been there and got the t-shirts) large age gaps don't work.
If they work well for others then all well and good. No-one has said they are wrong...or am I missing something that only you seem to be noticing?? |
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I had a fling with a much younger woman when I was in my late 30s. I dunno exactly, but I was probably 37 and she was only just turning 20. She was amazing, and we were so very into each other. Sexually very compatible too. But at some level I had a hang up about the age gap. Being almost twice her age.
For me it was about being at different points in our lives. She was ready to explore the world, I’d already done that. She wanted to go out all night, I wanted to go home and cuddle on the couch watching movies. She needed to build a career, be ready to move cities for the right opportunity, I was successful and settled.
So I broke it off. And broke her heart. (She’s awesome, by the way. We’re still friends a decade later.)
Maybe I shouldn’t have. Maybe she was the one and we would have been great together. I’ll never know.
But … none of that relationship stuff - none of my reasons for that age gap being an issue - none of that is relevant if we’re just talking about swinging. About sex and friendship. |
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Ne we had an issue with age gaps, young peoples attitude and energy is great. Some so called adults on here are extremely immature , I mean who can start threads about their penis and claim to be an adult ? |
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I do meet some quite young people from time to time, whom I get on with quite well and the age gap is more of a source of humour and diversity.
It's never really turned into something sexual though. Just teetered on the edge of flirtation. |
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"I had a fling with a much younger woman when I was in my late 30s. I dunno exactly, but I was probably 37 and she was only just turning 20. She was amazing, and we were so very into each other. Sexually very compatible too. But at some level I had a hang up about the age gap. Being almost twice her age.
For me it was about being at different points in our lives. She was ready to explore the world, I’d already done that. She wanted to go out all night, I wanted to go home and cuddle on the couch watching movies. She needed to build a career, be ready to move cities for the right opportunity, I was successful and settled.
So I broke it off. And broke her heart. (She’s awesome, by the way. We’re still friends a decade later.)
Maybe I shouldn’t have. Maybe she was the one and we would have been great together. I’ll never know.
But … none of that relationship stuff - none of my reasons for that age gap being an issue - none of that is relevant if we’re just talking about swinging. About sex and friendship. "
I get all that! And it's lush! Feeling the vibe, getting along... But still for me... I do not want to have sex with someone I'm an age to be a parent of... I'm not theirs... But it still feels icky 😅 |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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A younger couple might be for me…. If a/b/c etc.
I think my lowest limit is immature …. And I get along with those around the age of ‘good vibes and stuff to talk about!’
I do have kids, a lot of on here do, and maybe my attitude would be different if they were older and not boys. But she hasn’t been the issue. Their attitude is.
I’ve not been attracted to a lotof women my age because of bad attitudes.
Hope you find what your after op,  |
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"That makes a lot of sense when you put it like that hahah!!
Would you guys honestly have sex with anyone over 70?
if she loaded with cash and ive got a chance to get my hands on it, yes.
id tell her i love her if it pays
your broke then.
oh well "
And I think you have just lost charmer of the year award right there 😂😂 |
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Personally speaking I'm not sexually attracted to anyone of a similar age to my daughters.
Therefore it is completely irrelevant how intelligent or mature they may be and hence why my filters are where they are. I adjust them every year so there is always a 10 year gap between my kids ages and my lower filter.
I'm normally quite happy to chat to anyone on here regardless of age or attraction but had to block anyone outside my filters because I got too many messages from those looking to "try" an older man. |
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I did meet with the younger couple awhile ago, they were there early 20s and had been childhood sweethearts and she wanted to experience other men, he wasn’t happy with a man of her own age so they chose an older guy because he thought that would be safer but it didn’t go well because he was too jealous, at their age, I was still enjoying the thrills of marriage and sex and not emotionally ready for having a third or a couple join us |
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We would happily meet younger couples and singles and have played with several in clubs.
No children so we don’t gave that kids ‘ick’ that others do.
We’re also not that worried about having things in common, as long as we all like and enjoy sex..
Same with older people. We’ve had some great nights with people that are much younger than their ages.. |
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By *eliWoman 29 weeks ago
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Because I'm generally not attracted to men younger than me. Think it's been once that's happened and he's younger than me by two months.
Women, bit different but not too much younger.
I don't have a problem with age gaps for the most part. The majority of my long term relationships have been 15+yrs older than me so I am the younger woman.
The only time I feel a bit....  about it is when older men are incredibly predatory with a younger, vulnerable woman and take advantage of her (I'm only giving older men, younger women because I've heard those disturbing stories, zero doubt it could happen the other way around). |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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It's a bit both ways, we wouldn't for a minute think that an early twenties couple would find us either attractive or interesting. Quite broad brush I know and there will obviously be exceptions to every rule but in general ten years above and below increases the odds of meeting mutually compatible people. |
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I struggle sometimes. I forget I'm 34, A LOT. Still think I'm late 20s so sometimes I start a message or look at a profile and then it clicks and I'm like, wait... I can't message this 20 year old couple or whichever. My ex partners son is 20. 😅
I think 28 or around that would be my lowest, but again, it depends on what sort of common ground we have aswel. It's a difficult one, but it's absolutely no reflection on you two at all, because you both look gorgeous. It's just the age.
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By *hoirCouple 29 weeks ago
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"I see a lot of people on here who do not enjoy younger couples, which is fine! I hear a lot of different reasons why but we’d love to hear how a younger couple may not be for you?! "
Because we don't want one.
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"I see a lot of people on here who do not enjoy younger couples, which is fine! I hear a lot of different reasons why but we’d love to hear how a younger couple may not be for you?! "
I suppose it’s just the question of choice. For example you don’t want single guys. (Sadly)  |
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"I see a lot of people on here who do not enjoy younger couples, which is fine! I hear a lot of different reasons why but we’d love to hear how a younger couple may not be for you?! "
The simple answer is preferences.
We all have them and should respect each others, not question or challenge them. |
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All to do with self preferences
For me anyone above 40 is great but may consider a little younger.
The Ex and I started in our early 20's back in Africa and had many fun times with other men. Even joined a club there that was GB and Orgies with Black men doing the Sexual fun with white GF's BF's and Couples. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"its like this.
your too young. you're damned.
to old and you're damned.
what do people actually want ffs!
So fking true there to young there dammed
I'm to fuking old I'm dammed
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Shame.
Because I feel ‘just right!’… |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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I don't have kids, so don't have that association, so it's more of a maturity level for me - a 23 yo profile contacted me and the pictures are just incredibly immature - it just doesn't float my boat |
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