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By *ucky charmer OP Man 30 weeks ago
Liverpool Manchester North West |
A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her” |
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By *rispyDuckMan 30 weeks ago
Chinese Takeaway near you |
Not everyone is gonna like your profile 
Some ladies like muscular men with abs
Some ladies like men with dad bods
If they don’t like what they see, it’s fine they can move on.
If you don’t like what you see you can do the same  .
That’s the beauty of ‘freedom of choice’ |
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"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her” "
A lil experiment for you…
Get a lady that has turnt you down
Look at her profile
Look at the kinda men she already had Veris from
That’s probably the type they prefer  |
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Showing there’s much more then good abs, with different pics and a good detailed profile will get you a lot more attention.
You need something to draw you in to a profile but you then need something to keep people interested.
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By *hilloutMan 30 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"The point of a profile is to attract the people you like and who will find you attractive in return. "
Absolutely agree with this
To be fair op, if I had your abs I'd enjoy showing them off! |
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I think for some women it can be a confidence thing, they can't imagine that someone who spends considerable time on their physic would be interested in them when their body type isn't gym buff. Personally I find a lot of guys like softer curves and it's the difference to their own body that holds the attraction, I wish more women were confident in their sex appeal regardless of body type.
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You have an incredible body op, reminiscent of a Greek god
In times past, I might have been dubious of one so chiseled having the slightest bit of interest in my very wobbly bits, especially after teen years of the fit lads in school bullying the chubby girls by asking them out and laughing if they dared to say yes
But a couple of years on this scene have made me realise that there really is someone for everyone, and even gym fit men can be into softer bodied women.
Seeing as that is the majority of us, not every woman is going to necessarily believe you when you show interest, Even if it's sincere! |
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Doesn't put me off, OP. You look amazing. That said, it's all in the face for me.
I'm fat, and until I came on here, I'd never have dreamed of approaching someone who was so toned. But I guess some guys like squidgy bodies on a woman, thank god! X |
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By *ucky charmer OP Man 30 weeks ago
Liverpool Manchester North West |
Thank you for your incite, I genuinely would never have considered this
"You have an incredible body op, reminiscent of a Greek god
In times past, I might have been dubious of one so chiseled having the slightest bit of interest in my very wobbly bits, especially after teen years of the fit lads in school bullying the chubby girls by asking them out and laughing if they dared to say yes
But a couple of years on this scene have made me realise that there really is someone for everyone, and even gym fit men can be into softer bodied women.
Seeing as that is the majority of us, not every woman is going to necessarily believe you when you show interest, Even if it's sincere! "
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"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her” "
Doesn’t really make a difference for us, they’re nice I suppose but it’s not a game changer either positively or negatively. |
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It's better if a prospective partner can know accurately who they may be picking, so those being comfortable with your body can select the right people. I love chiseled men, as many others do. Still more will have flexibility. |
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By *nnCeeWoman 30 weeks ago
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"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her” "
If I told you that you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?!  |
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"... I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her” "
Then you fucked her senseless and she was walking like John Wayne for a week?
Is that the one? |
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By *yrdsisWoman 30 weeks ago
Gleam Street |
I used to be terrified of them...I'm no gym bunny.. but a chiselled gent changed my mind... He loved my squishy bits....I don't fib on my profile, so if someone cut turns up? I'll see how the chat goes |
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"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her” "
Are you asking for a friend |
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"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her” "
We're all different, so some like the beefcake look and others don't.
I'm not a fan, but I'm far more attracted to personality and a nice face with a smile. |
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I trained for myself not to attract women, some woman liked it or some didn't.
Maybe they made a snap judgement and thought I was arrogent without even gettimg to know me. But I defineatly had more success then when I was a skinny .
However I used to get a kick when guys spoke to me on how thay wouldn't want to look like me (errrr ok) and that his girlfriend told him that women don't like guys with big muscles.
I replied with, "Yeah shes just telling you that so you don't feel insecure"
Boom! hopefully that will mess with your mind for few days |
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"I trained for myself not to attract women, some woman liked it or some didn't.
Maybe they made a snap judgement and thought I was arrogent without even gettimg to know me. But I defineatly had more success then when I was a skinny .
However I used to get a kick when guys spoke to me on how thay wouldn't want to look like me (errrr ok) and that his girlfriend told him that women don't like guys with big muscles.
I replied with, "Yeah shes just telling you that so you don't feel insecure"
Boom! hopefully that will mess with your mind for few days"
So you honestly believe all women lie to the bf when discussing your personal physic?
(must be unheard off, to ever suspect they actually don't like your physic and prefer the guy they have chosen to be part of their lives)
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"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her” "
I wouldn't hide them if someone is put off by them then thay are not for you. X |
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Eyes and mouths are more of an allure for me, along with the personality - if you have all of that along with chiselled abs then that’s great. Just the same as a chap with a “dad bod”. Experienced both and each were attractive to me because of the first attributes.
