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We payed for a female several years ago for some fmf ff fun. Hot hot hot!!!..So good we payed for an extra hour which took us to 2 hours of hotel naughtiness in total. Was she who put us onto FAB in the first place..haven't looked back since!!! Lol xxx |
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Yes on a stag do in amsterdam, when in rome etc
Didn't really enjoy it and wouldn't do it again. Knowing its a business transaction and fake took all meaning away from it. I'm very hippy dippy, free love etc
I know some guys that love it! maybe they like the "power" feeling but for me sex without some sort of connection is not for me.
LOL some of the other guys on the stag do were boasting about how hard they made her cum
No you really didn't she was faking it but maybe they can suspend they're disbelief |
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There's a stigma behind prostitution, the guys are sad/pathetic, the women are on drugs, all involved are dirty, and maybe in some poor circumstances that maybe true. But for the legitimate majority,working girls and punters are the opposite. Its a means to an end and sometimes better than girlfriends, you pay for what you want and don't HAVE to pleasure the other, whatever you want there's a woman that'll offer it |
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I hate the stigma men have of working girls. All they assume is druggie street walkers!
Isn't it meant to be the oldest profession?
I bet a lot of professionals take better care of their health than some swingers! |
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By *AD1Man 4 days ago
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"I hate the stigma men have of working girls. All they assume is druggie street walkers!
Isn't it meant to be the oldest profession?
I bet a lot of professionals take better care of their health than some swingers! "
I totally agree!!! |
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Things get pretty lean here on the play front at times so we have paid for either erotic massages with extras or for the girls they have here that work in bars.
We are considering paying for a guy for Aurelia next week as we don't travel now until November. |
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"I hate the stigma men have of working girls. All they assume is druggie street walkers!
Isn't it meant to be the oldest profession?
I bet a lot of professionals take better care of their health than some swingers! "
The working girls I know all take much better care of their health and have less incidence of drug abuse than most of the 'normal' people I know. |
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Never understood men who pay for it.
I put it down to men, who have no game and ability to attract women tbh. If they learned how to attract people, it would be more beneficial all round.
But each to their own |
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"Never understood men who pay for it.
I put it down to men, who have no game and ability to attract women tbh. If they learned how to attract people, it would be more beneficial all round.
But each to their own"
I can't see how it would be more beneficial to the people in the se industry.
The guys I know who paid for sex are actually among the more prolific with women. |
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"Never understood men who pay for it.
I put it down to men, who have no game and ability to attract women tbh. If they learned how to attract people, it would be more beneficial all round.
But each to their own"
The thing many people seem to miss, is that even sex workers can choose their clients. I've seen friends who actively live that life turn down those they were absolutely unattracted to regardless of the money offered.
Some people just want a simple no strings transactional encounter.
Some people just want to try something new and it's easier to negotiate with someone working that scene than it is to talk to potential/partners about it or end up treating people who are looking to date as if they're kink or sex vending machines. |
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The thing many people seem to miss, is that even sex workers can choose their clients. I've seen friends who actively live that life turn down those they were absolutely unattracted to regardless of the money offered.
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This and their ability to filter is hilariously adept in my experience. The nicknames they give to the ones marked to avoid have had me in stitches. |
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"Never understood men who pay for it.
I put it down to men, who have no game and ability to attract women tbh. If they learned how to attract people, it would be more beneficial all round.
But each to their own"
For some people it’s a power play. Perceived financial dominance. Like how for some, they enjoy tying people up. It’s a scene. Everyone is different and enjoy different things |
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No and it's never appealed to me to be honest. No judgement on people who do but it just doesn't spank my monkey.
On a side note I used to work in the offshore construction world and it always surprised me how many guys did. We'd come off a vessel in Azerbaijan or Indonesia or where ever and I'd be the only one not ending up in a brothel. |
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"I have a couple of times and was a nice experience, used protection and was a nice experience and they where lovely towards me
Sounds like a nice experience that
Niiiiceee "
Girl Friend Experience. |
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"Never understood men who pay for it.
