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By *rangar OP Couple 23 weeks ago
Bromsgrove |
Just back from Kidderminster Pride…great event and hope it continues to grow as it’s only its second year but overheard something quite shocking from a trader there who sells LGBT+ items such as badges and flags etc.
They make sure that there is no mention of Pride or LGBT on their merchants details for the card machine as they get a lot of teens and young adults who are maybe at their first pride buying things on a card who know their parents would be disgusted if they thought they had been to a pride or similar….maybe it’s the circles we move in but that anyone could think that of their kids in 2024 shocks me…surely it doesn’t matter what gender or sexuality someone is??
Maybe there are even some on here that might think like that??….if so please have a good hard talk to yourselves. |
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My daughter is bi, and as long as she is happy, so am I. It makes no difference.
However, I am aware, through her, that a lot of her circle are afraid to 'come out' to their parents. There are a few who have been supported, but there still seems to be a barrier for many young people to be open with their parents. Hopefully future generations will be more understanding and approachable. |
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There was an old scam years ago where an adult toys site would sell inferior adult toys. If you complained then they would send a cheque embossed with the companies name such as sex toys ltd and few customers would cash the cheque due to embarrassment at the counter |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"There was an old scam years ago where an adult toys site would sell inferior adult toys. If you complained then they would send a cheque embossed with the companies name such as sex toys ltd and few customers would cash the cheque due to embarrassment at the counter "
You mean on Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels? |
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"There was an old scam years ago where an adult toys site would sell inferior adult toys. If you complained then they would send a cheque embossed with the companies name such as sex toys ltd and few customers would cash the cheque due to embarrassment at the counter "
This is from the film Lockstock. |
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By *um2020Man 23 weeks ago
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I have children and I've always tried to encourage them to be themselves... There shouldn't be anything to "come out" about... Just bring them home and introduce us to your partner.
Hopefully the world will get better at this but OP is right that it is a shame that in 2024 some people are not accepting and that some young people are still scared...
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"There was an old scam years ago where an adult toys site would sell inferior adult toys. If you complained then they would send a cheque embossed with the companies name such as sex toys ltd and few customers would cash the cheque due to embarrassment at the counter
This is from the film Lockstock."
Based on exactly the truth from the much loved Exchange and Mart paper |
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"There was an old scam years ago where an adult toys site would sell inferior adult toys. If you complained then they would send a cheque embossed with the companies name such as sex toys ltd and few customers would cash the cheque due to embarrassment at the counter
This is from the film Lockstock.
Based on exactly the truth from the much loved Exchange and Mart paper"
Based on the writings of Guy Ritchie. |
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"There was an old scam years ago where an adult toys site would sell inferior adult toys. If you complained then they would send a cheque embossed with the companies name such as sex toys ltd and few customers would cash the cheque due to embarrassment at the counter
This is from the film Lockstock.
Based on exactly the truth from the much loved Exchange and Mart paper
Based on the writings of Guy Ritchie."
Think Exchange and Mart paper was long before Guy. It's the same as gents toilets in pubs. Put a pound in the Durex machine and nothing. Not many will go to the bar to complain. Same scam really |
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"I have children and I've always tried to encourage them to be themselves... There shouldn't be anything to "come out" about... Just bring them home and introduce us to your partner.
Hopefully the world will get better at this but OP is right that it is a shame that in 2024 some people are not accepting and that some young people are still scared...
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I'm glad you said this, I've never felt the need to "come out" if I took a woman to meet family I'd expect them to treat them as if I brought a man.
My family wouldn't bat an eyelid though.
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"There was an old scam years ago where an adult toys site would sell inferior adult toys. If you complained then they would send a cheque embossed with the companies name such as sex toys ltd and few customers would cash the cheque due to embarrassment at the counter
This is from the film Lockstock.
Based on exactly the truth from the much loved Exchange and Mart paper
Based on the writings of Guy Ritchie.
Think Exchange and Mart paper was long before Guy. It's the same as gents toilets in pubs. Put a pound in the Durex machine and nothing. Not many will go to the bar to complain. Same scam really"
A condom for a £1? Now I know this is a work of fiction. |
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I've had conversations with my 12 year old daughter, maybe even gentle ribbing about bofriends or possibly girlfriends. An aunt of hers is gay and married to another woman and she was a bridesmaid at their wedding.
