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Categorise yourself - I’m a SSBBW, MILF/Cougar sub .
Is that a helpful shorthand to show people what I look like and what I’m into, or is it degrading and objectifying of a beautiful and unique human being   |
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"Categorise yourself - I’m a SSBBW, MILF/Cougar sub .
Is that a helpful shorthand to show people what I look like and what I’m into, or is it degrading and objectifying of a beautiful and unique human being"
I had to look up what SSBBW was.
I think slapping things and people into boxes and affixing labels can be limiting.
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"Categorise yourself - I’m a SSBBW, MILF/Cougar sub .
Is that a helpful shorthand to show people what I look like and what I’m into, or is it degrading and objectifying of a beautiful and unique human being
I had to look up what SSBBW was.
I think slapping things and people into boxes and affixing labels can be limiting.
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Yeah I agree, it robs people of their individuality. But at the same time, are most people on Fab concerned about learning the individual nuance of each person they meet ? |
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"I think it shows how you self identify in your sexuality and what you are currently into/looking for
I myself am a regular guy with dom side and looking for a busty sub to enjoy time with."
See, category pointers can be really helpful in filtering the field and finding potential matches |
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"I think it shows how you self identify in your sexuality and what you are currently into/looking for
I myself am a regular guy with dom side and looking for a busty sub to enjoy time with.
See, category pointers can be really helpful in filtering the field and finding potential matches "
Yeah they would be help but when I say I have a dom side I’m not talking about hanging women from the ceiling by their clits and all that extreme stuff, I just like to take control, so searching by criteria doesn’t really work as not everyone is looking for the same level. |
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"Categorise yourself - I’m a SSBBW, MILF/Cougar sub .
Is that a helpful shorthand to show people what I look like and what I’m into, or is it degrading and objectifying of a beautiful and unique human being
I had to look up what SSBBW was.
I think slapping things and people into boxes and affixing labels can be limiting.
Yeah I agree, it robs people of their individuality. But at the same time, are most people on Fab concerned about learning the individual nuance of each person they meet ?"
Probably not which is why we don't really meet people from fab. We use it to find events to meet people at.
But if I'm gonna be all "What's in the box!?!" then I'm probably a bisexual milf switch.
J |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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Yeah I agree, it robs people of their individuality. But at the same time, are most people on Fab concerned about learning the individual nuance of each person they meet ?"
Some people may be keen to learn the individual nuances of each person they meet. Others just want a hole to fill and don’t fuss about much more. There’s more types in between the two extremes too. There’s all types.
Some people may be seeking someone solely based on a label and that suits them.
If it makes you happy, then do it by all means. |
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"Categorise yourself - I’m a SSBBW, MILF/Cougar sub .
Is that a helpful shorthand to show people what I look like and what I’m into, or is it degrading and objectifying of a beautiful and unique human being
I had to look up what SSBBW was.
I think slapping things and people into boxes and affixing labels can be limiting.
Yeah I agree, it robs people of their individuality. But at the same time, are most people on Fab concerned about learning the individual nuance of each person they meet ?"
I am. I would rather have their own description of where they are and what they are looking for, than a label. |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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I think labels help cut to the chase. Ive joined groups on fetish sites for BBWs and cougars as they contain those looking for my body type and age range. However its for me to label myself. Often I get people messaging me calling me a milf or cougar who don't know me. |
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By *ayRyuMan 31 weeks ago
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It's a hard one. What point does one body type become another?
I'm very athletic, but I think I look very average so call myself so.
I generally ignore those labels. I just see a person, whatever the shape or size. If I like them I like them! |
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"I think it shows how you self identify in your sexuality and what you are currently into/looking for
I myself am a regular guy with dom side and looking for a busty sub to enjoy time with.
See, category pointers can be really helpful in filtering the field and finding potential matches
Yeah they would be help but when I say I have a dom side I’m not talking about hanging women from the ceiling by their clits and all that extreme stuff, I just like to take control, so searching by criteria doesn’t really work as not everyone is looking for the same level."
