FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Are you too pretty?
Are you too pretty?
Jump to: Newest in thread
Are guys put off because you're too pretty?
Guys do you get put off if you think they're not pretty enough?
What's hot or not is subjective but sooo many women's profiles say you must be hot!  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
 |
By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
|
I identify as pretty.  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
A lot of people talk about feeling that good looking people are 'out of their league'so I guess being perceived as attractive does put people off.
It's not a problem I have  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Doesnt put me off messaging them. You never know really. Looks arnt everything. Im no looker but i know i have better attributes to make up for that. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I identify as pretty. "
You are pretty boy  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Ah... I'd never thought about that. Thanks OP... explains the lack of interest  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Being hot has in most cases nothing to do with being pretty. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Oops sorry wrong thread.
Thought this was the petty room. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I used to be intimidated by the beautiful people. I’m over that now, thankfully. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *z20Man 13 weeks ago
Swindon |
Some people are pretty to most but also people might think someone is pretty when others don’t.
Shoot your shot, they might just find you attractive too |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
We've met so called beautiful people and they are dull as dishwater
The look on there faces when we say , we're OK thanks , you're not for us
And vice versa , we met a couple in a bar and as they walked up , were were like , not a chance
We didn't even get a second drink and we were off for some fun
Personality definitely trumps good looks for us
Well within reason !
Lol |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I'm as hot as white hot charcoal
*can come with varying degrees of dullness |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I used to be intimidated by the beautiful people. I’m over that now, thankfully."
Damn, I quite like the idea of being intimidating |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I sing 'I'm so pretty' in the shower
Ok Hans be serious you're in a silly mood.
No it wouldn't put me off, but I have learnt the hard way that it can blur my judgment somewhat, in the past. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
If I don't think they're pretty enough then yes, it would put me off.
But as they say, looks are subjective |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Ah... I'd never thought about that. Thanks OP... explains the lack of interest "
I'm sure it does! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I like beauty. I enjoy looking at attractive people.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"We've met so called beautiful people and they are dull as dishwater
The look on there faces when we say , we're OK thanks , you're not for us
And vice versa , we met a couple in a bar and as they walked up , were were like , not a chance
We didn't even get a second drink and we were off for some fun
Personality definitely trumps good looks for us
Well within reason !
Lol"
Personality you find out a bit later. Looks is the first thing you see |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
" but sooo many women's profiles say you must be hot! "
I always take that as, they want me to work up a sweat. Or sit in a sauna. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Eh. Looks are defined by what shine's through. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Eh. Looks are defined by what shine's through. "
The sun shines out of my arse. Is that what you mean? |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
When it comes to fab we go for looks first and foremost. You can't infer too much of a personality from a photo. I'd be a liar if I said looks aren't important to me, I need to be attracted to someone physically if I'm going to be more than a friend.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Eh. Looks are defined by what shine's through.
The sun shines out of my arse. Is that what you mean?"
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Eh. Looks are defined by what shine's through.
The sun shines out of my arse. Is that what you mean?"
With the occasional total eclipse I assume |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *avinaTVTV/TS 13 weeks ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
It's nit easy being this pretty... even to smile makes my face ache.
Oh, the curse of beauty!
At least I'm... genuine... inside.  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I suppose, in terms of actually answering the question.
Yes. I have had many people (eventually) tell me they were too scared to approach me initially because they thought I was out of their league. I can only assume there are more that simply never made any contact for that reason too.
I have also assumed someone wouldn't be interested in someone who looks like me when they were so absurdly beautiful, so I didn't bother. But that was years ago, I know better now.
If you don't find someone physically attractive, why would you want to engage on that level anyway?
My least favourite thing about fitting into a lot of people's idea of attractive, is the association of beauty with stupidity or a lack of personality. I've encountered people who don't fit conventional or my own aesthetic preferences, who were also dull as dishwater to talk to. I've met outstandingly beautiful people who were also funny, intelligent and engaging. But for some reason many people seem to think it's all mutually exclusive. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"When it comes to fab we go for looks first and foremost. You can't infer too much of a personality from a photo. I'd be a liar if I said looks aren't important to me, I need to be attracted to someone physically if I'm going to be more than a friend.
"
That's why I like going to clubs! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I suppose, in terms of actually answering the question.
