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"I've been pondering & I'm curious -
So people love confidence, everyone says confidence is sexy.....But does a lack of confidence put you off? Does it make the person less sexy? "
I don't like over confidence, but a can do attitude I find irresistible  |
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"I think shyness and a certain element of awkwardness is actually really appealing.
I do like confidence is attractive too on some people.
What’s truly attractive is honesty and being real xx"
The Mr tells me my shyness and awkwardness is "cute" but he's bias  |
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By *hilloutMan 13 weeks ago
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Not necessarily. There are all sorts of situations where anyone can be anxious, unsure or lacking confidence.
I would say that people who are in general confident through their everyday daily life attract me more  |
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"A lack of confidence doesn’t put me off, but a negative person does "
I get what you mean. Self deprecation is very endearing but if it borders onto self-loathing, that's when it can be a turn off |
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I'm a confident person in some situations... yet Mr reduced me to a shy nervous wreck... it was how I knew I'd got instant attraction and fell head over heels..
Normally I think shyness is cute...apparently when I get shy it's cute 
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"I think shyness and a certain element of awkwardness is actually really appealing.
I do like confidence is attractive too on some people.
What’s truly attractive is honesty and being real xx
The Mr tells me my shyness and awkwardness is "cute" but he's bias "
He’s also (and do not ever tell him this. We will never hear the end of it) right xx |
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"A lack of confidence doesn’t put me off, but a negative person does
I get what you mean. Self deprecation is very endearing but if it borders onto self-loathing, that's when it can be a turn off"
Yep exactly |
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"I think shyness and a certain element of awkwardness is actually really appealing.
I do like confidence is attractive too on some people.
What’s truly attractive is honesty and being real xx"
Definitely this.
And misplaced confidence is even less attractive than timidity. |
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"I think shyness and a certain element of awkwardness is actually really appealing.
I do like confidence is attractive too on some people.
What’s truly attractive is honesty and being real xx"
You've said it so well.
I appear confident but especially in a sexual situation with someone who isn't Mr KC, I'm probably actually quite nervous underneath. |
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"I think shyness and a certain element of awkwardness is actually really appealing.
I do like confidence is attractive too on some people.
What’s truly attractive is honesty and being real xx
The Mr tells me my shyness and awkwardness is "cute" but he's bias
He’s also (and do not ever tell him this. We will never hear the end of it) right xx"
I'm not too sure but your right in that I shouldn't tell him |
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By *eliWoman 13 weeks ago
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"I've been pondering & I'm curious -
So people love confidence, everyone says confidence is sexy.....But does a lack of confidence put you off? Does it make the person less sexy? "
It depends. I don't mind a lack of, a certain shyness. It's cute. I can be a bit shy at times. If it's constant and at a deeper level though? I don't find it sexy. I want to be friends with them but there's no sort of lustful feelings towards them.
I like when people are authentic, can own their doubts etc. Acknowledge them without them taking over nearly every interaction. |
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By *edeWoman 13 weeks ago
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My lack of self confidence has been a core factor of a relationship breakdown so yeah I guess it can been seen that way unfortunately.
It can be difficult when I can come across as confident in social setting - will genuinely chat to anyone. When it comes to anything more though I'm a bit pathetic 
But I'm also very honest and forewarn so it's not my fault I'm not believed in the beginning |
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By *rispyDuckMan 13 weeks ago
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Confidence is sexy
Arrogance is a ‘turn off’
Lack of confidence can be a turn off esp if the person ‘self is very deprived, very low self esteem, too shy & I have to carry the whole conversation lol  .
Sometimes I might be nervous & unsure. But they don’t know that so I don’t show it lol |
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"My lack of self confidence has been a core factor of a relationship breakdown so yeah I guess it can been seen that way unfortunately.
It can be difficult when I can come across as confident in social setting - will genuinely chat to anyone. When it comes to anything more though I'm a bit pathetic
But I'm also very honest and forewarn so it's not my fault I'm not believed in the beginning"
I'm sorry your confidence has caused some relationship issues that in itself must be hard. Yes I'm a forewarner too |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I think I'm more drawn to confident guys, it's an attractive trait. Though the slight awkward/shy type can be a bit endearing, as long as they are confident when we're alone. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"So too much confidence is arrogance & a turn off.
Too little confidence is self deprivation and a turn off.
I think I got it.
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I quite like a bit of arrogance. |
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"So too much confidence is arrogance & a turn off.
Too little confidence is self deprivation and a turn off.
I think I got it.
I quite like a bit of arrogance."
Oh come on I was all sorted, now I'm lost again...... |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"So too much confidence is arrogance & a turn off.
Too little confidence is self deprivation and a turn off.
I think I got it.
