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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"Awww metaphorical booooo
I'm out"
 'soz... Feel free to tell me how you keep your actual pecker up if you like, i know someone else who needs some help in that dept! |
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"I don't. I'm a big believer in letting things be. If the feeling persists then I might try things like going out for a walk etc. "
How do make sure this doesn't turn into just wallowing and fester? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"How do you keep your metaphorical pecker up when you are feeling low?
Asking for a friend 
Comfort food and binge watching Netflix "
What netflix recommendations have you got? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I don't. I'm a big believer in letting things be. If the feeling persists then I might try things like going out for a walk etc. "
The situation is about to get worse with nothing i can do to prevent it (2 major parts of my life) so I'm hoping to ride it out ... I'm pretty good at supporting others, but my bucket is empty at the moment |
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I ignore all forms of human contact , go into the middle of nowhere with my dogs and just be for a while . Not in a negative way , just a bit of detachment and prioritising , processing what’s important to me . Return usually revitalised with the world . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"i keep busy.
use the negative energy to do something i have been putting off.
once my brain is on that task so forget what was troubling me.
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Definitely occupying my brain is helpful |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I like gaming when I need to switch my mind off... it distracts me from things outside the pixels infront of me"
I guess that would help for a short term distraction |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I ignore all forms of human contact , go into the middle of nowhere with my dogs and just be for a while . Not in a negative way , just a bit of detachment and prioritising , processing what’s important to me . Return usually revitalised with the world . "
This is good... I think i need to rediscover my worth |
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A timely question dear Midders  I don’t have a terrific answer. Everyday is a battle, for motivation, a scrape of the barrel for positive energy. The whirlwind of chaos helps a lot, and a series of small and achievable goals. Talking to people who understand can help, although I’m not very good at this. Mostly I focus on small, good decisions, things that encourage health and put some distance between myself and anything negative. Otherwise the drift towards ‘that place’ can be too easy. I also remind myself that this is transitory, and come mid August I’ll be right as rain Xx |
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I evaluate where I am.
If I'm in a terrible place, I let myself wallow for awhile. Sometimes rest is required. Sleep, bath, chocolate.
If I'm a bit better I do things that make me feel better in general - exercise, helping people, creative outlet.
When I'm feeling a lot better I try to work out how I fell into this psychological black hole and how to avoid holes. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I spend time alone with myself. Remembering how amazing of a creature I am.
I buy myself something new to wear.
I go through my todo list of things that I have been on the back burner.
I spend time doing things that make me laugh or at least smile. |
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"I ignore all forms of human contact , go into the middle of nowhere with my dogs and just be for a while . Not in a negative way , just a bit of detachment and prioritising , processing what’s important to me . Return usually revitalised with the world .
This is good... I think i need to rediscover my worth "
I’m personally terrible at sharing problems that are important or personal so I find being at peace with them in my own mind first makes it easier to share if need be .
I hope you find what works for you to ride out your issues x |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I don't. I'm a big believer in letting things be. If the feeling persists then I might try things like going out for a walk etc.
The situation is about to get worse with nothing i can do to prevent it (2 major parts of my life) so I'm hoping to ride it out ... I'm pretty good at supporting others, but my bucket is empty at the moment "
Close friends or family. Someone you can talk to, and who will listen. |
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Ah Chuck  I huddle up and recharge myself. I give myself time with my own thoughts. Sit outside with my dogs and just mentally prepare myself for the next steps. One day at a time with the knowledge I’ve been through worse and I’m still here. Hope you’re ok  |
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"How do you keep your metaphorical pecker up when you are feeling low?
Asking for a friend "
G'day OP,
I just take a step back metaphorically speaking and try to look at the bigger picture of my life.
And I just keep on saying to myself that life is great overall.
You sort of fake it to you make it if that makes sense?
It works for me most the time, 
I hope you're mate feels better soon.
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"I don't. I'm a big believer in letting things be. If the feeling persists then I might try things like going out for a walk etc.
How do make sure this doesn't turn into just wallowing and fester?"
There's a huge difference imo between feeling down for valid reasons and wallowing. I try to solve any problems I can and turn to friends and family for help if I can't. |
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"I don't. I'm a big believer in letting things be. If the feeling persists then I might try things like going out for a walk etc.
The situation is about to get worse with nothing i can do to prevent it (2 major parts of my life) so I'm hoping to ride it out ... I'm pretty good at supporting others, but my bucket is empty at the moment "
I understand and empathise. I think at times like this it's good to take from other people's bucket if you can, it might not be the ones you've supported in the past though.
