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Does anyone find fab can affect how they see themselves?
If we are all honest most of us will have some body hang ups.
We see ourselves as too fat, too thin, breasts not big enough or too big, penis not pretty enough or not big enough, stretch marks, scars etc
There seems to be some threads where differences in body sizes are applauded and some where they are not so much.
Do you think it’s important to share body photos in advance? I don’t necessarily mean naked.
We all have preferences, it’s what makes us human.
If you’re partner changed in appearance over the years, other than aging, would you say something? |
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By *bi HaiveMan 26 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
That's a lot of questions.
I'll just say this. I don't let Fab affect my mental health in any way. I don't worry about how others see me, whether they find me attractive or interesting, or if they ever want to chat or meet.
I use the site as an escape from normal life, not as a fundamental part of it. I've made some great friends through it over the years but if at any point I've felt the potential for being here to negatively impact me, I've just taken a break.
If something isn't fun, enjoyable or stress free then why do it? |
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My view.
I think there are two sides hence most probably why I come and go
At times it can be an amazing high and others a deep low.
I will always be me, I can’t be anyone else, not bothered if I am popular |
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I think it's a place where it's too easy to get into your own head.
You can see it happen all the time a user ( I've done it as well)
Start's posting then the post count increases and the subjects get heavier and heavier they argue with everyone then PUFF! Unlos.
I think you can separate the rest of the site and the forum two very different entities indeed.
I'm learning to take a step back and have a breather when I get overwhelmed.
It's not everything it's just a forum. |
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I don't think fab has affected my MH image wise, I'm not for everyone and I know this, it's effected me in other ways though.
I was at a club a couple of years back, now I never ever think of myself and think "fuck me you look good!" But on this one particular occasion I thought I scrubbed up pretty well and felt fantastic, it was possibly the worst night in a club I have ever had, given I felt so good and I was oozing confidence for once, I remember standing on the dance floor wanting to cry, I was on my own, no one seemed to want to come up to me (obviously they wouldn't then I'm talking about the couple of hours prior) and I just thought "I obviously don't look as good as I thought" and it really knocked my confidence, I didn't go back to a club for a while and I absolutely hated what I saw in the mirror x |
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"Fab can certainly affect my self-esteem, but it has very little to do with my appearance. As soon as that negativity begins to creep in, I withdraw for a while. "
this for me, definitely find the endless rejection tough but get it's part of fab for single guys (and probably other categories too but perhaps not to the same extent). |
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My first here (last year) it messed me up. Actually that isn't true, it exacerbated an already underlying MH problem. I'd ignored for years. A stint in therapy and a shit load of money spent, and I'm still a little broken.
But I'm sexy and broken.
P.s. I also understand alot more about myself than I did before. |
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"They day I start worrying what strangers from an internet sex site think about me is the day I leave the site
^^ this 100%
It will be the day that hell freezes over for me.
Ps nice cock Rex  "
Nice symmetrical hole Mrs  |
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It's never impacted me in terms of my physical image. But there have been times when the repeated letdowns, the being messed around - that has got to me. Always when there's a lot of other things going on in my life but it's felt like the last straw.
Those are the times I've stepped back, sometimes for quite a long time and at other times just a few days. It's meant to be fun and when it's not, it's time to take a break or leave. |
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If I start to be bothered by things on here, it’s usually something unrelated to the site so I take a break.
Am I body conscious? Yes I am. I have stretch marks and wobbly bits. I do have an almost naked body shot on my profile so that there’s hopefully no suprises for anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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Spend time on fab and the images are constantly going in; comparison is unavoidable of course; BUT I like the openness that many have about themselves and what they’re looking for - huge variety in desires, bodies etc much more diverse and body positive in general than anything mainstream!  |
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Yeah in the first year I was on here, being constantly compared to other women, is very hard not let it affect you over time.
Then I spoke to an old hat on here, had a nice 2 week break and now really don't give a fuck, I'm me, I love me and that's all that really matters to me on here  |
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"That's a lot of questions.
I'll just say this. I don't let Fab affect my mental health in any way. I don't worry about how others see me, whether they find me attractive or interesting, or if they ever want to chat or meet.