I put it down to men, who have no game and ability to attract women tbh. If they learned how to attract people, it would be more beneficial all round.
But each to their own
The thing many people seem to miss, is that even sex workers can choose their clients. I've seen friends who actively live that life turn down those they were absolutely unattracted to regardless of the money offered.
Some people just want a simple no strings transactional encounter.
Some people just want to try something new and it's easier to negotiate with someone working that scene than it is to talk to potential/partners about it or end up treating people who are looking to date as if they're kink or sex vending machines."
many men don’t want the hassle or the drama, want to pick exactly what they want and are willing to pay the monetary cost for that
not all SW take all jobs, some pick & chose carefully & class there sexual health highly
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Never in my life handed over cash for sex. The day that I can't seduce a lady with natural charm and charisma I'll give up and give up and become a celibate monk. Apart from that, I don't pay anyone more for their services than an hourly rate that I would charge for my services. |
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"Never understood men who pay for it.
I put it down to men, who have no game and ability to attract women tbh. If they learned how to attract people, it would be more beneficial all round.
But each to their own"
Entirely untrue. I know men who have paid who are charming and not to mention hot.
One might argue someone who has been here for over a year without any meets has "no game" either.  |
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I have done it in the past.
She was a 10/10 and I had a blast. It had nothing to do with lack of charm or looks on my behalf. I just fancied a good shag without any of the complications or efforts involved usually. |
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"I don't like being judgemental but if I man told me he paid for sex I would judge him so hard
If I was a man it would kill me to have to pay someone to want to sleep with me
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I have paid for SW.
Two women who promised the “best bj in town” which I thought visiting a ‘professional’ might help cure me of my inability to cum from oral. They didn’t….
And two black ladies, because we just don’t have black ladies locally. |
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By *uckurcumMan 3 days ago
County Durham .Bishop Auckland |
It's a straightforward transaction...you choose,meet,either socially or purely sexually,both parties get what they want and then part company ....Simple and serves a purpose...
Sometimes a far better option than endless fruitless messages and false hope .... Added bonus,you know what your getting, rather than some relic that looks nothing like the pictures you were sent lol
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"I don't like being judgemental but if I man told me he paid for sex I would judge him so hard
If I was a man it would kill me to have to pay someone to want to sleep with me
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I wouldn't immediately judge a man who admitted to paying for sex, but I'd be very wary until I'd figured out if he was the type who view women as a sub-human collection of holes, existing merely to service his domestic and sexual needs, or a respectful type who sees women as fully-formed people and would be happy and supportive of their adult daughters making such career choices. |
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"I don't like being judgemental but if I man told me he paid for sex I would judge him so hard
If I was a man it would kill me to have to pay someone to want to sleep with me
I wouldn't immediately judge a man who admitted to paying for sex, but I'd be very wary until I'd figured out if he was the type who view women as a sub-human collection of holes, existing merely to service his domestic and sexual needs, or a respectful type who sees women as fully-formed people and would be happy and supportive of their adult daughters making such career choices."
In truth there are plenty of men in here who see women as a collection of holes. I'm not sure men who see SW are wildly different? |
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"I don't like being judgemental but if I man told me he paid for sex I would judge him so hard
If I was a man it would kill me to have to pay someone to want to sleep with me
I wouldn't immediately judge a man who admitted to paying for sex, but I'd be very wary until I'd figured out if he was the type who view women as a sub-human collection of holes, existing merely to service his domestic and sexual needs, or a respectful type who sees women as fully-formed people and would be happy and supportive of their adult daughters making such career choices.
In truth there are plenty of men in here who see women as a collection of holes. I'm not sure men who see SW are wildly different?"
