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"Right now I'm being a slob. Unshowered, hair in a lazy bun, no corset or lipstick.
But I'm pretty sure I could still lure in plenty of options  "
I like your confidence and I am sure that you are right. Sexiness isn't just about clothes or make-up, it's something in you (although if the former make you feel more confident they can help). If you're sexy in the corset and lipstick, I'm sure you are without them. |
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"...do you feel right now? How confident are you in yourself physically and in your ability to make people you want want you back?"
I had to think about the first part of your question because it's not something at the forefront of my mind. I feel about averagely attractive.
I'm very confident in myself physically. I don't every try to make people want me really. They either will or they won't.
This does*not* mean I don't make an effort to look nice for my partner. I'm referring to random other people |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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I think the word "confident" is the key word here. I have days where I think I look good but then other factors could affect that confidence and make me see things in myself that others may not find attractive and because I'm feeling like shit, those traits are only magnified. It's crap to deal with and my solution has tended to just be to ride it out. |
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By *eliWoman 31 weeks ago
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I feel like I'm okay. Not awful, not at my best. And that's fine - I'll be feeling more myself soon.
My confidence is growing. I suppose I'm increasingly happy with myself.
Make the people I want want me back? I can't make them. It doesn't work like that does it?
I'm sort of confident that someone I want, wants me back. A little bit confident that any desire and lust and feelings are reciprocated. It's a nice feeling. |
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By *lue NarwhalMan 31 weeks ago
Iceland, but Aldi is closer.. |
Right now I'm working in a loft, sweating like a horny pig in a pig stud farm (if they exist?), covered in dust and cobwebs, have so much dust up my nose I now have more snot pouring out my schnoz than Fungus the Bogeyman could acheive in his lifetime and resemble a chimney sweeps boy from a Dickensian story..
I reckon I've got a fair to middling chance of attracting someone of the opposite sex..  |
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Making people want me isn't really possible, is it? They find me attractive or not, it's beyond my control.
Right now I'm a bit preoccupied with life stuff, so feeling attractive isn't part of my thought process. I suppose I'd say 6/10 if pushed. |
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"I feel like I'm okay. Not awful, not at my best. And that's fine - I'll be feeling more myself soon.
My confidence is growing. I suppose I'm increasingly happy with myself.
Make the people I want want me back? I can't make them. It doesn't work like that does it?
I'm sort of confident that someone I want, wants me back. A little bit confident that any desire and lust and feelings are reciprocated. It's a nice feeling."
The fact that you're not fully at your best but still feel your confidence and happiness in yourself is growing is a lovely thing. I hope you experience lot of reciprocated lust.
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I’ve become a lot more confident over the years. To be fair a lot of it is down to the quality of meets I’ve had. When people you perceive to be above you compliment you it massages your ego in the right way.
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"Making people want me isn't really possible, is it? They find me attractive or not, it's beyond my control.
Right now I'm a bit preoccupied with life stuff, so feeling attractive isn't part of my thought process. I suppose I'd say 6/10 if pushed."
I have a friend who once told me that she was confident she could make a man want her if she wanted him. I guess that was in my mind when I wrote the question, but I'm sure you're right and it's the wrong wording. |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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"Lounging around in nothing but a dressing gown, just spilled coffee down my chin.
1.75 star rating
Do you have toast crumbs in your beard too?"
Work in progress….it’ll be extra sticky with raspberry jam.
I’ll be a walking talking breakfast |
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"Lounging around in nothing but a dressing gown, just spilled coffee down my chin.
1.75 star rating
Do you have toast crumbs in your beard too?
Work in progress….it’ll be extra sticky with raspberry jam.
I’ll be a walking talking breakfast"
*rubs thighs Vic Reeves style* |
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"...do you feel right now? How confident are you in yourself physically and in your ability to make people you want want you back?"
I’ve just finished a workout so below average right now but most days is just average.
As for the second part, I’m not really confident with that at all. If someone wants me they want me, if they don’t they don’t. I’m not going to do anything different to make them want me  |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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"Lounging around in nothing but a dressing gown, just spilled coffee down my chin.
1.75 star rating
Do you have toast crumbs in your beard too?
Work in progress….it’ll be extra sticky with raspberry jam.
