FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > The most off putting sex
The most off putting sex
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By *ruceyy OP Man 21 weeks ago
London |
Have you had it? They're hot, flirty, amazing company...
And then you have sex. And my god. It's just all the effort to keep going.
Met someone recently NOT A FABBER who according to her, had not had sex in 7 years. But after the briefest of dates, she wanted to come back to mine.
She was SHAKING when I was close to her, like a nervous pooch. I didn't pressure anything in anyway and constantly asked, are you ok?!
When sex started, she looked like she was horrified but kept saying please. Please please please. So naturally I kept stopping and being like, I'm concerned about you are you sure you're ok?! And she would say yes keep going.
Anyway it didn't last long and I didn't finish but she got grumpy that I had put my clothes back on literally just after she orgasmed.
It was just chaos, borderline terrifying. We are still good and chat but yeah, not doing that again... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Sometimes, even when everything else is right, the actual sexual chemistry just isn't.
I've had people I've adored and been super into and wanted desperately. But when it came to the bedroom we were just utterly incompatible and fell absolutely flat. I doubt either of us got anything out of it but confusion and frustration.
It sucks. But it happens sometimes. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *hilloutMan 21 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Have you had it? They're hot, flirty, amazing company...
And then you have sex. And my god. It's just all the effort to keep going.
Met someone recently NOT A FABBER who according to her, had not had sex in 7 years. But after the briefest of dates, she wanted to come back to mine.
She was SHAKING when I was close to her, like a nervous pooch. I didn't pressure anything in anyway and constantly asked, are you ok?!
When sex started, she looked like she was horrified but kept saying please. Please please please. So naturally I kept stopping and being like, I'm concerned about you are you sure you're ok?! And she would say yes keep going.
Anyway it didn't last long and I didn't finish but she got grumpy that I had put my clothes back on literally just after she orgasmed.
It was just chaos, borderline terrifying. We are still good and chat but yeah, not doing that again..."
As soon as I'd have picked up on how nervous she was, I probably would've backed out. Far safer option.
And yes, I know it's easier said than done when the horn goes to your head(s)  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
It sounds like she is having intimacy issues, especially if she has not had sex for 7 years!!
It sounds like she really likes you and if you like her but the only issue is the sex.
Perhaps an open conversation and take things very slowly or just stay friends.
I have had a few experiences that weren’t the best but not in the mood to publicise them today  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"It sounds like she is having intimacy issues, especially if she has not had sex for 7 years!!
It sounds like she really likes you and if you like her but the only issue is the sex.
Perhaps an open conversation and take things very slowly or just stay friends.
I have had a few experiences that weren’t the best but not in the mood to publicise them today "
Point 1. YES
Pont 2. NO NO NO
Point 3. YES |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Sometimes, even when everything else is right, the actual sexual chemistry just isn't."
This. I actually lived with a lady for 2 years. We were compatible in every way, great friends, never argued, agreed with just about everything, but sex was distinctly ordinary. I still don't know why, it just wasn't as good as it should have been given everything else. We actually started off as friends and since then I've been kinda dismissive of those people who say 'friends first, before intimacy'. I'm like, why the hell would I want to risk a perfectly good friendship  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I've had it too. I pressured myself into fucking some random guy to try get over my 'needing a connection' thing. But oh my god, it was awful. I couldn't believe how bad it was. I think he thought he was some kind of sex god because he made me squirt and he licked me everywhere and his tongue was so hard. And he was so forceful too and kept disrespecting my boundaries. I really regret it and it's made me realise I should never overlook my need for connection.
The poor woman you fucked. I had a feeling she just wanted to get sex done but wasn't particularly into it? A bad experience for you both. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Oh, jeez OP. That sounds uncomfortable.
I've never had that with anyone I've spent time getting to know first. I have had very unsatisfactory sex with a couple of people when I first joined way back when. There was no chemistry, no connection. I didn't realise at the time that NSA just doesn't suit me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Sometimes, even when everything else is right, the actual sexual chemistry just isn't.
I've had people I've adored and been super into and wanted desperately. But when it came to the bedroom we were just utterly incompatible and fell absolutely flat. I doubt either of us got anything out of it but confusion and frustration.
It sucks. But it happens sometimes."
•
You really are Fab's ambassadress of diplomacy with your benign comments, my goth-frock. xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *lakeyMan 21 weeks ago
Teesside |
Working away once got off with this lass out of the local boozer it was a country type pub in the sticks.
Took her back to my rental and was getting down to it in front of the open fire and as she took her pants off she let out a massive fart.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *lueLotusWoman 21 weeks ago
the wilderness |
I once shagged someone who was allright in the sack, can barely remember it it was that meh, but after he went and filled the condom with water and sat there watching and laughing at his sperm swimming around in it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
|
OP
Sounds a lot like pent up anxiety on her side and the fact that she persevered suggests that she was very aware of it. Problem with anxiety is it will feed itself especially in the situation that's triggering the condition.
Depending on your relationship and how frank a conversation you can have and assuming you even want to have that conversation you could talk through the anxiety and reassure her that you can work through it together if it's something she really wants or agree to be pre-event friends if it's not. The worst result would be to lose a friendship as a result of embarrassment. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
A long time ago. Absolutely gorgeous, amazing passionate kisser, when we got to it she just jumped on the bed spread eagle and lay there lifeless. She looked like a sex doll, it was unnerving.
It was such a complete detachment shock to the system, I was done instantly. Awkward though as we'd been friends for quite a while. We did have a sexual relationship later, but after a few conversations. It worked out a lot better with her on top, she felt in control enough to stay engaged then. Once we found that connection, it was always there. It was quite a dance to get there though. If we weren't so enthralled with each other as friends - I doubt we ever would have.
We helped each other a lot it was quite a beautiful relationship. The first open relationship I had. A lot of my beliefs around intimacy and trust were formed from that relationship. And yet our first sexual encounter is lodged in my head as the most off-putting.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *a LunaWoman 21 weeks ago
South Wales |
I once had sex with a man who yelled out really loudly when he came. It was like he’d stepped on a Lego brick, fell and then promptly stepped on another one.
Was most off putting, but he scared the bejesus out of me the first time.
We didn’t date for long.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ruceyy OP Man 20 weeks ago
London |
"I've had it too. I pressured myself into fucking some random guy to try get over my 'needing a connection' thing. But oh my god, it was awful. I couldn't believe how bad it was. I think he thought he was some kind of sex god because he made me squirt and he licked me everywhere and his tongue was so hard. And he was so forceful too and kept disrespecting my boundaries. I really regret it and it's made me realise I should never overlook my need for connection.
The poor woman you fucked. I had a feeling she just wanted to get sex done but wasn't particularly into it? A bad experience for you both."
No she definitely enjoyed it. She was annoyed I didn't finish and was happy to leave it as such and begged for me to finish.
She has a great job and was sane to clarify, it was just sexually she seemed to be into things or act in a way I wasn't comfortable with. But I gave her all the opportunity before to not do it and was looking for a way to back out myself politely many times. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ornycougaWoman 20 weeks ago
NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat |
I met a guy for round 2. First time was great. Second time he thought he was a porn star and snorted and grunted continuous during foreplay. It was like mating with a wild boar. I put up with it for about 15 minutes then told him I wasn't feeling it and he needed to leave. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
