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By (user no longer on site) OP 21 weeks ago
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I can Friend-zone people so easily, and sometimes quicker than you log off porn hub when you are finished … 
But… when you have a friend, and you know it will ruine things if you snog, have you thrown caution to the wind and how did it go?
Would you hook up with one of your friends now? |
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By *eliWoman 21 weeks ago
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Depends on the level of friendship.
Solely a Fab friend/acquaintance? Maybe. It's unlikely to change that dynamic?
Those I'm very close to? Nope. Friendship means an awful lot to me and if I knew it would end a friendship, I'd kiss someone else instead. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 21 weeks ago
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"If I don't have the overwhelming need to have their penis I'm not gonna kiss them just to see what happens.
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That’s what I meant though. …
Narrator - woody sighs at the realisation of every time he’s asked a girl for a snog why they always gave him a peck on his lips. Because he was understating what he actually meant and wanted from the women… he actually meant a shag!! |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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"If I don't have the overwhelming need to have their penis I'm not gonna kiss them just to see what happens.
That’s what I meant though. …
Narrator - woody sighs at the realisation of every time he’s asked a girl for a snog why they always gave him a peck on his lips. Because he was understating what he actually meant and wanted from the women… he actually meant a shag!! "
But then they wouldn't be in the friend zone.
If it ain't there to begin with, it's a done deal.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 21 weeks ago
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"Been there. And it was difficult to rescue the friendship afterwards. It took a long time for things to get back into friend zone without any resentments or passive aggressiveness straining it. "
I kinda keep friends on the friend zone because of that reason. I sure as hell know it would never be the same. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 21 weeks ago
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"If I don't have the overwhelming need to have their penis I'm not gonna kiss them just to see what happens.
That’s what I meant though. …
Narrator - woody sighs at the realisation of every time he’s asked a girl for a snog why they always gave him a peck on his lips. Because he was understating what he actually meant and wanted from the women… he actually meant a shag!!
But then they wouldn't be in the friend zone.
If it ain't there to begin with, it's a done deal.
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But, do you fancy a mate? You look at them knowing you’d tear their cloths off in every dream you’d have about them?
But you actualy would hate for the friendship to ruine as that ‘one off’ would only be that?
I’m not talking about the beginning of soneting more. I am talking about a fling’ |
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Most of my relationships have been with friends, I've never really done the whole dating thing before to be honest the Mr was probably the 1st.
I think there can be amazing relationships with friends, you know them, you know for certain if you fancy them, you know if you have stuff in common it's always been easier for me that way but you do have the risk that goes with it.
But personally I'd say go for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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"If I don't have the overwhelming need to have their penis I'm not gonna kiss them just to see what happens.
That’s what I meant though. …
Narrator - woody sighs at the realisation of every time he’s asked a girl for a snog why they always gave him a peck on his lips. Because he was understating what he actually meant and wanted from the women… he actually meant a shag!!
But then they wouldn't be in the friend zone.
If it ain't there to begin with, it's a done deal.
But, do you fancy a mate? You look at them knowing you’d tear their cloths off in every dream you’d have about them?
But you actualy would hate for the friendship to ruine as that ‘one off’ would only be that?
I’m not talking about the beginning of soneting more. I am talking about a fling’"
No |
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"I have a work friend who knows I'd like to move things on with her, but it'd be complicated and I respect her wishes for us to not do anything more than a snog. It would be fun though  "
Have you snogged her though? |
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"I have a work friend who knows I'd like to move things on with her, but it'd be complicated and I respect her wishes for us to not do anything more than a snog. It would be fun though
Have you snogged her though?"
Yes, a couple of times |
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I think sometimes friendship is such a beautiful thing it's not worth risking.
I have a very close friend of way over a decade, we discussed it till the cows come home. She doesn't share though, we both know it would be an issue.
I don't know, I think calling it friend-zoning kind of diminishes it when it's something like that. I don't make many close friends, but they mean a lot to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 21 weeks ago
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"I have a work friend who knows I'd like to move things on with her, but it'd be complicated and I respect her wishes for us to not do anything more than a snog. It would be fun though
Have you snogged her though?
Yes, a couple of times "
Whit woo! |
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If having the sex with friends isnt for you and you think it will spoil a friendship it’s best to keep it on a different level. For me it has never got in the way of a friendship and I highly doubt it ever would |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 21 weeks ago
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"I think sometimes friendship is such a beautiful thing it's not worth risking.