Yes. I have had many people (eventually) tell me they were too scared to approach me initially because they thought I was out of their league. I can only assume there are more that simply never made any contact for that reason too.
I have also assumed someone wouldn't be interested in someone who looks like me when they were so absurdly beautiful, so I didn't bother. But that was years ago, I know better now.
If you don't find someone physically attractive, why would you want to engage on that level anyway?
My least favourite thing about fitting into a lot of people's idea of attractive, is the association of beauty with stupidity or a lack of personality. I've encountered people who don't fit conventional or my own aesthetic preferences, who were also dull as dishwater to talk to. I've met outstandingly beautiful people who were also funny, intelligent and engaging. But for some reason many people seem to think it's all mutually exclusive."
Agreed with brass knobs on.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I suppose, in terms of actually answering the question.
Yes. I have had many people (eventually) tell me they were too scared to approach me initially because they thought I was out of their league. I can only assume there are more that simply never made any contact for that reason too.
I have also assumed someone wouldn't be interested in someone who looks like me when they were so absurdly beautiful, so I didn't bother. But that was years ago, I know better now.
If you don't find someone physically attractive, why would you want to engage on that level anyway?
My least favourite thing about fitting into a lot of people's idea of attractive, is the association of beauty with stupidity or a lack of personality. I've encountered people who don't fit conventional or my own aesthetic preferences, who were also dull as dishwater to talk to. I've met outstandingly beautiful people who were also funny, intelligent and engaging. But for some reason many people seem to think it's all mutually exclusive."
Great answer. I often wonder about the people who look at you multiple times but never messaged presumably they find you attractive who knows! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I suppose, in terms of actually answering the question.
Yes. I have had many people (eventually) tell me they were too scared to approach me initially because they thought I was out of their league. I can only assume there are more that simply never made any contact for that reason too.
I have also assumed someone wouldn't be interested in someone who looks like me when they were so absurdly beautiful, so I didn't bother. But that was years ago, I know better now.
If you don't find someone physically attractive, why would you want to engage on that level anyway?
My least favourite thing about fitting into a lot of people's idea of attractive, is the association of beauty with stupidity or a lack of personality. I've encountered people who don't fit conventional or my own aesthetic preferences, who were also dull as dishwater to talk to. I've met outstandingly beautiful people who were also funny, intelligent and engaging. But for some reason many people seem to think it's all mutually exclusive."
That's about the size of it. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *bi HaiveMan 13 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
I stopped being pretty many moons ago.  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I suppose, in terms of actually answering the question.
Yes. I have had many people (eventually) tell me they were too scared to approach me initially because they thought I was out of their league. I can only assume there are more that simply never made any contact for that reason too.
I have also assumed someone wouldn't be interested in someone who looks like me when they were so absurdly beautiful, so I didn't bother. But that was years ago, I know better now.
If you don't find someone physically attractive, why would you want to engage on that level anyway?
My least favourite thing about fitting into a lot of people's idea of attractive, is the association of beauty with stupidity or a lack of personality. I've encountered people who don't fit conventional or my own aesthetic preferences, who were also dull as dishwater to talk to. I've met outstandingly beautiful people who were also funny, intelligent and engaging. But for some reason many people seem to think it's all mutually exclusive.
Agreed with brass knobs on.
"
Agreed with double brass knobs … and I will raise this with a brass lock. - spot on comment in my view
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
The thing is if you say you are pretty you are viewed as conceited or a bit full of yourself. So yes I am pretty, conceited and full of myself. Have a nice day |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *eliWoman 13 weeks ago
. |
I don't think there's such a thing as *too* pretty.
I've had people tell me they thought I was out of their league but I think that's a chewing gum compliment. Don't read too much in to it bar the person ascribes to the idea of leagues. I've had more people tell me they felt intimidated by my intelligence - that's their perception of me and not necessarily accurate.
Women say "must be hot" as an unimaginative filler for their profile. What they mean is I must find you attractive. Must be hot is daft because it's such a subjective thing. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I know people don't like the "out of my league" thingy, but I think we are all aware somewhat of our attractiveness and do tend to stay in our own lanes. There are extremely attractive people here that wouldnt look twice at most of us... And I don't blame them. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I know people don't like the "out of my league" thingy, but I think we are all aware somewhat of our attractiveness and do tend to stay in our own lanes. There are extremely attractive people here that wouldnt look twice at most of us... And I don't blame them."
