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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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Not welcome would suggest actual hostility.
Ignored maybe, or just a small fish in a big pound of small fish with many younger and bigger fish for company.
All desperate to be caught and eaten. |
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"
For what it’s worth OP, I enjoy your posts on the forums. I can always find your at times sarcasm a delight. Even more serious tone messages, at times make me nod my head or empathise with you.
If you feel unwanted here, do realise there are people who notice you and enjoy your sense of humour, and contributions to the forums. 🤗 |
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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Yes, and no matter how hard a few people have tried, I am still here and laughing at their childish behaviour whilst playing the victim the whole time.
Poor little things! |
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Most won't feel no ways about me. Some will appreciate me being here, and have said so. Others probably don't appreciate my presence, I sometimes get that impression. A couple of people have challenged me on things, I'm happy to have conversations with them and when I have they've always been resolved quite amicably and respectfully.
If people want to cuss me out then whatever really isn't it? If you don't like me, why even think about me?
I don't think I have the right to decide whose welcome here or not. That's enough for me. |
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"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"
Mate, all are welcome, but not all are included. Its as simple as that.
But that doesn't matter, if you don't base validation and worth on responses. And just do you...
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I don't, I find it ok here, yes I don't get replies all the time, my posts go ignored at times but it's just how it is.
However I'm not a guy so I guess it's different, just keep posting, the more people see you around the more they'll recognise you and reply.
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Sadly the internet is a world where people most possibly type what they would not say to someone face to face.
You can feel unwelcome or ignored at times but it depends if you want or require attention (in a good way) or from a specific person
I would suggest if you feel unwelcome here to realise this is a part of all of our lives. We are not all meant to get on and see it for what it is.
Also I have noticed the forums are becoming a bit more quiet recently but I also note that some people who used to be involved a lot are no longer here or partaking as much |
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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"Only when I get told to fuck off and not to let the door hit me on the way out.
Why’s that OP? Wassup?
OUCH! That must hurt"
Depends how well padded your butt is I imagine. Guessing that for some the door would bounce right back  |
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"I recently got reported and banned from forums twice in one week for really innocuous reasons so I guess there's at least a couple people don't like me. .. But I found it pretty funny "
You're not going to get banned because people don't like you and if a mod notices you've broken a rule you might not have been reported.
NB mods can't ban people just because they don't like them. |
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"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"
Depends in all honesty.
At the start, very much so - especially because your're new, often unverified for a spell and there's too much suspicion over new profiles being fakes.
Now, we seem that people actually do read our profile and actually do seem to be polite about it if it's a no, or seem to want to understand our dynamic/their dynamic and at least try and potentially work out a meet or a social instead of immediately putting up barriers.
It's amazing what a green tick does on this site!
I'd say whilst there still are clear cliques and "if your're not in the gang" mentality for some I'd say the majority of people here are just here for fun and banter and everyone can get along without getting too heavy in the nitty gritty. |
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"I recently got reported and banned from forums twice in one week for really innocuous reasons so I guess there's at least a couple people don't like me. .. But I found it pretty funny
You're not going to get banned because people don't like you and if a mod notices you've broken a rule you might not have been reported.
NB mods can't ban people just because they don't like them. "
Im not moaning about it because I probably did technically break some rule. Obviously can't be 100% But I'm fairly certain a couple individuals reported something I believed to be very innocuous. Again, not moaning. I now know who not to interact with and certain things that could be taken the wrong way so it's all beneficial in the end 😊 |
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"I don't but there is a marked and noticeable difference in how some people are treated in the forum.
Sometimes that’s because of how those people behave on the forum. Cause and effect."
And, possibly, how well they know the other people on threads.
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By *ripfillMan 27 weeks ago
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One of The fundamental benifts of being on fab is that it’s a non judgemental platform ( or ought to be )
OP - I really like your posts. - please develop your special Rhino skin protective cover only if you need it.
Or
Just say “. Fuck off and then fuck right off “
Then you will feel much better ( promise )
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"I don't but there is a marked and noticeable difference in how some people are treated in the forum.
Sometimes that’s because of how those people behave on the forum. Cause and effect."
It is and sometimes it's not. |
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I don't really care what other people think..
As long as I'm happy, lurking here, being me.
Everyone else can do as they please.
Maybe ask yourself are you happy here and go from there OP?
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"I recently got reported and banned from forums twice in one week for really innocuous reasons so I guess there's at least a couple people don't like me. .. But I found it pretty funny
You're not going to get banned because people don't like you and if a mod notices you've broken a rule you might not have been reported.
NB mods can't ban people just because they don't like them.
Im not moaning about it because I probably did technically break some rule. Obviously can't be 100% But I'm fairly certain a couple individuals reported something I believed to be very innocuous. Again, not moaning. I now know who not to interact with and certain things that could be taken the wrong way so it's all beneficial in the end 😊"
Good I like a quick learner 😆 |
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"I don't but there is a marked and noticeable difference in how some people are treated in the forum.
Sometimes that’s because of how those people behave on the forum. Cause and effect."
That's not strictly true is it.
The more popular of the forum users, will be given more leeway in the things that they say, over the less known or popular users.
It's always been this way, for as long I've used the forums.
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"Yes I feel the same .when I message and people can’t even respond !even a no thanks would be fine . Leaves you feeling deflated .I put mine down to my age and live in hope !!!"
Just delete your sent messages immediately so you can't track it. |
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"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"
No, it's more just a feeling of complete indifference toward me. I'm sure many others experience it too, like your profile could be deleted tomorrow and no one would notice or care.
Not complaining - you get out what you put in and I've been lazy lately. But I think the sooner you realise most people here don't know who you are and aren't interested to find out, the happier you'll be |
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By *eliWoman 27 weeks ago
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Not that I'm not welcome as such, I just think, much like Phil, that the majority are indifferent. And seeing as we're indifferent to the majority and not great ambassadors for inclusion and talking to everyone... that's fine.  |
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I don’t really look to see who and how people have responded to my posts - I post for me now and I prefer it that way.
But then again I don’t drop bombs or spikey comments so I don’t think my comments make make any waves.
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By *agatoXXX OP Man 24 weeks ago
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"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?"
Three weeks I took out after posting this. I decided to test the waters, and interestingly, the replies I got to posts were largely from people I would say weren't forum "regulars".
Yeah. There's no clique here.
Time for a longer break. |
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"Ever get the feeling you're not welcome here?
Three weeks I took out after posting this. I decided to test the waters, and interestingly, the replies I got to posts were largely from people I would say weren't forum "regulars".
Yeah. There's no clique here.
Time for a longer break."
So because you decided the people replying to you weren't regular enough or popular enough they aren't as valid?
Someone definitely had a clique mentality |
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