I see often the comment "I've never had any complaints" so it's assumed they are good at the sex/oral/whatever they did, it has me wondering does anyone actually complain after the sex?
I'm all for guiding someone but I don't think I'd ever complain 😂
Sex 5/10 meh....
Oral 6/10 above average.
Fingers 2/10 my left lip isn't a clit....
So does anyone complain?
Are you a sex god because you've had no complaints.
I've certainly given some shit CBA BJ's in the past and they never complained even though I'm fully aware they were shit.
Mrs
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I tend to vote with my feet. If they're terrible, I just don't waste my time on them again.
I'll tend to guide someone in the right direction during if they're going wrong. If they listen and react appropriately then I know it could be worth working on.
But I'd never tell someone they were outright shit at it, just because we're not compatible. |
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"I tend to vote with my feet. If they're terrible, I just don't waste my time on them again.
I'll tend to guide someone in the right direction during if they're going wrong. If they listen and react appropriately then I know it could be worth working on.
But I'd never tell someone they were outright shit at it, just because we're not compatible."
This is me too, I'm happy to guide because we are all different I don't expect everyone to know my body, but I'd never outright complain, I'd just not see them again.
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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Perhaps this could be like Strictly (you wouldn’t want to be partnered with Amanda Abbington!)?
You could have an expert panel marking your performance. ‘You need to extent your penis more on the turns, and try not to collapse on the doggy….’
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"Perhaps this could be like Strictly (you wouldn’t want to be partnered with Amanda Abbington!)?
You could have an expert panel marking your performance. ‘You need to extent your penis more on the turns, and try not to collapse on the doggy….’
SEVEN!!!!!"
😂😂 I'm not sure I could handle a panel judging my skills or lack of.
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I've got a complaints box by the turnstile er I mean front door 😆. I've also set up a star rating system web site that I link all my gentleman callers to. They're so funny all leaving me ironic poor views 😂 before they decide to leave the country for good. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"Perhaps this could be like Strictly (you wouldn’t want to be partnered with Amanda Abbington!)?
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I'm sorry, but that is tasteless. I think you'll find that it is Giovanni Pernice that comes out of the incidents as, 'mean', 'nasty' and 'bullying', With his behaviour being described as inappropriate and toxic, and if the BBC release the 50 hours of recording their training no doubt we'll see that.
This kind of comment is not dissimilar to JD Vance attitude to the likes of Kamala Harris and AOC as being a "bunch of childless cat ladies who are miserable at their own lives and the choices that they’ve made" or Trump's attacks.
It's ugly, bigoted and misogynistic. |
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Not always the case but I think part of the problem is a lack of complaints or be people being forthright when something is not going well. I think a lot of people would welcome accurate feedback even if not so positive.
For example we'd know and talked to a guy in a club for ages. Mrs went with him one time and his performance was not great and a bit lacklustre. She seen him again and he wanted her to vouch for his skill to another lady. Mrs was just blunty truthful in a respectful way. She's not one to lie for people or say something that isnt. Anyways based off the feedback he got he asked for another chance to redress these short comings. She said OK and he sure did, it was very good apparently |
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"Perhaps this could be like Strictly (you wouldn’t want to be partnered with Amanda Abbington!)?
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I've only just seen this.
I've noticed a lot of people are claiming that she's the one in the wrong in this situation. Is that because they can't bear their idea if the lovely cosy Saturday night show being tainted by scandal or because they still hold on to the idea that women make these things up or are in some way to blame? |
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"I want them to have a nice time
So I’m all for complaints as it will drive me to do better
Not every woman likes the same thing "
That's very true we are so different - I wouldn't complain though but I would try and guide.
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By *hilloutMan 24 weeks ago
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Nothing anyone has ever specifically mentioned.
I think you can tell if the person was clearly having a good time. Somethings, I believe, are quite difficult to fake.
People's eagerness / willingness to have a repeat is the best indication you're clearly good at the sex stuff. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 24 weeks ago
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I always say "I haven't had too many complaints" - mainly because it's an Elvira quote...