I don't think we can be aware if who will or does find us attractive. I'm frequently surprised by the types (and often the youth) of people who claim to find me attractive.
I'm also very well aware if the fickle nature of that attraction |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *agatoXXXMan 13 weeks ago
North Haverbrook |
Iam pretty, but trapped in the body of an ugly bastard. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Pretty woman, walking down the street
pretty woman ,the kind of like to meet |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I know people don't like the "out of my league" thingy, but I think we are all aware somewhat of our attractiveness and do tend to stay in our own lanes. There are extremely attractive people here that wouldnt look twice at most of us... And I don't blame them.
I don't think we can be aware if who will or does find us attractive. I'm frequently surprised by the types (and often the youth) of people who claim to find me attractive.
I'm also very well aware if the fickle nature of that attraction "
Blurred lines and all that here. Some people believe all the hype they recieve (may be warranted), but I think it's clear that alot of guys will say absolutely anything to stick their dick in absolutely anything |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *_J111Woman 13 weeks ago
home |
I definitely have looked at some people, thought they looked absolutely stunning and then chickened out of approaching as I assumed they wouldn't be interested in me (as I don't class myself as particularly pretty)
MJ |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Pretty woman, walking down the street
pretty woman ,the kind of like to meet"
Ffs now that songs stuck in my head aha |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I definitely have looked at some people, thought they looked absolutely stunning and then chickened out of approaching as I assumed they wouldn't be interested in me (as I don't class myself as particularly pretty)
MJ"
Id say your pretty. Pretty hot |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Pretty woman, walking down the street
pretty woman ,the kind of like to meet
Ffs now that songs stuck in my head aha"
You're welcome |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I wouldnt be put off messaging anyone that I liked the look off. If they expressed a lack of interest after said message then that would be absolutely fine. You just move forwards. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I suppose, in terms of actually answering the question.
Yes. I have had many people (eventually) tell me they were too scared to approach me initially because they thought I was out of their league. I can only assume there are more that simply never made any contact for that reason too.
I have also assumed someone wouldn't be interested in someone who looks like me when they were so absurdly beautiful, so I didn't bother. But that was years ago, I know better now.
If you don't find someone physically attractive, why would you want to engage on that level anyway?
My least favourite thing about fitting into a lot of people's idea of attractive, is the association of beauty with stupidity or a lack of personality. I've encountered people who don't fit conventional or my own aesthetic preferences, who were also dull as dishwater to talk to. I've met outstandingly beautiful people who were also funny, intelligent and engaging. But for some reason many people seem to think it's all mutually exclusive."
This is something I can relate to on a level. I've found that often pretty women have felt a need to prove their intelligence, when in reality if I didn't think they were intelligent - I wouldn't be there in the first place. Some have told me they often have to dumb themselves down with men, so they don't feel threatened by them. Others that they openly use their pretty privilege to their advantage.
It's rare for me that I will feel physical attraction before I get to know someone, so to a degree how pretty they are can be arbitrary. It's not a completely distinct boundary either though.
My concern isn't a lack of intelligence, it's whether they are conceited with it - that becomes rather dull. The expectation that I will agree with them. Or they will get their way with a  . All it gets from me is laughter. Maybe a: go on try that again, pull out all the stops this time. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Are you talking about Fab alone?
The way I look at it they can only say no or ignore your message, but why not try your luck anyway.
I have had women who I am surprised that they would be interested engage and some who I think I would be their type ignore or say no thanks.
Am I a handsome fella? I am not unattractive  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I have been put off messaging people because I’ve thought there’s absolutely no way they’d be interested in me |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Yeah, I'm too pretty for the people I deem unattractive, but I hit every branch of the ugly tree when it comes to average or good looking people |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I have been put off messaging people because I’ve thought there’s absolutely no way they’d be interested in me "
i cannot see why. You look great. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I’m always told that I have a “nice personality”
That is if they have actually spoken to me. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Sometimes I worry that you’re all going to form a mob and attack me later because you fear my beauty. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I'm pretty, but not *too* pretty.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *4bimMan 13 weeks ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
dont worry if they look pretty.
everyone looks fucked up with a load on their face.
just do it man! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *oo..Woman 13 weeks ago
Boo's World |
I like being cute |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I have been put off messaging people because I’ve thought there’s absolutely no way they’d be interested in me "
That explains it lol |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I like being cute "
Too cute?!! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I'm cute apparently, I have a pretty penis if that counts |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
|
I’ve had people tell me I’m intimidating and seem unapproachable because of how I look, way I dress, circles I’m in, and a certain perception of my intellect.