As mentioned above, always an inner niggle for me that the more chiselled are not going to be interested in my lardy ass so rarely make the first move. |
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"If you expect me to hold the pose displayed in my profile picture your going to be very disappointed. Especially when I shit myself "
Only in for the drip of liquid (water?!) down the front. I'd expect that to be exactly the same  |
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"I trained for myself not to attract women, some woman liked it or some didn't.
Maybe they made a snap judgement and thought I was arrogent without even gettimg to know me. But I defineatly had more success then when I was a skinny .
However I used to get a kick when guys spoke to me on how thay wouldn't want to look like me (errrr ok) and that his girlfriend told him that women don't like guys with big muscles.
I replied with, "Yeah shes just telling you that so you don't feel insecure"
Boom! hopefully that will mess with your mind for few days
So you honestly believe all women lie to the bf when discussing your personal physic?
(must be unheard off, to ever suspect they actually don't like your physic and prefer the guy they have chosen to be part of their lives)
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No thats not what I think but I'm going back to when I when I was massive and going out to a bar or nightclub I guess I stuck out! I got insulted a lot and people seem to think thats OK. I got called a freak, gay etc.
Would you go up to a random person in a bar and say they were too fat or too skinny? No! But people used to think it was fair game for some random to say I was too muscular and girls don't like it. I was just responding to being insulted by hopefully messing with his head.
Another example is randoms felt it was OK to just walk up to you and ask if you used steroids! Thats a very personal question. to which I would reply
"well thats my business but would it make you feel better about yourself if I said yes"
Randoms would also say that muscular people cou;dn't fight and challenge me! I was usually able to defuse it and if it really got bad I would say OK lets go outside. Funny enough they would back down.
I was just minding my own business on a night out with friends.
If you are on a night out and some random walked up to you and said "fancy a shag" you then turn him down so he calls you a slag.
Did you ask for that? No was it acceptable behaviour? NO!
Would you say something back to him in retelation? I don't know you but I'm sure plenty of women in that situation would say something back to take him down a peg.
Men get harrassed as well as women, neither is acceptable |
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Bro, just do you. It can be hard as you may have ladies you think are very hot not wanting to speak because they feel you don’t match but nothing a nice friend open chat can’t help.
Don’t hide what’s you just try and speak with ones you find attractive and hopefully there will you to and like your personality |
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"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her” "
No not at all... I kind of just assume I won't be their type because I'm more potato shapes  ... |
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"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her”
No not at all... I kind of just assume I won't be their type because I'm more potato shapes ..."
Mmmmm potato |
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"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her”
No not at all... I kind of just assume I won't be their type because I'm more potato shapes ...
Mmmmm potato "
Roasted, mashed, boiled, ?? .... |
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"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her”
No not at all... I kind of just assume I won't be their type because I'm more potato shapes ...
Mmmmm potato
Roasted, mashed, boiled, ?? ...."
Yes |
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"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her”
No not at all... I kind of just assume I won't be their type because I'm more potato shapes ...
Mmmmm potato
Roasted, mashed, boiled, ?? ....
Yes"
All of them ?? |
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By *inkShyWoman 30 weeks ago
near Windsor |
"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her” "
Nope.. I do think 'ah shit but I'm fat' but then assume the person can see and doesn't care. I quite like to see the abs thank you very much |
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"I love a woman with curves. But they seem to be put off by my “gym” body.
So I find it a struggle at times to find the right women "
It's probably because us curvy girls think there's no way a gym bodded guy would be interested in us... yay for low self esteem lol |
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By *illjoyCouple 30 weeks ago
Newport |
"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her” "
There’s a shape for everybody!
For me personally your body would definitely not be a put off, I can’t help running my hands all over a muscly physique  |
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By *inkShyWoman 30 weeks ago
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"I love a woman with curves. But they seem to be put off by my “gym” body.
So I find it a struggle at times to find the right women
It's probably because us curvy girls think there's no way a gym bodded guy would be interested in us... yay for low self esteem lol"
This made me laugh haha. SO TRUE ! |
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"I love a woman with curves. But they seem to be put off by my “gym” body.
So I find it a struggle at times to find the right women "
Some of us chubsters have been offput by the attitudes of others. I'm starting, at the age of 38, to deal better with my own self esteem though. |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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"I love a woman with curves. But they seem to be put off by my “gym” body.
So I find it a struggle at times to find the right women
It's probably because us curvy girls think there's no way a gym bodded guy would be interested in us... yay for low self esteem lol"
But surely I wouldn’t be messaging saying I like a curvy girl if that’s the case? Or is it just a polite way of saying piss off?? Haha.
To be fair, it’s not just about the body though. You’d be surprised that I probably have more body hang ups than most, even though I keep in shape |
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"I love a woman with curves. But they seem to be put off by my “gym” body.