My daughter makes me proud every day, as others have said, if she is happy, i'm happy. If someone hurts her, be it a guy or a girl, i hurt too.
Her sexuality, when she discovers what it even is, is what it is.
I still love her and always will |
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I don't think that this kind of thing is too far beneath the surface. Trans kids get the brunt of it - we've seen plenty of discussion of it - but I do wonder if the kinds of attitudes I remember from my youth would be more prevalent if polite society allowed it. |
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My step-son has dated both sexes and I’ve not batted an eye lid as he has never seen it as problem. He owns it and doesn’t hide anything and I’m pleased he’s never felt the need to hide from anyone including me.
I wouldn’t view any of my children differently as their preferences don’t have anything to do with me.
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My children's sexuality is not really any of my business. Id be a hypocrite if i had an issue with it. I always tried to make it known they would never need to "come out" our eldest still chose to last year. It was her choice and she knew she didn't need to but she wanted to. |
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My child is Trans... I have no issue with that at all.
I struggle with the fact that some parents can't accept a child who is gay, trans or whatever.
I love my trans son and just want him to be happy. |
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My autistic son crossdresses I honestly starting to think it’s hereditary. I wish he didn’t as I know some of the challenges he’ll face in the future, but hoping the situation / society changes.
I love him and will always support him, not because I understand his feelings but he’s my son and unlike my Father I at least will understand him.  |
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I don't know any members of the LGBTQ community but one of my daughters took part in last years Belfast Pride in support of a few of her friends.
I was very proud of her for doing so and if any of my kids told me they were bi or gay it wouldn't cause a second thought. |
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By *um2020Man 23 weeks ago
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"I have children and I've always tried to encourage them to be themselves... There shouldn't be anything to "come out" about... Just bring them home and introduce us to your partner.
Hopefully the world will get better at this but OP is right that it is a shame that in 2024 some people are not accepting and that some young people are still scared...
I'm glad you said this, I've never felt the need to "come out" if I took a woman to meet family I'd expect them to treat them as if I brought a man.
My family wouldn't bat an eyelid though.
Mrs "
I truly hope this becomes the norm. Sounds like a great family you have... As do I. |
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Mixing it up ever so slightly...
Do your kids know or even need to know you swing ?
Saying this in the same context as " i am who i am, my parents dont need to know i'm gay,bi, pan, sapio etc etc..." |
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"Mixing it up ever so slightly...
Do your kids know or even need to know you swing ?
Saying this in the same context as " i am who i am, my parents dont need to know i'm gay,bi, pan, sapio etc etc...""
I think there's a difference between "this is who I am" and "this is one of my recreational activities ".
I don't have children, but both my parents and hypothetical children would be aware of my long term relationships and commitments. I think swinging is more like them knowing I like anal. |
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"Mixing it up ever so slightly...
Do your kids know or even need to know you swing ?
Saying this in the same context as " i am who i am, my parents dont need to know i'm gay,bi, pan, sapio etc etc..."
I think there's a difference between "this is who I am" and "this is one of my recreational activities ".
I don't have children, but both my parents and hypothetical children would be aware of my long term relationships and commitments. I think swinging is more like them knowing I like anal. "
Yeah, fair point.
This is something i enjoy doing, swinging/playing away. I could stop. However my sexuality is my sexuality.  |
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My brothers son came out to everyone but he was scared to his dad as he was s well known tough guy. I told my brother and he shrugged his shoulders and said would he come out to me if he was straight.
Thought it was perfect way of thinking |
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I mean for us love is love and all want is for our children to experience all the joys life has to offer, feel comfortable in their own skin and hopefully find the kind of love we have. Whatever their sexuallity or relationship format.
However the would is still far from utopic. We know this. Although it's far more acceptable to see lesbians exchange kisses and intimacy on the streets it's still far less so for gay men to. I know my own mother is still a bit old fashioned and my daughter isn't so forthcoming about her own sexuallity. Of which my daughter has my full support and in truth I don't think my mum who loves her would shun her but I get it's a bit for my mum to get her head around, but would be OK. But its my daughters information to tell when she is ready. So I just encourage and support her. Living in a multicultural community I know very clearly that in many cultural communities this is still a taboo. I know and have worked with people of different cultural backgrounds with very strong private veiws even if they won't express them publicly.