I’ll be a walking talking breakfast
*rubs thighs Vic Reeves style*"
*raises handbag* ooooooo |
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By *a LunaWoman 31 weeks ago
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I’m at that stage where I really don’t give two hoots if anybody finds me attractive or sexy.
I just do me. And if anybody else likes that then fine. I don’t feel particularly sexy in myself because I’m not having the sex. Nothing makes you feel sexier than being a cock charmer.
However, my hormones are playing up as I’m at “that age” so sex is not really on my radar currently. But I’m happy in myself, and that is sexy too right?
*TLDR - Luna is not feeling sexy but she doesn’t really care*
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"I’m at that stage where I really don’t give two hoots if anybody finds me attractive or sexy.
I just do me. And if anybody else likes that then fine. I don’t feel particularly sexy in myself because I’m not having the sex. Nothing makes you feel sexier than being a cock charmer.
However, my hormones are playing up as I’m at “that age” so sex is not really on my radar currently. But I’m happy in myself, and that is sexy too right?
*TLDR - Luna is not feeling sexy but she doesn’t really care*
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Feeling happy in yourself is the most important thing and does give a person a sexy glow I think, even if they don't care about it.
I am sure you have and could continue to charm many a cock though, should you choose to. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 31 weeks ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
Attractive? Now? Me?
Hahhh!
I'm unshaved, scraggly long grey hair, standing barefoot in my kitchen making brunch wearing an old t-shirt and a pair of fleece tartan pajama bottoms.
No dress, no wig, no makeup.
I am, the antiAttractive.  |
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"Attractive? Now? Me?
Hahhh!
I'm unshaved, scraggly long grey hair, standing barefoot in my kitchen making brunch wearing an old t-shirt and a pair of fleece tartan pajama bottoms.
No dress, no wig, no makeup.
I am, the antiAttractive. "
Well, _ivilised mature is desperate, so..... |
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By *reya73Woman 31 weeks ago
Whitley Bay |
Right now I don't feel 'confident' in myself re physical attractiveness. My overall attractiveness, however, I'm confident.
My body is changing since becoming 50 and I'm in a little inner battle with those changes. But I refuse to let that hinder me from having life's pursuits and pleasures.
I'm grateful for a body that can bend and climb mountains, run 5k easily and is capable of all the gorgeous delights!
Getting people to want me doesn't quite register. I don't think I play that game. I look for attraction being reciprocal.
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 31 weeks ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"Attractive? Now? Me?
Hahhh!
I'm unshaved, scraggly long grey hair, standing barefoot in my kitchen making brunch wearing an old t-shirt and a pair of fleece tartan pajama bottoms.
No dress, no wig, no makeup.
I am, the antiAttractive.
Well, _ivilised mature is desperate, so..... "
Yeahhhh, but I'm not.
Well, give me a couple of hours to bath/shave/douche/dress/lipstick/wig, and I can be as fabulous as the next gurl. |
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Physically I’m holding up pretty well for a man in his fifties, and was told recently I fuck like a 20 year old, so I’ll take that 
My harem is very strong right now too, meaning my ‘dance card’ has bookings in advance.
Life is great for me at the moment, my self confidence is high, my stress levels are low  |
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I no longer care what people think, they can take me as they find me, what you see is what you get. I keep in reasonable shape, I'm true to myself don't tell lies and don't pretend to be something I'm not. |
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Right now, I don't
I've been houseworking in an oodie
I am clammy, stinky and in need of a shower
Give me an hour though, a shower, a shave, a clean outfit and a spritz of scent, a whole different story |
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"I’m an 11.
Oh hang on that’s two 1s…
An queue the obligatory:
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"I'd give you one"
Maybe followed with "mmmm" to ad originality and spice "
I see what you did there. Because it’s not my first rodeo. |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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At this point in time I feel a 2 out of 10. Just got of the gym, all sweaty and grim. My fitness and health hasn't been as good in recent months. Got ill before Christmas, took me over 3 months to get over it, then I got an injury so I've not been able to do as much as I like to do in the gym. I then got into a rut of drinking and eating too much. Still carrying an injury so the gym is hard going at the moment and I'm still drinking too much, plus with what seems like getting older by the minute, I'm feeling a lot of self pity at the moment haha.  |
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Oh good god. I’m sat in my fat pants with my hair scraped up on top of my head with a constant mist of hot flush. I’m a fucking delight.
