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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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Between “sorry, I don’t meet married guys” and “sorry, only meet verified” think I’ve just about had enough of this site. Had some great messages on my 2nd night of joining with a woman local to where I’m working, she sent the last message and when I came to reply her profile had been deleted. Sent out a few messages with women and couples I think would have a great time with and including face pics but, getting nothing. Do people actually meet on here or am I just waiting my time? |
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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I’m confused, you are ‘getting nothing’ but you are also getting ‘sorry, I don’t meet married guys’ (which is perfectly reasonable), so you are getting something? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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"Can I ask what you hoped would happen when you joined?"
Work on my own 10 hours a day and then all night on my own in hotel. Hoped to meet women or couples for company and fun. Offered to meet with the guys only first for social and see how we get on and compatible but, most the time not getting a message back. Worst is when message is read and no reply, at least if it’s deleted I know the answer |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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"I’m confused, you are ‘getting nothing’ but you are also getting ‘sorry, I don’t meet married guys’ (which is perfectly reasonable), so you are getting something? "
Should have added message read but no reply also  |
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You've been here two weeks. That is but a picosecond in the Fab timeline. If you are truly and genuinely expecting success and satisfaction within a fortnight...I suggest you obliterate your profile and seek adventures elsewhere.
Otherwise, patience, stick with it... |
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"You've been here two weeks. That is but a picosecond in the Fab timeline. If you are truly and genuinely expecting success and satisfaction within a fortnight...I suggest you obliterate your profile and seek adventures elsewhere.
Otherwise, patience, stick with it..."
Pre-pubescent in fab time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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"Would it help if I replied to your question with
Yes, actually lots and lots of people meet on here, literally lots.
I’ve even met some lovely people and I’m just ordinary me. "
I get the replies about me being married but, how am I meant to get verified if people only meet verified people? See it in message replies and on a lot of profiles. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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"You've been here two weeks. That is but a picosecond in the Fab timeline. If you are truly and genuinely expecting success and satisfaction within a fortnight...I suggest you obliterate your profile and seek adventures elsewhere.
Otherwise, patience, stick with it..."
thanks, I’m gonna stick with it |
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"Would it help if I replied to your question with
Yes, actually lots and lots of people meet on here, literally lots.
I’ve even met some lovely people and I’m just ordinary me.
I get the replies about me being married but, how am I meant to get verified if people only meet verified people? See it in message replies and on a lot of profiles. "
Time young man. The forum is a great introduction to lots of people, first impressions are you want instant shagging, here’s where we talk and get to know people. |
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Instead of messaging, spend that time working on your profile.
I very, very rarely send an opening message.
Look at others guys profiles. Read the bio's and look at the photos of guys who do well.
Plus, if your married, your chances of meeting are greatly reduced. |
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The married and wife doesn't know is a very big red flag for a lot of people on here so that is going to be a massive obstacle for you.
Ps the warning that you have taking up most of your bio is pointless and a waste of space. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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"Would it help if I replied to your question with
Yes, actually lots and lots of people meet on here, literally lots.
I’ve even met some lovely people and I’m just ordinary me.
I get the replies about me being married but, how am I meant to get verified if people only meet verified people? See it in message replies and on a lot of profiles.
Time young man. The forum is a great introduction to lots of people, first impressions are you want instant shagging, here’s where we talk and get to know people. "
Thanks Certainly not looking for instant shagging or to get through every woman and couple on here either. Can only post in forums after 2 weeks so been messaging the profiles that look like I could have fun with. Guess I’ll have to stick around here and wait for someone that thinks the same about me and my profile |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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"The married and wife doesn't know is a very big red flag for a lot of people on here so that is going to be a massive obstacle for you.
Ps the warning that you have taking up most of your bio is pointless and a waste of space. "
Thanks for the advice. May take that off but get it out there within the first couple of messages |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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"The married and wife doesn't know is a very big red flag for a lot of people on here so that is going to be a massive obstacle for you.
Ps the warning that you have taking up most of your bio is pointless and a waste of space.
Thanks for the advice. May take that off but get it out there within the first couple of messages "
If I ever get any back  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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"Jesus! You've been on 2 weeks. Its not guaranteedashag here. Adjust your expectations. You're in the majority looking for the minority. Dig in for the long haul fella!"
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Another single bloke complaining.
Single males are ten a penny. You will have to put on some big boy pants and put plenty of hours and effort in. Even then, you might not get anywhere. Seems you thought that you could just sign up and have instant success. |
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"Between “sorry, I don’t meet married guys” and “sorry, only meet verified” think I’ve just about had enough of this site. Had some great messages on my 2nd night of joining with a woman local to where I’m working, she sent the last message and when I came to reply her profile had been deleted. Sent out a few messages with women and couples I think would have a great time with and including face pics but, getting nothing. Do people actually meet on here or am I just waiting my time?"
