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One for for the singles, couples can join in they like though.
Why are you here opposed to dating sites?
Or are you on both, and is either better than the other in your experience?
I'm a bit bored and fancy being nosey 
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I'm here because the forums are the only place I can see what's on at many of the clubs in one place instead of having to actively look up each club individually if I fancy a night out.
I think I probably still have a tinder profile somewhere. But dating is hard work. So fuck that. |
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Tried regular online dating last year, attracted nutters and came away licking my wounds.
Figured here at least everyone knows where they stand and what they want and nutters are probably a given 
I’m happy being single, life’s good, but miss the physical side of things and there are a few things I wanted to satisfy my curiosity about, and so, here I am. |
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I'm on both, I don't know if I'm on my own here but im more dating than FAB...
The fizz of a date (or social) is actually what I look for more over straight up sex.
No judgement on anyone, there's all kinds of FAB I think! |
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I’m just rubbish at dating and get socially “tired” quickly. I am best in short bursts (!). If I was actively dating I think it’d be disingenuous as, after many years alone, I just don’t have it in me to be a life partner for someone and I don’t want them to think that could change (at my dating age, time is a precious commodity).
Which is why fab works for me and dating sites don’t. |
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By *elloWoman 21 weeks ago
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"I'm here because the forums are the only place I can see what's on at many of the clubs in one place instead of having to actively look up each club individually if I fancy a night out.
But dating is hard work. So fuck that."
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First and foremost for me it’s the chatting with liberal and likeminded people.
Try talking the way we do in our regular lives!!!
As for dating and I hope I don’t sound arrogant if I want a casual fling I can and i am but finding a FWB who is a little more liberal minded and intense is also why I am here.
When it comes to looking for love and settling down, well when that time comes I already know who it will be with.
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By *hiversMan 21 weeks ago
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"Tried regular online dating last year, attracted nutters and came away licking my wounds.
Figured here at least everyone knows where they stand and what they want and nutters are probably a given
I’m happy being single, life’s good, but miss the physical side of things and there are a few things I wanted to satisfy my curiosity about, and so, here I am."
Pretty much this. That said, regular dating sites are just as thirsty from my experience |
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Sexual compatibility in my humble opinion are one of those key things that few are willing to compromise on and can tank a relationship. However, discussing sex on dating sites seems to give the impression that I’m only looking for sex, which annoys me to no end. There doesn’t seem to be many on dating sites looking for a relationship either so why bother? I can navigate fab, know how it works, what to expect and so the bullshit is less. |
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I’m on both , kink and ENM are fairly mainstream now even Tinder has ENM and Open relationship in the ‘looking for’. Most my travel meets come through Tinder & Facebook
The features of other apps make it easier to filter large numbers, get rid of the rubbish, and arrange to meet at short notice but FAB has more community feel & linked to clubs, socials & parties |
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"I like coming on the forums to be sarcastic mostly…
I am on another site but that’s mostly kink based
You’re on here to be sarcastic!!
Who would have guessed?  "
I’ve never faked a sarcasm in my life |
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We had actually had better luck on dating sites than Fab. And get a lot more interest from both Bi fems and Fems wanting to try much older men without the hassle of a date, and as we offer both it's seen as a bonus for potential meeters. |
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I prefer fab. I'm on a few dating apps but at the end of the day they all run bon algorithms that are designed to keep you on the app so the chances of finding a good match are reduced by design.
There was a good article in the guardian about dating app burnout. |
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"I like coming on the forums to be sarcastic mostly…
I am on another site but that’s mostly kink based
You’re on here to be sarcastic!!
Who would have guessed?
I’ve never faked a sarcasm in my life "
Uhh huh said no woman ever in history  |
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"Pretty much this. That said, regular dating sites are just as thirsty from my experience "
Yes, that's what I meant I see people say often on here that they have better luck on dating sites, so wondered what the score was.
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"I'm here because the forums are the only place I can see what's on at many of the clubs in one place instead of having to actively look up each club individually if I fancy a night out.
I think I probably still have a tinder profile somewhere. But dating is hard work. So fuck that."
Sounds practical to be fair. Yes fuck dating x1000000 |
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"I prefer fab. I'm on a few dating apps but at the end of the day they all run bon algorithms that are designed to keep you on the app so the chances of finding a good match are reduced by design.
There was a good article in the guardian about dating app burnout."