That’s also true, but it’s a starting point right? So, what would you do, left alone with a busty sub?  |
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"I'm a Meli.
Honestly, I could say I'm x, y and z but fork that. Shorthand can be great to explain certain things quickly but it doesn't really do me justice."
Yeah quick labels can be good to start from but I guess it’s only once you speak to someone and get more in depth that you can truly understand |
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"I think it shows how you self identify in your sexuality and what you are currently into/looking for
I myself am a regular guy with dom side and looking for a busty sub to enjoy time with.
See, category pointers can be really helpful in filtering the field and finding potential matches
Yeah they would be help but when I say I have a dom side I’m not talking about hanging women from the ceiling by their clits and all that extreme stuff, I just like to take control, so searching by criteria doesn’t really work as not everyone is looking for the same level.
That’s also true, but it’s a starting point right? So, what would you do, left alone with a busty sub? "
I think that’s more for private conversation, don’t you? Lol |
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"Categorise yourself - I’m a SSBBW, MILF/Cougar sub .
Is that a helpful shorthand to show people what I look like and what I’m into, or is it degrading and objectifying of a beautiful and unique human being
I had to look up what SSBBW was.
I think slapping things and people into boxes and affixing labels can be limiting.
Yeah I agree, it robs people of their individuality. But at the same time, are most people on Fab concerned about learning the individual nuance of each person they meet ?
Probably not which is why we don't really meet people from fab. We use it to find events to meet people at.
But if I'm gonna be all "What's in the box!?!" then I'm probably a bisexual milf switch.
J"
That’s a really good point, people use fab for different functions in their life. Looking for friends these porn categorisations have no benefit |
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"It changes for me daily so couldn’t possibly say.
Now that’s how to make life interesting! That, or get really overtired when you’re constantly having to refresh your profile  "
Been there!
I’m 100% switch in terms of dynamics so it’s the simplest shortcut to explain as it gets. |
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"Categorise yourself - I’m a SSBBW, MILF/Cougar sub .
Is that a helpful shorthand to show people what I look like and what I’m into, or is it degrading and objectifying of a beautiful and unique human being"
I guess in this certain dynamic I would be seen as a “cub” but I prefer to be a bit more of a dominant cub I guess |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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"I'm a twat
Had me in stitches.
On topic. I'm Alex. Labels are for clothes.
I’m really REALLY fighting the urge to crack a dad joke about how good I’d look wearing you - please forgive me !!!!  "
Dont fight it, let the urge flow through you and out of your fingers to the forum. become one with the dad joke.
I bet you'd feel just as good as you'd look wearing me.  |
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Yeah I agree, it robs people of their individuality. But at the same time, are most people on Fab concerned about learning the individual nuance of each person they meet ?
Some people may be keen to learn the individual nuances of each person they meet. Others just want a hole to fill and don’t fuss about much more. There’s more types in between the two extremes too. There’s all types.
Some people may be seeking someone solely based on a label and that suits them.
If it makes you happy, then do it by all means. "
Labels certainly aren’t the be all and end all. I think they can be a useful starting point, but as you rightly point out it takes away all subtlety and is a very blunt tool |
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"Categorise yourself - I’m a SSBBW, MILF/Cougar sub .
Is that a helpful shorthand to show people what I look like and what I’m into, or is it degrading and objectifying of a beautiful and unique human being
I had to look up what SSBBW was.
I think slapping things and people into boxes and affixing labels can be limiting.
Yeah I agree, it robs people of their individuality. But at the same time, are most people on Fab concerned about learning the individual nuance of each person they meet ?
I am. I would rather have their own description of where they are and what they are looking for, than a label."
Where they are physically, or mentally on their swinging journey? |
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"It's a hard one. What point does one body type become another?
I'm very athletic, but I think I look very average so call myself so.
I generally ignore those labels. I just see a person, whatever the shape or size. If I like them I like them!"