So yes although I have no personal experience myself being a straight male it don't take a rocket scientist to see its still hard for many people to come out or at least express their sexuallity as freely as straight people. And it's my understanding that is part of what Pride is about to normalise different sexualities and help society to just realise its fine. Hopefully one day Pride will become unnecessary in that respect because it will be accepted and normalised in all walks of life. But we're not there yet and you'd have to be blind or living in some kind of progressive bubble not to see that.
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Theoretically if they were happy then I would be happy.
And that’s all there is to it. They would also get a fuck off hug for being so brave as to tell me. (They wouldn’t need to be brave at all imo) |
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"I mean for us love is love and all want is for our children to experience all the joys life has to offer, feel comfortable in their own skin and hopefully find the kind of love we have. Whatever their sexuallity or relationship format.
However the would is still far from utopic. We know this. Although it's far more acceptable to see lesbians exchange kisses and intimacy on the streets it's still far less so for gay men to. I know my own mother is still a bit old fashioned and my daughter isn't so forthcoming about her own sexuallity. Of which my daughter has my full support and in truth I don't think my mum who loves her would shun her but I get it's a bit for my mum to get her head around, but would be OK. But its my daughters information to tell when she is ready. So I just encourage and support her. Living in a multicultural community I know very clearly that in many cultural communities this is still a taboo. I know and have worked with people of different cultural backgrounds with very strong private veiws even if they won't express them publicly.
So yes although I have no personal experience myself being a straight male it don't take a rocket scientist to see its still hard for many people to come out or at least express their sexuallity as freely as straight people. And it's my understanding that is part of what Pride is about to normalise different sexualities and help society to just realise its fine. Hopefully one day Pride will become unnecessary in that respect because it will be accepted and normalised in all walks of life. But we're not there yet and you'd have to be blind or living in some kind of progressive bubble not to see that.
Mr"
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I wouldnt have no issues at all with sexuality and who they wanted to be with, the only time I'd have an issue is if they wanted to start using they or them or tomorrow wanted to be a bloody cat lol |
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By *bostCouple 22 weeks ago
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As parents of such a child it wouldn’t make us bat an eyelid. We’ve known for years and have supported our child through it.
We appreciate how it could shock parents at first, but surely all parents just want the children to be happy and contented. |
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By *ddie1966Man 22 weeks ago
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This is a topic that really narks me.
Humans are the only animals in the world that labels people as LGBT+ or whatever..
It annoys me no end that we differentiate.
Why?
Because some idiot decided we should. Why not just let people be people. In the past, I have defended my child physically to closed minded idiots. Our children have the right to choose their sexuality and not live in fear of people with different opinions. Our children have the right to be happy too. Above all, why so many different labels though?
HUMAN is plenty good enough and all humans should be treated equally with love, affection and above all respect.
And no. I'm not an ageing hippy. Just a parent who loves their child, no matter what their sexuality.
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"Note:: the people who don't understand, don't like and want nothing to do with (LGBT) won't comment here.
Trust, they exist in numbers on the site !!!!!"
^^^ absolutely this ^^^
Although many of these comments are amazing to read, we do still live in a world that shuns anybody who isn’t “straight” and doesn’t conform.
A close friend of my daughter is one of four girls, statistically at least one of them was sure to be gay and it’s her; unfortunately her mother’s response “you need counselling” and her father’s “don’t tell anyone else” greeted her once she found the courage to come out! 
We can only hope progress continues globally, it’s amazing todays children can mostly be whoever and whatever they choose; they’re standing on the shoulders of everyone who spoke out before them so let’s keep talking |
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"Just back from Kidderminster Pride…great event and hope it continues to grow as it’s only its second year but overheard something quite shocking from a trader there who sells LGBT+ items such as badges and flags etc.
They make sure that there is no mention of Pride or LGBT on their merchants details for the card machine as they get a lot of teens and young adults who are maybe at their first pride buying things on a card who know their parents would be disgusted if they thought they had been to a pride or similar….maybe it’s the circles we move in but that anyone could think that of their kids in 2024 shocks me…surely it doesn’t matter what gender or sexuality someone is??