However. Feeling attractive or attracting others is absolutely not on my radar right now. I’ve got way bigger fish to fry feeling healthier. So I’m an absolute 0 but I’m where I need to be so I’m all good. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 31 weeks ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"I’m an 11.
Oh hang on that’s two 1s…
An queue the obligatory:
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"I'd give you one"
Maybe followed with "mmmm" to ad originality and spice
I see what you did there. Because it’s not my first rodeo. "
"Experienced rider" is what I'm hearing... |
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"I’m an 11.
Oh hang on that’s two 1s…
An queue the obligatory:
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"I'd give you one"
Maybe followed with "mmmm" to ad originality and spice
I see what you did there. Because it’s not my first rodeo.
"Experienced rider" is what I'm hearing..."
Moany pony tbh
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 31 weeks ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"I’m an 11.
Oh hang on that’s two 1s…
An queue the obligatory:
.
"I'd give you one"
Maybe followed with "mmmm" to ad originality and spice
I see what you did there. Because it’s not my first rodeo.
"Experienced rider" is what I'm hearing...
Moany pony tbh
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Feeling a little hoarse? |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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After a particularly rough ride this last few months, I’m feeling pretty buoyed and excited about a lot of things.
Prior to May I’d spent so much time leaning into my values ‘Be of service’ that i’d forgotten about me in the equation. I’d gotten used to giving more of me than I had. So when i really needed it, it wasn’t there, just like some people I thought I could trust. 
However, I’ve done the work in the shadows, actually with a little assistance from a good FAB friend, through council and collaboration I’ve reset my boundaries, ‘be of service’ is now under reconstruction, to ensure moving forwards it includes me.
So, right now I feel like I am in the ascendancy, internal self talk & internalised confidence is returning. Never been a looker so that remains unchanged, albeit greyer and wrinklier!
Oh did I mention I’m crushing on someone from here? 
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At the moment I am working abroad and I never mix work with play.
This means all I am trying to do is keep my body fit, the weight off and avoid disfigurement.
I do not dress at all and am full on blokey bloke.
When I get back home and I have time off work I will consider dressing as Linda and take on board what I look like !
But who cares? Since when has physical attraction been the most important thing?  |
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To be honest I never feel particularly attractive or hideously unattractive, I never seem to cause a swoon or make anyone run screaming (circumstances depending obviously) decidedly average on a good day is probably fair . It has no effect on my confidence or wellbeing , if people want me to remain in their lives for whatever reason it’s hugely unlikely to be appearance related |
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"I’m an 11.
Oh hang on that’s two 1s…
An queue the obligatory:
.
"I'd give you one"
Maybe followed with "mmmm" to ad originality and spice
I see what you did there. Because it’s not my first rodeo.
"Experienced rider" is what I'm hearing...
Moany pony tbh
Feeling a little hoarse? "
They don’t call me Glowup Thee Stallion for nothing*
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*or at all tbf. Bastards. |
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By *a LunaWoman 31 weeks ago
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"I’m an 11.
Oh hang on that’s two 1s…
An queue the obligatory:
.
"I'd give you one"
Maybe followed with "mmmm" to ad originality and spice
I see what you did there. Because it’s not my first rodeo.
"Experienced rider" is what I'm hearing...
Moany pony tbh
Feeling a little hoarse?
They don’t call me Glowup Thee Stallion for nothing*
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*or at all tbf. Bastards. "
 you always make me smile Glow. |
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"...do you feel right now? How confident are you in yourself physically and in your ability to make people you want want you back?"
This is actually a knotty question, because for me it has no direct answer. I don’t feel remotely confident in myself physically, in that few people are interested and it feels rare that anyone wants me back. However, I am also completely at peace with myself and don’t waste any emotional capacity fretting about such things, and that makes me feel quietly confident. Don’t know if this contradiction makes any sense, but I guess emotions and self-perception rarely flow in a linear way anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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"Oh good god. I’m sat in my fat pants with my hair scraped up on top of my head with a constant mist of hot flush. I’m a fucking delight.
However. Feeling attractive or attracting others is absolutely not on my radar right now. I’ve got way bigger fish to fry feeling healthier. So I’m an absolute 0 but I’m where I need to be so I’m all good. "
Minus the hot flushes (they've finished now), I'm feeling pretty much the same today, so sending you and hugs x |
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