Patience, honesty, politeness the skin of an elephant for the knock backs and realisation that chances are more likely for no or very few actual meetings, and above all else never expect anything. Most guys come on here thinking its a full on fuck fest, breaking news! Its not. |
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People do meet.
You might be wasting your time.
If you don’t like the effort you might have to put in……leave.
Adjust your expectations. You joined thinking that you’d be drowning in pussy just for having a profile here. The reality you discover however, has shot that shit down. |
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"I’m confused, you are ‘getting nothing’ but you are also getting ‘sorry, I don’t meet married guys’ (which is perfectly reasonable), so you are getting something?
Should have added message read but no reply also "
That’s normal. People don’t have to reply to messages, and some get hundreds of messages so can’t respond to all.
In terms of blockers though , you missed age restrictions and “only receives messages from side supporters. Along with only respond to people with veris |
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"The married and wife doesn't know is a very big red flag for a lot of people on here so that is going to be a massive obstacle for you.
Ps the warning that you have taking up most of your bio is pointless and a waste of space.
Thanks for the advice. May take that off but get it out there within the first couple of messages "
I've got to say if we were messaging someone and they came out with that "Fab is a public traded entity bollocks we would instantly delete and block |
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People do actually meet here OP.
Give it time. Give it effort in both your profile and messages.
And most of all lose that stupid disclaimer before you do any of that. It only acts as another filter to many. It actually means nothing  |
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By *ripfillMan 27 weeks ago
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Op,
A very wise and delightful Fab Friend gave me lots of advise to which I am eternally grateful for
One comment she made is be patient,
It takes time
I am personally extremely glad of Fab - this platform like no other and reach the parts others can not reach !
Remember too -
There are many many more men in here than
Ladies so obviously …. It takes time
But oh so worth it - it’s a life changer for the much better
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"The married and wife doesn't know is a very big red flag for a lot of people on here so that is going to be a massive obstacle for you.
Ps the warning that you have taking up most of your bio is pointless and a waste of space.
Thanks for the advice. May take that off but get it out there within the first couple of messages "
Really, don’t do that. It’s pointless, has no legal standing and will just make you look like you have nothing to say. |
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By *hiversMan 27 weeks ago
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Lots of good pointers already given, but I'd add that it's worth seeking out an organised social meet or two... It will introduce you to people in person and get you a few verifications which (whilst it won't instantly guarantee you meets) will definitely improve your chances. |
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More photos as well, nice to see a cock pic to see what we’d be working with, but any profile without other photos showing more, we would skip instantly.
Your on a site with ALOT of competition, and a lot of cocks, make yourself stand out |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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Thanks for all the tips guys and girls. Ive only been using nearby and messages due to not being able to post in forum for 2 weeks. Seems the forums are the way forward. Got a lot more profile views just from this thread, hopefully lead to something. |
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"Can I ask what you hoped would happen when you joined?
Work on my own 10 hours a day and then all night on my own in hotel. Hoped to meet women or couples for company and fun. Offered to meet with the guys only first for social and see how we get on and compatible but, most the time not getting a message back. Worst is when message is read and no reply, at least if it’s deleted I know the answer"
I never look to see if a message has been read. Don’t torture yourself by doing this. |
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"You've been here two weeks. That is but a picosecond in the Fab timeline. If you are truly and genuinely expecting success and satisfaction within a fortnight...I suggest you obliterate your profile and seek adventures elsewhere.
Otherwise, patience, stick with it...
Pre-pubescent in fab time. "
A fab embryo still 
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By (user no longer on site) 27 weeks ago
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Don't forget OP, people can view you in ninja so you'll never know how many views you get
Have a look at other profiles for inspiration
Take pics with a timer so you can snaze up a pose |
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I'm not sure removing the married part was wise. People will read into "cannot accommodate" and "discretion expected" anyway. (Whether they're correct or not) And if you're planning to tell people, some people will be annoyed you wasted their time. |
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"Between “sorry, I don’t meet married guys” and “sorry, only meet verified” think I’ve just about had enough of this site. Had some great messages on my 2nd night of joining with a woman local to where I’m working, she sent the last message and when I came to reply her profile had been deleted. Sent out a few messages with women and couples I think would have a great time with and including face pics but, getting nothing. Do people actually meet on here or am I just waiting my time?"
I meet most weeks ! But not married I’m verified men….. “sorry”
Srsly, The ones saying sorry, it’s probably a red flag. If someone doesn’t wanna meet you they simply did not reply. If the apologising there must be feeling guilty about something so probably best avoided any anyway |
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I've been on and off this site for about 13 years and so far, I've met one person and when we met, we didn't know we were both on here so, we verified each other after the fact.