"How's your head?
Well, I haven't had too many complaints..."
Oh, and I am a sex goddess - there was another thread on this very question. |
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By *eliWoman 24 weeks ago
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"I think compatibility can be more important than being good/bad at sex. You could get complaints from one person but be the best the next person has ever had."
Yep, I'm going to agree with the unusually sensible post from Geordie.
I wouldn't say I'm particularly good at any part of sex but I'm really enthusiastic. And sometimes I'm more compatible with some than others.
I've not had any "complaints". People do tend to want to see me again but I think that's because I have such a winning performance rather than blowing minds with my skills. :D |
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Everyone is different and how you perform under pressure and is no reflection on your performance . if you actually relax and take time to build up sexual tension. You can have a very satisfying time with no complaints ?
However a cum n go situation I don't think you can complain as that's exactly what it says on the Tin. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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I don't think I'd ever complain but while it would be great to guide them, I don't think I would know how to in order to get things to click. I usually just put it down to that sexual chemistry not quite being there |
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"I don't think I'd ever complain but while it would be great to guide them, I don't think I would know how to in order to get things to click. I usually just put it down to that sexual chemistry not quite being there"
Totally agree, sometimes we just aren't compatible but I'd never complain.
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"I think compatibility can be more important than being good/bad at sex. You could get complaints from one person but be the best the next person has ever had.
Yep, I'm going to agree with the unusually sensible post from Geordie.
I wouldn't say I'm particularly good at any part of sex but I'm really enthusiastic. And sometimes I'm more compatible with some than others.
I've not had any "complaints". People do tend to want to see me again but I think that's because I have such a winning performance rather than blowing minds with my skills. :D"
Apologies for the seriousness. I don’t know what came over me |
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"I don't think I'd ever complain but while it would be great to guide them, I don't think I would know how to in order to get things to click. I usually just put it down to that sexual chemistry not quite being there
Totally agree, sometimes we just aren't compatible but I'd never complain.
Mrs "
Not necessarily complaints but you can usually tell if someone isn’t enjoying it. |
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"I don't think I'd ever complain but while it would be great to guide them, I don't think I would know how to in order to get things to click. I usually just put it down to that sexual chemistry not quite being there
Totally agree, sometimes we just aren't compatible but I'd never complain.
Mrs
Not necessarily complaints but you can usually tell if someone isn’t enjoying it. "
They pick up where they left off on the knitting. |
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"I don't think I'd ever complain but while it would be great to guide them, I don't think I would know how to in order to get things to click. I usually just put it down to that sexual chemistry not quite being there
Totally agree, sometimes we just aren't compatible but I'd never complain.
Mrs
Not necessarily complaints but you can usually tell if someone isn’t enjoying it.
They pick up where they left off on the knitting."
Or they’re arranging another meet on fab when you’ve got your head down there. |
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"I don't think I'd ever complain but while it would be great to guide them, I don't think I would know how to in order to get things to click. I usually just put it down to that sexual chemistry not quite being there
Totally agree, sometimes we just aren't compatible but I'd never complain.
Mrs
Not necessarily complaints but you can usually tell if someone isn’t enjoying it. "
Is that when they start scrolling their phone while your doing your stuff? Asking for a friend!
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"I don't think I'd ever complain but while it would be great to guide them, I don't think I would know how to in order to get things to click. I usually just put it down to that sexual chemistry not quite being there
Totally agree, sometimes we just aren't compatible but I'd never complain.
Mrs
Not necessarily complaints but you can usually tell if someone isn’t enjoying it.
Is that when they start scrolling their phone while your doing your stuff? Asking for a friend!
Mrs "
She pulled out her crossword book. |
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No if it is bad I don't say anything. I'm not going to waste my time snagging them off. Besides bad sex is often both parties fault and lack of communication. I usually can't be bothered to educate them so it's done and never revisited. |
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I've said many times in these forums that just because you've never had any complaints doesn't mean you're good at fellating or cunnilingus (because these are the acts that phrase is usually attributed to) but, if you frequently get unsolicited compliments from different people then you know you're doing something right.