Absolutely, the body characterisations on fab for example aren’t very descriptive BUT I can imagine a lot of people would be put off joining if they have to click a term that describes their body in medicalised jargon |
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"I'm a Meli.
Honestly, I could say I'm x, y and z but fork that. Shorthand can be great to explain certain things quickly but it doesn't really do me justice."
I think that sums up the situation nicely |
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By *essTTWoman 31 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"It's a hard one. What point does one body type become another?
I'm very athletic, but I think I look very average so call myself so.
I generally ignore those labels. I just see a person, whatever the shape or size. If I like them I like them!"
I'm the same and it's the reason I don't like to categorise myself
I want someone to like me cause they like me not because I'm bbw/fat/black or any of the other sub groups I fit into |
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"I'm a twat
Had me in stitches.
On topic. I'm Alex. Labels are for clothes.
I’m really REALLY fighting the urge to crack a dad joke about how good I’d look wearing you - please forgive me !!!!
Dont fight it, let the urge flow through you and out of your fingers to the forum. become one with the dad joke.
I bet you'd feel just as good as you'd look wearing me. "
Oh you’re evil, I hope you’re proud of yourself! Don’t worry, I’m going to get my own back when I wear you as a muff  |
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"Categorise yourself - I’m a SSBBW, MILF/Cougar sub .
Is that a helpful shorthand to show people what I look like and what I’m into, or is it degrading and objectifying of a beautiful and unique human being
I guess in this certain dynamic I would be seen as a “cub” but I prefer to be a bit more of a dominant cub I guess"
Interesting, a dominant cub. Have these always been your interests or have they changed over time? |
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"It's a hard one. What point does one body type become another?
I'm very athletic, but I think I look very average so call myself so.
I generally ignore those labels. I just see a person, whatever the shape or size. If I like them I like them!
I'm the same and it's the reason I don't like to categorise myself
I want someone to like me cause they like me not because I'm bbw/fat/black or any of the other sub groups I fit into "
Yes I totally understand that. You’re a person in your own right, you don’t need to be broken down into convenient definitions. I have a bit of that myself, I have no issue with someone being initially attracted to me because I’m an older woman, for eg, but I wouldn’t want that to be the only reason |
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"Categorise yourself - I’m a SSBBW, MILF/Cougar sub .
Is that a helpful shorthand to show people what I look like and what I’m into, or is it degrading and objectifying of a beautiful and unique human being"
They're categories you have chosen for yourself and own to help looking for people you want to meet. In a way, similar to female looking to meet male. When others apply labels and attempt to tell you what you are; that's an entirely different matter.
I don't think they objectify or degrade, just a small pointer saying what you, a beautiful, unique and intelligent being wants. |
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By *ayRyuMan 31 weeks ago
Harrogate |
"It's a hard one. What point does one body type become another?
I'm very athletic, but I think I look very average so call myself so.
I generally ignore those labels. I just see a person, whatever the shape or size. If I like them I like them!
Absolutely, the body characterisations on fab for example aren’t very descriptive BUT I can imagine a lot of people would be put off joining if they have to click a term that describes their body in medicalised jargon "
It's definitely an awkward one if you find it hard to be self descriptive. Or very self conscious to start with. |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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"I'm a twat
Had me in stitches.
On topic. I'm Alex. Labels are for clothes.
I’m really REALLY fighting the urge to crack a dad joke about how good I’d look wearing you - please forgive me !!!!
Dont fight it, let the urge flow through you and out of your fingers to the forum. become one with the dad joke.
I bet you'd feel just as good as you'd look wearing me.
Oh you’re evil, I hope you’re proud of yourself! Don’t worry, I’m going to get my own back when I wear you as a muff "
You say that like it's a bad thing  |
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"Categorise yourself - I’m a SSBBW, MILF/Cougar sub .
