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Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔 |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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Sorry to hear that but there's no contact after having a time and place arranged after messaging daily then I'm afraid it's probably not going to happen 😞
Hope on to better things! ❤️ |
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By *hilloutMan 18 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
I'm sorry to hear Op. I can only imagine how disheartening that might be, especially if you seemed to be clicking well with the person 😕 No one likes feeling as if their time's been wasted.
His loss. |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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Bummer. Soz op, suck it up and learn from it.
The worst is when they still expect to meet up after dropping communication and not checking in putting each others minds at rest. Unless that’s what was agreed.
“See you there!” Type thing. |
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
I’d call it love xx
Such an annoyance if people want to not go just drop a message and say. Changed mind etc
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
He must have mental issues I'd fly over for dinner with you duchess
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
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By *eliWoman 18 weeks ago
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Oh Mimi. 
Call it now. If they can't be arsed to message, basic respect, on the day, show yourself the respect they should have shown you and don't stand for it. Unless of course they're Tom Hiddleston, he's worth waiting for. |
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Oh I’m so sorry OP 
It’s beyond me why people can do this to others and be so cruel to others
Don’t let it get to you though, it’s his loss not yours
I’m sure that you will find some amazing guy to have lots of fun with soon though |
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By *8on33Man 18 weeks ago
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
Maybe he shows as having been online but was on here last thing so as soon as he picked phone up today and went online it showed him being here but he went straight into Google? |
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
Sorry lovely one! It's so horrible. I hope that you're ok xx |
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
We be down ur way soon if interested  |
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I'm sorry mimi, if take it as he isn't gonna get in touch, except with a lame excuse a few days later.
I don't know why people do this to others, if someone changes their mind or something has come up, just say so. Rather than leave people dangling, waiting. |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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So sorry to hear you’ve been disappointed by this person. Never a good feeling.
It’s him that’s not right. Don’t beat yourself up thinking you’re undesirable or worse. At the end of it all, he’s the one missing out and not you. x |
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"Oh I know he's married... But that's not a factor."
But I think it probably is I'm afraid. It all sounded fine and dandy talking to you about meeting until he faced the prospect of explaining his whereabouts to his wife. That's when he bailed. How is that not a factor?
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"Yeah i had a meet set up, he just didn't come back on line  "
That sucks defo not on miss/ms/Mrs
Sorry to here x
So many time wasters here hate the messers we get loads from men single probs married 🙄 |
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
You took longer than I would to deliberate xx what fool leaves you standing (shrug)
I’d be there early given the chance |
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"Oh I know he's married... But that's not a factor.
How can being married not be a factor? Asking out if intrest....
Mr "
I think the implication that a married man got cold feet and backed out, fear of getting caught, got a kick out of the sexy build up, felt good because it confirmed to himself he could still 'pull .......etc |
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"Oh I know he's married... But that's not a factor.
How can being married not be a factor? Asking out if intrest....
Mr
I think the implication that a married man got cold feet and backed out, fear of getting caught, got a kick out of the sexy build up, felt good because it confirmed to himself he could still 'pull .......etc"
I get the implication of interacting with a married man, and the potential for exactly this kind if thing to happen.
What I don't understand is, how it can't be a factor, as surely it's the main factor, well it is in my thinking. That would have to be considered..... |
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Funnily enough, the minute I called it and logged out, he replied!
He'd already mentioned his car was having an MOT, so I joked about setting me up to be disappointed... So I kind of knew it anyway. I'm not daft.
In answer to the married bit, he's down here with work, so not going home to the wife. |
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"I’d call it at the time you’re meant to be starting to prepare yourself.
That would have been this morning when I washed my hair and shaved my legs 😂"
At least you have smooth legs to enjoy for yourself.
Silver linings n all that. |
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"Thank you everyone for your kind words, it's not the first time, I doubt it will be the last.
You're a good bunch ❤️"
After reading your profile Mimi, I reckon you sound like a lovely person to hang out with, oh and your pics are stunning,
If I lived down your way,bud definitely be contacting you, |
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"Thank you everyone for your kind words, it's not the first time, I doubt it will be the last.
You're a good bunch ❤️"
Been there. I get harsher by the day…
I’ll be calling it before they even message at this rate 🤣
Foolish boys |
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
If the time wasn’t arranged darling OP I would call that an instant red flag for me. I’m busy.. others are busy. Make a date and stick to it. If they can’t then it’s very much their loss.
Know your worth. Always. Sending hugs x |
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
Because to quote Slipknot ...People=Shit.... doesn't stop it hurting though... hugs xx |
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I usually send a message on the arranged day saying something like “are we still on for today? If I don’t hear from you by (insert time ) I assume we’re not “.
Happened to me a couple of weeks ago, followed by him receiving a glowing veri from someone the next day. It stings like hell.