I'm not saying there's a difference, but it's usually fairly clear on here who those men are. |
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"I don't like being judgemental but if I man told me he paid for sex I would judge him so hard
If I was a man it would kill me to have to pay someone to want to sleep with me
I wouldn't immediately judge a man who admitted to paying for sex, but I'd be very wary until I'd figured out if he was the type who view women as a sub-human collection of holes, existing merely to service his domestic and sexual needs, or a respectful type who sees women as fully-formed people and would be happy and supportive of their adult daughters making such career choices.
In truth there are plenty of men in here who see women as a collection of holes. I'm not sure men who see SW are wildly different?
I'm not saying there's a difference, but it's usually fairly clear on here who those men are."
Sure, a lot of sex workers are pretty discriminate about who they have sex with too. Many value their health and safety. Granted not all, but then the same can be said of here as well! |
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"I don't like being judgemental but if I man told me he paid for sex I would judge him so hard
If I was a man it would kill me to have to pay someone to want to sleep with me
I wouldn't immediately judge a man who admitted to paying for sex, but I'd be very wary until I'd figured out if he was the type who view women as a sub-human collection of holes, existing merely to service his domestic and sexual needs, or a respectful type who sees women as fully-formed people and would be happy and supportive of their adult daughters making such career choices.
In truth there are plenty of men in here who see women as a collection of holes. I'm not sure men who see SW are wildly different?
I'm not saying there's a difference, but it's usually fairly clear on here who those men are."
I understand some of the points you've made but why would it bother you whether they're happy if their children made those career choices? |
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Yes several times when i used to travel. I had the opinion that I could pay for it and get a nice massage and the extras or could try and "pull" which still costs and not always guaranteed.
Paying was just easier and always a great experience |
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By *egoMan 3 days ago
Preston |
Plenty of times.
I crave contact, don’t like to be touched. My emotional brain is faulty.
Friends often feel a little weird for cuddle time so they temporarily ’love’ me. A decent arrangement for my needs.
Sometimes it literally is just skin on skin cuddles, they tell me about their lives. |
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"No and it's never appealed to me to be honest. No judgement on people who do but it just doesn't spank my monkey.
On a side note I used to work in the offshore construction world and it always surprised me how many guys did. We'd come off a vessel in Azerbaijan or Indonesia or where ever and I'd be the only one not ending up in a brothel. "
I take it your other half reads the forums too?  |
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You just can't make connection with a female on fab or in the real world. You're fully aware that you're not considered attractive and you'll never get to be with a really attractive woman. So tell me, what is wrong with contacting an es£ort under those circumstances? |
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"I don't like being judgemental but if I man told me he paid for sex I would judge him so hard
If I was a man it would kill me to have to pay someone to want to sleep with me
I wouldn't immediately judge a man who admitted to paying for sex, but I'd be very wary until I'd figured out if he was the type who view women as a sub-human collection of holes, existing merely to service his domestic and sexual needs, or a respectful type who sees women as fully-formed people and would be happy and supportive of their adult daughters making such career choices.
In truth there are plenty of men in here who see women as a collection of holes. I'm not sure men who see SW are wildly different?
I'm not saying there's a difference, but it's usually fairly clear on here who those men are.
I understand some of the points you've made but why would it bother you whether they're happy if their children made those career choices?"
It would show that they don't see SW as less than. I can respect a person who is happy to date, settle down, and have a family with a SW, to support their children if they chose that path. Everyone should be treated with basic decency and consideration. Someone who buys a "body" with no thought to the person who it belongs to isn't a good egg, IMO.
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I’ve paid and been paid for sex. A female friend of mine paid her way through uni by e$corting and she had a client who wanted a threesome with another guy involved and she knew I was bi. So I was kind of subcontracted. |
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"I would, if I had the money. Guaranteed they'll turn up and you'll get a decent amount of time and no issues before/after. What's not to like?"