I use the site as an escape from normal life, not as a fundamental part of it. I've made some great friends through it over the years but if at any point I've felt the potential for being here to negatively impact me, I've just taken a break.
If something isn't fun, enjoyable or stress free then why do it? "
As above
And if you do I’d certainly recommend a break
And take a good look at yourself
And whatever you do on here and other sites Don’t Feed The Trolls |
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I didn't choose to sign up here as part of a lifestyle choice.
It has never been anything more than a hobby or a pastime.
I've had negative experiences mostly linked directly to other people's need for drama and validation and even when I step away from them I still somehow manage to live rent free in their heads.
Most of my experiences here though have been positive and at no stage have I ever been invested enough for it to affect my MH or my self esteem.
It should be pretty obvious from my forum interaction that I don't follow blindly or jump on passing bandwagons and am always true to myself. |
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"They day I start worrying what strangers from an internet sex site think about me is the day I leave the site
^^ this 100%
It will be the day that hell freezes over for me.
Ps nice cock Rex
Nice symmetrical hole Mrs "
And that’s just my ass. Thanks |
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My mood definitely affects how I see fab.
I am very well aware that a great deal of what is said on here is either exaggerated or applies only to a small number of people. The good things people say about me are no more meaningful than the bad because only one of two have any more than a passing acquaintance with me.
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By *essTTWoman 26 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"That's a lot of questions.
I'll just say this. I don't let Fab affect my mental health in any way. I don't worry about how others see me, whether they find me attractive or interesting, or if they ever want to chat or meet.
I use the site as an escape from normal life, not as a fundamental part of it. I've made some great friends through it over the years but if at any point I've felt the potential for being here to negatively impact me, I've just taken a break.
If something isn't fun, enjoyable or stress free then why do it? "
Exactly how i feel
The minute it starts to feel like the site is getting to me I leave it alone for a while.
Also it doesn't affect how I view myself. I'm fat and I'm insecure about certain parts of my body.
Some people find my big body attractive, some don't.
It doesn't change/enhance my insecurities |
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If I was looking for validation off here then, I think it would affect it.....
But then I learnt how to validate myself, so no it doesn't affect my mental health....
Fuck fuck you, ya fucking cunt, Mom I'm on the PlayStation, now where Did I put the anti psychotics, not seen them in a few days now....peace of fuckers
Mr |
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"I don't think fab has affected my MH image wise, I'm not for everyone and I know this, it's effected me in other ways though.
I was at a club a couple of years back, now I never ever think of myself and think "fuck me you look good!" But on this one particular occasion I thought I scrubbed up pretty well and felt fantastic, it was possibly the worst night in a club I have ever had, given I felt so good and I was oozing confidence for once, I remember standing on the dance floor wanting to cry, I was on my own, no one seemed to want to come up to me (obviously they wouldn't then I'm talking about the couple of hours prior) and I just thought "I obviously don't look as good as I thought" and it really knocked my confidence, I didn't go back to a club for a while and I absolutely hated what I saw in the mirror x"
The exact same thing happened to me. I was newly dieting and working out, brimming with confidence.
Went to a club and no one showed even the slightest interest. Crushed. |
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By *ark73XXXMan 26 weeks ago
North Staffs/South Cheshire |
"It’s not a good place from a mental health perspective
If so what keeps you here? There must be positives you’re taking from the site then? "
I’ve met a very small number of nice people |
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"It’s not a good place from a mental health perspective
If so what keeps you here? There must be positives you’re taking from the site then?
I’ve met a very small number of nice people "
Good. I’m pleased to hear that  |
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By *ark73XXXMan 26 weeks ago
North Staffs/South Cheshire |
"It’s not a good place from a mental health perspective
If so what keeps you here? There must be positives you’re taking from the site then?
I’ve met a very small number of nice people
Good. I’m pleased to hear that "
I’m happy to have pleased you |
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"It’s not a good place from a mental health perspective
If so what keeps you here? There must be positives you’re taking from the site then?
I’ve met a very small number of nice people
Good. I’m pleased to hear that
I’m happy to have pleased you "
Was that sarcasm? |
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