Maybe there are even some on here that might think like that??….if so please have a good hard talk to yourselves."
It wouldn't change anything as long as there happy in life then I'm happy |
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my 12 year old son wore a dress to school for their pride day a couple of weeks ago. I felt so proud that they felt he could express themself like that
theyre not sure which way they lean in terms of sexuality or gender but I love them whatever they decide |
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One of my grandchildren is trans and fortunately has felt able to be open with the whole family. Born female now identifies predominantly as male so was a groomsman at my daughters wedding (her aunt) whilst his sister was a bridesmaid along with my other grandchildren. I feel strongly that a person’s sexuality is irrelevant and hope that society will one day genuinely accept that. |
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By *ripfillMan 22 weeks ago
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As culture evolves there are more taboo boundaries being broken down in a free democratic society it takes this “type” of society to enable it.
Love does not wear labels it’s wonderful there is more openness and through rallies and positive media and indeed my thoughts are the key catalyst is social media speeding up people’s acceptance- and righty too
Kindness and tolerance are essential to evolve a culture so we have a greater understanding and paitence.
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I've taken 2 of my 4, to Lgbt+q, 3 day events. Bourne Pride in Bournemouth, had/ has dedicated childrens events and activities during daytime hours. Not problem or issue for me. Mine are human beings, it dosnt matter how they are packaged and present. |
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I was raised in a very strict family. My mother was a fabulous woman and I do mean fabulous. It was always clear that I was very different from my male peers. I only hand friends that were girls. I came out at 13. I was so afraid that mother would throw me out. She just hugged me and said "I know darling, I have always known since tou were a child, you're still my boy". She then told me that grandpa had a word with her about my being gay. And to look after me. When the whole family found out it wasn't nice. It went from he's just going through a phase to at worst he's a pervert. I had never, ever seen my grandpa get angry and he said that he is gay, there is no issue. It's who he is. Anyone has a problem, come and talk to me and we will also discuss the will.
My 'grandmother' was a horrid person. She told me I was going to hell and wouldn't be welcome back in their house. I got really upset. Grandpa came upstairs and asked what happened. I told him what Claire had said. We all had another family meeting. Claire 'grandmother' was told to either accept it or to pack a suitcase.
He was a total gentleman given his age and was so open minded. I miss that man everyday but I know he's watching over me. |
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"I was raised in a very strict family. My mother was a fabulous woman and I do mean fabulous. It was always clear that I was very different from my male peers. I only hand friends that were girls. I came out at 13. I was so afraid that mother would throw me out. She just hugged me and said "I know darling, I have always known since tou were a child, you're still my boy". She then told me that grandpa had a word with her about my being gay. And to look after me. When the whole family found out it wasn't nice. It went from he's just going through a phase to at worst he's a pervert. I had never, ever seen my grandpa get angry and he said that he is gay, there is no issue. It's who he is. Anyone has a problem, come and talk to me and we will also discuss the will.
My 'grandmother' was a horrid person. She told me I was going to hell and wouldn't be welcome back in their house. I got really upset. Grandpa came upstairs and asked what happened. I told him what Claire had said. We all had another family meeting. Claire 'grandmother' was told to either accept it or to pack a suitcase.
He was a total gentleman given his age and was so open minded. I miss that man everyday but I know he's watching over me. "
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"I was raised in a very strict family. My mother was a fabulous woman and I do mean fabulous. It was always clear that I was very different from my male peers. I only hand friends that were girls. I came out at 13. I was so afraid that mother would throw me out. She just hugged me and said "I know darling, I have always known since tou were a child, you're still my boy". She then told me that grandpa had a word with her about my being gay. And to look after me. When the whole family found out it wasn't nice. It went from he's just going through a phase to at worst he's a pervert. I had never, ever seen my grandpa get angry and he said that he is gay, there is no issue. It's who he is. Anyone has a problem, come and talk to me and we will also discuss the will.
My 'grandmother' was a horrid person. She told me I was going to hell and wouldn't be welcome back in their house. I got really upset. Grandpa came upstairs and asked what happened. I told him what Claire had said. We all had another family meeting. Claire 'grandmother' was told to either accept it or to pack a suitcase.