I read that, it was very apt. Dating apps are all just about what's round the next corner. This guy's good, but maybe the next one's better. I've been on so many dates I can't even remember them. Given up now, and on here. I'm 51, can't get a date, blood pressure medication and probably prostate issues and nothing's working anyway so it's just as well.
Sorry, this thread has just set me down to the usual place... |
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"Sexual compatibility in my humble opinion are one of those key things that few are willing to compromise on and can tank a relationship. However, discussing sex on dating sites seems to give the impression that I’m only looking for sex, which annoys me to no end. There doesn’t seem to be many on dating sites looking for a relationship either so why bother? I can navigate fab, know how it works, what to expect and so the bullshit is less. "
Interesting, yes that makes sense. I suppose it's easier to build connection without strings attached here |
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By *z20Man 21 weeks ago
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I’m on both, although they serve different purposes to me.
Fab is much more non committal harmless fun and a little more indulgent, dating apps although can lead to fun is more longer term and much more vanilla |
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"Here is just easier, everyone is clear what they want, I am on a woman's dating site but I find here much easier."
Yes, it's far more straight forward and you're not having to second guess people's agendas *most of the time |
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By *hiversMan 21 weeks ago
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"Here is just easier, everyone is clear what they want, I am on a woman's dating site but I find here much easier.
Yes, it's far more straight forward and you're not having to second guess people's agendas *most of the time "
That's the big difference I feel. At least you normally know where you stand on here... |
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I'm on here and Hinge. I use this as a bit of fun and chat to nice people who I've already found a nice connection with a long with the opportunity of fulfilling some sexual urges with the right people.
I use Hinge to hopefully find a more vanilla relationship as I think finding someone would be more sustainable in fulfilling my needs day to day in the long term |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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Fuck me, when anyone talks about dating, I cannot stress how stupid it is in this day and age.
Why the hell when you are dating somebody would you date somebody else? So I’m not here for dating, Fab is not a dating site. It’s a swinging site. (that’s not to say I don’t look ar a lot of women on here as somebody who I would imagine would make somebody an absolute perfect partner)
If I’m dating somebody, I am solely 100%, giving them my 100% intention of having a relationship with them.
I’m not talking about open relationships or hook ups. I’m talking about the intent to date and find out all about them intimately.
But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. |
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"Fuck me, when anyone talks about dating, I cannot stress how stupid it is in this day and age.
Why the hell when you are dating somebody would you date somebody else? So I’m not here for dating, Fab is not a dating site. It’s a swinging site. (that’s not to say I don’t look ar a lot of women on here as somebody who I would imagine would make somebody an absolute perfect partner)
If I’m dating somebody, I am solely 100%, giving them my 100% intention of having a relationship with them.
I’m not talking about open relationships or hook ups. I’m talking about the intent to date and find out all about them intimately.
But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. "
I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either.
I guess communication is the key. |
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I am on both. I enjoy vanilla dates and still plan to settle down in a long term relationship. Would be nice if she is also into swinging but that's not my top priority and I am willing to avoid swinging for the right person.
So being active on both for now |
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Even though I'm married, we opened our marriage up so joined dating sites, aswell as here, dating sites are mostly full of blokes that just want NSA fun now or at least the ones I was interested in, as soon as I mentioned the open marriage thing they suddenly revealed they was or had been on fab and tbh, I lost interest in them a bit after that as all they talked about was sex when I wanted something a little more than that.
This is the only place I'm on now (well, I still have pof but deleting that was easier said than done), especially as I'm not meeting now so here I am x |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face.
I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either.
I guess communication is the key."
So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it.
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But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face.
I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either.
I guess communication is the key.
So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it.
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It’s fucking Woody… |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face.
I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either.
I guess communication is the key.
So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it.
It’s fucking Woody…"
So it’s swinging? |
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But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face.
I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either.
I guess communication is the key.
So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it.
It’s fucking Woody…
So it’s swinging? "
Pretty much… |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face.
I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either.
I guess communication is the key.
So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it.
It’s fucking Woody…
So it’s swinging?
Pretty much… "
So that’s not dating! Friends with benefits is not dating. Because that’s what ‘casual’ dating sounds like.
To me, I would be dating someone if I was intending to go steady with. And that means something consistent., and possibly with the intention of it leading somewhere more than just fucking every other weekend.
Maybe I’m too old school for half of this lingo. |
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I've tried both and given up on both previously. Currently just using on here, I am thinking of trying dating sites/speed dating again.
I prefer fab, as I like to see events/socials.
Easier to explain on here that I like 1 on 1's and 1 and multiples. I found explaining that in vanilla life gets totally misunderstood.