Sorry to hear that OP. |
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
Jog him on |
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"I’d call it at the time you’re meant to be starting to prepare yourself.
That would have been this morning when I washed my hair and shaved my legs 😂
At least you have smooth legs to enjoy for yourself.
Silver linings n all that. "
Yeah and now rain is forecast so I can't wear a summer dress tomorrow 😑😂 |
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
His wife's probably got him doing stuff  |
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔
His wife's probably got him doing stuff "
His wife is not down here. |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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"Maybe raise your age limits slightly...?
Seriously, his loss. You're stunning.
/Some old guy"
Why so you can message? You dont know how old he was, age has nothing to do with it! Could be 20 and turn up or be 80 and get cold feet! |
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"Maybe raise your age limits slightly...?
Seriously, his loss. You're stunning.
/Some old guy
Why so you can message? You dont know how old he was, age has nothing to do with it! Could be 20 and turn up or be 80 and get cold feet!"
It was a joke. Sorry. I'll try not to be funny again. |
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By *cedGemWoman 18 weeks ago
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
Thrill of the chase 
Hope you're ok x |
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Mimi, this isn't a dig at you, just the hypocrisy and misandry of this site.
Here's a woman who says she's not heard from a fella so not sure whether to get ready for a meet and straight away we get the "his loss" comments and "your gorgeous" (how the fuck do you know she's gorgeous, she's got no face pics) and generally the outpouring of sympathy that you definitely would not get if it was a single male who posted.
Then, and this is the best bit, she reveals she was meant to be meeting a married man who's working away from home, and is there one post condemning her? No. Why? Because she's female? Because she's a forum regular? 🤷🏾♂️
Again, not having a go at you, Mimi, you do you, just pointing out the misandrists and hypocrites that occupy this site. |
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"Mimi, this isn't a dig at you, just the hypocrisy and misandry of this site.
Here's a woman who says she's not heard from a fella so not sure whether to get ready for a meet and straight away we get the "his loss" comments and "your gorgeous" (how the fuck do you know she's gorgeous, she's got no face pics) and generally the outpouring of sympathy that you definitely would not get if it was a single male who posted.
Then, and this is the best bit, she reveals she was meant to be meeting a married man who's working away from home, and is there one post condemning her? No. Why? Because she's female? Because she's a forum regular? 🤷🏾♂️
Again, not having a go at you, Mimi, you do you, just pointing out the misandrists and hypocrites that occupy this site."
I think my comment above said enough |
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They are attached. They love the thrill of the chase. They take it right to the point where they could have had a meet if they had wanted to. This massages their ego.
They pull out as the reality of cheating in their partners is not worth it. |
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"Oh I know he's married... But that's not a factor.
How can being married not be a factor? Asking out if intrest....
Mr
I think the implication that a married man got cold feet and backed out, fear of getting caught, got a kick out of the sexy build up, felt good because it confirmed to himself he could still 'pull .......etc"
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔
His wife's probably got him doing stuff
His wife is not down here."
His wife was down on him last night though
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"Mimi, this isn't a dig at you, just the hypocrisy and misandry of this site.
Here's a woman who says she's not heard from a fella so not sure whether to get ready for a meet and straight away we get the "his loss" comments and "your gorgeous" (how the fuck do you know she's gorgeous, she's got no face pics) and generally the outpouring of sympathy that you definitely would not get if it was a single male who posted.
Then, and this is the best bit, she reveals she was meant to be meeting a married man who's working away from home, and is there one post condemning her? No. Why? Because she's female? Because she's a forum regular? 🤷🏾♂️
Again, not having a go at you, Mimi, you do you, just pointing out the misandrists and hypocrites that occupy this site."
You're gorgeous. Hope you're OK. It's their loss. Bingo! |
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"Maybe raise your age limits slightly...?
Seriously, his loss. You're stunning.
/Some old guy
Why so you can message? You dont know how old he was, age has nothing to do with it! Could be 20 and turn up or be 80 and get cold feet!"
I mean he was 35, full grown man. Age is kind of irrelevant really. |
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"Mimi, this isn't a dig at you, just the hypocrisy and misandry of this site.
Here's a woman who says she's not heard from a fella so not sure whether to get ready for a meet and straight away we get the "his loss" comments and "your gorgeous" (how the fuck do you know she's gorgeous, she's got no face pics) and generally the outpouring of sympathy that you definitely would not get if it was a single male who posted.
Then, and this is the best bit, she reveals she was meant to be meeting a married man who's working away from home, and is there one post condemning her? No. Why? Because she's female? Because she's a forum regular? 🤷🏾♂️
Again, not having a go at you, Mimi, you do you, just pointing out the misandrists and hypocrites that occupy this site."
You're not wrong.