Those who have been brave enough to go beyond the intimidation others perceive have commented I am more lovely than they would have ever imagined. I always ask if they meant that someone “attractive” should be full of themselves and snobby, or perhaps be a miserable cow to everyone, as I find this an odd comment.
I’ve had this with Fab meets too. Why would you bother meeting me if you assume my personality is shit but find me attractive? That’s a whole other topic…
A great majority have said I am so much nicer than they perceived because of my outward appearance. Which makes me sad to think others perceive me this way and there are people who use their outward appearance as a justification for being ugly to others. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *oo..Woman 13 weeks ago
Boo's World |
"I like being cute
Too cute?!!"
No such thing, I have big tits so they don't stare at my face too long before they get drawn in elsewhere |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I’ve had people tell me I’m intimidating and seem unapproachable because of how I look, way I dress, circles I’m in, and a certain perception of my intellect.
Those who have been brave enough to go beyond the intimidation others perceive have commented I am more lovely than they would have ever imagined. I always ask if they meant that someone “attractive” should be full of themselves and snobby, or perhaps be a miserable cow to everyone, as I find this an odd comment.
I’ve had this with Fab meets too. Why would you bother meeting me if you assume my personality is shit but find me attractive? That’s a whole other topic…
A great majority have said I am so much nicer than they perceived because of my outward appearance. Which makes me sad to think others perceive me this way and there are people who use their outward appearance as a justification for being ugly to others. "
Interesting t shirt! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I don't think I'm pretty. I'm certainly not conventionally attractive. But two separate men have, very convincingly, described me as pretty recently and I believe them.
So I'm pretty enough for two men in this world. I'll call that success |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Let's not forget the perceived threat by members of the same sex.
My experience at big social events in particular tells me that I'm not unattractive and I'm approachable but a lot of guys won't even give me the time of day. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Sometimes I worry that you’re all going to form a mob and attack me later because you fear my beauty."
·
It's your ruggedness, dear fellow, your ruggedness that they succumb to, in addition to your rapscallion charm. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Let's not forget the perceived threat by members of the same sex.
My experience at big social events in particular tells me that I'm not unattractive and I'm approachable but a lot of guys won't even give me the time of day."
Can you not stand too close please  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I'm cute apparently, I have a pretty penis if that counts "
•
I miss you, PD. I miss your irreverence, your penile strength and your forå presence. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I'm cute apparently, I have a pretty penis if that counts
•
I miss you, PD. I miss your irreverence, your penile strength and your forå presence."
I'm glad part of me will always be inside you |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Friend of ours is stunning. Model material. Lovely person to boot (bitch…..
Never been asked out on a date. Not once. Can sit in a room and never bet approached.
Doesn’t give off any superior vibes or “i’m to good for you”, people re simply not going near her.
when she does approach men they look around thinking its a wind up and their mates have paid her to do it.
So not always a blessing. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *idsAndyMan 13 weeks ago
Worcestershire |
This is a problem I definitely don't have |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I'm getting better at messaging beautiful men.
I still struggle with beautiful women. At least my hotlist is hot though |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I’m very pretty? I’ve a one pack dad bod and a very nice eatable big dick. My Mrs is pretty to me, she’s insanely horny all the time. A totally awesome nymph and never say no. Personally we couldn’t give a flying fart who’s pretty on here, everyone has their own values and opinions. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Are guys put off because you're too pretty?
Guys do you get put off if you think they're not pretty enough?
What's hot or not is subjective but sooo many women's profiles say you must be hot! "
I don't think I could be described as pretty .. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I'm getting better at messaging beautiful men.
I still struggle with beautiful women. At least my hotlist is hot though "
You only replied to me to get to my Mrs! The cheek!! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
When I’m out socially women approach me a lot and want to talk and hand out with me. Men stare. I don’t know what to make of that. Probably not a lot. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Are guys put off because you're too pretty?
Guys do you get put off if you think they're not pretty enough?