Hit the nail on the head. Also…… having browsed a well known website when I’ve been in the financial position to pay, I have noticed that there are some familiar photos between this site and that one….. |
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"I don't like being judgemental but if I man told me he paid for sex I would judge him so hard
If I was a man it would kill me to have to pay someone to want to sleep with me
I wouldn't immediately judge a man who admitted to paying for sex, but I'd be very wary until I'd figured out if he was the type who view women as a sub-human collection of holes, existing merely to service his domestic and sexual needs, or a respectful type who sees women as fully-formed people and would be happy and supportive of their adult daughters making such career choices.
In truth there are plenty of men in here who see women as a collection of holes. I'm not sure men who see SW are wildly different?
I'm not saying there's a difference, but it's usually fairly clear on here who those men are.
I understand some of the points you've made but why would it bother you whether they're happy if their children made those career choices?
It would show that they don't see SW as less than. I can respect a person who is happy to date, settle down, and have a family with a SW, to support their children if they chose that path. Everyone should be treated with basic decency and consideration. Someone who buys a "body" with no thought to the person who it belongs to isn't a good egg, IMO.
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There's numerous jobs I wouldn't be happy for my children to choose. I think being supportive of your adult childrens choices speaks louder IMO |
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I have once, many years ago on a lads trip to Amsterdam. It was ok, didn't do a lot for me she was very skilled and attractive. The second time in Amsterdam I spent about 4 hours in a sex worker's cabin thing, talking to her, until the trams started up again. No sex and she gave me her number, she said she would have given me a freebie, but she was knackered. She was a law student at the University. I lost the number somewhere, it was written on a rolling paper packet, I may have roached it.
After that my only experiences were in lap dancing bars, a friend had a stake in one in Manchester. I found those places quite sleazy, if I am honest.
Then around 15 years ago I became friends with a woman, I later found out to be a sex worker. It was quite a big deal for her to share that with me. Her concern around the stigma was considerable. The presumptions people make about sex-work are quite astonishing. Through her I became friends with other sex workers. Women who have given interviews on national media, calling for better laws and protections to end stigma, empowering legitimate sex workers so they can use their knowledge to assist the police to prevent exploitation and sex trafficking in the country.
They claim the biggest problem is the stigma and that creates the veil where exploitation can occur undetected. Many don't speak out because they are worried about the social ramifications the impact on their lives, family, friends, jobs.
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"Never understood men who pay for it.
I put it down to men, who have no game and ability to attract women tbh. If they learned how to attract people, it would be more beneficial all round.
But each to their own
Entirely untrue. I know men who have paid who are charming and not to mention hot.
One might argue someone who has been here for over a year without any meets has "no game" either. "
I prefer the (real) world.
The fab world seems very fake. A collection of desirables with limited unresolvable intentions. Why would I waste my time?
Having a connection, flirting, the lead up is much more interesting than just reaching for a credit card. The challenge of achieving the ultimate goal, is more appealing than the physical engagement, would you not agree? |
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I think you can absolutely build a connection. One offs maybe not so much but the same can be said of one night stands. They're variable like anything else.
Reaching for a credit card can make up a small portion of a meet with a sw. Lots of people see the same person multiple times. Connections are established that may stop at those meetings, or can develop into genuine friendships or relationships. |
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"I think you can absolutely build a connection. One offs maybe not so much but the same can be said of one night stands. They're variable like anything else.
Reaching for a credit card can make up a small portion of a meet with a sw. Lots of people see the same person multiple times. Connections are established that may stop at those meetings, or can develop into genuine friendships or relationships. "
That sounds like a very romanticised view that's probably not very typical of the reality |
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"I think you can absolutely build a connection. One offs maybe not so much but the same can be said of one night stands. They're variable like anything else.
Reaching for a credit card can make up a small portion of a meet with a sw. Lots of people see the same person multiple times. Connections are established that may stop at those meetings, or can develop into genuine friendships or relationships.