Is that a helpful shorthand to show people what I look like and what I’m into, or is it degrading and objectifying of a beautiful and unique human being
I guess in this certain dynamic I would be seen as a “cub” but I prefer to be a bit more of a dominant cub I guess
Interesting, a dominant cub. Have these always been your interests or have they changed over time?"
I have always been a naturally dominant person so I guess it goes hand in hand with my desire of cougars in this particular kink. |
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"It's a hard one. What point does one body type become another?
I'm very athletic, but I think I look very average so call myself so.
I generally ignore those labels. I just see a person, whatever the shape or size. If I like them I like them!
Absolutely, the body characterisations on fab for example aren’t very descriptive BUT I can imagine a lot of people would be put off joining if they have to click a term that describes their body in medicalised jargon
It's definitely an awkward one if you find it hard to be self descriptive. Or very self conscious to start with. "
Yes. The world outside fab makes body shaming so normal that I know so many people who can’t even look in mirrors |
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"I'm a twat
Had me in stitches.
On topic. I'm Alex. Labels are for clothes.
I’m really REALLY fighting the urge to crack a dad joke about how good I’d look wearing you - please forgive me !!!!
Dont fight it, let the urge flow through you and out of your fingers to the forum. become one with the dad joke.
I bet you'd feel just as good as you'd look wearing me.
Oh you’re evil, I hope you’re proud of yourself! Don’t worry, I’m going to get my own back when I wear you as a muff
You say that like it's a bad thing "
Bad things for bad boys naughty puppy |
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By *ayRyuMan 31 weeks ago
Harrogate |
"It's a hard one. What point does one body type become another?
I'm very athletic, but I think I look very average so call myself so.
I generally ignore those labels. I just see a person, whatever the shape or size. If I like them I like them!
Absolutely, the body characterisations on fab for example aren’t very descriptive BUT I can imagine a lot of people would be put off joining if they have to click a term that describes their body in medicalised jargon
It's definitely an awkward one if you find it hard to be self descriptive. Or very self conscious to start with.
Yes. The world outside fab makes body shaming so normal that I know so many people who can’t even look in mirrors "
Which in itself is incredibly sad. We all have opinions and preferences but why destroy others esteem in the process? |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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I was called a GILF recently, one of the nicer things I have been called.
Last week I was called a F***ing C**t and it was my birthday and didn’t deserve it for a change  |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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"A DOLF.
A Dyslexic Irresistible Little Fucker 
There’s always one and it’s always you, Woody
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That’s the most wanted thing I wish a woman would say to me…. |
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"I’m a fucking nightmare.
And I’d probably fit in a box. "
Don't happen to be named Rosalind by any chance?
Spend half an hour with Bob Mortimer and Aisling Bea asking you random questions before making up a song about you?
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"I’m a fucking nightmare.
And I’d probably fit in a box.
Don't happen to be named Rosalind by any chance?
Spend half an hour with Bob Mortimer and Aisling Bea asking you random questions before making up a song about you?
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I'm tired of my humour being too niche |
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"I’m a fucking nightmare.
And I’d probably fit in a box.
Don't happen to be named Rosalind by any chance?
Spend half an hour with Bob Mortimer and Aisling Bea asking you random questions before making up a song about you?
I'm tired of my humour being too niche"
I got it xx |
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By *essTTWoman 31 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"It's a hard one. What point does one body type become another?
I'm very athletic, but I think I look very average so call myself so.
I generally ignore those labels. I just see a person, whatever the shape or size. If I like them I like them!
I'm the same and it's the reason I don't like to categorise myself
I want someone to like me cause they like me not because I'm bbw/fat/black or any of the other sub groups I fit into
Yes I totally understand that. You’re a person in your own right, you don’t need to be broken down into convenient definitions. I have a bit of that myself, I have no issue with someone being initially attracted to me because I’m an older woman, for eg, but I wouldn’t want that to be the only reason "
I hate that at our age we are now in the 'older woman' category |
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im me, i dont have a label, box or category - I am unique and im complex 
haha ur funny Mr 