What's hot or not is subjective but sooo many women's profiles say you must be hot!
I don't think I could be described as pretty .."
You sent me a photo, ermmm |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Are guys put off because you're too pretty?
Guys do you get put off if you think they're not pretty enough?
What's hot or not is subjective but sooo many women's profiles say you must be hot!
I don't think I could be described as pretty ..
You sent me a photo, ermmm"
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Oh gosh, no!!
No one would look at me when I was younger. Lol. Had to rely on intelligence and charm…
I’ve caught up with myself now and I look younger than I am and I have extra helpings of confidence along with the intelligence and charm. And I like to show off my legs…
I have known women who are extremely beautiful and yes, they sometimes struggle to find someone because men are intimidated by their looks. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I was the quiet geeky girl growing up...... So never an issue when I was younger.
Now I'm my typical Leo PERSONA,
to flirty with those I see as just friends but so shy with those I actually fancy. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Definitely not that attractive. I rarely get chatted up or approached in clubs/bars.
Due to being shy, I do struggle to make conversation or message. Ok, after the ice is broken.
Must have an invisible tattoo to myself and not too others, saying keep away
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
It took me years to find a mould I was comfortable with.
I spent so many wasted years on the fringes of society. Not really daring to express my own style.
4 years ago. I said fuck it and grew my hair. I upped my fitness regimen, needless to say my confidence is at an all time high.
Sure, there's been some rocky roads and I'm sure there's more to come.
But right now, I feel confident and confident is sexy, right?
Do I think I'm pretty. Fuck no. Do I get more attention now than I ever have before. Sure.
I don't necessarily put that ALL down to how I look. I put it down to having a confident presence in social environments. I will literally speak to anyone.
*probably gone off on a tangent. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Without doubt , there are women I have found extremely attractive but have never approached because I’m self aware enough to know they won’t be interested so I save myself the humiliation. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
‘Beauty is in the eye of the beholder’ is very true.
Someone who one person finds attractive will not be attractive to another.
In answer to the question- no, some say I’m pretty, but I’m sure there’s plenty that don’t find me pretty.
If I found someone attractive and they thought they were ‘too pretty’ I would instantly lose the attraction towards them. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I was the quiet geeky girl growing up...... So never an issue when I was younger.
Now I'm my typical Leo PERSONA,
to flirty with those I see as just friends but so shy with those I actually fancy. "
I've always liked the quiet geeky girls! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
|
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *eordie.Woman 13 weeks ago
The Sticks |
I provide a bag for them to put over my head
And a spare for their own, in case mine comes off |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I was pretty once.
Alas, time has weathered my beauty and replaced pretty with withered.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I provide a bag for them to put over my head
And a spare for their own, in case mine comes off"
Like this?  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I'm getting better at messaging beautiful men.
I still struggle with beautiful women. At least my hotlist is hot though
You only replied to me to get to my Mrs! The cheek!! "
she's hot |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
|
^ pretty. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I know people don't like the "out of my league" thingy, but I think we are all aware somewhat of our attractiveness and do tend to stay in our own lanes. There are extremely attractive people here that wouldnt look twice at most of us... And I don't blame them.
I don't think we can be aware if who will or does find us attractive. I'm frequently surprised by the types (and often the youth) of people who claim to find me attractive.
I'm also very well aware if the fickle nature of that attraction
Blurred lines and all that here. Some people believe all the hype they recieve (may be warranted), but I think it's clear that alot of guys will say absolutely anything to stick their dick in absolutely anything "
Don't I know it! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Friend of ours is stunning. Model material. Lovely person to boot (bitch…..
Never been asked out on a date. Not once. Can sit in a room and never bet approached.
Doesn’t give off any superior vibes or “i’m to good for you”, people re simply not going near her.
when she does approach men they look around thinking its a wind up and their mates have paid her to do it.
So not always a blessing. "
Is she on Fab? |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"‘Beauty is in the eye of the beholder’ is very true.
Someone who one person finds attractive will not be attractive to another.
In answer to the question- no, some say I’m pretty, but I’m sure there’s plenty that don’t find me pretty.
If I found someone attractive and they thought they were ‘too pretty’ I would instantly lose the attraction towards them."
