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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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Never have, not sure why but never met anyone that could make me cum orally!
Always told to lie back and relax as they want to be the first one to give me an oral orgasam but it honestly dose not work on me!
Even had an ex that is oppressed with being my first and even though she is in a relationship keeps trying to meet up with me (maybe that’s an ego thing?)
Anyone else not enjoy oral and why? |
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By *vaRose43Woman 28 weeks ago
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"Never have, not sure why but never met anyone that could make me cum orally!
Always told to lie back and relax as they want to be the first one to give me an oral orgasam but it honestly dose not work on me!
Even had an ex that is oppressed with being my first and even though she is in a relationship keeps trying to meet up with me (maybe that’s an ego thing?)
Anyone else not enjoy oral and why? "
Is it that you can’t cum from oral or that you don’t enjoy it at all?
Nobody should be making you do anything you don’t enjoy. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman 28 weeks ago
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Maybe you're just someone who doesn't get the right stimulation from oral in order to make you orgasm. It isn't a bad thing, just a thing. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Never have, not sure why but never met anyone that could make me cum orally!
Always told to lie back and relax as they want to be the first one to give me an oral orgasam but it honestly dose not work on me!
Even had an ex that is oppressed with being my first and even though she is in a relationship keeps trying to meet up with me (maybe that’s an ego thing?)
Anyone else not enjoy oral and why?
Is it that you can’t cum from oral or that you don’t enjoy it at all?
Nobody should be making you do anything you don’t enjoy. "
I just can’t cum from it, the thought and watching is good but I tend to not enjoy it after a while |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Maybe you're just someone who doesn't get the right stimulation from oral in order to make you orgasm. It isn't a bad thing, just a thing. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you."
Thanks and yes I think you are correct. I even pretend to enjoy it so as not to upset those giving lol but it’s not easy remaining hard if something doesn’t stimulate |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Only ever managed to cum when the Mrs has done it, her piercing and technique just feels amazing It's hard not too."
Yes, when you are with someone for a while they get to know what works
Sadly still doesn’t work for me, just not into it or it’s not sensitive enough |
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Like most things sex, comparability seems more of a thing than technique (assuming technique not actively terrible).
I've had some women who just seem to instinctively know what they are doing... Amazing when that happens.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Like most things sex, comparability seems more of a thing than technique (assuming technique not actively terrible).
I've had some women who just seem to instinctively know what they are doing... Amazing when that happens.
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Lucky! But I think mine maybe more a lack of sensitivity than anyone’s technique |
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By *hilloutMan 28 weeks ago
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"Never have, not sure why but never met anyone that could make me cum orally!
Always told to lie back and relax as they want to be the first one to give me an oral orgasam but it honestly dose not work on me!
Even had an ex that is oppressed with being my first and even though she is in a relationship keeps trying to meet up with me (maybe that’s an ego thing?)
Anyone else not enjoy oral and why? "
Does it bother you not being able to climax orally? Do you still enjoy the act nonetheless? |
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I'll just paste verbatim my comment from a similar thread two days ago...
Despite the intense pleasure I don't ejaculate from oral. Never have done. I don't see it as a failing, it's just an inconsequential bedroom quirk. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Never have, not sure why but never met anyone that could make me cum orally!
Always told to lie back and relax as they want to be the first one to give me an oral orgasam but it honestly dose not work on me!
Even had an ex that is oppressed with being my first and even though she is in a relationship keeps trying to meet up with me (maybe that’s an ego thing?)
Anyone else not enjoy oral and why?
Does it bother you not being able to climax orally? Do you still enjoy the act nonetheless?"
I suppose it does as would love the sensation but it’s not a deal breaker |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Everybody reacts differently so just enjoy what you do enjoy. "
I actually prefer giving oral and that normally keeps them happy after failing to make me cum lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"I'll just paste verbatim my comment from a similar thread two days ago...
Despite the intense pleasure I don't ejaculate from oral. Never have done. I don't see it as a failing, it's just an inconsequential bedroom quirk."
I don’t really get the pleasure of it either ????? |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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My ex bf was like that, he said it did nothing for him, no matter what woman he was with, it just didn't excite and stimulate him. He loved giving oral, he said going down on a woman turned him on much more and did much more for him. We're all different and don't have to be like the majority x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"My ex bf was like that, he said it did nothing for him, no matter what woman he was with, it just didn't excite and stimulate him. He loved giving oral, he said going down on a woman turned him on much more and did much more for him. We're all different and don't have to be like the majority x"
Did we ever date? Ha ha as he sounds exactly like me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Hmmmm
Are you trying to get females to msg you and meet to
Have a go sucking you ?
