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Not having much luck.... need some help pleaseeeee
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By *am882Man 34 weeks ago
Northampton |
"Anyone else having problems with actually finding anyone that's actually genuine (couple) or any single females that is interested in having some fun???"
Yes mate I’m having exactly the same problem. Starts off really well then nothing |
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"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.
Elaborate please! What do you mean "
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It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention. |
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By *am882Man 34 weeks ago
Northampton |
"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.
Elaborate please! What do you mean
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It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention. "
Thank you very much but it’s ironic you said that because the attention you must of paid was very little as I’m a man. Not being rude by the way it made me laugh but thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.
Elaborate please! What do you mean
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It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention.
Thank you very much but it’s ironic you said that because the attention you must of paid was very little as I’m a man. Not being rude by the way it made me laugh but thank you "
He was not bumping it for you, but for the OP - Sam is apparently not a man (unless she has switched places with Dean). |
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By *am882Man 34 weeks ago
Northampton |
"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.
Elaborate please! What do you mean
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It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention.
Thank you very much but it’s ironic you said that because the attention you must of paid was very little as I’m a man. Not being rude by the way it made me laugh but thank you
He was not bumping it for you, but for the OP - Sam is apparently not a man (unless she has switched places with Dean)."
I was just being silly and trying to have a laugh but yes I knew it wasn’t about me |
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"Bumping this for Sam and her fair and graceful countenance.
Elaborate please! What do you mean
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It means that Sam, who is presumably good looking, deserves her thread to be promoted and given due attention.
Thank you very much but it’s ironic you said that because the attention you must of paid was very little as I’m a man. Not being rude by the way it made me laugh but thank you "
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No. You misunderstood. I wasn't referring to you. I was referring to the lady of the couple who created this thread. Her name is also Sam.
You being on here and also being called Sam is pure coincidence. 
This has to be one of the most bonkers threads I've been on! |
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You've been on for 6 months with 2 verifications under your belt, from that point of view, I would say you are doing ok? When we started our couples account it took way longer than that for our first veri, when we started going to clubs and socials really helped us. Sometimes being part of a couple is tricky, especially meeting other couples (not actually read your profile, apologies) as while the men don't have to fancy each other if not bi but the woman is, she has to find both attractive etc etc, it's a minefield and then if you are only meeting men for a threesome, as much as men want to have a threesome, when it actually comes to it and make arrangements they get cold feet (reality and fantasy) and I'm not saying all men but it's our experience.
Go to some clubs/socials, that's my advice. It's a bit like canvassing I call it, unless you put yourself out there with them, you won't get noticed.
Good luck x |
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"No, I don't have any issues here or on my singles profile.
I can't give profile advice as you've not asked, but I wouldn't respond based on yours.
Mrs "
The rules say you can give profile advice, asked for or not, as long as it is relevant. |
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By *ojo2joWoman 34 weeks ago
Penclawdd |
Firstly, your profile picture is good, you look a fun and happy couple.
The profile is on the negative side though with slang/ text language which is less easy to read and you contradict yourself about WhatsApp.
The status update could also be seen as negative.
It’s always harder as a couple as you’re looking for a three or four way attraction. Stay positive and keep messaging x |
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I'm not your target audience but as someone who does peruse couple's profiles every now and then I would pass yours by.
It's the same as every man that posts the same kind of thread every couple of days.
Sparse photos and a negative write up are not going to stand out amongst myriad profiles who have taken the time to put together attractive offering.
And when someone hasn't or doesn't feel the need to make the effort and then complains about not getting attention it does sound a little entitled even if not intended. |
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Hi op
Most couples are looking for single bi women, so there's alot of competition. You don't say what you offer them or what you're into either.So maybe expand on that, with couples it's so hard to get that 4 way attraction.
I'm half a couple and socials are a great way to meet other couples, rather than just using fab.
I don't know what clubs are near you, but those are also a good way to meet other couples or single ladies.
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Whilst it may not be the only factor, looking for a FF couple that want to play with a MF couple could be difficult. As someone else has already said in this thread, 4 way attraction can be difficult, and lets be honest FF couples are amongst the rarest of profile here, so the odds must be even shorter.
Keep your chin up, you'll find what you want eventually, it just might take a little longer than you thought. |
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Just keep at it with no expections OP.
Learn as you go along, workout how to communicate using the bio's, they are a good indicator on what to say when you message.
Dont be disheartened, when you get a no response.
Best of luck |
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You are asking for people to cam with you and then you say you might meet then.
If you're looking to actually meet then I'd probably change that as it's confusing.
Then it's a series of hoop jumping and you say you forget who you've messaged, like they'll not be important to you.
Generic pic you can't tell anything about you.
I'd say work on your profile and you'll have a better chance of appealing to people.
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"Same here, people want verified but can’t verified without that 1st meet. BTW looking for women or MF couples to watch and join in and dogging sites in DG8"
Advertising for meets on this forum won't help your case |
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I would attend social tbh that’s what helped us and chat on here in the forum to learn more about the swinging world.
If I came across your profile we would bypass it too given the tone because it is mostly negative.
Best advice we were given at our first large organised social was put more pics and details up. So say like-dislikes, show some effort in pics as this shows people what you both are like a little more and this should pique the interests of others  hope that helps  |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"No, I don't have any issues here or on my singles profile.
I can't give profile advice as you've not asked, but I wouldn't respond based on yours.
