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Something to actually engage with and respond to.
Small talk is tedious waffle. I dont want to have to tell 100 people a daythat I'm fine on the off chance they've got something of actual interest to say once that's out the way. Just skip that and get to the interesting part.
Not immediate sexual talk and fap fodder from a complete stranger. I don't know someone, I don't want my very first interaction with them to be with their cock in hand. It's like turning around on the bus to find the guy behind you is wanking furiously into your hair. Doesn't matter how tall he is or how chiselled his abs are. That's never gonna be an appealing intro.
That those are the only options so many people see there as being astounds me.
Talk about something interesting. Something actually chosen specifically to engage with the person you're reaching out to  |
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By *lanitMan 10 weeks ago
Aylesbury |
New here & don't have a chance as most want verification but can't get if you don't have! Not many in my town but then seems like im too far if i look bit further out.
I admit I've had few responses but not good news lol
Just seems like we are farting against thunder but I'll keep trying & keep hoping for the best |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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Something to actually say that piques my interest, show their personality, and make me want to know more about them.
Someone who sends a message about my physical appearance simply doesn’t appeal. It becomes tiring hearing you’re attractive if that’s all they can string together. |
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"Write what you want, but if your profile pics don't match their expectations, you ain't getting a response - or, at least, the one you want"
I totally agree. Spoiled for choice, with so many of us. Women know they can set their standards as high as they wish.  |
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By *hilloutMan 10 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"New here & don't have a chance as most want verification but can't get if you don't have! Not many in my town but then seems like im too far if i look bit further out.
I admit I've had few responses but not good news lol
Just seems like we are farting against thunder but I'll keep trying & keep hoping for the best"
From my experience, even if the message is well crafted many women will first view the profile before deciding to answer. If it doesn't rouse their interest, odds of an answer are less likely. |
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"New here & don't have a chance as most want verification but can't get if you don't have! Not many in my town but then seems like im too far if i look bit further out.
I admit I've had few responses but not good news lol
Just seems like we are farting against thunder but I'll keep trying & keep hoping for the best"
If you're new the best advice is to NOT wait on here - you could well be waiting for a very long time.
I moved on to going to socials and well-researched clubs. What I found, having made an effort to dress well and behaved in the same way I would in any normal social situation, was that I quickly found myself successful.....and I've never looked back. Profiles are anonymous and may well sell you short, plus you're up against a lot of other issues on here that are extremely unlikely to change.
Be brave - go for it! If a very average guy like me can do well, almost anyone can. Good luck!  |
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"Write what you want, but if your profile pics don't match their expectations, you ain't getting a response - or, at least, the one you want
I totally agree. Spoiled for choice, with so many of us. Women know they can set their standards as high as they wish. "
Should we lower our standards? |
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"Write what you want, but if your profile pics don't match their expectations, you ain't getting a response - or, at least, the one you want
I totally agree. Spoiled for choice, with so many of us. Women know they can set their standards as high as they wish.
Should we lower our standards?"
Absolutely not - just stating facts. |
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"Write what you want, but if your profile pics don't match their expectations, you ain't getting a response - or, at least, the one you want
I totally agree. Spoiled for choice, with so many of us. Women know they can set their standards as high as they wish.
Should we lower our standards?
Absolutely not - just stating facts. "
I see, thank you for clarifying |
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"Write what you want, but if your profile pics don't match their expectations, you ain't getting a response - or, at least, the one you want
I totally agree. Spoiled for choice, with so many of us. Women know they can set their standards as high as they wish.
Should we lower our standards?
Absolutely not - just stating facts.
I see, thank you for clarifying "
No probs - realise it could have been read two ways.
I'm firmly of the opinion that every individual has the right to like what they like and respond accordingly. Just because us single guys get tumble on here it shouldn't mean women should 'take pity' 
I keep telling guys to stop messaging on here and head out to clubs and socials, but it appears to fall on deaf ears. |
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