I had a friend who was a biologist, she did lots of research into whether there is an objective 'prettiness' and also what the experience of love was as a scientific phenomena. Her conclusion was that's it's our genetic drive to procreate (we are driven to find ideal genetic matches) and love was a method of attachment forming, to improve the chances of survival of offspring, which lasted 3 years.
She looked quite similar to you. Similar eyes, lips - her hair was naturally curly though, which she hated. Symmetry, is the thing she considered the most universal factor in objective prettiness. Well actually a very slight asymmetry. She had a whole other theory on this related to the spirals of growth that occur in nature. She was fascinating, the messiest person I ever met though. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I doubt I'd be considered too pretty. Adequately pretty. That'll do.
J |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I don’t think there’s such a thing as ‘too pretty’. I don’t want to put an upper limit on beauty. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I'm pretty sure there's a lot more to life than being really, really ridiculously good looking. And I plan on finding out what that is. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I'm pretty sure there's a lot more to life than being really, really ridiculously good looking. And I plan on finding out what that is."
Great movie reference |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
What’s the phrase, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
I think I’m alright, there’s lumps and bumps and I have a bit of a quirky look going on, some will find me attractive, others won’t. Tbh that extends to my personality too, quirky is probably an apt descriptor. That’s ok.
Have I found myself chatting to people on here I wouldn’t expect to chat to if I were in a bar? Sure.
Sometimes they’ve initiated that conversation, sometimes I have. But that applies to peoples personalities and backgrounds just as much as looks (though there has been some hotties *swoon* ) |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I get put off of messaging men who are too attractive |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I think my penis is too pretty, because nobody wants to touch it.
Actually on second thoughts it could be the green puss.
The mr |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I'm just to sexy for fab forums, to sexy by far
Mr |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I like being cute
Too cute?!!
No such thing, I have big tits so they don't stare at my face too long before they get drawn in elsewhere "
You need to wear that t-shirt I saw, it read:
"if you're going to sit there all night and stare at my tits, the least you can do is buy me a drink!" |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"A lot of people talk about feeling that good looking people are 'out of their league'so I guess being perceived as attractive does put people off.
It's not a problem I have "
(Smacks her ass)  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I get put off of messaging men who are too attractive "
Phew, I'll be safe then.  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *oo..Woman 13 weeks ago
Boo's World |
"I like being cute
Too cute?!!
No such thing, I have big tits so they don't stare at my face too long before they get drawn in elsewhere
You need to wear that t-shirt I saw, it read:
"if you're going to sit there all night and stare at my tits, the least you can do is buy me a drink!""
I may have a few sarcastic "tit" tshirts already |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *oo..Woman 13 weeks ago
Boo's World |
"I'm just to sexy for fab forums, to sexy by far
Mr "
Who told you that flip flop? |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *aizyWoman 13 weeks ago
west midlands |
"I'm just to sexy for fab forums, to sexy by far
Mr "
That explains why you are always getting put on the forum naughty step then!  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
|
I’m just catfishing people on another level |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I don't know about too pretty, but there are women I'd describe as pretty but not sexually attracted to.
Where as others who are more average looking that I wanna rip her clothes off. Hot seems to be somewhat detached from pretty, there's a relationship in there somewhere.
Reminds me of a story an ex gf told me, she's in a bar knocking a few back when some guy's come up with the idea of kissing each guy, so she kisses them one by one, till she gets to the last one who's not very attractive. She refuses and replied "I'm d*unk, not blind!" |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I think my penis is too pretty, because nobody wants to touch it.
Actually on second thoughts it could be the green puss.
The mr "
Hard to tell when every picture has a gob around it or a pretty woman bouncing on it? Or it’s in shadow. Lol |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
|
There's lots of reasons I can't get a man. This isn't one of them.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Well Im probably one of the top 100 ugliest guys on Fab at best below average so but not bothered |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
If you look at models on adverts ect they really are very pretty but are so dull and boring looking,
To me it’s all about how unique a woman looks that attracts me, something has to be different from the norm
Luckily I found that in mérida with her extremely curly red hair, huge sexy ass and beautiful eyes
So it really is in the eye of the beholder so to speak
But yes she qualifies as pretty without a doubt
Mr
As for me yes I’m extremely handsome and charming |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I have looked at profiles where I don't bother messaging because I think they're *too* good looking and think they wouldn't be interested in me even though I rarely send the first message anyway.