He was a total gentleman given his age and was so open minded. I miss that man everyday but I know he's watching over me. "
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One of my daughter's is bi and im so proud of her shes braver than i will ever be.i dont and wont ever judge her for it.its her life and as long as shes happy thats all im bothered about.to many people are judgemental on everyone else is life style.just cause your gay or bi or trans doesnt make you a bad person or evil or anything.to much hate and not enough loving in this world.let people live there lifes how they want to dont judge or criticise them for it everyone is entitled to live how they want to be without living in fear what people might say about them...love to everyone xx |
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"I was raised in a very strict family. My mother was a fabulous woman and I do mean fabulous. It was always clear that I was very different from my male peers. I only hand friends that were girls. I came out at 13. I was so afraid that mother would throw me out. She just hugged me and said "I know darling, I have always known since tou were a child, you're still my boy". She then told me that grandpa had a word with her about my being gay. And to look after me. When the whole family found out it wasn't nice. It went from he's just going through a phase to at worst he's a pervert. I had never, ever seen my grandpa get angry and he said that he is gay, there is no issue. It's who he is. Anyone has a problem, come and talk to me and we will also discuss the will.
My 'grandmother' was a horrid person. She told me I was going to hell and wouldn't be welcome back in their house. I got really upset. Grandpa came upstairs and asked what happened. I told him what Claire had said. We all had another family meeting. Claire 'grandmother' was told to either accept it or to pack a suitcase.
He was a total gentleman given his age and was so open minded. I miss that man everyday but I know he's watching over me.
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That’s brought a tear to my eye. Your Grandpa sounds an exceptional man.
Regarding the OP’s question, I could handle our kids or grandson being gay far easier than I could them announcing they support Spurs. Not a joke. |
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"I was raised in a very strict family. My mother was a fabulous woman and I do mean fabulous. It was always clear that I was very different from my male peers. I only hand friends that were girls. I came out at 13. I was so afraid that mother would throw me out. She just hugged me and said "I know darling, I have always known since tou were a child, you're still my boy". She then told me that grandpa had a word with her about my being gay. And to look after me. When the whole family found out it wasn't nice. It went from he's just going through a phase to at worst he's a pervert. I had never, ever seen my grandpa get angry and he said that he is gay, there is no issue. It's who he is. Anyone has a problem, come and talk to me and we will also discuss the will.
My 'grandmother' was a horrid person. She told me I was going to hell and wouldn't be welcome back in their house. I got really upset. Grandpa came upstairs and asked what happened. I told him what Claire had said. We all had another family meeting. Claire 'grandmother' was told to either accept it or to pack a suitcase.
He was a total gentleman given his age and was so open minded. I miss that man everyday but I know he's watching over me.
That’s brought a tear to my eye. Your Grandpa sounds an exceptional man.
Regarding the OP’s question, I could handle our kids or grandson being gay far easier than I could them announcing they support Spurs. Not a joke."
My grandpa was an exceptional man. He was a true gentleman. I understand what you mean about the football lol.
I believe love is love and as long you don't hurt anyone or anything then you should be free to do what you want with your life. I just wish some people weren't so narrow minded. |
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By *essTTWoman 22 weeks ago
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"Just back from Kidderminster Pride…great event and hope it continues to grow as it’s only its second year but overheard something quite shocking from a trader there who sells LGBT+ items such as badges and flags etc.
They make sure that there is no mention of Pride or LGBT on their merchants details for the card machine as they get a lot of teens and young adults who are maybe at their first pride buying things on a card who know their parents would be disgusted if they thought they had been to a pride or similar….maybe it’s the circles we move in but that anyone could think that of their kids in 2024 shocks me…surely it doesn’t matter what gender or sexuality someone is??
Maybe there are even some on here that might think like that??….if so please have a good hard talk to yourselves."
Lots of openly homophobic and biphobic people on here |
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By *rangar OP Couple 22 weeks ago
Bromsgrove |
These responses have renewed my faith in human nature a bit I must say….lets hope they are representative of wider society but I still have my doubts….I mean I’ve even had some death stares at bi nights at clubs when we have had same sex play…esp male/male…although I often wonder if that’s because people don’t have the confidence to follow their hearts.