And guess what …. They are the first !
Just my opinion"
Nope, never met anyone off here. Just curious as it seems to bother some women |
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"Hmmmm
Are you trying to get females to msg you and meet to
Have a go sucking you ?
And guess what …. They are the first !
Just my opinion
Nope, never met anyone off here. Just curious as it seems to bother some women "
The same reason it bothers some men when women say they don't like receiving oral. They think everyone enjoys sex the way they do and they feel a bit miffed that you don't |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Not everyone enjoys everything.
I'm not sure why so many people assume that there are certain things that everyone likes sexually.  "
That does seem to be the issue with many women who automatically go for oral!
Where as I prefer giving oral much more than receiving |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Hmmmm
Are you trying to get females to msg you and meet to
Have a go sucking you ?
And guess what …. They are the first !
Just my opinion
Nope, never met anyone off here. Just curious as it seems to bother some women
The same reason it bothers some men when women say they don't like receiving oral. They think everyone enjoys sex the way they do and they feel a bit miffed that you don't "
Very true, if I go to use my mouth and they pull me back up I never question just go with it |
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"Not everyone enjoys everything.
I'm not sure why so many people assume that there are certain things that everyone likes sexually.
That does seem to be the issue with many women who automatically go for oral!
Where as I prefer giving oral much more than receiving "
A lot of men do too, we mention in our profile that I don't enjoy it so the guys who find it essential aren't disappointed.
Certain things are kind of expected I've found.
I never explain or justify.
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I hardly ever come from a bj , very few women take the time and effort to understand what works for you personally and then have the energy & patience to stick with it !
It doesn’t bother me tbh, bj’s are for the time outs and I really enjoy the rest and sensation of done well & don’t need to climax |
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"I'll just paste verbatim my comment from a similar thread two days ago...
Despite the intense pleasure I don't ejaculate from oral. Never have done. I don't see it as a failing, it's just an inconsequential bedroom quirk.
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I don’t really get the pleasure of it either ?????"
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Either? Oh I get the pleasure (as mentioned above), but not ejac'.  |
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"Only my partner has made me cum orally.
For me it's more than likely anxiety when it's someone else. "
No 1 other than my wife has made me cum either definitely an emotional attachment there and only 2 or 3 times in 27 years together isn't any biggie now I'm older it's more about being nice to each other and enjoying our special time
It's much more whats the word erm fulfilling friend ship and close Ness cuddles are essential and being in that relaxed sensual state where time just passes without a thought lovely Mr 
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"Never have, not sure why but never met anyone that could make me cum orally!
Always told to lie back and relax as they want to be the first one to give me an oral orgasam but it honestly dose not work on me!
Even had an ex that is oppressed with being my first and even though she is in a relationship keeps trying to meet up with me (maybe that’s an ego thing?)
Anyone else not enjoy oral and why? "
id rather give a woman oral than receive it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Never have, not sure why but never met anyone that could make me cum orally!
Always told to lie back and relax as they want to be the first one to give me an oral orgasam but it honestly dose not work on me!
Even had an ex that is oppressed with being my first and even though she is in a relationship keeps trying to meet up with me (maybe that’s an ego thing?)
Anyone else not enjoy oral and why? id rather give a woman oral than receive it"
Same |
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"Everybody reacts differently so just enjoy what you do enjoy.
I actually prefer giving oral and that normally keeps them happy after failing to make me cum lol "
M8 i am actually the same as you, don’t ever seem to cum from it, enjoy it for a bit & then i’m like just want them to stop.. i think it’s possibly down to me being anxious or something but don’t know?? i would love to have that feeling although my way round it is getting them to wank me off & then when i’m about to cum they take over with there mouth & that is amazing  but yea i prefer giving oral & always have honestly love it |
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It really depends for me. My first few experiences from BJ’s weren’t the greatest and I couldn’t cum from them at all, in fact I just didnt enjoy them. In all honesty I think the technique used was quite poor. Then after a while, I met others who were amazing at giving BJ’s and I became more confident in telling them what I liked and didn’t like. So I think it just depends OP. |
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By *apybarasCouple 28 weeks ago
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Fairly similar myself, it feels nice, but I get more from giving than receiving. I therefore find that I "lose interest" (not entirely, but that's as close as I can get to describing it, maybe distracted by thoughts of being selfish?).
