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Could I give up

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So I have been on a few dates with a guy I like but really don't want to hide THIS side of my life . I thort maybe I could see how this sort of thing would go down with him by putting on the dogging show on TV last night but I could tell by the way he reacted its NEVER going to happen . So my quistune is do I give up the sex I really enjoy or do I give up the guy I am not sure about xx

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

I would just put this on hold, it would only need to be for a couple of weeks, have a few more dates and see how you feel about him then make your choice. X

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By *scariMan over a year ago

Taunton

"I would just put this on hold, it would only need to be for a couple of weeks, have a few more dates and see how you feel about him then make your choice. X"

This

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By *lle adie 2Woman over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

Dont mention this site, and maybe you should give the guy a chance if you like him that much..

This site is not going to get you a decent guy with a normal relationship, just sex..and a guy whos genuine is more important(but thats if you like him).

Ive played on here in past and now have a lovely man who i met elsewhere. yes i take a peek on here but never played with anyone since

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree with _isshottiebottie - you don't need to do anything just yet

Give it a few more weeks/months

Either way....enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But how serious are you about making a go of things with him when you are actively looking for meets?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I showed my ex husband a doc on La Chambre and he was 'mortified',

6 weeks later I took him to said club and he loved it,

Men will react 'how they think you want them to react' give it some time then talk to him openly and frankly..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"But how serious are you about making a go of things with him when you are actively looking for meets? "

I am not serious about him all YET And at the mo he knows I am seeing other people ( just not where the other people are from )

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

You've been on a few dates with him.

Don't give up anything and don't share anything.

It's been a few dates... it's nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So I have been on a few dates with a guy I like but really don't want to hide THIS side of my life . I thort maybe I could see how this sort of thing would go down with him by putting on the dogging show on TV last night but I could tell by the way he reacted its NEVER going to happen . So my quistune is do I give up the sex I really enjoy or do I give up the guy I am not sure about xx "

Me being jason is the wisest person you will ever get to meet and I have a saying

" plenty more rats in the sewer"

Says it all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Then that's fine. Sounds like you have been upfront. See how things pan out with the dude while maintaining business as usual with your other activities. Don't worry about it until things get serious. Then you have a potential dilemma. Until then, do your thing.

As for seeing how he reacted to the dogging TV programme. Just because he did not appreciate that, does not mean I would necessarily rule him out for swinging. He is a man, after all. Watching Terry get sucked off in the woods might not be his thing, but swinging just might.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This site is not going to get you a decent guy with a normal relationship, just sex..and a guy whos genuine is more important(but thats if you like him).

Really? There are plenty of posts on here to suggest otherwise

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But how serious are you about making a go of things with him when you are actively looking for meets?

I am not serious about him all YET And at the mo he knows I am seeing other people ( just not where the other people are from ) "

So I'm not seeing the dilema. If you aren't serious and actively looking for meeets then why would you have to give this up?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"But how serious are you about making a go of things with him when you are actively looking for meets?

I am not serious about him all YET And at the mo he knows I am seeing other people ( just not where the other people are from )

So I'm not seeing the dilema. If you aren't serious and actively looking for meeets then why would you have to give this up?"
I am not saying I have to give up right this min as I have said he and I aren't serious . My dilemma is if I let it get serious I will have to give up and I am not sure I could , so do I just knock it on the head with this guy now or keep going and hope if it gos any were between us I can talk him in to swinging

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

at th end of the day, fab is always going to be here.

Life is too short, give it a go with the guy, if it dont work, so what? then come back to fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But how serious are you about making a go of things with him when you are actively looking for meets?

I am not serious about him all YET And at the mo he knows I am seeing other people ( just not where the other people are from )

So I'm not seeing the dilema. If you aren't serious and actively looking for meeets then why would you have to give this up? I am not saying I have to give up right this min as I have said he and I aren't serious . My dilemma is if I let it get serious I will have to give up and I am not sure I could , so do I just knock it on the head with this guy now or keep going and hope if it gos any were between us I can talk him in to swinging "

I'd take his comments while watching the dogging programme with a pinch of salt. He may well have said it to create a good impression, or he may have been horrified by the way that program portrayed? And don't forget that there are plenty of swingers that have no interest in dogging so just because he dismiised that doesn't mean he would be opposed to other aspects.

So just tell him now otherwise you won't know. If he doesn't like it then just end it and it's no real drama. But if you tell him in a few months he could feel betrayed that you had carry on behind his back and if it does go wrong then you are more likely to be hurt.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" This site is not going to get you a decent guy with a normal relationship, just sex........"

I'm sorry, but that's rubbish! I can only assume you havn't been around here for too long!!

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