Thank you for all the reasones. Been really interesting to read. |
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"I was raised in a very strict family. My mother was a fabulous woman and I do mean fabulous. It was always clear that I was very different from my male peers. I only hand friends that were girls. I came out at 13. I was so afraid that mother would throw me out. She just hugged me and said "I know darling, I have always known since tou were a child, you're still my boy". She then told me that grandpa had a word with her about my being gay. And to look after me. When the whole family found out it wasn't nice. It went from he's just going through a phase to at worst he's a pervert. I had never, ever seen my grandpa get angry and he said that he is gay, there is no issue. It's who he is. Anyone has a problem, come and talk to me and we will also discuss the will.
My 'grandmother' was a horrid person. She told me I was going to hell and wouldn't be welcome back in their house. I got really upset. Grandpa came upstairs and asked what happened. I told him what Claire had said. We all had another family meeting. Claire 'grandmother' was told to either accept it or to pack a suitcase.
He was a total gentleman given his age and was so open minded. I miss that man everyday but I know he's watching over me. "
As a mother, you know. I knew since my boy was 3 or so. ☺️❤️ |
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"Just back from Kidderminster Pride…great event and hope it continues to grow as it’s only its second year but overheard something quite shocking from a trader there who sells LGBT+ items such as badges and flags etc.
They make sure that there is no mention of Pride or LGBT on their merchants details for the card machine as they get a lot of teens and young adults who are maybe at their first pride buying things on a card who know their parents would be disgusted if they thought they had been to a pride or similar….maybe it’s the circles we move in but that anyone could think that of their kids in 2024 shocks me…surely it doesn’t matter what gender or sexuality someone is??
Maybe there are even some on here that might think like that??….if so please have a good hard talk to yourselves.
Lots of openly homophobic and biphobic people on here"
And TRANSPHOBIC !!!!!! |
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We didn't have a pride here as no funds. Just a picnic in the park. If I lived somewhere that had a proper pride and my son was younger I'm sure we would of gone as a family day out.
Anyone can go and support pride, can't really imagine people being against it unless they are stuck in the dark ages |
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She is.
The first conversation we had after she came out to me. We were driving in the car, she was upset about her gf.
She asked: 'why do girls make it so complicated, they never say what they mean?'
She looked at me with this desperate pleading look in her eyes.
All I could say was:
'I can't lie I've been trying to work that out for 30 years, I was hoping you might tell me.'
That made her laugh 😆. |
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By (user no longer on site) 22 weeks ago
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I'm not surprised this happens as much as I wish it wasn't needed.
There are comments in the forum (especially trans but to other degrees LGB) that makes more understand why it's seen as needed.
Plenty of people here who would y want their kid using certain toilets, or be annoyed if their kid's (assuming over 18) looked at their profile.
Im not comfortable talking about some stuff with my friends. And these are the parents of kids... So can believe there's till shame and worse. |
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"I was raised in a very strict family. My mother was a fabulous woman and I do mean fabulous. It was always clear that I was very different from my male peers. I only hand friends that were girls. I came out at 13. I was so afraid that mother would throw me out. She just hugged me and said "I know darling, I have always known since tou were a child, you're still my boy". She then told me that grandpa had a word with her about my being gay. And to look after me. When the whole family found out it wasn't nice. It went from he's just going through a phase to at worst he's a pervert. I had never, ever seen my grandpa get angry and he said that he is gay, there is no issue. It's who he is. Anyone has a problem, come and talk to me and we will also discuss the will.
My 'grandmother' was a horrid person. She told me I was going to hell and wouldn't be welcome back in their house. I got really upset. Grandpa came upstairs and asked what happened. I told him what Claire had said. We all had another family meeting. Claire 'grandmother' was told to either accept it or to pack a suitcase.
He was a total gentleman given his age and was so open minded. I miss that man everyday but I know he's watching over me.
As a mother, you know. I knew since my boy was 3 or so. ☺️❤️"
That’s not always true. My mum was certain that I was a lesbian - to the point as a ten agent she would make me sit and watch tv programmes with her about gay history and legal rights. She totally got the wrong daughter, I’m the straight one.