Ms. Capybara doesn't mind, one less job for her, and she gets all the attention!
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Everybody reacts differently so just enjoy what you do enjoy.
I actually prefer giving oral and that normally keeps them happy after failing to make me cum lol
M8 i am actually the same as you, don’t ever seem to cum from it, enjoy it for a bit & then i’m like just want them to stop.. i think it’s possibly down to me being anxious or something but don’t know?? i would love to have that feeling although my way round it is getting them to wank me off & then when i’m about to cum they take over with there mouth & that is amazing but yea i prefer giving oral & always have honestly love it "
I prefer simply wanking into their face than them sucking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Fairly similar myself, it feels nice, but I get more from giving than receiving. I therefore find that I "lose interest" (not entirely, but that's as close as I can get to describing it, maybe distracted by thoughts of being selfish?).
Ms. Capybara doesn't mind, one less job for her, and she gets all the attention!
Lucky Mrs lol but same much prefer giving
;-)"
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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It depends on the woman, some aren’t particularly talented at it, some are ok and others are amazing.
A little communication helps even if it’s amplifying your moans to let her know what you like and dampening then when they are not.
If they’re attentive they will figure out what works for you and what doesn’t.
Quite a few have made me cum from a BJ and their technique has always been similar.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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I have never seen BJ as the main event, more like part of the experience, very few men cum from just a BJ normal there is balls being licked/sucked a bit of rimming or a finger massaging the prostate and of course a bit of wanking.
It's normal only in porn films and they are very heavy edited. You don't see the guy having a wank halfway through. |
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"I have never seen BJ as the main event, more like part of the experience, very few men cum from just a BJ normal there is balls being licked/sucked a bit of rimming or a finger massaging the prostate and of course a bit of wanking.
It's normal only in porn films and they are very heavy edited. You don't see the guy having a wank halfway through.
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I bow to the lady with first hand knowledge |
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"Never have, not sure why but never met anyone that could make me cum orally!
Always told to lie back and relax as they want to be the first one to give me an oral orgasam but it honestly dose not work on me!
Even had an ex that is oppressed with being my first and even though she is in a relationship keeps trying to meet up with me (maybe that’s an ego thing?)
Anyone else not enjoy oral and why? "
Many women think they give a good BJ but unfortunately they often don't.
The best are from men.
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By *pandjMan 28 weeks ago
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Only done it once and that ended up me face fucking her to get me over the edge. Also nothing worse than a woman saying they are awesome/love giving them only for them to be "meh".
Have met two women off here that did blow my mind and I would've come for sure but I stopped as I wanted to have sex with them.
Love giving head to ladies as well |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"I have never seen BJ as the main event, more like part of the experience, very few men cum from just a BJ normal there is balls being licked/sucked a bit of rimming or a finger massaging the prostate and of course a bit of wanking.
It's normal only in porn films and they are very heavy edited. You don't see the guy having a wank halfway through. "
Ha ha true and you don’t see the fluffer or the girls that clean up all the spare fluids lol |
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Don't have much experience with bjs, either receiving or giving. Don't think have ever cum from receiving one.
I don't get hard giving one but as I like to please it ticks off that button and my physical sexual pleasure is not necessary. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Never have, not sure why but never met anyone that could make me cum orally!
Always told to lie back and relax as they want to be the first one to give me an oral orgasam but it honestly dose not work on me!
Even had an ex that is oppressed with being my first and even though she is in a relationship keeps trying to meet up with me (maybe that’s an ego thing?)
Anyone else not enjoy oral and why?
Many women think they give a good BJ but unfortunately they often don't.
The best are from men.
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Makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Only done it once and that ended up me face fucking her to get me over the edge. Also nothing worse than a woman saying they are awesome/love giving them only for them to be "meh".
Have met two women off here that did blow my mind and I would've come for sure but I stopped as I wanted to have sex with them.
Love giving head to ladies as well"
Not had the pleasure of meeting anyone that has brought me close yet |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"I have never seen BJ as the main event, more like part of the experience, very few men cum from just a BJ normal there is balls being licked/sucked a bit of rimming or a finger massaging the prostate and of course a bit of wanking.