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I had a smooch with a friend once, 2 kids and a long marriage says it not always a bad idea. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 21 weeks ago
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"If having the sex with friends isnt for you and you think it will spoil a friendship it’s best to keep it on a different level. For me it has never got in the way of a friendship and I highly doubt it ever would "
I love this attitude. It shouldn’t get in the way. You can just laugh at it …and each other afterwards |
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"If having the sex with friends isnt for you and you think it will spoil a friendship it’s best to keep it on a different level. For me it has never got in the way of a friendship and I highly doubt it ever would
I love this attitude. It shouldn’t get in the way. You can just laugh at it …and each other afterwards "
Of course. Sex is just that. Sex. It’s great between friends |
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I did once but it happened very suddenly and until that point there had been nothing but friendship with nothing more than hugs.
We both decided after a couple of months that it had the potential to damage our friendship which was more important so we went back to how we had been before.
We are still friends now 6 years later and there is no awkwardness. |
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"I love this attitude. It shouldn’t get in the way. You can just laugh at it …and each other afterwards "
I fucked a colleague. The morning after, at work, she ran over, gave me a massive hug, grinned and said “We’re okay, aren’t we? Nothing’s weird.”
And she was right. Still pals, 20-odd years later. |
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I've only been in this situation once thankfully. He wanted something more serious but I wasn't in the right place to give it at the time. Our friendship slowly fizzled to nothing. I miss him  but that's life for you  |
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By *unchalMan 21 weeks ago
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"I can Friend-zone people so easily, and sometimes quicker than you log off porn hub when you are finished …
But… when you have a friend, and you know it will ruine things if you snog, have you thrown caution to the wind and how did it go?
Would you hook up with one of your friends now?"
It’s a process, init! Some survive and some don’t. If you get to the point that you want to fuck your friend then the relationship has changed forever, whether you admit it or not. |
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how much do you want to keep your friendship? how strong is the friendship, would it survive if the other wasnt what you wanted to be - tried it once and we decided the friendship was stronger and never spoke about it again |
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By *unchalMan 21 weeks ago
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"If I don't have the overwhelming need to have their penis I'm not gonna kiss them just to see what happens.
That’s what I meant though. …
Narrator - woody sighs at the realisation of every time he’s asked a girl for a snog why they always gave him a peck on his lips. Because he was understating what he actually meant and wanted from the women… he actually meant a shag!!
But then they wouldn't be in the friend zone.
If it ain't there to begin with, it's a done deal.
But, do you fancy a mate? You look at them knowing you’d tear their cloths off in every dream you’d have about them?
But you actualy would hate for the friendship to ruine as that ‘one off’ would only be that?
I’m not talking about the beginning of soneting more. I am talking about a fling’"
It has really only happened to me once. With a tasty older woman I worked with. Thinking about it now, she was 20 years older than me. I told her about my sex dream (of course I had to!) and in a few short months, when the opportunity was offered to us, we found ourselves fucking on a beach (it’s a long uninteresting story) … She was nice. I liked her. |
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"I can Friend-zone people so easily, and sometimes quicker than you log off porn hub when you are finished …
But… when you have a friend, and you know it will ruine things if you snog, have you thrown caution to the wind and how did it go?
Would you hook up with one of your friends now?"
 ...lol... I dunno... I suppose I'm too busy building a wall around myself to stop myself getting hurt again that I don't really think about it |
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I've played with friends on the scene, these are friends with benefits. Then they're are people in the friends zone. They're usually there for a reason so generally wouldn't go there. Lot of variables to consider really  |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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Outside of fab ... in my 20's yes I did and no awkwardness .... other than their when they went in to meet future wives ... and some of the wives didn't like me !?!?
In last 5 years .
.... first post divorce shag was with friend of my ex's. He was a fwb for a while but then stopped it was he wanted more .... still chat from time to time and he still makes suggestive comments ... so been very firm it is not going to happen again.
... 1 very d*unk snog and fumble with a v old male best friend ... both laughed it off when hungover next morning and still best friends.
Fab friends v different...
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"I can Friend-zone people so easily, and sometimes quicker than you log off porn hub when you are finished …
But… when you have a friend, and you know it will ruine things if you snog, have you thrown caution to the wind and how did it go?
Would you hook up with one of your friends now?"
We did it the other way.. Met a couple on here became friends and then couldn't play any more didn't seem right |
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