So I find it a struggle at times to find the right women
It's probably because us curvy girls think there's no way a gym bodded guy would be interested in us... yay for low self esteem lol
But surely I wouldn’t be messaging saying I like a curvy girl if that’s the case? Or is it just a polite way of saying piss off?? Haha.
To be fair, it’s not just about the body though. You’d be surprised that I probably have more body hang ups than most, even though I keep in shape"
That's true... but there's always a little part of me that thinks " are they bullshitting me? " .... I suppose I have so little self esteem I don't really believe anyone finds me attractive lol.... |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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"I love a woman with curves. But they seem to be put off by my “gym” body.
So I find it a struggle at times to find the right women
It's probably because us curvy girls think there's no way a gym bodded guy would be interested in us... yay for low self esteem lol
But surely I wouldn’t be messaging saying I like a curvy girl if that’s the case? Or is it just a polite way of saying piss off?? Haha.
To be fair, it’s not just about the body though. You’d be surprised that I probably have more body hang ups than most, even though I keep in shape
That's true... but there's always a little part of me that thinks " are they bullshitting me? " .... I suppose I have so little self esteem I don't really believe anyone finds me attractive lol...."
I get that, cos men can bullshit on here I’m sure haha.
But I’d think…. Fuck it! And take advantage of that’s your thing. Use it to your advantage |
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By *nnCeeWoman 30 weeks ago
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"I love a woman with curves. But they seem to be put off by my “gym” body.
So I find it a struggle at times to find the right women
It's probably because us curvy girls think there's no way a gym bodded guy would be interested in us... yay for low self esteem lol
But surely I wouldn’t be messaging saying I like a curvy girl if that’s the case? Or is it just a polite way of saying piss off?? Haha.
To be fair, it’s not just about the body though. You’d be surprised that I probably have more body hang ups than most, even though I keep in shape
That's true... but there's always a little part of me that thinks " are they bullshitting me? " .... I suppose I have so little self esteem I don't really believe anyone finds me attractive lol...."
Are you in my head too?!
My self esteemed had been so low in the past, I don't understand how I attracted flies, let alone men.
Thank goodness I'm getting a bit better.
You do you, OP. As others have said, some like toned people, others don't. As long as you're a decent person, that's what counts in the end! x |
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If someone is willing to chat a bit, I know there's a bigger chance they're not just after getting their dick wet. In which case, abs or no, I'll assume a mutual attraction and continue to see where it goes. |
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"I used to have chiselled abs on my profile but it appeared to put people off. I decided to eat and drink more, but it depends on how dedicated to Fab you are?"
Bollix never thought of that..
Yes I did it for fab too |
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"They don't, OP, which is why I ensure mine always have a light, chocolate-fuelled, padding!
All I'm picturing now is abs covered in chocolate!  "
Mine or yours...and importantly, what chocolate shall we use??
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By *aizyWoman 30 weeks ago
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"They don't, OP, which is why I ensure mine always have a light, chocolate-fuelled, padding!
All I'm picturing now is abs covered in chocolate!
Mine or yours...and importantly, what chocolate shall we use??
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Nutella, YOLO, always Nutella! |
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By *ay..jMan 30 weeks ago
romford |
Not everyone is gonna like you regardless personally I was really skinny and an addict (I'm not now been off it 16 years) I worked on myself and my body and I'm proud of it it takes alot of effort, time and dedication in my mind they are great attributes for any guy. If they don't like it I won't take it personally I know how hard I worked to get in shape n I'm in my 30s and best shape I've ever been in I'm happy with mine if someone don't like it that's cool I'm just not for them n I accept that. Train a few times a week now just to maintain it and I'm good so I say be proud of your efforts it's not easy to do |
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By *ucky charmer OP Man 30 weeks ago
Liverpool Manchester North West |
Errr are you people hooking up on my forum post??
Love that hahhaha …incredible community we have here guys and girls x
"They don't, OP, which is why I ensure mine always have a light, chocolate-fuelled, padding!
All I'm picturing now is abs covered in chocolate!
Mine or yours...and importantly, what chocolate shall we use??
Nutella, YOLO, always Nutella! "
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"The point of a profile is to attract the people you like and who will find you attractive in return.
This is obviously a 'look at me' post - so it's working well.
Well done Op."
And why not! If I had abs like his, I'd do the same!
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I love the way it looks and I know they are strong enough to throw me about a bit, however and this is totally on me not the guys, I wonder if they really like my body type given its very opposite to theirs and yeah it intimidates me a little. A decent co conversation usually sorts that out though |
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By *essTTWoman 29 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her” "
Would put me off but would make me wonder what such a person sees in me and are they trying to get to meet me as a joke x |
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By *essTTWoman 29 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"A question for the purposes of fine tuning my profile, does a man’s profile displaying chiselled muscles put most ladies off?
I do recall one lady saying “in her mind, this comes will a level of expectation placed on her”
Would put me off but would make me wonder what such a person sees in me and are they trying to get to meet me as a joke x"
*wouldn't |
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