It's normal only in porn films and they are very heavy edited. You don't see the guy having a wank halfway through.
I bow to the lady with first hand knowledge "
Shorty that should be mouth knowledge lol
I don't claim to give the best BJ, just a more realistic expectations. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Perhaps I'm selfish but I don't do it to make the man cum.
I like working myself up so much that I want it inside me.
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That’s interesting so you give head as it turns you on? Does it get you more turned on knowing they are enjoying it or the act itself? |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"I have never seen BJ as the main event, more like part of the experience, very few men cum from just a BJ normal there is balls being licked/sucked a bit of rimming or a finger massaging the prostate and of course a bit of wanking.
It's normal only in porn films and they are very heavy edited. You don't see the guy having a wank halfway through.
Ha ha true and you don’t see the fluffer or the girls that clean up all the spare fluids lol"
That's what you have to remember, porn is not real life and most men if they are honest don't cum from BJ's alone, unless they are a two pumps wonder. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"I have never seen BJ as the main event, more like part of the experience, very few men cum from just a BJ normal there is balls being licked/sucked a bit of rimming or a finger massaging the prostate and of course a bit of wanking.
It's normal only in porn films and they are very heavy edited. You don't see the guy having a wank halfway through.
Ha ha true and you don’t see the fluffer or the girls that clean up all the spare fluids lol
That's what you have to remember, porn is not real life and most men if they are honest don't cum from BJ's alone, unless they are a two pumps wonder. "
Maybe that’s my issue? Im a stayer though it could be lack of sensitivity maybe? As a lot of women find it unusual that I don’t stay hard in oral
Tend to let them for a little while then try and move on |
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I generally don't cum from oral. Doesn't bother me tbh as I'm just enjoying the sensation and attention and not thinking about b the climax at all.
I think I need to move my hips to cum and have found occasionally that if my partner is amenable to having her head held and I can be upright then I'll reach orgasm and very intensely at that.
I did know one woman who could make me cum with her mouth no matter the circumstances so it's just the luck of the draw really. |
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"Just met the wrong women mate 0 complaints over here "
Honestly I agree with this assessment. I was the same until I started seeing a woman with no gag reflex. Changed my life! And as I got older I learned to relax more, so even those without bottomless throats have a good chance of getting me off with their mouth, as long as they've got the skills and fortitude to get the job done |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Just met the wrong women mate 0 complaints over here
Honestly I agree with this assessment. I was the same until I started seeing a woman with no gag reflex. Changed my life! And as I got older I learned to relax more, so even those without bottomless throats have a good chance of getting me off with their mouth, as long as they've got the skills and fortitude to get the job done "
Still won’t work on me, had all sorts try, just won’t get it ticking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"I'm also interested to know if this thread resulted in a flood of offers for the OP, from those wanting to prove their skills "
Ha ha I wish. It was a genuine question |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"I'd quite like a guy that didn't like oral.
Do most men request it? Im always doing me best to avoid it ha ha "
Not so much request it, more they shove their penis in your face. |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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"I'm also interested to know if this thread resulted in a flood of offers for the OP, from those wanting to prove their skills "
I'm happy to be terrible at it. |
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"Never have, not sure why but never met anyone that could make me cum orally!
Always told to lie back and relax as they want to be the first one to give me an oral orgasam but it honestly dose not work on me!
Even had an ex that is oppressed with being my first and even though she is in a relationship keeps trying to meet up with me (maybe that’s an ego thing?)
Anyone else not enjoy oral and why? "
I never enjoyed it and was unable to cum from one for ever, until one day someone gave me a mindblowing BJ. It felt so good, it unlocked some kind of mental block that I’d had before that point.
I Love them now. It’s like something changed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"I'd quite like a guy that didn't like oral.
Do most men request it? Im always doing me best to avoid it ha ha
Not so much request it, more they shove their penis in your face. "
Well Aren’t they a charming bunch ha ha only really do that when it’s a bondage situation but as mentioned
Not a fan, that’s more part of the dominance than sexual enjoyment |
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It's hit and miss for me. I've had some incredible blow-jobs that made me feel like my whole body was melting. And others that were uncomfortable and left me wondering how long I could politely leave it before putting a stop to it. |
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