Can we all help at all? |
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I shroud myself in solitude and calmness - not to wallow - but to ponder about anything that can give me a morsel of feeling upbeat, a memory or the reminiscing of a p+sitive experience.
Taking a walk along the local gardens, high road shops (treating myself to something inexpensive) and visiting cafés really helps me. I'm within the milieu of people and the hustle and bustle but not so much that I need their company; I still need my solitude. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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*Virtual Cuddle midnight.
I realised awhile ago, but if I hang around with happy people, they make me happy,…
I currently feel sexy 24 hours a day  ….
Call me |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I get away from people, except perhaps those few granted access to the inner-scrotum of my mind.
They have a tendency to lift my mood when it's needed for which I am very grateful."
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I'm rubbish at reaching out to people for a chat, so I tend to hide myself away, put some music on and do something physical, be it housework or yoga. For me, sitting still and mulling things over just makes it worse.
My mum used to worry when I shut off from the world, so we made a deal that I would simply text her "I'm having a Greta day" [as in, Greta Garbo "I want to be left alone"] |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Apparently, chocolate is good for it. As the old advert used to say:
"Keep up your pecker with a Cadbury's Double Decker". "
Isn’t also Ketchup a feel good food? |
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By *929Man 34 weeks ago
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Few of my favourite ways to deal
Go to the gym
Long country walk with dog if weather is nice
Think about your goals/plans where you want to be in a year ect always pulls out of a funk
Remembering that bad times don’t last and life can change at any time |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"A timely question dear Midders I don’t have a terrific answer. Everyday is a battle, for motivation, a scrape of the barrel for positive energy. The whirlwind of chaos helps a lot, and a series of small and achievable goals. Talking to people who understand can help, although I’m not very good at this. Mostly I focus on small, good decisions, things that encourage health and put some distance between myself and anything negative. Otherwise the drift towards ‘that place’ can be too easy. I also remind myself that this is transitory, and come mid August I’ll be right as rain Xx "
Yes small wins are good... Sometimes its very hard to see them x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I evaluate where I am.
If I'm in a terrible place, I let myself wallow for awhile. Sometimes rest is required. Sleep, bath, chocolate.
If I'm a bit better I do things that make me feel better in general - exercise, helping people, creative outlet.
When I'm feeling a lot better I try to work out how I fell into this psychological black hole and how to avoid holes."
Yes, i think i need to give in and just sob for a bit and let out the sadness. I had a breakdown briefly yesterday when i was about to give junior colleagues some direction which was distressing for them (and me!) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I spend time alone with myself. Remembering how amazing of a creature I am.
I buy myself something new to wear.
I go through my todo list of things that I have been on the back burner.
I spend time doing things that make me laugh or at least smile. "
I like this... Know your worth |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I ignore all forms of human contact , go into the middle of nowhere with my dogs and just be for a while . Not in a negative way , just a bit of detachment and prioritising , processing what’s important to me . Return usually revitalised with the world .
This is good... I think i need to rediscover my worth
I’m personally terrible at sharing problems that are important or personal so I find being at peace with them in my own mind first makes it easier to share if need be .
I hope you find what works for you to ride out your issues x"
I'm similar... I try to think through issues, it makes me more resilient |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"Talk to a friend
I'm shit at talking.. Excellent at listening
You need a friend that likes to talk then , one with loads of problems ha ha"
in the hope that their problems outweigh mine
What a plan!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I don't. I'm a big believer in letting things be. If the feeling persists then I might try things like going out for a walk etc.
The situation is about to get worse with nothing i can do to prevent it (2 major parts of my life) so I'm hoping to ride it out ... I'm pretty good at supporting others, but my bucket is empty at the moment
Close friends or family. Someone you can talk to, and who will listen. "
Hmmm most of the people in my life are not able to listen |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"Ah Chuck I huddle up and recharge myself. I give myself time with my own thoughts. Sit outside with my dogs and just mentally prepare myself for the next steps. One day at a time with the knowledge I’ve been through worse and I’m still here. Hope you’re ok "
Yep... one day at a time at the moment x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"How do you keep your metaphorical pecker up when you are feeling low?
Asking for a friend
G'day OP,
I just take a step back metaphorically speaking and try to look at the bigger picture of my life.
And I just keep on saying to myself that life is great overall.