That verification hasn't helped me get meets!
Sounds like you're doing better than most of us men by getting replies at all!
We outnumber the women on here by a very wide margin, and a lot of guys are pushy and desperate. That makes it very difficult for those of us who aren't but, that's not really any different to the real world.
Be patient, don't expect, don't demand. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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So, removing the facts that would put people off makes you more likely to trick someone into bed?
I'm out on that note  "
Wouldn’t want to trick anyone, would make my situation perfectly clear within the 1st few messages and if it’s a no, it’s a no, no drama. |
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Meets and veris will come when they come.
I’ve only been properly back on for a few weeks myself after setting up the account then getting into a relationship.
Since I’ve been back this last week I’ve had a few meets… still waiting on them to drop their veris but I know they’re coming
It’ll happen when it happens, just be honest though. Someone will be into a married guy who is meeting without the wife knowing but the overall majority won’t.
It’s important to remember that lying to someone for sexual gratification is actually illegal |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 27 weeks ago
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"Meets and veris will come when they come.
I’ve only been properly back on for a few weeks myself after setting up the account then getting into a relationship.
Since I’ve been back this last week I’ve had a few meets… still waiting on them to drop their veris but I know they’re coming
It’ll happen when it happens, just be honest though. Someone will be into a married guy who is meeting without the wife knowing but the overall majority won’t.
It’s important to remember that lying to someone for sexual gratification is actually illegal"
I’ve put it back in my profile, even though I wouldn’t have done anything without telling the other person/persons my full situation |
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Satisfaction is going to be linked to expectations. The more realistic expectations are, the more likely that you won't struggle with it.
Men typically get this wrong and most will crash out, after most people would say that they haven't made reasonable efforts to do themselves justice, in such a competitive arena |
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"Between “sorry, I don’t meet married guys” and “sorry, only meet verified” think I’ve just about had enough of this site. Had some great messages on my 2nd night of joining with a woman local to where I’m working, she sent the last message and when I came to reply her profile had been deleted. Sent out a few messages with women and couples I think would have a great time with and including face pics but, getting nothing. Do people actually meet on here or am I just waiting my time?"
Nobody ever meets on here. I definitely have never met anyone on here. Not once. |
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"Between “sorry, I don’t meet married guys” and “sorry, only meet verified” think I’ve just about had enough of this site. Had some great messages on my 2nd night of joining with a woman local to where I’m working, she sent the last message and when I came to reply her profile had been deleted. Sent out a few messages with women and couples I think would have a great time with and including face pics but, getting nothing. Do people actually meet on here or am I just waiting my time?
Nobody ever meets on here. I definitely have never met anyone on here. Not once. "
Well let me say that I would not want to meet you to break your streak. Nope, not ever. |
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"Between “sorry, I don’t meet married guys” and “sorry, only meet verified” think I’ve just about had enough of this site. Had some great messages on my 2nd night of joining with a woman local to where I’m working, she sent the last message and when I came to reply her profile had been deleted. Sent out a few messages with women and couples I think would have a great time with and including face pics but, getting nothing. Do people actually meet on here or am I just waiting my time?
Nobody ever meets on here. I definitely have never met anyone on here. Not once.
Well let me say that I would not want to meet you to break your streak. Nope, not ever."
Thank goodness, I’m going strong on this streak |
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"Between “sorry, I don’t meet married guys” and “sorry, only meet verified” think I’ve just about had enough of this site. Had some great messages on my 2nd night of joining with a woman local to where I’m working, she sent the last message and when I came to reply her profile had been deleted. Sent out a few messages with women and couples I think would have a great time with and including face pics but, getting nothing. Do people actually meet on here or am I just waiting my time?
Nobody ever meets on here. I definitely have never met anyone on here. Not once.
Well let me say that I would not want to meet you to break your streak. Nope, not ever.
Thank goodness, I’m going strong on this streak "
Stay strong. I can be like your sponsor, if you feel like you’re going to give into temptation you can always contact me and I’ll be there for you |
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... Your on a site with ALOT of competition, and a lot of cocks, make yourself stand out"
Surely can't be that many working in a forest somewhere remote in Scotland.
Presumably none of the normal 'working girls' round those parts, either. |
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"Plus, if your married, your chances of meeting are greatly reduced. "
But not nil. If you make it clear you are in an ENM relationship, and also initial contact will involve your partner (she does know right ?), then some folks are fine with that if they know everything is above board and transparent. |
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lower expectations and do more of FAB, there's forums and chat rooms .. but the married bit is a bit of a turn off for many!
to woo her.