Also, I remember a friend’s mum projectile vomiting when she found her gay son’s diary |
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By (user no longer on site) 22 weeks ago
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It's a whole new world and I'm still not sure where I sit. I have my opinions and they're evolving as I hear more on all sides but that's maybe for another post.
My daughter is in the mindset that she's not straight, but she's also not sure what she is.
I've told her to relax and just be her. She doesn't need to ascribe a label or feel the need to conform to anyone else's need for her to fit in one box or another.
I also think that as teens, we explore our sexual awakening which means we try things that don't need to define us or dictate future life choices.
It's a confusing time.e already without all the overt sexualisation and peer pressure through SM.
I see my job as a parent is to provide a safe environment to find out who they are. There's a reason young teens can't make life-affevting decisions such as alcohol, cigarettes, tattoos, join the forces, enter into contracts, etc and I think that's a good thing. I know my teen would make some pretty poor decisions if she were allowed that she'd later regret.
So whether she's H, L, G, B, T, Q, etc, I do t care. So long as she's happy with herself. Today L, tomorrow B, and next week probably something else.
C'est la vie... |
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My youngest stepchild is gay. She came out to me because she was terrified of telling her dad. It’s really sad that some kids still have to go through that. Love is love and she’s so bloody happy. |
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By *hoirCouple 22 weeks ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"Just back from Kidderminster Pride…great event and hope it continues to grow as it’s only its second year but overheard something quite shocking from a trader there who sells LGBT+ items such as badges and flags etc.
They make sure that there is no mention of Pride or LGBT on their merchants details for the card machine as they get a lot of teens and young adults who are maybe at their first pride buying things on a card who know their parents would be disgusted if they thought they had been to a pride or similar….maybe it’s the circles we move in but that anyone could think that of their kids in 2024 shocks me…surely it doesn’t matter what gender or sexuality someone is??
Maybe there are even some on here that might think like that??….if so please have a good hard talk to yourselves."
Pride and being LGBT aren't the same thing. Pride is too political for some. |
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Our daughter had recently come out as non binary. Shes about to turn 18.
End of the day it doesnt change who she is or what we think of her.
You love or dont love the people for you not to tick someone elses check boxes. |
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"Our daughter had recently come out as non binary. Shes about to turn 18.
End of the day it doesnt change who she is or what we think of her.
You love or dont love the people for you not to tick someone elses check boxes."
Is that a thing.. ? |
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"Just back from Kidderminster Pride…great event and hope it continues to grow as it’s only its second year but overheard something quite shocking from a trader there who sells LGBT+ items such as badges and flags etc.
They make sure that there is no mention of Pride or LGBT on their merchants details for the card machine as they get a lot of teens and young adults who are maybe at their first pride buying things on a card who know their parents would be disgusted if they thought they had been to a pride or similar….maybe it’s the circles we move in but that anyone could think that of their kids in 2024 shocks me…surely it doesn’t matter what gender or sexuality someone is??
Maybe there are even some on here that might think like that??….if so please have a good hard talk to yourselves.
Lots of openly homophobic and biphobic people on here"
LOTS. |
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By (user no longer on site) 22 weeks ago
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"Just back from Kidderminster Pride…great event and hope it continues to grow as it’s only its second year but overheard something quite shocking from a trader there who sells LGBT+ items such as badges and flags etc.
They make sure that there is no mention of Pride or LGBT on their merchants details for the card machine as they get a lot of teens and young adults who are maybe at their first pride buying things on a card who know their parents would be disgusted if they thought they had been to a pride or similar….maybe it’s the circles we move in but that anyone could think that of their kids in 2024 shocks me…surely it doesn’t matter what gender or sexuality someone is??
Maybe there are even some on here that might think like that??….if so please have a good hard talk to yourselves.
Lots of openly homophobic and biphobic people on here"
I had an abusive message from a guy on here, just because I looked at his profile.
Called me all sorts of names and slurs...
It's disgusting that in 2024 people can't just let others live their own lives, and have to take it into their own hands to tell them what they think.
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By *opinovMan 22 weeks ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
My youngest son is. It makes not a single jot of difference to me or our father-son relationship. His life is his to live every bit as much as mine is mine. What matters is he's happy, healthy and loved. |
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