It's still bloody hard work on here finding someone that matches what I'm looking for in a fwb and/or a relationship.
I found the people I am attracted too and vice versa are too far away and that makes things harder.
I live in hope.
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Fab to me is a community of devilish delinquents.
It's where I can see and meet like minded individuals for NSFW.
Haven't made it to a group social yet. But never say never.
To me it's like a spicy version of FB |
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But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face.
I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either.
I guess communication is the key.
So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it.
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My experience on fab has been meeting people for a coffee or at a social event and then having casual sex. For me this usually means on a relatively ongoing basis because I don't look for one nighters.
I also enjoy dates that don't involve sex necessarily so I like to meet people who are up for going out for a nice meal or a walk or to the cinema. In fact where I live it's not unusual to have swimming dates as we live by the sea.
A bit of romance is nice sometimes and it's something I like to have in my life. It doesn't have to involve commitment or exclusivity and I've met enough people who feel the same that I've added it to my profile on fab too.
So, as another poster suggested, it isn't just fucking. |
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When I got divorced, I signed up for OK Cupid. (It was long enough ago that Tinder didn’t exist, okay?)
I filled in the questionnaire and it delivered my top 10 matches. Exciting times! Except that my number one match was my not-quite-yet-ex-wife. And number five was her best friend.
I deleted the app and never went back. |
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But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face. "
I get what you're saying, dating should be dedicated to one person at one time. Unfortunately, less people seem to think that way. Possibly due to online platforms making it easier to "keep options open".
But what I was actually getting at is the fact that lots of people on dating sites are looking for NSA and hook ups. So what is the difference between fab and dating sites in that respect for the people that use them that way.
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I'm here for the humour, I've had laugh out loud moments on the forums, I would like to meet up with a handful of ladies, I tried the dating sites, they are basically a money making scam. There's 10 men on there for every woman, a lot are married or in relationships. But the one's that made me laugh are the ones in a relationship but want to see if someone still finds them attractive |
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But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face.
I get what you're saying, dating should be dedicated to one person at one time. Unfortunately, less people seem to think that way. Possibly due to online platforms making it easier to "keep options open".
But what I was actually getting at is the fact that lots of people on dating sites are looking for NSA and hook ups. So what is the difference between fab and dating sites in that respect for the people that use them that way.
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I can't imagine why dating should be dedicated to one person at a time if there are people who obviously enjoy dating more than one person at a time.
It's not like the world is divided into casual sex and potential life long commitment. There's a whole spectrum of possibilities and combinations and it feels very limiting to arbitrarily say dating should be a monogamous activity.
Consenting adults and communication is all it takes to enjoy a whole plethora of activities that can add to a great a sexual relationship and not demand exclusivity.
Perhaps it's just a different definition if dating and that's where the problem is.
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But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face.
I enjoy casual dating. It's an opportunity to enjoy engaging with someone and doing nice things aside from sex. In my experience lots of other people do to. I'm not looking for a relationship and anyone I've been dating isn't either.
I guess communication is the key.
So what is casual dating? Explain it to me and maybe I can get on board with it.
It’s fucking Woody…
So it’s swinging?
Pretty much…
So that’s not dating! Friends with benefits is not dating. Because that’s what ‘casual’ dating sounds like.
To me, I would be dating someone if I was intending to go steady with. And that means something consistent., and possibly with the intention of it leading somewhere more than just fucking every other weekend.
Maybe I’m too old school for half of this lingo. "
But that’s not casual dating darling. That’s dating dating. Which tbh you won’t get on somewhere like Tinder (mostly) in fact you won’t even get FWBs on there (mostly) because they may say they want to “date” but invariably they just want to fuck.
Dating sites…  |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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Once you've filtered out the "fab" single men on here .... the genuine ones are open about what they want and are looking for sex and relationship wise, whereas on dating site some people pretend to want a relationship when they just want a shag .... or either too vanilla and judge a woman who knows what she wants sexually.
I am however mostly to giggle at the forums, perv at the videos? Occasionally chat and even more occasionally meet. |
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I don’t want a relationship or dating anyone and not sure my pictures are insta friendly so I’m here instead.
Last time I was on dating apps they were filled with randy fuckers and weirdos.
Oh, hang on.
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face.
I get what you're saying, dating should be dedicated to one person at one time. Unfortunately, less people seem to think that way. Possibly due to online platforms making it easier to "keep options open".