I fully expected some not so nice comments tbh. And I wouldn't blame people. But I didn't go into details and the bigger picture. And it was only dinner 🤷🏻♀️
Luckily I have a great weekend lined up with another young man, who never lets be down |
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I remember listing to a podcast “vanilla to Vixen “
It came home to me that such effort and enthusiasm to get ready for a date more especially on Fab than in Muggle Land is them to be let down is doubly disappointing
OP - so sorry it puts the majority on here in an even paler light
No Show - is bloody bad manners at the very least !!!
I hope your other meet was double the pleasure.
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
That’s a wanky thing to do to anyone . Gutted for you |
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By *eah BabyCouple 18 weeks ago
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Sounds like controlling behaviour or bulled themselves up to be something they are not to you and can’t face the meet, ignore them, forget them and move on, his loss, your inbox is probably full of people eager to meet with you and not just enjoy the chase xx |
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"Oh Mimi.
Call it now. If they can't be arsed to message, basic respect, on the day, show yourself the respect they should have shown you and don't stand for it. Unless of course they're Tom Hiddleston, he's worth waiting for."
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Yep, I'd call it.
Definitely expect at least a message on the day even if time date place etc etc was already all agreed - even if it was a "just double checking we're still on for later" type message. |
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By *rRiosMan 18 weeks ago
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"He might of just changed his mind ,if that was a woman blowing a guy out , there would be a million reasons thrown out ,double standards in this place are hilarious "
I’d love to be blown out by a woman 
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"Mimi, this isn't a dig at you, just the hypocrisy and misandry of this site.
Here's a woman who says she's not heard from a fella so not sure whether to get ready for a meet and straight away we get the "his loss" comments and "your gorgeous" (how the fuck do you know she's gorgeous, she's got no face pics) and generally the outpouring of sympathy that you definitely would not get if it was a single male who posted.
Then, and this is the best bit, she reveals she was meant to be meeting a married man who's working away from home, and is there one post condemning her? No. Why? Because she's female? Because she's a forum regular? 🤷🏾♂️
Again, not having a go at you, Mimi, you do you, just pointing out the misandrists and hypocrites that occupy this site."
I don't think there's any point, when the OP posted that the person was married, saying anything. I thought well that's probably the reason why. Therefore didn't acknowledge it. It's not my thing to do but why knock someone while they are down. It is definitely a good reason not to see someone else's husband/wife unless the wife/husband is present or has given his/her blessing. |
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"Does this ever happen to men, or are women so desperate that they will always turn up for a date?"
Polite, respectful and not full of shit isn’t desperate.
(Look those big words up in the dictionary if they confuse you) |
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"Does this ever happen to men, or are women so desperate that they will always turn up for a date?
Polite, respectful and not full of shit isn’t desperate.
(Look those big words up in the dictionary if they confuse you)"
Humour obviously not appreciated. Never mind! |
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"Does this ever happen to men, or are women so desperate that they will always turn up for a date?
Polite, respectful and not full of shit isn’t desperate.
(Look those big words up in the dictionary if they confuse you)
Humour obviously not appreciated. Never mind!"
humour is generally funny….
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By *cflirtyMan 18 weeks ago
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔"
Call it Mimi you're worth so much better |
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"Supposed to be going out for dinner, day and place arranged, no time.
It's nearly 3pm and no contact since last night, after daily messages, all day, over the last week or so...
I checked in this morning, he's been online, didn't even reply.
Why do people do this?
Frustrated from Portsmouth 😔
Call it Mimi you're worth so much better"
Why didn't you pay attention to when the OP posted before your sycophantic response? |
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"Does this ever happen to men, or are women so desperate that they will always turn up for a date?
Polite, respectful and not full of shit isn’t desperate.
(Look those big words up in the dictionary if they confuse you)
Humour obviously not appreciated. Never mind!
humour is generally funny….
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Dying!!! |
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"Does this ever happen to men, or are women so desperate that they will always turn up for a date?
Polite, respectful and not full of shit isn’t desperate.
(Look those big words up in the dictionary if they confuse you)
Humour obviously not appreciated. Never mind!"
Yes, I'm incredibly desperate... I thought it was funny 😉😂 |
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By *bi HaiveMan 17 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Does nobody ever swap alternative contact details when arranging meets anymore?
Leaving the sole means of contact to a Fab message means it's going to be hard to get in touch with people if they're not logged on. If you've reached the point where an in person meet is happening is it not worth having a phone number or chat app means of contact? Most people would be easier to reach via one of those and it makes finding out if there's any change of plans far quicker.
Plus they can't use the old 'sorry, couldn't log on for some reason otherwise I'd have messaged you' excuse.
I suppose it's harder for the married and playing without knowledge crew to do this, but that in itself could be a useful tool if you're suspicious that they may be but are telling you otherwise? 🤔 |
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