As an aside, not so long ago I told someone in a jokey way that they were a bit of a pillow princess. A couple weeks later she told me she'd thought about what I'd said and wanted another try. It was much better. |
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I get plenty of complaints as they always want more!!!
I am like, we have been at it for 8 hours straight, i can’t give you anymore Ibuprofen, you already have an ice pack on your foof and a man needs his sleep sometime!!!
I AM A SEX GOD!!🤣🤣🤣 |
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"I don't think I'd ever complain but while it would be great to guide them, I don't think I would know how to in order to get things to click. I usually just put it down to that sexual chemistry not quite being there
Totally agree, sometimes we just aren't compatible but I'd never complain.
Mrs
Not necessarily complaints but you can usually tell if someone isn’t enjoying it.
They pick up where they left off on the knitting.
Or they’re arranging another meet on fab when you’ve got your head down there."
😂 Especially if they are skipping your verification. |
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"I don't think I'd ever complain but while it would be great to guide them, I don't think I would know how to in order to get things to click. I usually just put it down to that sexual chemistry not quite being there
Totally agree, sometimes we just aren't compatible but I'd never complain.
Mrs
Not necessarily complaints but you can usually tell if someone isn’t enjoying it.
They pick up where they left off on the knitting.
Or they’re arranging another meet on fab when you’ve got your head down there.
😂 Especially if they are skipping your verification."
Verification? What’s one of those? |
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"I've said many times in these forums that just because you've never had any complaints doesn't mean you're good at fellating or cunnilingus (because these are the acts that phrase is usually attributed to) but, if you frequently get unsolicited compliments from different people then you know you're doing something right.
As an aside, not so long ago I told someone in a jokey way that they were a bit of a pillow princess. A couple weeks later she told me she'd thought about what I'd said and wanted another try. It was much better."
Ah so the jokey complaint kinda worked in the end then.
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By *vaRose43Woman 24 weeks ago
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I’ve seen some veris that leave me to think that the person who left it has had a not so great time and maybe felt they still had to leave a veri.
“We met and had dinner, then we had sex” was one I read |
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"I've said many times in these forums that just because you've never had any complaints doesn't mean you're good at fellating or cunnilingus (because these are the acts that phrase is usually attributed to) but, if you frequently get unsolicited compliments from different people then you know you're doing something right.
As an aside, not so long ago I told someone in a jokey way that they were a bit of a pillow princess. A couple weeks later she told me she'd thought about what I'd said and wanted another try. It was much better.
Ah so the jokey complaint kinda worked in the end then.
Mrs "
Yes, it did. I strongly believe it's not what you say, it's how you say it. |
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Yeah I don’t think people do complain.
We’ve been underwhelmed with a couple of people - the compatibility hasn’t been there, so they probably have felt underwhelmed too. We’ve just not arranged another play date.
Thats why we chat and chat to ensure the compatibility is there.
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I quite often engage with partners reflectively on what we enjoyed and what we'd like to do. There's space to learn and iron out creases in that.
In terms of guiding in the moment that's kind of a two-way process. I have mixed feelings on that, I want to get to place of attunement intuitively, not sex by numbers. So it's something I tend to apply sparingly. |
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"I’ve seen some veris that leave me to think that the person who left it has had a not so great time and maybe felt they still had to leave a veri.
“We met and had dinner, then we had sex” was one I read "
😂😂 Straight to the point with that one.
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By *vaRose43Woman 24 weeks ago
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"I’ve seen some veris that leave me to think that the person who left it has had a not so great time and maybe felt they still had to leave a veri.
“We met and had dinner, then we had sex” was one I read
😂😂 Straight to the point with that one.
Mrs "
Yeah the message the other person had left was glowing… so for that to have been so short and bare facts led me to believe they had really not enjoyed themselves as they should have |
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