That sounds like a very romanticised view that's probably not very typical of the reality "
Not at all. I'm dating someone through this avenue. I also have friends from it that had gone from being transactional to people I see socially.
Experience not speculation.
I know others the same. My friend married a chap she met this way.
Of course it's not always like this. But meeting anyone can be shit and as far from romanticised as you could imagine.
It's the boring tropes surrounding sex work that get bandied about I'm responding to. Largely from people who really don't know much about it.
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Adding to what I said before about judging men for paying for sex, I recognise people have different reasons for wanting to do that and it's not a black and white situation. I respect all sex workers and they should be able to do their job with safety and dignity. It's just that feeling for me personally, that making sex transactional is soul destroying, because I love sex so much, this just makes me sad
When me and my partner were in Amsterdam we almost went to a window lady (it was my idea)/, I was very horny and intoxicated) but in the end we didn't and I'm glad we didn't
I just want for everyone to be consenting, safe and happy xx |
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"I think you can absolutely build a connection. One offs maybe not so much but the same can be said of one night stands. They're variable like anything else.
Reaching for a credit card can make up a small portion of a meet with a sw. Lots of people see the same person multiple times. Connections are established that may stop at those meetings, or can develop into genuine friendships or relationships. "
I would have thought a SW would not want to mix business with personal.
But if it works out, power to them. I would agree if there are kinks that can be entertained by mutual parties for a transactional basis, then why not. There can be few alternatives in some case.
I generally live and let live, I don't usually comment on people's choices.
I do still regard it as a method for a weak men however. And certainly would not want to meet anyone nor engage with anyone of this character.
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By *glyBettyTV/TS 3 days ago
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I haven't paid for it directly, however once I did take a tenner from a guy at a park who wanted to caress my thighs whilst he wanked.
I wasn't interested in him & I only took it so he would do his thing & then go away.
His true agenda was he wanted to suck my dick and was using the thigh rubbing thing as an "in", obviously he asked if he could as soon as he got his hands on me, but I refused.
But I did enjoy the pizza I bought on the way home. |
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"I haven't paid for it directly, however once I did take a tenner from a guy at a park who wanted to caress my thighs whilst he wanked.
I wasn't interested in him & I only took it so he would do his thing & then go away.
His true agenda was he wanted to suck my dick and was using the thigh rubbing thing as an "in", obviously he asked if he could as soon as he got his hands on me, but I refused.
But I did enjoy the pizza I bought on the way home."
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"I think you can absolutely build a connection. One offs maybe not so much but the same can be said of one night stands. They're variable like anything else.
Reaching for a credit card can make up a small portion of a meet with a sw. Lots of people see the same person multiple times. Connections are established that may stop at those meetings, or can develop into genuine friendships or relationships.
I would have thought a SW would not want to mix business with personal.
But if it works out, power to them. I would agree if there are kinks that can be entertained by mutual parties for a transactional basis, then why not. There can be few alternatives in some case.
I generally live and let live, I don't usually comment on people's choices.
I do still regard it as a method for a weak men however. And certainly would not want to meet anyone nor engage with anyone of this character.
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I guess that's the issue with generalisations when people "would have thought".... |
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"Has many on here ever paid for sex...."
Never
Although recently one guy did ask if he could 'pimp me out' for an evening to a circle of 'colleagues ' and offered me a substantial amount of money.
I politely turned him down. |
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Not direct monetary transaction as such, but several dynamics have been very unequal on the 'ability to pay' front. E.g. I have had several hobbies where ladies are obviously less affluent than me, e.g. climbing and snowboarding. So I've often funded things, trips, equipment, food. A couple of times I've provided cash for 'living/shopping' expenses. I've always been kinda careful in those relationships to allow the lady to make the first physical advances.
So, I've never directly paid, but the lines have probably got blurred a few times. I don't think I've ever taken advantage, but I've also never refused an opportunity if I felt it was freely offered. |
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