I quite like a bit of arrogance.
Oh come on I was all sorted, now I'm lost again......"
Sorry. |
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"So too much confidence is arrogance & a turn off.
Too little confidence is self deprivation and a turn off.
I think I got it.
I quite like a bit of arrogance.
Oh come on I was all sorted, now I'm lost again......
Sorry. "
I also finally had the lightbulb moment if what your PB'd means and no he's not surprisingly he just CBA |
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"So too much confidence is arrogance & a turn off.
Too little confidence is self deprivation and a turn off.
I think I got it.
I quite like a bit of arrogance.
Oh come on I was all sorted, now I'm lost again......
Sorry.
I also finally had the lightbulb moment if what your PB'd means and no he's not surprisingly he just CBA "
Haha, I'm glad he isn't! Don't tell him that though. |
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"So too much confidence is arrogance & a turn off.
Too little confidence is self deprivation and a turn off.
I think I got it.
I quite like a bit of arrogance.
Oh come on I was all sorted, now I'm lost again......
Sorry.
I also finally had the lightbulb moment if what your PB'd means and no he's not surprisingly he just CBA
Haha, I'm glad he isn't! Don't tell him that though. "
It's our secret |
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"Your new shower photo looks pretty confident to me "
This is where people mistake photos for confidence but thank you, but actually on that note, would you look at that and think she's confident then when I was shy in real life would that be a disappointment?? |
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"Your new shower photo looks pretty confident to me
This is where people mistake photos for confidence but thank you, but actually on that note, would you look at that and think she's confident then when I was shy in real life would that be a disappointment?? "
No disappointment at all. I'd chat to you with no expectations. I like to chat and get to know people |
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Confidence is the one thing that drives my mood and interaction on here.
If I’m having a good hair day, the dress fits well, or I'm just generally feeling good about myself it makes my sex drive wake up.
No confidence and i’m as likely to play as Elvis is likely to be spotted in my local supermarket |
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"I think shyness and a certain element of awkwardness is actually really appealing.
I agree, but it has to be genuine. Ive seen narcissistic people try this move.
Understated is very sexy "
Absolutely. And the same for confidence. Forced confidence just comes across as cockiness…
I think I just like genuine. Whatever that may be. |
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"Your new shower photo looks pretty confident to me
This is where people mistake photos for confidence but thank you, but actually on that note, would you look at that and think she's confident then when I was shy in real life would that be a disappointment??
No disappointment at all. I'd chat to you with no expectations. I like to chat and get to know people "
That's good to know them, I do think people can get a different perception of you based on photos alone & I do worry that in reality when we aren't walking around in our lingere etc that it can be somewhat of a disappointment when the "confidence" in photos isn't carried in person....if that makes sense.
So much so I've popped a little note about my shy/awkwardness on my profile. |
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It says on my profile I want a confident but not arrogant man.
It's a big turn off if I get asked a 1001 questions about things or the other way a man that thinks he knows what he is talking about but has not idea.
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I like confidence. I don't think confidence leads to arrogance, to my mind they're not the same thing at all I also don't understand why anyone who's confident has to be quietly so. In certain situations you need people to step up and say they're confident they can achieve something
Confidence can certainly be misplaced though. |
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"I think shyness and a certain element of awkwardness is actually really appealing.
I agree, but it has to be genuine. Ive seen narcissistic people try this move.
Understated is very sexy
Absolutely. And the same for confidence. Forced confidence just comes across as cockiness…
I think I just like genuine. Whatever that may be."
Confidence is an essential element of charisma- over confidence or misplaced confidence is that deluded sense of certainty which belies it |
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"I've been pondering & I'm curious -
So people love confidence, everyone says confidence is sexy.....But does a lack of confidence put you off? Does it make the person less sexy? "
I don’t think it does actually, but that’s from a male perspective
I’m a very confident person myself and it definitely helps with the attraction of women,
Mérida sees it often, other women admiring
So quite possibly for women it is a sexual attraction
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I think you have to be confident in most things you do, always willing to learn and obviously having the confidence to succeed.
I honestly don’t think being confident makes you big headed in any way.
I think it pushes you along on your journey.  |
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I am definitely an introvert. Small talk is really tough for me. Once I know someone, it's all fine, I get out of my shell and I can get really chatty. I'm not super confident but I try not to go on about it as I prefer talking about more positive stuff. |
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"I've been pondering & I'm curious -
So people love confidence, everyone says confidence is sexy.....But does a lack of confidence put you off? Does it make the person less sexy?