But what I was actually getting at is the fact that lots of people on dating sites are looking for NSA and hook ups. So what is the difference between fab and dating sites in that respect for the people that use them that way.
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Apparently none. I think someone said above why Fab is more appealing. There’s a lot more openness and honesty on here about what you want and where you are with all of this.
*don’t laugh!!!
It’s not that I wouldn’t date a woman from Fab. It’s just I don’t see Fab as an option to look for a date.
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But when you look up people who talk about the dating game, they are dating about three or four people at one time. I just don’t get it.
…. Keeping my options open! … that was fucking said to my face.
I get what you're saying, dating should be dedicated to one person at one time. Unfortunately, less people seem to think that way. Possibly due to online platforms making it easier to "keep options open".
But what I was actually getting at is the fact that lots of people on dating sites are looking for NSA and hook ups. So what is the difference between fab and dating sites in that respect for the people that use them that way.
Apparently none. I think someone said above why Fab is more appealing. There’s a lot more openness and honesty on here about what you want and where you are with all of this.
*don’t laugh!!!
It’s not that I wouldn’t date a woman from Fab. It’s just I don’t see Fab as an option to look for a date.
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By *bi HaiveMan 21 weeks ago
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"One for for the singles, couples can join in they like though.
Why are you here opposed to dating sites?
Or are you on both, and is either better than the other in your experience?
I'm a bit bored and fancy being nosey
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Because I'd rather not have to explain why I'm happy dating more than one person to someone who would just turn round and hurl insults, rather than understand the concept of ENM.
And have you seen how bad vanilla dating profiles are? They make some Fab ones look epic...... |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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I guess can find dates anywhere. Even prison, though maybe with someone in for different offences so ya got something to talk about in the showers. "
The butchers!!!
If you factor in the sunshine and barbecue season, it makes sense.
Either she is the Butcher, and it’s free meat. Or She love sausages juicy sausages  |
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Dating sites for both of us individually has been a case of women showing interest then ghosting.
We thought this would be better to just talk and meet people as apposed to dating, however we get the exact same thing on here as well. Women saying they want to meet for a drink and then stop replying.
So fecking frustrating.
"One for for the singles, couples can join in they like though.
Why are you here opposed to dating sites?
Or are you on both, and is either better than the other in your experience?
I'm a bit bored and fancy being nosey
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I guess can find dates anywhere. Even prison, though maybe with someone in for different offences so ya got something to talk about in the showers.
The butchers!!!
If you factor in the sunshine and barbecue season, it makes sense.
Either she is the Butcher, and it’s free meat. Or She love sausages juicy sausages "
Tut tut you had to lower the tone with juvenile smut |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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I guess can find dates anywhere. Even prison, though maybe with someone in for different offences so ya got something to talk about in the showers.
The butchers!!!
If you factor in the sunshine and barbecue season, it makes sense.
Either she is the Butcher, and it’s free meat. Or She love sausages juicy sausages
Tut tut you had to lower the tone with juvenile smut "
Haha. It’s all I’ve got.
I also might be on the wine |
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I think my "infrequent poly" or "occasional fwb" needs could be met by a dating site, but there's so much shit to get through before you uncover the intelligent and humorous pervert within (the other person).
Plus, restaurants and bars do bore me a lot, and you have to go through a lot of explaining.
I get more interaction (that is closer to my needs) from a FAB profile that's quite clear, and letting people see who/what I am on threads.
If they're intrigued enough that turns into conversations, and if they're not, then neither of us has invested time in the other.
For my needs, FAB is just more efficient.
And I can go a bit crazy on the threads, which is fun (for me, at least  ). |
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Apparently none. I think someone said above why Fab is more appealing. There’s a lot more openness and honesty on here about what you want and where you are with all of this.
*don’t laugh!!!
It’s not that I wouldn’t date a woman from Fab. It’s just I don’t see Fab as an option to look for a date.
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You would be quite surprised about the people I know from here who have openly said they wouldn’t date from Fab. I honestly think it is very much their loss. I have and would do again |
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On both.. pros and cons to both.
Having a forum and other means to get your personality across beyond a bio is good.
But the same side of the coin that connectivity of the community can lead to egos, drama and shittiness. |
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"I’m just rubbish at dating and get socially “tired” quickly. I am best in short bursts (!). If I was actively dating I think it’d be disingenuous as, after many years alone, I just don’t have it in me to be a life partner for someone and I don’t want them to think that could change (at my dating age, time is a precious commodity).
Which is why fab works for me and dating sites don’t. "
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