There's also a bit of heart sinking when someone I think is really hot messages me first and I know I have to send a face pic that may inevitably kill the conversation. It's a huge relief when they're still interested though, even if it doesn't happen often! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *B69Woman 13 weeks ago
Wiltshire |
I never have an issue with getting attention so must be doing something right. I don’t believe in the out of my league rubbish, go for it, you might surprise yourselves |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *unchalMan 13 weeks ago
Dartford |
"Are guys put off because you're too pretty?
Guys do you get put off if you think they're not pretty enough?
What's hot or not is subjective but sooo many women's profiles say you must be hot! "
Yes. It’s a burden sometimes. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I’m just catfishing people on another level "
Pah ! Get outta here |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I'm too hot....bloody menopause is a bitch!!! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Pretty is a strange word to describe someone on here, it’s almost like they don’t have the personality to make gorgeous or beautiful , but their ok to look at, not offensive. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *8on33Man 13 weeks ago
winfrith |
"I'm too hot....bloody menopause is a bitch!!! "
you do look hot if you don't mind me saying .
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Sometimes it’s all subjective… that said pretty doesn’t help much if they have no personality… instant ick. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I'm too hot....bloody menopause is a bitch!!! "
There's a cure for that: vigorous doggy style. It might not sort out your menopause, but it'll sort me out  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *avexxMan 13 weeks ago
cheshire |
"Sometimes it’s all subjective… that said pretty doesn’t help much if they have no personality… instant ick. "
,,, true
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *unchalMan 13 weeks ago
Dartford |
"Pretty is a strange word to describe someone on here, it’s almost like they don’t have the personality to make gorgeous or beautiful , but their ok to look at, not offensive."
No. Pretty is okay. It probably describes most of us symmetrically challenged people to some degree. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *unchalMan 13 weeks ago
Dartford |
"I like beauty. I enjoy looking at attractive people.
"
So does the entire world! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Pretty is a strange word to describe someone on here, it’s almost like they don’t have the personality to make gorgeous or beautiful , but their ok to look at, not offensive."
I don't think a personality will change a pretty face to a gorgeous one.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Confidence is sexy though too "
Yea, I'm confident my face will put you off your cornflakes |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I have healthy self esteem and feel and hope that comes across. I am not classically pretty but if you feel attracted to my vibe then ..... |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
It also helps I have a dump truck ass and a great personality to boot lol! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"It also helps I have a dump truck ass and a great personality to boot lol! "
Phwaor |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Definitely hot here... Aircon has failed on the train. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I'm pretty fly for a white guy
Mr |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *.R.MMan 13 weeks ago
Norfolk |
If Plug from the Bash St Kids is pretty then I’m in |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Pretty is a strange word to describe someone on here, it’s almost like they don’t have the personality to make gorgeous or beautiful , but their ok to look at, not offensive.
I don't think a personality will change a pretty face to a gorgeous one.
"
I do. Beauty shines out of people.
Conversely, just like many have stated above, even classically beautiful features can be spoiled with a negative projection from the inside out. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I wouldn't say I am pretty but been told I turn heads. Think that is mostly to do with the way I walk or hold myself. Maybe attractive but wouldn't say pretty. Confidence goes a long way and I think I probably intrigue people with my fun personality. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Not a guy here but I don’t message women I really like or guys who I think are out of our league. What’s the point, most the time it’s a polite no so easier not waste time x |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I wouldn't say I am pretty but been told I turn heads. Think that is mostly to do with the way I walk or hold myself. Maybe attractive but wouldn't say pretty. Confidence goes a long way and I think I probably intrigue people with my fun personality. "
You're a very popular lady though! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I wouldn't say I am pretty but been told I turn heads. Think that is mostly to do with the way I walk or hold myself. Maybe attractive but wouldn't say pretty. Confidence goes a long way and I think I probably intrigue people with my fun personality. "
Confidence is key so I'm told x |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Are guys put off because you're too pretty?
Guys do you get put off if you think they're not pretty enough?
What's hot or not is subjective but sooo many women's profiles say you must be hot! "
I'm not looking to have a relationship or long term relationship I'm here to have a bit of fun so for us we don't care what they look like as long as they are hygienic |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I don't think I'm too pretty but I do think I'm quite attractive. Not sure if I'd approach someone I consider really hot |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I don't think I'm too pretty but I do think I'm quite attractive. Not sure if I'd approach someone I consider really hot "
If you think you are attractive, why wouldn't you approach them?