I don’t think it does actually, but that’s from a male perspective
I’m a very confident person myself and it definitely helps with the attraction of women,
Mérida sees it often, other women admiring
So quite possibly for women it is a sexual attraction
Mr "
I find confident women extremely sexy - timid, meek and shy I find rather boring. |
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By *B69Woman 12 weeks ago
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I may look and sound confident but sometimes I’m a nervous wreck on the inside, I can also come across as shy in some situations, it’s all down to the day and scenario. A confident man that has that aura about him I’m drawn to. |
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Over confidence is unattractive to me, as it smacks of arrogance.
But a confident, outgoing guy is what I need. I'm not so much confident as extrovert, so someone shy and awkward is not for me.
I guess you can be quietly confident? I need to ponder this. I may be missing on some lovely chaps..... x
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"I've been pondering & I'm curious -
So people love confidence, everyone says confidence is sexy.....But does a lack of confidence put you off? Does it make the person less sexy?
I don’t think it does actually, but that’s from a male perspective
I’m a very confident person myself and it definitely helps with the attraction of women,
Mérida sees it often, other women admiring
So quite possibly for women it is a sexual attraction
Mr
I find confident women extremely sexy - timid, meek and shy I find rather boring. "
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Confidence is sexy but its the being relaxed for me that's sexy. Confident in your ability to be yourself and not be too nervous about what other people think. I don't think nervous people wouldn't be unattractive to me if you can still feel that connection |
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"I've been pondering & I'm curious -
So people love confidence, everyone says confidence is sexy.....But does a lack of confidence put you off? Does it make the person less sexy?
I don’t think it does actually, but that’s from a male perspective
I’m a very confident person myself and it definitely helps with the attraction of women,
Mérida sees it often, other women admiring
So quite possibly for women it is a sexual attraction
Mr
I find confident women extremely sexy - timid, meek and shy I find rather boring.
Hello "
Are these the bum dimples you are looking for? |
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"I've been pondering & I'm curious -
So people love confidence, everyone says confidence is sexy.....But does a lack of confidence put you off? Does it make the person less sexy?
I don’t think it does actually, but that’s from a male perspective
I’m a very confident person myself and it definitely helps with the attraction of women,
Mérida sees it often, other women admiring
So quite possibly for women it is a sexual attraction
Mr
I find confident women extremely sexy - timid, meek and shy I find rather boring.
Hello
Are these the bum dimples you are looking for? "
Those are EXACTLY the dimples I'm looking for |
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For me Yes, I like men who can match my confidence. I guess being a single mum who makes all the decisions, it's refreshing to meet a man who can make me challenge myself. Unconfident men bring out my mothering side, which puts them instantly into the friendzone for me forever. |
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Confidence easily tips into arrogance and often it’s only skin deep. The loudest person in the room is rarely the most interesting. I look for people who are at peace with themselves. They might be shy and reserved, but if they have nothing to prove and no need to pretend - that’s a quiet kind of confidence that I’m drawn to x |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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I was going to say I find quiet confidence sexy but actually I think it's that I find qualities that can be summarised as 'quiet confidence' appealing. Things like decisiveness, directness, demonstrating intention, being proactive.
I can appear confident when I show the above qualities, but not be so underneath.
Equally, a lack of confidence isn't unsexy but indecisiveness, passiveness, a lack focus or clear communication can be. Just like arrogance, ego and overconfidence aren't appealing, either. |
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By *aseylee324Couple 12 weeks ago
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"Arrogance is equally a turn off, fine line between the two.
I'd rather be accused of being quiet than arrogant.
I think people can be both quiet and confident "
Absolutely, confidence isn't synonymous with swagger |
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"Arrogance is equally a turn off, fine line between the two.
I'd rather be accused of being quiet than arrogant.
I think people can be both quiet and confident
Absolutely, confidence isn't synonymous with swagger"
Yes but unfortunately many in particular women seem to think confident is being the loudest most aggressive person in the room.
But I agree quiet confidence is definitely the way forward. |
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I like people who make me feel comfortable, sometimes I'll gravitate to confident people and sometimes to those who are more reserved. I think my own confidence has a big part I'm perception of others and who I am attracted to or admire. |
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"I've been pondering & I'm curious -
So people love confidence, everyone says confidence is sexy.....But does a lack of confidence put you off? Does it make the person less sexy?
I don't like over confidence, but a can do attitude I find irresistible "
A "can do" attitude ha haaa, love the picture this puts in my head |
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I appreciate authenticity and decisiveness more than confidence. Sometimes confidence can be a facade.
One of the most appealling approaches I can recall was from a woman who was very subtle, so much so by the time I realised I was turned on by her she'd closed the gap to point I could feel the heat from her in my veins. She just smiled head tilted forward slightly, looked up at me and said softly: what are you going to do?
I couldn't tell you if that was shyness or confidence, but I was enthralled by her in that moment. |
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