Mrs "
Exactly, nor would we. |
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"Has anyone experienced catfishing . Ws talking to someone for few days . Swapped pics . Kinda getting feeling now that they are not person in picture
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Never gone cat fishing, must need a big rod  |
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"Anyone else having problems with actually finding anyone that's actually genuine (couple) or any single females that is interested in having some fun???"
If I was dipping back in the couples game I'm sorry but I wouldn't see the attraction at all. So much confusing negative text speak in the bio. How about telling us what you want and are really looking for and a little bit about yourself etc. A few more pics wouldn't go amiss either.
Inject some positivity. There are plenty of superb couples profiles on here to look at and I am sure some of them find it hard enough to get the right person/people/couple dynamic.
Good luck. |
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Fab, like life, is like a bank account. You can take out what you put in.
Lots of work, effort and value for the community will result in the ability to draw on this, making connections and getting great meets. We have had some amazing meets and made really great friends.
Chucking a couple of quid into a monzo and thinking an infinite line of account will appear is not going to happen. Regardless of how much the coin chucker thinks of themselves. The barrier to opening an account is low, so the effort and input to build credibility tends to be higher.
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"Fab, like life, is like a bank account. You can take out what you put in.
Lots of work, effort and value for the community will result in the ability to draw on this, making connections and getting great meets. We have had some amazing meets and made really great friends.
Chucking a couple of quid into a monzo and thinking an infinite line of account will appear is not going to happen. Regardless of how much the coin chucker thinks of themselves. The barrier to opening an account is low, so the effort and input to build credibility tends to be higher.
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Did Swiss Tony write this?  |
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"Anyone else having problems with actually finding anyone that's actually genuine (couple) or any single females that is interested in having some fun???"
Maybe it's your profile write up ,maybe it's your one pic maybe it's just the area you live in but I'm sure we'll meet again some sunny day .
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Don't take this site serious, use it as a pass time, if anything come from it then that's cool.
you could meet the criteria on a profile and not even be given the time of day and yet you can meet the same person or persons in a club get on like a house on fire, just do you and don't let the frustration get to ya. |
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Hi op
I'm half a couple and it's really hard to find a couple where there's attraction for all people.
Add to that you're mostly looking for cam fun and it will be even harder, not all couples would be looking or into that. With just a possibility of a meet.
I don't think you'll get many ladies that would just cam with a couple either, I'm not into couples so maybe there is.
You don't really say much about what you're offering people on your profile, maybe expand on that and add a couple more pics too.
You could look at a club if you just want to watch/be watched. |
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I'll probably get a 48hr nitpicking timeout forum ban for this but it's done with the best intentions.
Your only pic isn't brilliant. It would help getting a suit that fits and maybe one or two more to show any potential meets what they are missing out on.
Your bio lacks quite a lot of detail and is a semi-rant. Cast your eyes over it for spelling/grammatical errors.
Read it with the eyes of anyone else but you and ask if you would meet yourselves. If the answer is 'yes' look at other couple profiles and then ask the same question until you have a 'no' then use theirs as a handrail.
If I don't reply, I've been given a ban but hope it helps. |
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"Any couples or single females wanna swap chat app Addy's??"
You have been given lots of sound advice, yet have done nothing. Consider going to the Warwickshire social (they have a waiting list running), or Chams (it’s not massively far from you). It’s clear the profile doesn’t work and there is no willingness to change it.
Perhaps, in-person socials might be a more productive way forward. We hope you have the best time and find what you’re looking for! |
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By *YNSEYLEE12Couple 3 weeks ago
lincolnshire, tattershall |
"It’s all defo a struggle seems alm want just sex talk and pics then disappear lol
I find most of the time when that happens, it's a guy pretending to be a woman or couple "
We do get that a lot lol. When we ask for 4 way group chat. That seems to work them out straight away!. |
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The issue we found when the mrs was swinging too was finding a couple were we all gelled, we had many social meets with other couples but there was usually one person who just wasn’t willing to go further than that, we did have success a few times but they didn’t come round very often. |
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"It's frustrating ain't it lol "
Genuinely got excited as there’s a town called wellington near us, but then saw you’re in the one near Telford!
You’re a super hot couple just be patient! Socials are a great way of finding a large group of people in one go! |
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Like what's been said 33 weeks ago tour profile is confusing an very negative, in one part you say you dont give out whatsapp so dont ask then you say you have whattsapp.
Youve been given lots of good advice regarding your profile but you dont seem to have taken any on-board.  |
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Hi Sam and Dean, your profile lacks a bit of text and for us personally we are not interested in ‘Cam fun’, it’s not easy for anyone to meet but the forums are a great place to build connections so you’re in the right place and we wish you all the best. x
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"Anyone else having problems with actually finding anyone that's actually genuine (couple) or any single females that is interested in having some fun???"
If I can be honest, if I was looking at a couple profile after they’d message me I am afraid yours would be one I would simply delete. The lack of photos of you both and your bio; it does not give me anything about you as a couple, your dynamic and where/how you would like a single female to enhance your play. It’s quite abrupt and cold and I personally would immediately be put off by that. |
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You met someone a month ago…
The fact that you’ve met people but not taken any of the advice on offer indicates that this thread isn’t about getting help, it’s a look at me thread.
Personally your profile is a bit of a red flag, the pictures are scarce and old, the text reads like a guy wrote it. Your profile has ‘guy pretending to be a couple’ all over it |
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