Fear of rejection? |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I don't think I'm too pretty but I do think I'm quite attractive. Not sure if I'd approach someone I consider really hot
If you think you are attractive, why wouldn't you approach them?
Fear of rejection?"
Yeah, I guess so lol |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
|
not put off by too pretty; I’m put off by “fit and you know it” |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
If anyone ever called me pretty I'd think 'ok, what are you after?'
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I’m too pretty…
I’ve also got an above average penis and am a compulsive liar….. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *rispyDuckMan 13 weeks ago
Chinese Takeaway near you |
Think the only person I would ‘ever describe as too pretty’ would be my daughter if I have one some day haha
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
But its easier for women to get attention from men so why would you be scared of rejection |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Attractive, pretty and beautiful are all quite different.
I would be reluctant to message someone I thought physically beautiful. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
[Removed by poster at 20/06/24 22:34:10] |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
As you said, what’s hot or not is subjective.
But I’d only message or meet guys I find hot… wouldn’t be interested in any I didn’t.
I wouldn’t be reluctant to message or ask to play- what’s the worst that can happen, they say no?!
Honestly, if I find a guy attractive, but he’s playing/ verid by women I don’t find attractive it’s a turn off.
But it’s all subjective so each to their own |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
As for looks, I dunno, I just make the best of what I have and if others appreciate that then great. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I think my penis is too pretty, because nobody wants to touch it.
Actually on second thoughts it could be the green puss.
The mr "
And there was me thinking it was your wonderful way with words |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *nnCeeWoman 13 weeks ago
East of Eden, West of Hell |
I'm pretty.
Pretty daft, pretty annoying... *shrug* |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I'm pretty.
Pretty daft, pretty annoying... *shrug*"
Yeah, but....... |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I knew a player on world of warcraft many years ago.
We decided to do photos of the guildies characters characters and their real world players.
"Bob" messaged me in a bit of a state.
"Um"...he said, "I'm not really Bob. I am Charlene (not real name) and well, I'm worried about a) coming out and b) my photo (which she attached).
.
I almost fell off my chair. She was super-super model in appearance. Vogue models had nothing on this lady. I was convinced it was a wind up. TinyEye and other sites existed and I spent hours googling her face shot. Nothing. Nada. She sent me a few more...yup...all genuine.
.
I said to her "Look, it's up to you. I'll keep your secret, you can stay as "Bob" and we'll make an exclusion for you so you don't have to have a photo."
She replied, "I'd really love to use my image. I just want to be me. But no one can get past my looks. I don't even have a BF (I guessed she was about 17). But when people will see me, no one will believe it anyway. So if you don't mind, I'll stay as Bob and join in the usual male banter behind my fake persona).
I said "not a problem. And she remained incognito for the rest of the time."
.
Looking back, I feel quite sad how her breath-taking beauty was indeed quite a curse for her. I hope she found happiness in the end. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Sorry...I wrote 17...I meant 27 |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I don't consider myself attractive. The last time someone flirted with me was when I was 30-something I think. So that's pretty conclusive in my book. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I don't think I'm too pretty but I do think I'm quite attractive. Not sure if I'd approach someone I consider really hot
If you think you are attractive, why wouldn't you approach them?
Fear of rejection?
Yeah, I guess so lol "
Pity us poor blokes who are continuously rejected. You can learn to get over this insecurity. What I have learned in life is, if you don't ask, you won't get. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"not put off by too pretty; I’m put off by “fit and you know it”"
What is worse is the women who have Botoxed and plastic surgeried their face so much that they barely look human anymore behaving like they're supermodels |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Pity us poor blokes who are continuously rejected. You can learn to get over this insecurity. What I have learned in life is, if you don't ask, you won't get."
It's easier not to ask, and then you can guarantee you won't get rejected. Let others ask you. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
At some point, it’s fuckit yeah and go for it, head up and do what you can.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Pretty is a strange word to describe someone on here, it’s almost like they don’t have the personality to make gorgeous or beautiful , but their ok to look at, not offensive.
I don't think a personality will change a pretty face to a gorgeous one.
"
I do - I think faces describes as just pretty lack any personality. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