You sort of fake it to you make it if that makes sense?
It works for me most the time,
I hope you're mate feels better soon.
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Yep... This little spot of sadness will pass |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I don't. I'm a big believer in letting things be. If the feeling persists then I might try things like going out for a walk etc.
The situation is about to get worse with nothing i can do to prevent it (2 major parts of my life) so I'm hoping to ride it out ... I'm pretty good at supporting others, but my bucket is empty at the moment
I understand and empathise. I think at times like this it's good to take from other people's bucket if you can, it might not be the ones you've supported in the past though.
Can we all help at all? "
My cat is dying .. I don't know if he will make it through the weekend x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I shroud myself in solitude and calmness - not to wallow - but to ponder about anything that can give me a morsel of feeling upbeat, a memory or the reminiscing of a p+sitive experience.
Taking a walk along the local gardens, high road shops (treating myself to something inexpensive) and visiting cafés really helps me. I'm within the milieu of people and the hustle and bustle but not so much that I need their company; I still need my solitude."
I like this plan |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I've no idea, I wish I did.
I try and stay busy, keep my mind occupied but it isn't really working at the moment.
Hope your pecker is up again soon Midnight."
Thank you |
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"I don't. I'm a big believer in letting things be. If the feeling persists then I might try things like going out for a walk etc.
The situation is about to get worse with nothing i can do to prevent it (2 major parts of my life) so I'm hoping to ride it out ... I'm pretty good at supporting others, but my bucket is empty at the moment
I understand and empathise. I think at times like this it's good to take from other people's bucket if you can, it might not be the ones you've supported in the past though.
Can we all help at all?
My cat is dying .. I don't know if he will make it through the weekend x"
Oh |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"*Virtual Cuddle midnight.
I realised awhile ago, but if I hang around with happy people, they make me happy,…
I currently feel sexy 24 hours a day ….
Call me "
I love happy people, they are infectious |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I get away from people, except perhaps those few granted access to the inner-sanctum of my mind.
They have a tendency to lift my mood when it's needed for which I am very grateful."
I like solitude too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I go with the low, there’s movies/books and goods especially for low that I almost look forward too. Helps if you can slob and not go out too "
I've got a free weekend with no commitments x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"Apparently, chocolate is good for it. As the old advert used to say:
"Keep up your pecker with a Cadbury's Double Decker". "
ol umm I have never heard that saying |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I'm rubbish at reaching out to people for a chat, so I tend to hide myself away, put some music on and do something physical, be it housework or yoga. For me, sitting still and mulling things over just makes it worse.
My mum used to worry when I shut off from the world, so we made a deal that I would simply text her "I'm having a Greta day" [as in, Greta Garbo "I want to be left alone"]"
I love codes like this... I use 'adore' with someone close as they cannot say the L bomb |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"Cleaning for me, I have a new found love of it, if I want to take my mind of things I'll grab a cloth."
That's my plan for the morning... A deep deep clean |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"Few of my favourite ways to deal
Go to the gym
Long country walk with dog if weather is nice
Think about your goals/plans where you want to be in a year ect always pulls out of a funk
Remembering that bad times don’t last and life can change at any time "
Thank you |
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"Talk to a friend
I'm shit at talking.. Excellent at listening
You need a friend that likes to talk then , one with loads of problems ha ha
in the hope that their problems outweigh mine
What a plan!! "
It’s a bit crazy but hey sometimes crazy works |
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"I don't. I'm a big believer in letting things be. If the feeling persists then I might try things like going out for a walk etc.
The situation is about to get worse with nothing i can do to prevent it (2 major parts of my life) so I'm hoping to ride it out ... I'm pretty good at supporting others, but my bucket is empty at the moment
I understand and empathise. I think at times like this it's good to take from other people's bucket if you can, it might not be the ones you've supported in the past though.
Can we all help at all?
My cat is dying .. I don't know if he will make it through the weekend x"
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"I don't. I'm a big believer in letting things be. If the feeling persists then I might try things like going out for a walk etc.
The situation is about to get worse with nothing i can do to prevent it (2 major parts of my life) so I'm hoping to ride it out ... I'm pretty good at supporting others, but my bucket is empty at the moment
I understand and empathise. I think at times like this it's good to take from other people's bucket if you can, it might not be the ones you've supported in the past though.
Can we all help at all?
My cat is dying .. I don't know if he will make it through the weekend x"
Sending you massive LB hugs darling |
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